Why request friends if you're not going to interact?
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I sent you a request. I log everyday and have an open diary. I comment on all my friend's post. We are here to motivate each other.0
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WinoGelato wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Awww yeah. Imma have to send some FR's out now.
I can haz Moscato?
*pats the couch next to her*
I'll even make some brownies!
[...something about straining the butter]
Yes please
Brownies? Yes puhleez...
As long as they aren't crunchy. In.0 -
Alluminati wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Awww yeah. Imma have to send some FR's out now.
I can haz Moscato?
*pats the couch next to her*
I'll even make some brownies!
[...something about straining the butter]
Yes please
Brownies? Yes puhleez...
As long as they aren't crunchy. In.
I think @tincanonastring has a good recipe.0 -
Cranquistador wrote: »How do you keep track who comments on which statuses? Do you keep a spreadsheet?
Does clicking *like* count?
Catching up to find out!
I notice who comments because I have a small number of friends. Whenever I find that I have a "friend" that never responds to me or others or never comments on posts, then I delete. There is no magic number that I use to determine if they are interactive enough, just those that are completely mute get the boot.
Same. In addition, if I'm contemplating deleting, I might look through my last couple status updates to see if they at least bothered to throw a like here and there. If a user actively comments on their newsfeed, and maybe I know them to be knowledgeable in an area that I've posted a status update or otherwise commented/struggled on, and no advice or support was ever sent my way, then i do conclude that maybe they just don't want to interact with me. Not just receiving support but giving some every so often
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Maybe some people add people because they think they might be a good fit, decide they don't really like that person for whatever reason, but are worried about hurting their feelings if they defriend?0
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Alluminati wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Awww yeah. Imma have to send some FR's out now.
I can haz Moscato?
*pats the couch next to her*
I'll even make some brownies!
[...something about straining the butter]
Yes please
Brownies? Yes puhleez...
As long as they aren't crunchy. In.
Wut m8?
All edges here or GTFO.0 -
PrizePopple wrote: »Alluminati wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Awww yeah. Imma have to send some FR's out now.
I can haz Moscato?
*pats the couch next to her*
I'll even make some brownies!
[...something about straining the butter]
Yes please
Brownies? Yes puhleez...
As long as they aren't crunchy. In.
Wut m8?
All edges here or GTFO.
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PrizePopple wrote: »Alluminati wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Awww yeah. Imma have to send some FR's out now.
I can haz Moscato?
*pats the couch next to her*
I'll even make some brownies!
[...something about straining the butter]
Yes please
Brownies? Yes puhleez...
As long as they aren't crunchy. In.
Wut m8?
All edges here or GTFO.
Ill take the middle. BOOM. Perfect team.0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »Maybe some people add people because they think they might be a good fit, decide they don't really like that person for whatever reason, but are worried about hurting their feelings if they defriend?
Especially when said friend does like all the statuses. You KNOW they would figure it out...
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if a friend is not active on mfbp for over 21 days to a month i delete them at around 2 weeks i send a miss you message. i spend hours a day answering my friends and that keeps me from the fridge after dinner but not everyone does this i have 250 friends roughly and maybe 50 comment on things.0
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MargaretLunan wrote: »if a friend is not active on mfbp for over 21 days to a month i delete them at around 2 weeks i send a miss you message. i spend hours a day answering my friends and that keeps me from the fridge after dinner but not everyone does this i have 250 friends roughly and maybe 50 comment on things.
Hours? Really? Where do you find the time?
I can manage about 5-10 min in the morning and about 5-10 min in the evening, and that's about all the time I've got to check out what my friends are up to. But then I work full time and take grad courses while training for cycling events. Different priorities, I guess.
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I've never sent a request out, and only except ones with a message as to why, unless I recognize the name from a group I support, or friend of friend.
I only post exercise, and state from time to time I don't need comments or nods of support so don't feel obligated, the workout is being done no matter what, but several have said they get ideas and reminders from my verbose workout notes, or ask questions to learn something.
I'll share studies and ideas and general encouragement too.
After logging in a couple times daily, I'll look back over the past 3 hr window and comment on others workouts and posts if something there besides generic posting, or at least a like if I know they are same with their workouts as I am with mine.
I only clean up the FL when I remember to, with those with no login over a month being deleted, unless they posted why they'd be gone, or I'm one of only 6 friends.
So there are lots of folks out there that could be used to my and others methods where we expect or need nothing in return, and our posts are likely being used for encouragement. Or forgotten.
So when these folks see your posts, they may like the tact you take and want to feel inspired and so friend you - but not realizing they are expected to be inspiring in return.0 -
Came here to this thread yesterday stating that I have zero friends to interact with and that I'd like some. Got zero friend requests from this thread...hmmmm thanks folks.0
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NurseCrystalB wrote: »Came here to this thread yesterday stating that I have zero friends to interact with and that I'd like some. Got zero friend requests from this thread...hmmmm thanks folks.
The topic where people are explaining why they don't or can't interact with their MFPals may not be the best one to get new pals. Try here:
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10176797/comment-here-if-you-want-more-friends/p1
Or just post your own topic in the Introduce Yourself forum
You may wish to add something to your profile, so that people have some idea if they have things in common with you. Conversation topics, encouragement points, that sort of thing. Though I suspect you'll get lots of friends if you post on that other topic
Finally, you can send friend requests yourself to people you find interesting. Click on their profile picture, should take you to an area where you'll find a link to add as friend0 -
Of course. Happiness all around.Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Whatever Kerry.nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
If I friend request you without a message, you better accept without talking about me on your wall first with the wrong freaking name.
Jus' sayin'
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New post so LWins999 won't think it was directed at her only.
This is a fitness site. So what if someone is a "friend" collector and someone isn't? CICO and exercise should be a bigger focus than worrying about how superficial you may think the Like button is or deleting a friend because they didn't leave a meaningful comment about my Cheerios and coffee for breakfast.
PS NurseCrystalB: I sent a friend request. If you accept I'll have a whopping 19 friends on MFP.0 -
TheBeachgod wrote: »
i get that and i think regardless of 1 friend or 1000 friends we are really in this alone. i do like the fact i can talk to others on here about what i am up to as dont have anyone in real life who will be interested.0 -
At least a discussion like this has attracted talkative people so I ha e added some of you from here for more chitchats and motivation to eachother ☺️0
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NurseCrystalB wrote: »Came here to this thread yesterday stating that I have zero friends to interact with and that I'd like some. Got zero friend requests from this thread...hmmmm thanks folks.
@JaneiR36 is right on with her entire reply to you. My intentions for this post was not to get more friends. I've stated throughout the thread I am not looking for any. I specifically wanted to know why the people that never comment take the time to request friends. If people happen to find someone they want to request as a friend, that's great.0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »Maybe some people add people because they think they might be a good fit, decide they don't really like that person for whatever reason, but are worried about hurting their feelings if they defriend?
That's a possibility. I'm sure it happens sometimes. But the vast majority of the time I can see when they comment on another friends post and it's very rare.0 -
nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
Have I been neglecting you again?0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »Alluminati wrote: »WinoGelato wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Awww yeah. Imma have to send some FR's out now.
I can haz Moscato?
*pats the couch next to her*
I'll even make some brownies!
[...something about straining the butter]
Yes please
Brownies? Yes puhleez...
As long as they aren't crunchy. In.
Wut m8?
All edges here or GTFO.
THIS, is why we're friends!0 -
OP I'm curious, did you ever go back and ask those people on your FL that you feel aren't interacting enough, why? Rather than posting about it here and having a bunch of others speculate?
I find a direct discussion with people that I have issues with or questions about something going on with them more helpful than side conversations with other people. If I were one of those people on your FL and I saw this thread I would probably think that was a passive aggressive way to confront me.0 -
nakedraygun wrote: »
Of course. Happiness all around.Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Whatever Kerry.nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
If I friend request you without a message, you better accept without talking about me on your wall first with the wrong freaking name.
Jus' sayin'
Uh oh.....thought it was Katy. I even had a neat little reminder.....the 'y' at the end 'cause I thought they cared.
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Liftng4Lis wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
Have I been neglecting you again?
Who is Russell Wilson?!?
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WinoGelato wrote: »OP I'm curious, did you ever go back and ask those people on your FL that you feel aren't interacting enough, why? Rather than posting about it here and having a bunch of others speculate?
I find a direct discussion with people that I have issues with or questions about something going on with them more helpful than side conversations with other people. If I were one of those people on your FL and I saw this thread I would probably think that was a passive aggressive way to confront me.
Thank you for your speculation but I'd like to keep this thread on topic. Perhaps a PM if you want to chat.0 -
WinoGelato wrote: »OP I'm curious, did you ever go back and ask those people on your FL that you feel aren't interacting enough, why? Rather than posting about it here and having a bunch of others speculate?
I find a direct discussion with people that I have issues with or questions about something going on with them more helpful than side conversations with other people. If I were one of those people on your FL and I saw this thread I would probably think that was a passive aggressive way to confront me.
Thank you for your speculation but I'd like to keep this thread on topic. Perhaps a PM if you want to chat.
You started a thread saying you didn't understand why people on your friends list weren't interacting with you. How is me asking if you've just asked them about it, off topic?
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WinoGelato wrote: »OP I'm curious, did you ever go back and ask those people on your FL that you feel aren't interacting enough, why? Rather than posting about it here and having a bunch of others speculate?
I find a direct discussion with people that I have issues with or questions about something going on with them more helpful than side conversations with other people. If I were one of those people on your FL and I saw this thread I would probably think that was a passive aggressive way to confront me.
Good point, but remember she deletes those that do not interact. At that point IMO it's just gonna be drama with people that you've decided to no longer be on your list. Perhaps a suggestion for future cases prior to using the delete button. If said person doesn't even respond to a PM, then they really don't want to interact with you (the general you!)
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