WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2015

Good afternoon! I'm going to sneak in a post since everything is quiet here right now.

I made a bad boo-boo today! I have on my Fitbit bracelet but the Fitbit itself is at home in the charger. Arrgh! I even walked to the corner store from job #1 this morning--I'm by myself for a few days and it is so wonderful to see the sunshine that I took that 10-15 minute break!

I sent in three job applications online today. We'll see what happens. None of them look spectacular, but it's so hard to tell from the job descriptions. At least I took a step...

I don't remember if I said this before, but my doctor increased my Prozac prescription and I got a different anxiety med. I am feeling better. I'm not where I usually am at this time of year, but at least I can see some light at the end of the tunnel. I'm still worried about my son not having a place to live and still grieving my friend's marriage, but I'm not dwelling on them all of the time. I'm also just doing my job and trying to stay out of sight at job #2. I REALLY would like to get out of this environment, but I'll have to trust that it will happen when the time is right. I finally put into words how I feel about this place--it's like the surface is all pretty but the inside is rotten like a piece of fruit can be.

I'm still trying hard to be kind to myself and be sure that I rest a lot since I feel tired so much. However, the food situation is still a mess because I simply do not want anything to eat and I'm under 1,000 calories most days. I've lost 10 pounds, but I know it's not healthy.

I had a re-check with the surgeon last Thursday. He was pleased with my progress. He told me that most patients find themselves at 80% after six months. I think I may beat that one!

I have no memory of the last time I actually wrote a regular post, so please forgive me if I'm repeating myself!

Alison - Go see a lawyer! Get your ducks in a row so that you are ready to go if D****H decides that's what he wants. Good job at standing up for yourself!

I'm so sleepy that I've forgotten what else I was going to say, so I'll leave it at this.

Carol in NC

Margaret ... That's great news!!

Margaret - What great news! You must be so relieved.

We are hoping for a good night's sleep tonight. :ohwell: My flu jab was a breeze - straight in and out. The W I meeting was initially fun as the speaker showed us a couple of vintage hair styles, but it wasn't the practice session I was expecting. I came back home early and watched tv with DH.
DH is falling asleep on the sofa and I can feel the effects of my flu jab. Always get a mild reaction. I will take a Nytol and pain killer tonight. They tell you it's a dead vaccine, but it always makes me feel a bit fluey.

Just tired after all our emotional trials. To think this morning DH was sobbing his heart out. I will have a read of the latest Sue Grafton. Up to X now. :laugh:

Alison - stay strong!

Night night - Heather UK

TWO DAYS WITHOUT MY EVENING DRINK. :drinker:

Been giving a lot of thought today to the meaning of inner strength and having the grace to live life bravely...

Rosie in So Cal

margaretturk wrote: »

Good news about DB. He only needed surgery for his cancer!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yay!

Joyce ... The pull up type depends have tear away sides so you don't have to pull soiled pants down the legs.

Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

Good Evening Ladies,

Liz, hope you feel better when you get up.

Wessecg, congrats on your loss. Great picture. Thanks for sharing.

Janetr, when Nov. 5th gets here, if I forget, just remember the BD greeting I sent yesterday. LOL Talk about drunken stupor, maybe it’s me. But Happy Anniversary and good for you on the great hubby! Hope you get the pain med situation worked out. ((((Hugs))))

Joyce, yuck on the catsup! But if he’s eating, I guess, who cares? Is your nephew the one going to Coastal Carolina? That is just up the road from here and they had the solid 3 ½ days of rain but not in an area that floods. It has finally stopped today and hopefully things will start getting back to normal in another few days. Schools are still closed because there are still so many streets under water.

Heather, I just hate that your DH is having such a hard time with this niece mess. If his sister only knew the turmoil she has caused!!! I hope it’s resolved soon and he can relax. (later) OMG, when is his BD? I hate, hate, hate that this is causing him such stress. Unfortunately that is how family matters can be.

Sharon, I loved reading, “Decided to be happy today”. Strangely enough, sometimes that is all it takes. Good for you!!

Allison, good for you on your talk with H. I also hope that some of it stuck!

Liz, it sounds like an interesting day ahead for you. I will look forward to hearing how it went.

Elaine, as much as I have used computers for the past 25 years, I didn’t know there were “online jigsaw puzzles”? Gee, ya live and learn. I’ll check it out.

Heather, it sounds like perhaps things are getting a little better. I’m keeping my fingers crossed!!!!

Pip, I’m glad you will wait for your shoulder to heal before taking on the Ironman, but I can certainly see you doing that.

Terri, what in the world kind of wife are you? You expected DH to eat a taco without cheese? Good Grief. If he’s anything like mine, the next time he may choose to eat it without cheese. At least you get to have the food you prepared.

Sylvia, I’m glad you are ok and happy that your internet is restored. That silly Bruno, thinking he would outsmart you! LOL

Tina, hi back at ya. I’m not sure if you are joining our little group or not, but if so, Welcome. Please tell us about yourself to help us get to know you. This is a wonderful place for support and information. Come often and join right in.

Chris, that is exactly what we were saying about not paying attention to the size. If it fits right, enjoy and just pretend they are all 6s. 

Brenda, welcome back. Sorry about the gain, but hang around here and we’ll encourage you to get it off again.

Lenora, congrats on getting under Obese. I remember how thrilling it was. Keep up the good work.

CarolNC, congrats on sending the applications. Yes, it’s a start even if they weren’t wonderful jobs. Glad the surgeon is pleased with your progress. You keep taking care of yourself.

MNMargaret, that is wonderful news for your brother. ((Hugs))


to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.

It probably didn’t get out of the 60s today but will warm up the next few days. I have a Moose convention starting Thursday till Sunday but hope to sneak out to the beach on Friday when it is predicted to be sunny and 80 degrees. I may not have a lot of time to check in but will be logging my food and drink. As always I’m thinking of you and wishing the best for each of you. Again, line dancing wore me out today so I’m off to bed.

I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.
Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC

I seem to have picked up a virus when I got my flu shot- the doctor's office is the worse place for picking up new bugs! Anyway, I have been coughing all day, with no relief from my inhaler. I got laundry, dishes and pet care done today but absolutely nothing additional. Headachy, achy, and scratchy throat. Darn!

I know this isn't quite healthy food, but it sure is pretty. I HAVE THIS IN MY FRIG RIGHT NOW....lol

Becca

Hi all,
Just a quick note my computer completely suddenly died, so I bought a new one, and am upgrading EVERYTHING all to compatible to windows 10- nothing works the same, and my business is at a halt... I am stressing, but not over eating or drinking ----yet --LOL so I am not participating but thinking of you and sending you love... back as soon as I can be.

Kim

thanks for telling us about your Face book addiction Becca. You need to have your family your priority but leave some time for us. Sounds like you are working on a workable plan.

DJ, yes, that is the nephew's son I am talking about. I called my nephew tonight and Alex is doing fine. They cancelled classes for a couple of days and he said it was actually boring not having classes. But his wife's family all live in Columbia and although they are OK, they are all tired of it. They live in a differnet area of the damm breach.

Thanks for all the info and insight on adult diapers. He says we need to get them but yet he puts it off. I know it isn't an easy decision. He did forget to take one of his medicines for ulcerative colitis for two days and he has found his stool is more formed. Sorry guys, a little graphic. One of the side effects of this medicine is diarrhea but it pretty much a side effect of all medicines for UC. So he is going to test not taking it. I also have set my phones alarm for 4 PM to remind him to take those medicines since he has several pills to take at that time.

We have been having a bit of drama in our family about Christmas. Our house is to big for the dinner, I hate to do it but we will be needing to have it soem where else. My sister goes to a church that has a large professional kitchen. Her husband cooks there one Saturday a month for a mens group. But for Christmas dinner he will not be cooking! Michelle and my nephews wife are usually the main cooks. Well several years ago when my Mom was alive and back was really bad, we rented a building for a real cheap price. It is owned by the local Baptists here and also a professional kitchen. Many churches have their summer picnics there. No stairs or steps. Sister's church has one flight of stairs and 2 long hall ways. Plus the church is right outside those fellowship hall doors. We have 6 toddlers! This church is also in a really bad area of town. So I have sent a personal message to my siblings to get their opinions. No one wants the church. You all know I don't like confrontation. My sister and her husband are very strong. So the one sister in law that needs a very handicap accesible place and is also very assertive is calling my sister. I am so glad that has been taken off my shoulders.

Tonight we were out and when we got back to our car, the battery was completely dead. I was in the midst of calling AAA when some one asked us if he could help. He had on his mechanics shirt from one of our local Buick dealerships. He couldn't get it started but had the dealerships fast starter thing brought over and it turned over in second. So we went to Auto Zone and had the battery tested and it was dead. So after a new battery it is good as new. The guy that helped us was a member of thr National Guard here and husband asked him if he knew our ex son in law. He did and told us he divorced his wife, the one he had an affair with while he was maried to our daughter. He divorced ehr because she was cheating on him with a fellow National Guardsmen. Karma.

Joyce, Indiana

Heather - I'm sorry your DH is going through all this drama over his own party.
I am glad that he and his sister were able to express their love for each other. DGD is right. "Everyone should get a hug"

Allison - I sit here crying for you and your situation. I do really relate. It seems he likes to see you in turmoil and discontent. Keep your head up, my friend, and remember what a valuable person you truly are.

Sylvia - I am picturing the game between you and Bruno and that gave me a smile.
I'm glad you are okay, we were all worried.

Chris - It would be nice if sizes were standardized.

Margaret - That has to be a relief.

Becca - Sometimes we need the emotional days so we can keep growing.
That chocolate cup looks delicious......mmmmm.

Work was better today. I seem to be more in the swing of things. I tried to get most of the schedule done today but that was not to be. Boss man is back tomorrow.

Rode Sparkle Orange over to my sister's to help her get rid of some clothes. Mission accomplished. She seemed amazed at my riding over but I'm not sure why. She asked if I would go to the pool with her sometime. Yes, please. I am still sure the body snatchers got to her. So nice to see her like this.
It has been many moons.

Made a Total 10 Italian Bowl tonight. DH didn't like it because I didn't have cheese on it. Haha. Men and their cheese. He also said the herbs in it were probably old. Wrong. I picked them from the deck and used the pestle and mortar to grind them. He thought we were going to have left over Chinese food. He definitely could have.

DD has been painting up a storm and I love it.

Discovered that part of DH's problem the last few days has to do with none of his brother's wishing him a Happy Birthday and our son not phoning yesterday. DS did phone this morning. Thank goodness.

Continuing to choose my attitude
-Sharon

morning friends~
dont go until 1 pm this morning. got up at 3:45 am.
thank you for all the advice on Tom.. I think he knows im not playing anymore games and he has to sh#t or get off the pot.. If your gonna be a jerk,then you will end up alone..
He also knows deep down that he would be a freakin idiot to split. and if he thinks that he will retire in 3 years and we do split, then he will have to work a few more years as I will get 1/2 of everything plus alimony.
He has Dr's appt this evening and as I told you I dropped off a note to the Dr. and hopefully we shall get to the bottom of at least the health stuff..
If he thinks I am going to leave he has it wrong, He started it and I will not leave this home, it is just as much mine as it is his...he can try and push buttons but I will not budge...

Hi tazgirl - Welcome back and don't give up!! Keep on keeping on. :laugh:

So I am all dressed up and ready to go out to lunch.
We both slept well. I had taken a couple of mild pills, but DH nothing. I think the last phone call in the evening from his sister, checking that he was alright, was good for him. She was a senior nurse and is now a counsellor, for goodness sake. She has been with him when he has had his worst breakdowns, so she knows the score. How we all got into that mess is beyond me!
I think DH was very brave ringing his sister yesterday when things were so tense. Braver than I would have been. He has a lot of moral courage.

I still have to make minor changes to the grocery order for that weekend. If we run out of anything someone will have to pop out for it. We are hiring an extra pair of hands for the Saturday afternoon who can be in charge of keeping tidy and setting out and washing up 26 champagne glasses for the toast with the birthday cake. At that time I will be decorating the banquet table and, hopefully, delegating the decoration of the barn for dancing. Must remember the Blu-tac. :laugh:

The party is the weekend after next. For the whole weekend - three nights. Yikes! I don't think many people will stay the third night, but I don't know. We will find somewhere to eat out. I would prefer to come home, but it is booked so some people are staying. :ohwell: We hope to go on a steam train ride that day. Hoping for fine weather.

Lots of love, Heather UK

Becca ... Stay off the other threads (they're mostly trash)! We enjoy hearing from you here. But I understand your DHs concerns.

Not a great week so far. Son issues. Hoping today is a better day ... At least the sun is shining!

Beth in WNY