WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2105

Happy mon.hugs
jane

P.S. Love the kitchen redo's also! Beautiful! We are in the process of redoing the bathroom and it's just a nightmare!

Sharon in Lethbridge - You know your DH better than I do just by reading your posts, but is it possible that being around people who have been drinking makes him want to drink himself? I have a friend who recently expressed that even though she is 10 years sober, she finds that she wants a drink when a certain group of us get together and some of us are drinking. She knows this is her problem and was very hesitant to ask us to not drink when we got together a month ago but she just didn’t feel strong enough to resist the urge in that particular situation. Could being a designated driver cause DH to want to revert to old habits?

Mia in MI

August goals:
Continue to honestly log food every day
Continue to meet PT one day a week for strength training
Get at least one hour a week of aerobic exercise
Stop Iced Tea overload. 16 oz. iced tea daily plus 48 oz. water

barbie - I found this site for beginner lifting with videos. http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=155009423&page=1

Mary from Minnesota

Carey-Edmonton - That's exactly where I am, losing and finding the same 5 lbs since I joined the first week in June. I'm trying not to get discouraged. I have upped my exercise and can tell a difference in the fit of my clothes, but the weight is NOT budging. Ugh.

Mia in MI - I so identify with looking in the mirror and not seeing much change sometimes. But the before and after pics do tell the story. I love being able to walk, and climb trails in the mountains when we go up there on a trip and to be able to buy "regular" clothes, etc. What is your total weight loss so far? You look terrific. I looked into Red Hat Society, I would love to do it. I'm a little scared to just pick a group randomly and join. I'm pretty timid when meeting a group of new people, insecure, unsure, what ever it is.

Janetr OKC

Talking about redoing rooms. The first house we lived in had some 'funky' wallpaper on the ceiling; they had left 2 metal twin beds, that had one of the colors (mustard gold) painted on them. We just got the blues out of the wallpaper and used it as accent colors for the bedspreads. All the other rooms were pretty funky (especially the kitchen) . . . it smelled so bad (funky) that we had to really work on it to make the smell go away. Baking potatoes smell like $#*T if they are left to rot in a hot, unused house. They turn into a pile of mold, too.

As for working with colors (such as avocado) . . . we had a house in Albany that was far worse that the wallpaper ceiling. The MBR bath had sea foam greenish with a darker hunter green-ish as a border; while the upstairs had a pinkish/beige that depending on what color of wallpaper you tried matching it to would change from pink to beige and not match the wallpaper. We painted the bathroom with an off-white and continued looking for wallpaper; we finally found one that was hunter green with really small flowers in the seafoam color and it looked like we intended it to be that way (even though it wasn't); in the pinkish/beige tiled bathroom, we finally found a wallpaper that had both colors in it with a metallic silver pattern running through it. It is my position that 'if' you don't like something, and can't afford to replace them - go with the flow and make it look like it was intended.

The last house, before we built this one, had blue fixtures in one bathroom and a light green fixtures in the MBR. I found a pretty burgundy/wine that had the exact blue that the fixtures were. Beat the hell out of what they had hanging there - again, we pulled of the offending wallpaper and just continued looking. The in the MBR found some 'pinkish-rosy' colored wallpaper that had the exact green in a strip in it, too. Both wallpapers had those colors in a very thin line and it really made the wallpaper and fixtures pop. I had a lot of comments (very positive on what I had done). I painted the walls in the MBR the light green and then used the pink that was also in the wallpaper on my windows and my spread. Although wallpaper is not really the 'in' thing to do - I'd suggest finding a color you like for the walls (that will compliment the avocado fixtures and then paint the cabinets an off-white. I'd love for my husband to paint our cabinets and maybe even have a few more built and painted. I hate the metal rack that is blocking my window because violets would do 'great' there since it faces north. They also do well in a south facing window; but never on an east or west side. Most decorators will tell you to figure out the color of the wall after you pick out the bedspread and window covering. Although any color can be matched to a color in a piece of material or pattern of wallpaper. Sometimes all it takes is to have an 'extra' pair of eyes looking at it.

Hey, does anybody know how to 'correct' a food choice that they are showing as the calories as the number of the servings in it - and it has ZERO calories?

why didn't my ticker show up on my above post?

Today at the foodbank we rec'd a rotisserie small chicken so I have the re-roasting (it was frozen). I also rec'd a package of asparagus, so I will have 4 stalks tonight with the 2 oz of chicken I am alloting myself. My husband and son have a drawer of snacks now, (chips ahoy cookies, crackerjacks, poptarts)...and I have some unique snacks, (seaweed snacks, dried cranberries, 2 Kashi granola bars, some chips made out of refried beans"Beanitos", and some healthy cereal). I find it amazing what gets donated by stores every now and then. I think they get alot from Costco, and from Fred Meyers stores that are here. I also realize that eating 40% of your intake from foodbanks is not always healthy stuff. The meats are mostly high fat meats, and there is alot of beans and breads. I have learned to say the word "No Thank You", and do not take everything that is offered to us. Presently I have a big container of chicken broth, a veggie tray, fresh green beans, asparagus, and two onions that I can do many things with (for my meals). Sadly my husband and son will only eat salads, and corn on the cob. That is the extent of their veggie eating. Crazy! I am learning that I can't MAKE those two eat how I eat. I hope my teenager expands his eating repatore when he goes into the Navy, or he will have a hard time.

The Navy's medical insurance, (Tricare) and Medicare paid for alot of my husbands liver transplant. His transplant was about $200k! We had to declare bankruptcy to keep afloat though, and now we see the light at the end of the tunnel! Our RV was the worst part. We still owed 49k on it, and with it sitting in a field, but us paying $408 a month to just look at it was difficult. Last Christmas a guy came and took it. My husband went down and gave him all the info books and keys plus brownies I had just made. It made for a very weird repossession hahaha!

Many of my TOPS friends tell me I am so disiplined in my way of eating. (Remember when I told you all that I was thinking "I have had a gastric bypass in my brain"?) Well I am learning that the brain is a powerful tool in this whole weight loss process. I have always been a fan of mentalipolizing (a Becca word) my way of thinking to suit my needs. To think slim, is to DO slimming things, like eating smaller portions, and walk and talk like a slim person. I have watched slim people (like at the zoo, in a bistro or deli).....*my brain as a radio announcer*...."And here is a slim person, in their native habitat, look at the way she talks and takes a bite......oh there she is using her napkin, and sipping her water....she has only just nibbled on her bread, but she has attacked that salad....her fork goes in for another kill.....". Its really quite fascinating! Try it! Just don't choke on your diet whatever when you do, like I do sometimes.

Another mental trick is to create a "mantra" (a sentence that modivates you and rings true in your heart and mind). So mine was "I am 180 lbs, willowy and full of grace". So I think it as I am walking. My brain hears it and says, "hey you aren't 180 lbs, but I will try to make that sentence happen". Scientists have said that positive thinking like that actually helps the brain to make connections. Connections that help in the weight loss journey. So in a certain way, you think what you want to be and the brain doesn't know time. It just does what its told by the mind.

I tried this trick once when I was going for an interview. I hadn't worked in 15 yrs (just raising sons and being a domestic engineer). So I came in to the interview with the attitude that "I have this job already" and that they will want me, they just don't know it yet. So I told him (turned out he was the manager of the grocery store I was interviewing for), all the reasons why I would be a great addition to their store. I was interviewing for a cashier/stocker position, but I was going thru my Jenny Craig health kick and feeling powerful about that, so every time I talked about healthy eating he marked it down. Turned out there was a "Kitchen Table " position that he was also scoping people on. It was working at a little sample kitchen on the end of one of the isles. He said, "That is the heart of the store really"....and I said simply, "Oh I could so be the heart of the store". We chatted comfortablly for about 45 mins. and then he asked me if I had any questions. I just said, "Well you know I have the job right?" He replied, "yep I think so!" And a couple of days later I had the job. My positive thinking got it. My putting myself out there did it. So I know this trick works, not just for weight loss.
Opps have to check my chicken!
Becca
the mental one in Oregon

@Annr Becca, you are just too funny. I didn't choke but I did spray water everywhere!

Help ! I apparently messed-up big time with my daughter. She had her first appointment with a bariatric surgeon, and he was "brutal". After thinking I was being supportive I texted "It is sad that he was brutal but by the time most people seek out the surgery it's not a surprise to them. I'm sorry he hurt your feelings. I wish I could hug you. I suggest you have a long patient discussion with Jill (her aunt who kept it off since the surgery) and anyone who gained it back, to make sure you are fully prepared" She has stopped texting me now. Can I fix this?

Terri - What I heard you say above was A) You were sorry he (the doctor) hurt her feelings. You want her to speak to various people who can give her perspective on the surgery - both pluses and minuses. How did she hear/interpret it? If you know specifically what you said that hit a sore spot try a simple "I'm sorry I hut you when I said X. I love you and want you to be happy. Please tell me how I can best give you the support you need."

I hope it wasn't the suggestion that she talk to her aunt and people who have gained the weight back. As a person who has been through bariatric surgery I feel that if you are not ready to hear all the bad as well as the good of surgery then you are not ready for surgery. Surgery is not an easy fix. It still takes hard work. I really hope she gets that message or she could be in for a world of disappointment over the surgery. It can be a powerful tool to help control the amount you eat. It does not take away cravings, the desire to eat your emotions, the poor food choices, or a myriad of things that got many of us to the place where we need to lose weight.

Hugs to you. Hope fences are soon mended with your daughter.

Mia in MI

She said it's not me, she is just irritated in general. Thanks again. I will keep trying with her.

pjnva wrote: »

@Annr Becca, you are just too funny. I didn't choke but I did spray water everywhere!

my day is COMPLETE! bwahahahahaha!
Becca
Mischievious one in coastal Oregon....

Yet again I realize how much BETTER I feel when I excersize! I had let other people's issues take presedance over my time and talked myself out of excersize for three days. I felt emotionally and physically horrible! Back on the bike today and whaLaa I feel awesome again. Too down to post yesterday but thanks in part to the words of wisdom and compassion you all share in your posts I'm back to plan. Weigh in on Wed but I'd think I lost any so far this week. Going to the Cape w my BF just for a night so we can bike the Shining Bike Trail and swim in the ocean. Have a good night!
Mindy

Heather grandchildren are adorable.

Wendy the little dog who was attacked is doing great. They were able to get the other dog off quickly. She was moving quickly and her eyes were bright and clear.

Got a good report on my annual eye exam.

MNMargaret