anyone else get super frustrated at friends/co workers?
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kraft_kris wrote: »Not my circus, not my monkeys....
This days it all. Love it!kraft_kris wrote: »Not my circus, not my monkeys....
This says it all. Love it!
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Adults can do what they like, but what I struggle with are the kids. Well, the parents of those kids rather.
My partner runs a geeking venue (board games, pc games, that sort of thing) and it has a snack bar. I am there pretty much all the time as our house is attached to the club. There is a couple who visit regularly that bring their little girl along with them - she must be about 8 or 9. She asks for food constantly so that they will come over to her (I think what she really wants is more of their time and attention) and they give in all the time, as well as bringing her things unprompted.
The venue provides free tea, coffee and hot chocolate and because the hot chocolate is so rich (it is a double serving with melted marshmallow on top), most people only have one mug. That little girl has four or five mugs, one after the other. Mom and dad never say no, never suggest something else, even though water and low calorie drinks are also on offer.
I was sitting near her, so I noticed what she ate the last time she was there. 2 bags of chips. 3 chocolates. A small bag of biscuits. A hot dog with extra cheese - in addition to those hot chocolates! It was horrific! Probably twice my calorie allowance all in the space of a few hours and she is a little girl.
It made me feel ill and sad.
Her mother is very obese and takes in a similar amount. Am I wrong in thinking that they are ruining this little kids life and giving her zero chance?0 -
well i think when they say things about us its really a COMPLAINT OR DIG about themselves.0
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most of the people i work with are healthy and work out so they actually KEEP me motivated0
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as someone said
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QueenKristine77 wrote: »most of the people i work with are healthy and work out so they actually KEEP me motivated
Me too! Appreciate my co workers so much after I read all of this. If someone, especially at work, tried to tell me how to eat or said something negative about what I was eating I would flip0 -
Not frustrated, really. I wish I could help them, but I've learned that people won't accept the right kind of help until they're ready. It does make me a touch sad at times, though.0
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it was so horribly frustrating when I originally lost weight over a year ago... everyone wanted to know my secret! they were so impressed and interested... until i told them that i stick to between 1300-1700 calories a day depending on how much I worked out that day... track calories in and out and work out 5 days a week.
WHAT?! ?NO MAGIC PILLS FOR ME?! NO SLEEP HYPNOSIS TO MAKE ME WAKE UP LOOKING LIKE SCARLET JOHANNSON?! peace out.
it actually hurt my feelings at first because some people actually have the deluded gall to LOOK DOWN on us after they discover that were doing it "the hard way". wtf?! lol im over it now, i gotta focus on my own journey... if people ask, i still tell them, but i dont get in depth unless i feel that they have the drive to try it and actually HEAR me.0 -
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Adults can do what they like, but what I struggle with are the kids. Well, the parents of those kids rather.
My partner runs a geeking venue (board games, pc games, that sort of thing) and it has a snack bar. I am there pretty much all the time as our house is attached to the club. There is a couple who visit regularly that bring their little girl along with them - she must be about 8 or 9. She asks for food constantly so that they will come over to her (I think what she really wants is more of their time and attention) and they give in all the time, as well as bringing her things unprompted.
The venue provides free tea, coffee and hot chocolate and because the hot chocolate is so rich (it is a double serving with melted marshmallow on top), most people only have one mug. That little girl has four or five mugs, one after the other. Mom and dad never say no, never suggest something else, even though water and low calorie drinks are also on offer.
I was sitting near her, so I noticed what she ate the last time she was there. 2 bags of chips. 3 chocolates. A small bag of biscuits. A hot dog with extra cheese - in addition to those hot chocolates! It was horrific! Probably twice my calorie allowance all in the space of a few hours and she is a little girl.
It made me feel ill and sad.
Her mother is very obese and takes in a similar amount. Am I wrong in thinking that they are ruining this little kids life and giving her zero chance?
iWork in the restaurant biz and I see this so much, and it is extremely sad. The kids will eat fried chicken and fries and down 3 sodas, and don't forget the biscuits. It's really sad the families won't take the time to do the research and learn to provide a healthier life style for their child.0 -
I wouldn't care about it at all except that other people open the topic with me. I never, ever open the topic myself. People ask me how I lost the weight. I tell them the truth, that I'm prediabetic and had to change what I was doing. I state that I count calories accurately and work out hard, consistently. I explained that I maintain by continuing to count calories and continuing to work out hard, and that if I go back to old habits I will go back to my old weight and become full blown diabetic. They want me to hand them something easy but I am honest, no, it's hard. You get used to it and the routine settles in so it's not as much *mental* work, but no it never gets *easy*. "do you have a fast metabolism?" they ask. No. I'm hypothyroid. The person who asked me this morning was like "walking?" and I was like "lifting." There are food trucks here every day of the week and the biggest ppl are always walking in with bags of McDonald's. Why I care at all what other ppl do is because they come and tell me about it. They ask for advice. I'm never negative, I don't say "put down that junk! That's why you're fat!" I tell them what I DO, not so much about what not to do. People are more receptive if you frame it as doing something new than if you advise them to stop things. I say that there is good news, that you don't have to spend money you can't afford to spend on pills, wraps, fancy programs, etc. That you can do the healthiest things fairly cheaply... I've gone over the basics of saving money on wholesome foods many a time. The whole chicken the day they go on special, the big bag of frozen broccoli. I would think, if they realize a savings at the grocery store, that should be fairly good positive reinforcement.0
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Adults can do what they like, but what I struggle with are the kids. Well, the parents of those kids rather.
My partner runs a geeking venue (board games, pc games, that sort of thing) and it has a snack bar. I am there pretty much all the time as our house is attached to the club. There is a couple who visit regularly that bring their little girl along with them - she must be about 8 or 9. She asks for food constantly so that they will come over to her (I think what she really wants is more of their time and attention) and they give in all the time, as well as bringing her things unprompted.
The venue provides free tea, coffee and hot chocolate and because the hot chocolate is so rich (it is a double serving with melted marshmallow on top), most people only have one mug. That little girl has four or five mugs, one after the other. Mom and dad never say no, never suggest something else, even though water and low calorie drinks are also on offer.
I was sitting near her, so I noticed what she ate the last time she was there. 2 bags of chips. 3 chocolates. A small bag of biscuits. A hot dog with extra cheese - in addition to those hot chocolates! It was horrific! Probably twice my calorie allowance all in the space of a few hours and she is a little girl.
It made me feel ill and sad.
Her mother is very obese and takes in a similar amount. Am I wrong in thinking that they are ruining this little kids life and giving her zero chance?
Yeah obese kids make me very sad. I give people the benefit of the doubt sometimes because some of them are on meds, but still. I actually know of two sets of twins with one healthy, one borderline obese, and I feel kinda bad for the parents there, but it's true that in most cases they eat too many high calorie foods, it's just that one of the kid naturally eats less of them... but still, nothing is done about it and it's making me even sadder because you know that people WILL compare both kids.
And my kids eat a fair amount of junk, and their weight is great, so I can't even start to imagine what people must feed those kids all day for them to get so big. I was a fat kid, so I really feel for them.0 -
Adults can do what they like, but what I struggle with are the kids. Well, the parents of those kids rather.
My partner runs a geeking venue (board games, pc games, that sort of thing) and it has a snack bar. I am there pretty much all the time as our house is attached to the club. There is a couple who visit regularly that bring their little girl along with them - she must be about 8 or 9. She asks for food constantly so that they will come over to her (I think what she really wants is more of their time and attention) and they give in all the time, as well as bringing her things unprompted.
The venue provides free tea, coffee and hot chocolate and because the hot chocolate is so rich (it is a double serving with melted marshmallow on top), most people only have one mug. That little girl has four or five mugs, one after the other. Mom and dad never say no, never suggest something else, even though water and low calorie drinks are also on offer.
I was sitting near her, so I noticed what she ate the last time she was there. 2 bags of chips. 3 chocolates. A small bag of biscuits. A hot dog with extra cheese - in addition to those hot chocolates! It was horrific! Probably twice my calorie allowance all in the space of a few hours and she is a little girl.
It made me feel ill and sad.
Her mother is very obese and takes in a similar amount. Am I wrong in thinking that they are ruining this little kids life and giving her zero chance?
I feel the same way and have one overweight kid in my scout den. When they are not your kids you do what you can and give them what they really need in the limited time you have - attention and respect.
We have a similar venue and the owner started up a kids corner. Mostly the same games, but themed towards the age group. Always led by at least one adult and great fun. When I run it I bring in Nerf weaponry and get the kids up and active - amazing to see how inventive and imaginative they can be.
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Agreed.
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cleanbulk_hatersgfy wrote: »I'm fortunate I have open-minded staff. They are well aware I eat nutritionally-dense food and they try to do the same. They do however, bring donuts, giant cinnamon rolls, huge muffins, etc from time to time. I cut these in small portions and serve them. No sarcastic or snarky remarks from anyone (that I heard at least). Recently, I started reimbursing folks who bring fresh fruits and veggies. They love that! Have a great one!
That's awesome! What a wonderful policy
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I work with a girl who is quite badly overweight, she's made some steps towards getting healthier, she joined a gym we were talking about dieting and stuff the other day and i asked her how she was going and she said "Oh your lucky you lose weight I'm doing alright, but it can be kind of depressing though like i go the gym 5 times a week and work out so hard and i go for an hour walk every night but i just can't seem to lose weight!"
....then i saw what she had for lunch, a XL serve of fish and chips 2 fried dim sims, 2 chocolate bars and all washed down with a 600ml bottle of coke...
I saw it and thought "well, there's your problem..." she's just stuck in that mindset that "I exercise, therefore, I have a free pass to eat whatever I want"0
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