Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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girldownsouth wrote: »
Seems fairly fitting amongst all this talk of online dating that our Internet meet up was great tonight!
We both smashed our step goals and I've even picked up a bit of a tan
Never thought of that' yes outer Internet dating was a success.
I got a nice bit of colour too
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pofoster21 wrote: »
Me too so we are perfect. Maybe it's like 2 girlfriends going to prom together so they don't miss it. I never got to go to prom (no one asked me and back then friends did NOT go together). I still regret missing that dress. We can do our own wedding!
Okay is that maybe too weird? No judging...
No, not weird
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riderfangal wrote: »Awe sorry to hear that Patricia. I would definitely say 50 50 is a win by the sounds of it. How long are you there for?
I go home today. Yay!0 -
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »
I have, but I'm not a fan. As an expose of the corruption of the Saudi royalty, the author did a great job; but Islam was displayed in a terrible light, and it wasn't mentioned or highlighted that the corrupt "Shariah" that the royals enforce is NOT the true Islam, so the books honestly just make people hate Muslims even more.
For others... As a whole, Saudi women aren't nearly as oppressed as the media portrays them. The driving issue is real, but otherwise they're pretty normal as a whole, just like any other woman. Don't believe everything you read.
Ah thank you for some insight. I did enjoy them. It didn't make me hate Muslims, but more get on my feminist soapbox. I found them interesting when coming from a place of total ignorance
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lilaclovebird wrote: »
The spark matters. Sometimes it DOES grow and it happened out of the blue with my current Sergeant Sexy Pants.
We see each other outside of work and ALWAYS greet with a kiss and a hug. Holding hands in the car. *sigh* I miss him, he's out of town now for work stuff.
But he comes back tomorrow!
Bad dating story: Met this guy, Brandon, on Plenty of Fish. We decided to meet at the lake for some fishing, I enjoy fishing, and I had a couple of the beers he brought. Well, he had MORE than a couple, got drunk and after some conversation decided he was in love with me and wanted to go to San Antonio and get married. I said no, he then wanted to go to San Antonio to go "do some 'shrooms." Yeah, HELL NO! Then he tried to feel me up and kiss me, drunk off his *kitten*, in BROAD DAYLIGHT, and when I pushed him away he sat there dejected for a while and said he 'didn't feel comfortable' around me anymore.
DUDE! IMAGINE HOW I FEEL?!
Cut to the entire rest of the week where he is texting me and calling me and leaving me messages about how he is SO sorry and wants to make it up to me and to come over to his place and we can talk it out and cuddle and watch a movie. No.
My response: You made your first impression and while the date started out well, I will have you arrested for harassment if you ever contact me again.
So, he had his DAD call me to tell me he voluntarily had himself put in a mental hospital because he was so devastated that I broke his heart.
I am glad I missed that train into Crazy Town.
ETA: Fixed quotes.
Wow. So glad I don't date.0 -
...and a gelato cart.
Mmmmm yes!0 -
Ok so it's 2 am and of course I am awake due to messed up travel schedule. Ok....
Yesterday
I studied on plane (win)
Only 6274 steps (loss)
No running (loss)
No alcohol (win).
Today:
Study on plane home
10k steps
Run 1 hour
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Dad sounds like he's a wee bit crazy too. I wonder if Brandon actually checked in to a mental hospital or just wanted to try to manipulate you. Either way you are certainly better off with your SGT SP
I so AM!
Not sure if I told this thread the story but the nightshift thread definitely heard about it.
In the middle of last week I mentioned to him that I was craving Funyuns but I couldn't eat them because if I bought a big bag I would eat the whole thing in one sitting. Well, he came into to pick up the paperwork on Saturday night while I was out doing my rounds. I come back to a small 100 calorie serving size bag of Funyuns on my keyboard. I cried stupid happy tears because it was such a sweet thing for him to do AND he considered my calorie intake. He still thinks he's an *kitten*. Poor guy doesn't know how sweet he is.
Oh and how I did on my goals:
- At least 30 minutes of exercise COMPLETE
- Stay withing 100 calories of my calorie goal before exercise COMPLETE
- Drink 5 oz of red wine sadly, I did not
- Do some food prep Totally went grocery shopping and went to town in the kitchen for 3 hours!
Now for Today:
- At least 45 Minutes of exercise
- Stay within 100 calories of my goal before exercise
- Actually buy a bottle of red wine and drink 5 oz of it :laugh:
- Get 10,000+ steps in by midnight
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Ugh, it is 4am and I keep waking up
@lilaclovebird whew, good thing you didn't get sucked into that craziness! I love the term SGT SP, it made me laugh!
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orangesmartie wrote: »Don't judge, but I have a cleaning lady every week, she cleans my house before I get home for the weekend. I justify it by saying I don't have to spend precious Charlie time cleaning, and it's do nice to walk into a clean smelling home in the middle of the night every week. Beds made. Also I have never met the magical woman who looks after my house ( she also cleans for my mum). Also, o work pretty hard and have a full load of responsibilities, so I don't feel guilty.
I also have a man who walks my dog. But that's because he had to move in with my parents when I went to work in London and it wasn't fair to expect them to do it.
I don't judge, I think it's a great idea. As women (especially) we are expected to do it all - work full time, raise children, look after the home. We can't do it all. We are not failures but it's impossible. Having help with cleaning if you can afford it is a great idea. When we buy our house (which from my previous post sounded ungrateful that I was granted a mortgage, I am sad though as we have to move from our little island) I will invest in a cleaner. I cannot (as I've made evident in my previous posts!) cope with it all, and little help like that makes a big difference. Some people can do it, and I think they are super human!
I also put my dog in day care 3 days a week, a friend comes in at lunchtime on the fourth day and my husband finishes work at lunchtime on Fridays. I feel no guilt as it gives my dog the fun of other humans and dogs Monday to Wednesday, he's exhausted Thursday and Friday and then he's all ours on the weekend. It's expensive but worth it.
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Wow - that IS a lot of stressors all happening at one time! Last year for me was very similar: our townhouse flooded and my husband and I lived in a hotel for 6 months while it was repaired. We had JUST bought the house and moved in 13 days before the flooding occurred. At the same time, I got really sick with some sort of viral lung infection and was sicker than I'd ever been for over a month. Also at the same time, his sister and nephew came to live with us. At the same time, we were going through some massive computer changes at work that were extremely complex and changed the way I do my job every day and how we interact with the customers we serve. Also, I'd been trying to get pregnant for over a year before all this happened and basically we tried all the things we could afford to try. It's unexplained fertility on my end. Sigh. So, yeah, I can definitely empathize!!! I can tell you, that things get better.
All the stress was going on before I decided I really needed to get fit. I gained about 30-40 lbs throughout the stress of last year. Finally, this year in February, I decided that I REALLY wanted to feel healthy/fit by my birthday in August. That's when I started logging on MFP again and exercising regularly. The exercise alone helped me manage my stress SO MUCH more effectively than anything else!
Hugs to you!! It would be so hard to be diligent on MFP with calories and exercise, etc. when dealing with what feels like stress in every single aspect of your life. Be kind to yourself and know that each day is a new day. I hope your husband's surgery goes well and that he feels better soon. That will help immensely!
What a lovely empathic post - I really appreciate it. I am sorry that you had so much going on, as you say, I can empathise! That sounds awful that you home flooded, and so soon after moving in. 6 months is a long time to be moved out too. Is the house better now than before with all the repairs? Getting sick is awful, especially around that time. It sounds very similar to our situation with the fertility issues too. I am really sorry you have been through that. I am glad that things get better - and agree exercise and eating well does really aid the healing. I never thought I was good at anything, and in the last few years I've taken up running, strength training and even learned to swim! All things I now know I deserve. I used to feel really bad about myself, and although I know I'll never be the best swimmer or runner or cyclist I do it and take part and that's the main thing. Exercise has given me so much more confidence, it's just hard with this other stuff it's knocking my confidence somewhat. I am doing a lot less 'grief bacon' than I used to, and the results of the exercise are starting to show. I love being strong.
I am really pleased that you are doing well with these changes to your health - and so pleased the exercise is helping with the stress. Fingers crossed for you with the fertility - it sounds like you are doing everything right so just keep on going
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orangesmartie wrote: »Ladies and gentlemen of the confessions thread, a moment of hush if you will, I have an announcement to make.
<drum roll>
This afternoon, in the car park of a slightly up market grocery store, outside a ubiquitous coffee house chain, @girldownsouth and I met up. In honour of this thread, we did not partake of frothy expensive refreshments, but instead meandered many miles along the river, in idyllic English countryside (beside the motorway).
We (well I did anyway) had a lovely walk in the sunshine, getting to know a new friend. We do intend to do it again.
I thank you for your attention. Here endeth the announcement. Please return to your regularly scheduled confessions.
That's great you've met up irl!0 -
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Morning all!!
Today's goals:
10,000 steps
Finish my to do list so I don't have to go in tomorrow.
Pack a salad and eat it - my veggie intake sucks lately0 -
NSV 1- That bag of Utz Crab (potato) Chips has been open for three day and still isn't empty. Even with help from the DOH! and the boy, I haven't eaten it all. Usually, I open the chips and eat until the bag is empty.
NSV 2 - Shoe size is back down to 6 1/2 from a high of 7 1/2. Who knew feet could gain weight?
Nice!!
@nonoelmo excellent nsv as well!!0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »
I did know that a live in housemaid was common, but did not know a driver was. Here is my question.
The driver is obviously male, and it is the female of the house that cannot get herself places. But from what I know, an unrelated male and female could not be alone like that in a closed space, so how does it help to have a driver?
... That is exactly what makes it so stupid. Their "solution" is haram (forbidden), when the problem actually wasn't. While cars didn't exist back in the time of our Messenger (peace be upon him), his wives used their own animals to get where they needed to go, BY THEMSELVES. But now that the "animal" is metal they somehow call it forbidden. O.o It makes no sense, Islamically OR logically.
I think that their problem is that many Saudis (Arabs in general, really) think of the unskilled labor workers as practically sub-human, and many treat them as such. So the driver isn't seen as a man, somehow, which makes me angry. I hate racism--a man is a man, regardless of where he comes from.
This view really hits home when you think of it like this: If a female was caught riding in the car of an unrelated ARAB male, both would be arrested. But if she's stopped with her driver? "Oh, it's just a driver."
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Italian_Buju wrote: »Isn't red velvet just red dyed chocolate?
Yes, pretty much, but made with buttermilk, which does lend some interesting flavor to the cake. I don't like it that much because I find it too sweet with very little depth of flavor. But I've baked them--they don't have artificial flavoring, just enough red dye to stain your insides for a month.
They can be made without the dye, but they'd probably be a very light brown/tan color that way. Brown velvet, anyone? 0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »Ugh, it is 4am and I keep waking up
@lilaclovebird whew, good thing you didn't get sucked into that craziness! I love the term SGT SP, it made me laugh!
@nonoelmo CONGRATS on the NSV.(Don't know why I didn't see it earlier) That is a great achievement! :drinker:
@Italian_Buju He's a police sergeant, hence the hilarious nickname. He's made no comment one way or the other as to whether or not HE likes it, but I do, so it stays!
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raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »
Pretty much. If it's done right, it's delicious, but lately all the big food folks have been trying to "drink the kool-aid" and turning out some nasty epic red velvet fails. Red velvet is my absolute favorite CAKE (IMHO the only thing that should even be called red velvet is the cake!), and I don't much care for anything else flavored as such. I tried the Oreos, but they weren't that impressive.
I just realized I get a little too passionate about this.....
The Impulsive Buy said the Keebler Red Velvet Cookies are pretty good.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »
Well unless you are doing a really good job of fooling us you are not oppressed at all.
Not in the least, promise! The biggest downside to the way women's laws are dealt with is that you are VERY dependent on your husband; if you have an abusive husband, then your life is probably going to be terrible. In Islam, a woman has the right to obtain a divorce from a judge if her marriage is bad--but here in Saudi, they rarely grant that right, and men are given more credibility than women.
Luckily, I have a wonderful husband, so nope, no oppression here. Pretty much the opposite--I'm spoiled like a princess.
And if you met many women here, you'd find that many Saudi women are actually strong women, not the run-down, horribly oppressed women that the media portrays, although I'm sure there ARE many who live in that situation due to the government's lack of care. 0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »
... That is exactly what makes it so stupid. Their "solution" is haram (forbidden), when the problem actually wasn't. While cars didn't exist back in the time of our Messenger (peace be upon him), his wives used their own animals to get where they needed to go, BY THEMSELVES. But now that the "animal" is metal they somehow call it forbidden. O.o It makes no sense, Islamically OR logically.
I think that their problem is that many Saudis (Arabs in general, really) think of the unskilled labor workers as practically sub-human, and many treat them as such. So the driver isn't seen as a man, somehow, which makes me angry. I hate racism--a man is a man, regardless of where he comes from.
This view really hits home when you think of it like this: If a female was caught riding in the car of an unrelated ARAB male, both would be arrested. But if she's stopped with her driver? "Oh, it's just a driver."
The drivers are now the 'animals'. It's sick and twisted and all around a bad idea in my opinion. Just because he's the 'driver' doesn't make him any less of a human or any less of a man. That 'driver' is just as capable of impure thoughts and actions towards the woman he is carting around as any other 'real man' in their country/culture.
I have to say, I agree with you @Susieq_1994 1000% and the rage is building at this idea so let's make it a little funny!
On the OTHERSIDE, these men in the gov't making the laws might just be trying to keep themselves safe. :laugh: There is an idea that all women are terrible drivers. There are even times when I do dumb things while driving and I exclaim 'UGH! Stupid women drivers!' in my frustration.0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Not in the least, promise! The biggest downside to the way women's laws are dealt with is that you are VERY dependent on your husband; if you have an abusive husband, then your life is probably going to be terrible. In Islam, a woman has the right to obtain a divorce from a judge if her marriage is bad--but here in Saudi, they rarely grant that right, and men are given more credibility than women.
Luckily, I have a wonderful husband, so nope, no oppression here. Pretty much the opposite--I'm spoiled like a princess. And if you met many women here, you'd find that many Saudi women are actually strong women, not the run-down, horribly oppressed women that the media portrays, although I'm sure there ARE many who live in that situation due to the government's lack of care.
Quote from My Big Fat Greek Wedding:
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pofoster21 wrote: »
Sorry guys it has NOTHING to do with the cake. It's the cream cheese frosting.
Ha, agreed. I could eat that stuff with a spoon. *drool*... Well, until I made myself sick, two spoonfuls later. That frosting could probably make anything taste good!Italian_Buju wrote: »
I must add that it also made me laugh that @Susieq_1994 also called her husband Mr. Susie - but I did not see that until after I posted this.....
Well, he doesn't like his real name being put out there, so I call him Mr. Susie whenever I refer to him in public online places. People generally get quite a kick out of it.pofoster21 wrote: »
Ok. I love you Susie. But I could not live here.
Most people couldn't, especially not a woman who has had complete independence for most of her life. I don't mind it at all because my anxiety means that I'm generally unwilling to step out of my front door alone, so it doesn't actually affect me.pofoster21 wrote: »
Oh my Gosh! Perfect. Susie has to do the cake tho. No exceptions.
I'm good at baking DELICIOUS cake, but my decorating prowess could scare away the bravest of people. If you want a really yummy cake, call me. If you want a PRETTY cake (and also yummy, I'm sure!), you might want to call Tubbs. 0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »Ok so it's 2 am and of course I am awake due to messed up travel schedule. Ok....
Yesterday
I studied on plane (win)
Only 6274 steps (loss)
No running (loss)
No alcohol (win).
Today:
Study on plane home
10k steps
Run 1 hour
No alcohol
Yay, 2 out of 4 is awesome! I'm actually having trouble REMEMBERING what daily goals I made, but I'll try:
- A minimum of 30 minutes of exercise (60 minutes done!)
- Housework (Almost fully done! Big win there...)
- Stay within my calories (HUGE yes--I had 600 left at 2.45 A.M. the next day, which I used for ice cream)
- Drink at least 2 liters--8 cups--of water (Fail. I got around 5 cups or 1.25 liters)
- Climb the apartment building stairs from the bottom floor to the fourth at least once (Fail. Big chicken. Cluck cluck cluck...)
- Write motivational sticky notes (Fail. No excuse but laziness.)
I think I remembered them all. Today's goals:
- 30-60 minutes of exercise
- Meet my calorie goal
- DRINK THE STUPID WATER ALREADY.
- Steal my husband's sticky notes and write motivational things on them.
- Finish up the housework and laundry (looking at you, big pile of ironing!)
- Do the stair thing! I can do it!0 -
@Susieq_1994 why don't you start with one flight and see how your anxiety is? Set one flight for your goal today and add another tomorrow if it wasn't so bad?
A smaller goal that's easier to do and build on may make it more attainable.
Then you could walk down one floor, act like you forgot something and walk back up.0 -
lilaclovebird wrote: »
The drivers are now the 'animals'. It's sick and twisted and all around a bad idea in my opinion. Just because he's the 'driver' doesn't make him any less of a human or any less of a man. That 'driver' is just as capable of impure thoughts and actions towards the woman he is carting around as any other 'real man' in their country/culture.
I have to say, I agree with you @Susieq_1994 1000% and the rage is building at this idea so let's make it a little funny!
On the OTHERSIDE, these men in the gov't making the laws might just be trying to keep themselves safe. :laugh: There is an idea that all women are terrible drivers. There are even times when I do dumb things while driving and I exclaim 'UGH! Stupid women drivers!' in my frustration.
Sigh. Agreed. I hate the whole idea of it.
lol! That must be it. Although with the scary terrible driving here, I don't think the women could make it any worse if they tried!! Has anyone seen the recent video taken of a Saudi man driving 140 kmph (Around 200-ish mph?) while steering WITH HIS LEGS and using his mobile phone? That pretty much describes the driving here perfectly... 0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »
Oh my Gosh! Perfect. Susie has to do the cake tho. No exceptions.
Agreed! She could even make homemade cookie dough *drools*
& calories will be free on that day so let the feast begin!0
we should have. Next time!
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