WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2015

Happy Wednesday ! ! !

DJ – would you believe DH and I had the exact same conversation again last night about the cheese? Like he can’t open the freezer and take out some cheese. Well, I took it out, banged it on the counter and said “here’s the cheese”. He ate a few tacos last night. What a nut ! He also bought that ding-a-ling kid of mine 3 new bowling balls and a 2 ball tote (so now my 15 y.o. son will have 7 bowling balls). When High School bowling season starts, I will donate 2 of the “old’ balls to the inner-city school that is in our conference. I better not hear anything next month when I buy the Embroidery Machine.

Becca – More Hugs ! ! ! I’m so proud of you. Keep that addiction at bay, and stick with us. Give your DH a hug from me.

Sharon – Do you have (or did I already miss it) a recipe for quinoa for breakfast? I frequently have old fashion oatmeal, but I like variety. Thanks!

Kim – Hugs and best of luck ! ! !

Joyce – so sorry about the trouble with your car battery. I’m glad it wasn’t something more expensive.

Sharon – what is it with men and their cheese? Mine doesn’t even like “stinky or runny” cheese like Heather. Mozzarella, American, or Cheddar are the only options. Weird !

Allison – I admire your strength. During the split with my ex, the therapist I was seeing called it resilience. Stay resilient my friend. Hugs ! ! !

Heather – the birthday weekend sounds amazing, and it sounds like you have a plan B if any slight inconveniences arise. Hugs ! ! !

Beth – Hugs for your “not great” week, and for your son.

Today is the day DD sees a lung specialist. First they thought she had a blood clot in her lungs, then they told her she has an auto-immune disease they just didn’t know which one, then they told her she has swollen lymph nodes inside her lungs. She has an inhaler like people get if they have asthma, yet she keeps smoking. We’ll see what comes of it. I think she’s just still depressed about the end of her engagement, and not getting the “love” she needs from her dad, and I can’t give it to her from 200 miles away except through the phone.

15 minutes on the bike already this morning. Will try for at least 10 again during lunch. The RA flare has not left my elbow, so I am not yet back on the handbike, but hopefully soon. Tonight I have to run to the radio station to pick up the $50 Quaker Steak & Lube gift card I won, then a quick supper and off to Parent/Teacher conferences. They ask us to bring the kids along. It is "open house" style, so we sit in a lot of lines (well, I sit, because I drag a chair along with me). I was hoping to go to Big Lots, but I guess it can wait until next Wednesday.

My Dad just e-mailed me that he won Milwaukee Bucks tickets for this Saturday, so 2 of us get to go to the game. Sweet ! I hope DS picks me (but maybe I could just hang out at a coffee shop if he wants to take a friend instead).

Hugs for Everyone ! ! !

Terri in Milwaukee

Allison - Lawyers will advise you to stay in the house unless the abuse is a real threat.....then get out as quick as you can. Are your stomach woes linked to Tom's behaviour?

Heather - Your husband's weekend will turn out wonderfully after all the work you have put into it. A steam train ride seems like great fun. Wishing you good weather and lots of laughter for that weekend.

Beth - The sun shining helps with a lot of things. Have a better day.

Terri- Embroidery machine? Do you have projects waiting for it?
I hope they figure out what is really wrong with your daughter's lungs. Don't you just wish you could stop smoking for her? It's hard watching our children go through tough times.
You asked for a quinoa recipe. Here is the the Total 10 one. I have another some place if this isn't to your liking.
1/2 c. prepared quinoa
1 c. unsweetened vanilla almond milk
1 tsp. cinnamon
1/2 c. frozen berries of your choice
Directions
Combine ingredients microwave for 30 seconds or until hot (It takes mine about a minute and a half)

Hope you like it.

Back to my early riser time and hoping to keep it. Going to fix myself some eggs and off to work I go.

-Sharon
Today is a good day.
I am grateful for
-the sunrise
-I have food to eat
-Dog kisses (Whoa! enough now)
-A husband who takes care of all flat tires
-Adorable, intelligent, caring, loving and attractive grand children (Yes, I know that last bit is shallow)

morning again~
I am hoping it will not come to lawyers..stomach issues not from him... feeling better today.
DFIL didnt like his waffles or quiche and spit it out on himself..that was fun to clean up.. did eat his wheaties
then went to see my DB,came home and finished laundry and then getting grocery list together..

Hi to all, thanks for your comments about my dropping out of the 'obese' category! It really, really made me feel good! I even wore long pants to be weighed in - that might have been at least an extra 1/2 pound there; but, I won't concern myself with that. Just too cool to weigh the shorts I have been wearing.

I'm glad that the Prozac is working for you . . . I was suffering from the throws of being up one minute, down the next; and was put on Prozac and that made me from 'swinging' into a situation of 'crash and burn'. But, it made it so that I got diagnosed properly with Bipolar Disorder and then went on Lithium; after that I got Lithium Toxicity which just about killed me. I finally found a PsycheMD 'out-of-town' because all that are around here are 'stupid'. At least, he actually listens to me and I can call him 24/7 if I feel like my meds are whacked out or if I think I need my medications 'tweaked', which most of the time he can do that over the phone and it will help stabilize me and then I can get up to see him. I won't go to the local hospital for much of anything; especially when it comes to my 'mental health'. Really, really bad experience. I'm also with ya for hating being on a fence and trying to stay which most call 'stable'. It just does not feel that way to me; I prefer to be a little on the 'manic' side of the fence because that is what 'feels' normal to me. If I am 'on the fence' or on the 'depressed' side of the fence; I feel like Hell and can't get anything accomplished.

I've got to get my house ready for Thanksgiving; and about all I have done is get my bookshelf all dusted off with all the tchotchkes dusted off and everything put back in place. I really think it will take me working like a horse to get it done, like I did last year. I did it all in 2 days and was surprised that I did not have any help doing it. I do remember sweating like a horse and my husband telling me several times to 'take a break'; but, it was clean when I finally got through with it. A weekend shot; but, it was worth it. I can't hide too much under either bed; because that is where most of the 'hunting stuff' goes such as all the clothes, etc.

We are still looking for a 'puppy' to add to our family since our JRT died this past April. WOW! Some breeders are 'very' proud of their dogs. A JRT is totally out of our budget. I guess we were spoiled when we got Shorty from my BnL. Only had to pay for what he had in her - the procedure so that his dog could get pregnant and all the shots and wormings. Then we had to have her spayed. She lived for 16+ years. I have found them to be advertised from $900 to $1900. A breeder took the time to explain to me why they are so expensive if you get onw from a 'good' breeder and what to expect and look for. Tried 'beagles' because we had that breed for approximately 10 years before she died. I guess if you get any dog that is a purebred is going to be too expensive for us. I have gone to the local Humane Society; but, they rarely get 'puppies' and they would not allow me to get any dog out of their cage to take them to a quieter part of the facility in order to see if the dog was a barker just for the sake of barking; or in they were 'barking' saying 'Let me out of here, please adopt me and let me outta here'! I've gone by several vets' offices to see if they had anything that would be suitable, nothing so far and I won't buy a dog from a pet store either. I want to meet the people I am getting the puppy from and pick out my own puppy. I know what to look for, in a pet for companionship. I don't want a biter or one that is too aggressive and don't want one that shies away from being held. Now we are looking at Rat Terriers; and I have emailed a breeder in east Georgia to find out if their dogs are more in line with what we want and what we can afford. Probably a no-go on that, too. Going to ask DYS to look out in Louisiana for a dog like his "Lily". He calls her a "Mountain Feist"; but, when I look that up, it always take me to "Rat Terrier sites". Although there is a dog that is a 'Mountain Feist'. Lily is well behaved, comes inside some, doesn't seem to be bothered with fleas, and isn't a 'barky-barky' dog like a Chihuahua or other 'little' dogs are usually. His wife bought a little mixed breed; but, it is a Shitz Sui married to a Chihuahua, and while he is really cute, he is sort of a 'barker' for attention. Also, he is pretty much a house dog, mainly because of his size, although he doesn't think he is a small dog. Our JRT did not 'think' she was a little dog either. Sad, that we haven't been able to find a dog. Louis is going to see if DYS will be 'on the lookout' for a dog that we can afford that is a small- to medium-sized puppy to an adult. We might have to settle for a 'mixed' breed; but, even then - we don't want one bred with a Chihuahua or Lab or Pit-bull. Apparently all 3 of these dogs will bred with 'anything'. Makes you wonder how they can do that.

Sharon: I love the idea of choosing our attitude. I will remember and use it as often as possible. :flowerforyou:

Alison:

Tazgirl: Welcome back.

Heather: Your celebrations are amazing. I am in awe and hope you have a wonderful time. The train ride sounds like great fun. :flowerforyou:

Sylvia: You are a stellar grandma. Your son was likely embarrassed and grumpy because of dropping the ball for his DD. :ohwell:

Grits: Good luck on your puppy search. DDIL has a beagle-jack that she rescued from the pound. He's been healthy and loyal. Good luck on your search. :flowerforyou:


Thank you to all for the wise advice yesterday regarding DD's situation. Barbie's words were especially helpful and I've put things into a much more positive perspective. I was having a self-pity party at a time when DD is trying her best to handle serious health problems during pregnancy, and financial problems. :embarassed: I'm moving from jealousy to the realization that she is lucky her DMIL can help. I still have a ways to go but I'm better than I was. I wish she was moving here, but the truth is I haven't got room in my house for her family and DH's health problems are more than enough challenge for us at this time. :ohwell: :flowerforyou:

Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

October Goals :
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.

morning peeps -

miriamwithcats = hope u feel better

annr - you have to respect the fact that your husband talked to you about his concerns instead of giving you attitude and not knowing what he's pissed about. give him a thumbs up for me. i can understand where he is coming from but just DON'T FORGET ABOUT ME! :0)

GODMOMKIM - may your computer rest in peace, my thought are with you and the family.

jmok01 - thanks :0) i try, you'll get there.

dreamwriter - lolol about the body snatchers catching your sis.

grandmallie - u r a rockstar! my thoughts are always with u!

tazgirl1960 - welcome back

cynthiat60- HIIII!!!!!!!!! hope your hubby feels better, that was sweet of him to sanitized the knobs, what a guy!

davidson1933 - welcome, love your profile pic!

fanncy - u know y u were able to keep up w/her right? cuz YOU ROCK!

grit - welcome to overweight status!! yeayyyyyyyyyyy!! we've had pure breds, golden retreivers and yogi a black lab, father an english lab, mom an american. but with that, pure breds have thier issues but that's what we want. yogi is turning out to be very smart and when i start running again, a good running dog. good luck in your search. they do have sights where you can enter your criteria and your lifestyle and based on what u enter, it picks the best kind of dog for you.

shoulder hurt unusually bad last night. went to my last spin class this morning. starting next week, I spin at home and Kirby goes back to work. the spin bike that i'm borrowing won't have a mile, gear, average rpm or average watt meter to note so i'll just b spinning and marking the length of time and calories burned

type to ya later

Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

Good Morning Ladies,

Miriam, so sorry you have picked up a bug. I hope it doesn’t get worse and you get better real soon.

Becca, that “thing” you showed the picture of is very pretty. That’s the kind of thing I try to walk past very quickly in the store. Lol In reading your posts the past two or three days, I’m wondering if I missed something that you posted earlier? Have you given us any information on why you are needing to rebuild trust? I’m not asking for anything that you haven’t already shared, but if you did I must have read it when I was napping or something. Anyway, good luck with your new plan on the internet. I not only have no desire but no time to read other threads as I spend more time on this one than I should. Wish I was a faster reader.

MicheleNC, way to go on modifying the workout that you found. I am just always so impressed with what you do and it always seems to have a great variety. Thanks for the prayers for all the flood victims. I feel very blessed.

Joyce, I hope the family Christmas situation gets solved soon. It’s ashamed to have such stress over something that should be a wonderful time. On the diapers, can you not just buy some to get him started or would that cause a problem? Sorry about your car battery but how wonderful to have a good Samaritan come to your rescue. It is always refreshing to see that there are good people left in this world.

Sharon, good for you on riding to your sisters. Laffin’ about your DH and cheese. Good grief! Sorry for your DH that he felt ignored on his BD. Things like that can be so upsetting.

Allison, I try not to say much about Tom other than you deserve better, but I can’t keep my mouth shut any longer. You do so much for him. If he keeps saying he is finished with the marriage maybe you should suggest that you two live as roommates for a while. That of course would mean that he do his own laundry and cook his own meals. I vote along with everyone else in that you need to at least talk to an attorney to find out how to protect yourself. I know you want to make your marriage work but I still have to ask if you are happier in it than you would if you were alone? If you did end up alone, do you want it to be there or in Florida?

Terri, I still can’t believe how many bowling balls your guys have. When we lived in Milwaukee we bowled a lot and I had one. In fact I didn’t know anyone with more than one ball. How times have changed. I mean, that was only 40+ years ago. Lol

Heather, I hope the worst of the family stress is behind you and DH. I’m sure the celebration will be a huge success.

Davidson, welcome. Please tell us about yourself to help us get to know you. This is a very supportive and informative group of ladies. We also ask that you sign each post with the name you want to be called and a location, general or specific.

Sylvia, my heard sank just while reading your post. Thank goodness DS was okay but what a scare. What I don’t understand is how he can justify being mad at you, like any of it was your fault. I agree that “pound puppies” are the best. We’ve had a number of mixed breeds over the years and each one was better than the one before. (I’m sure that wasn’t because we were learning to be better owners?)

Katla, so glad you took Barbie’s words to heart and have a different outlook on DD’s move. I’m sure she’d rather be moving in with you, but like you said, you simply don’t have room and it’s great that her DMIL has reached out to help.

Pip, I can’t believe Kirby is back to work already. How time flies. Sorry for the pain. Are you over doing it?

to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.

What a beautiful day in SC. The sun is actually shining. It is chilly this morning but supposed to be in the low 80s the next two days. After a solid week of rain, this is a welcomed change.


I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.

Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC

Well, I’ve gotten way behind on posts again. Will try to catch up and add a few comments later.

NSV – Had a physical with my doctor on Monday. Cholesterol is 180; blood pressure is 100/60; all other bloodwork came back normal except that my bad cholesterol is 106 and should be under 100. As I continue to exercise more and eat healthier, that should come back into normal range. Now I need to schedule a mammogram, or the boob squishing test as my daughter calls it.

I’ve recently ended up with two fitness trackers – a Withings Activite Pop which I purchased and a Jawbone UP2 which the company sent me as a replacement for my broken Jawbone UP24. I’m testing these out and I’ll either keep one and give one to my daughter or I’ll return one and keep the other. I know… first world problems, right?

My cute baby foster kitties were losing weight when they first came to my house. That’s not unusual when they are first placed in foster since it’s a new environment. But, happy to report that all four gained weight this morning!

Pip - I hope your pain goes away! I didn't feel too much like a rockstar last night, I got a major crap that went from the inside of my leg from my knee all the way up in curved around to my butt! I went in and drink a quarter cup of pickle juice and almost immediately it went a way! I heard that that was a remedy for cramps but I never tried it before. I feel much better today.

Mary from Minnesota

Mary, I swear by pickle juice after a hard workout- in my garden! I crave it and I am not as sore. It replaces electrolytes that you lose sweating. I pay attention to cravings after my first pregnancy. I was craving red meat and tomatoes- could not get enough! My blood pressure was really low- worrisome low. I happened to be reading a nutrition book and it said that the nutritional treatment for low blood pressure was... protein and Vitamin C!! Of course, sugar and chocolate cravings do no count!

I am not coughing as much as yesterday by far, but managed to pull a muscle in my side coughing yesterday! It is really painful when I move so am spending a lot of time lying on a heating pad with the muscle stretched out.

Linda, so glad the kitties are doing well. I may very well have a new kitty. The last thing I need. It was stuck in a tree across the street and the neighbor girl asked me to get it down. It is pure white, with a yellow eye and a blue eye. White cats with blue eyes are genetically prone to be deaf. It is a gene that causes the inner ear to deteriorate after birth. Cats with one blue eye have a lesser chance, but it is still 40%. Sometimes they are deaf only on the blue eye side. This one appears to be deaf in both. It is very sweet and rather passive when held. Anyway, with two girls in my house it is hard to get rid of one once it is rescued, even if it was only supposed to be temporary. They worry someone will take it, and let it outside where it is very vulnerable.

I am very upset with my sister today. Actually with her husband. He is greedy and resents helping support the girls. I get less than $500 a month from her for their expenses, but he is now saying that once I adopt them, then they lose their tax write off so they won't be able to help out! You cannot raise two kids on $500 a month, $6K a year! Much less on disability income ($1400/month). He says this a week after they were considering buying a new house that cost over half a million! He has his priorities all wrong in my opinion. And she goes along with it! I should just send the girls down to them for a few months, see how they manage. She is the VP of a hospital and he was an accountant at a hospital. They have lots of money- live in a gated community, plays golf every day, drive new cars every other year. ARGH. My son had anticipated this happening, but I poo pooed him. He is a better judge of character, I guess.

I'll probably get 'bomb-barded' for that, too.

damnit - kirby will b bk to wrk saturday. maybe overdoing at wrk w/typing, gotta back off a bit i think

fanncy - pickle juice does help. so does magnesium pills and salt pills. glad u r feeling better

miriamwithcats - bummer 2 hear about the $$ issues with your sis n her hub.

Miriam - Families, eh? ! ! ! ! ! Big hugs ((((HUGS)))) You have such a generous heart.

I had a lovely lunch with my friend. Managed to avoid most of the fries that came with the steak and used the trick of just dipping the prongs of my fork in the peppercorn sauce.
In order to compensate a bit DH and I went for the short walk round the lanes, so that made 756 calories for the day in all, as I had done my machines first thing. Did feel a bit "fluey", but nothing serious. Had 20 mins nap on the sofa which seems to have done the trick. :laugh:
I've even got a couple of hundred calories left. Will probably spend a hundred of it on cheese.

Heather UK

miriamwithcats wrote: »

these are my sister's grandchildren. The parents lost privileges for drug (meth) and alcohol abuse, neglect, domestic violence, etc. I just got the parental rights terminated, after having the girls for over two years, so I could adopt them. My sister has been paying my out of pocket expenses which I keep about $500/ month. Her husband just realized that when I adopt them they lose the dependents on their taxes (I don't have to file with only SSDI income). Probably has saved them tens of thousands in taxes. They were spending over $150K a year on airfare alone when she was working in Texas but living in SC. She recently got a job in SC so is no longer traveling. My sister's husband (her second) does not want his leisure lifestyle impacted by taking the girls himself, and he has begrudged every penny she has sent me. Now, just a week after bidding on a half mill house, he says they "cannot afford" to give the girls $500 a month. I just wrote her and told her the adoption is off. That I will not adopt the girls without a written contract signed by both of them. I do have a lawyer, and have gone through the Dept of Human Services adoption classes and investigation. They okayed me to adopt but it was based on my sister paying the out of pocket costs. I would not be okayed without that. What a mess- greed is such a sin.

Maybe the million dollar plus home they have a bid on is like half of SC - under water. He's the pain in the royal @$$; and I'm like you - I would not keep them without a written contract. What would THEY do with their own grandchildren? Surely, they should have been the first ones in line to get them since it was her child having the drug issue (if there was not a more suitable sibling that could have done so). I know, even though my grandchildren live next door, my oldest son's and his wife's Wills are written in such a way that his brother (my youngest son) would take them or maybe it is that her brother and sister-in-law would take them, can't remember. Only remembered telling them they needed to make sure that whoever they named agreed to doing so; and to name someone else to be in charge of any money they would get from life insurance especially since they either had children or might have children. Someone they'd have to be accountable to for whatever money they are spending on them. It's like having to justify what you do with your SSD income to the Social Security Office on a yearly basis. Or at least my husband has to do it for me, since he is my guardian. I was retired/disabled on a mental health disability (Bipolar Disorder). I still pay my own bills out of my own checkbook although he and/or my son are on my checking accounts - they don't write checks against them, but, they could if they needed to. Your BnL sounds like a 'royal' D***@$$

wessecg wrote: »

I am so looking forward to my weigh in tomorrow. There is a possibility that I will be in the 170's again. Since I was 181 4 days ago, and I have been perfect the last few days, I am hoping to see 179.8. Then I could say I went from the 190's to the 170's in 30 days!!! Cross your fingers.

BJ - Welcome back.

Michele - do you have exercise recommendations for getting rid of my gut (I never had one before). Crunches won't work since the ribs I broke 2 years ago still hurt.

Joyce - just curious, how can a house be "too big" for an event?

Grit - how do I tell if I'm obese or just overweight? Is there a chart? Also, have fun puppy hunting. I lost my dog earlier this year and got the most perfect puppy in the world. Here's a picture of her when she was small. She is 9 /12 months and 95 pounds now.

There must be a chart, I'm sure. MD could probably know. I know it had to do with my fat%. I just weighed in at 172lbs yesterday. I'm sure it is based on your bone structure, height, etc. My nurse/MD has a special scale that measures all that, so they know how much weight I am carrying in my torso, arms and legs. I'm just thrilled! I've only gained one pound during the time between mid-May and yesterday and that was after a weekend at the beach. Went to Louisiana for a week and ate like a Queen and still lost weight. By that time, I think I was pretty good at judging portion control sizes, too. Whenever I go 'out to eat' the first thing I do is cut my entrée in half and the ask for a 'doggie bag'. No shame in doing that - you're paying for it whether you eat it, take it home and/or throw it out, or the restaurant throws it out. I was concerned about my belly, too - it has gone down quite a bit; but, she told me that it is probably going to be the last thing to go because of the fat content. So right now I am not too worried about it and I do exercise. I can't do too many crunches because I broke the rib right under my left breast and it catches and then makes me 'feel' like I am having a 'heart attack'.