I do what with butter...?

Mallybear2020 wrote: »

@WinoGelato
My ex is my ex because I finally decided he didn't deserve me. That b@st@rd cheated on me and lied to me about EVERYTHING.
I'm trying to pick up the broken pieces of my life because I devoted 5 years to him, and he was my support system because my family wasn't there for me, judged me and made it hard to go to them for anything emotionally.
Now that my support system is totally gone...its left me alone and truly finding out what it's like to be a strong independent woman.

Sounds like a great person from whom to take advice.

Mallybear2020 wrote: »

@WinoGelato
My ex is my ex because I finally decided he didn't deserve me. That b@st@rd cheated on me and lied to me about EVERYTHING.
I'm trying to pick up the broken pieces of my life because I devoted 5 years to him, and he was my support system because my family wasn't there for me, judged me and made it hard to go to them for anything emotionally.
Now that my support system is totally gone...its left me alone and truly finding out what it's like to be a strong independent woman.

He lied to you about everything, yet you still want to take his diet and fitness advice as gospel?

AllOutof_Bubblegum wrote: »

Mallybear2020 wrote: »

@WinoGelato
My ex is my ex because I finally decided he didn't deserve me. That b@st@rd cheated on me and lied to me about EVERYTHING.
I'm trying to pick up the broken pieces of my life because I devoted 5 years to him, and he was my support system because my family wasn't there for me, judged me and made it hard to go to them for anything emotionally.
Now that my support system is totally gone...its left me alone and truly finding out what it's like to be a strong independent woman.

He lied to you about everything, yet you still want to take his diet and fitness advice as gospel?

This. This is the point I am trying to make...

OP, I'm sorry you were in an abusive, controlling relationship. I really can't give you any advice on how to deal with that, other than to suggest maybe talking to a counselor. If you want advice about how to lose weight though, in a healthy, sustainable way - you've gotten plenty of it here.

Mallybear2020 wrote: »

@janejellyroll
The longest I gave it was a month, then I hit about 135 and I couldn't lose anymore. Then I had a cheat day and had to start things back up again. This has happened off and on for months now, and it seems like it's hard for me to lose any past 128lbs, but so far I have gotten past that and I'm at 125lbs.

That wasn't fat weight you were losing. When you eat low carb, you quickly use up stores of glycogen in your muscles and liver, resulting in a rapid 5-10lb weight loss. People get really excited about it, thinking their diet is "working", until they get too weak/hungry/bored and eat carbs again. Then they gain their glycogen stores back, and then cycle with low-carbing/weight loss and carb-bingeing/weight gain over and over again.

Mallybear2020 wrote: »

@quiksylver296
Not to be rude, but that depends how much you weigh currently.
Example: If I weighed 200lbs and all I ate was pizza and ice cream, then I'd expect to lose some but not hit my goal weight of say 130. Because after a while my body will start to maintain according to what I am eating.

No - false

Your body doesn't have different calorie limits based upon what types of food you eat. Your body has different calorie limits based upon your size, your activity level, any exercise done, and the amount of lean muscle you have.

For example: I maintain my weight at 1650 calories (I'm old). It doesn't matter whether I eat 1650 in fat or protein or carbs...it's still just 1650 calories. But it's much easier to over eat pizza than it is to over eat broccoli.

Now, the reason I don't eat a pure carb diet is that my body needs protein and fat everyday. The reason I don't eat a pure protein diet is that my body needs energy (carbs) and fats everyday. Besides carbs taste yummy.

I choose a lower fat diet (than most people) out of necessity. High fat meals give me acid reflux. IF you have medical issue re: carbs....then by all means limit them. But even many diabetics eat a modest amount of carbs.

• You've come here asking for advice.
• You're wary of taking the advice you asked for because your ex was a total jerk and liar, and you don't feel like you can trust anyone right now.
• You kind of know that what you've been eating isn't right, which is why you asked for advice in the first place.
• You feel like you don't have a real support system in your life right now.

News for you:

• MFP is an absolute wealth of support from people who have no reason on earth to lie to you.
• Your ex's eating plan isn't working for you in the long term.
• You're absolutely not the only person who's known true love, and had it end.

Suggestions:

• Make your food diary public so people can give actual specific ideas.
• Eat nutrient dense foods in the proper amounts to get as close as possible to your goal calories every single day.
• "Friend" some people here to get support, and give support.
• Understand that you're in mourning for the relationship and the life you thought you had. Do some research about mourning. Buckle up, it may be a bumpy ride. It'll be a tiny bit easier if you know what to expect and have some strategies in place to deal with it.

Remember this when you're having a tough moment: Living well is the best revenge.

auddii wrote: »

Ok, I completely don't agree that your way of eating sounds sustainable or healthy for you right now.

That said, towards your actual question, don't eat things you don't enjoy. If you want to incorporate more fats into your diet, great, go for it. I'd avoid straight butter. I've seen several keto people post about "fat bombs". I was intrigued because I'm usually under my fat allowance. Some of the recipes sounded tasty, although personally a spoonful of peanut butter makes more sense (shelf stable at work, and I could eat peanut butter all day long, so it's a snack I enjoy).

Also, if you like coffee, you could look into "bullet proof coffee"*. Sounds gross to me, but I know a lot of people love it (apparently blending the coffee and butter/oil makes all the difference).

*Not actually bullet proof. Please avoid jumping in front of a bullet.

I think official bullet proof coffee is 1 tablespoon butter and 1 tablespoon coconut oil, which is too much fat for me, but I like 1 teaspoon each, plus protein powder, as a snack or to bring to the gym.

Mallybear2020 wrote: »

@BZAH10
Sorry to rant about my ex and go off on a rabbit trail. It's a work in progress to fix me now.
Back to health.

No need to apologize. I think those facts are relevant to your learning new, healthy habits for weight loss. As @rabbitjb said, we all have our pasts to deal with and they do factor into our present. It's a matter of learning from the past, growing from it, and letting go of the bad feelings and baggage. You can do it! But learn what works for YOU, not someone else.

Oh my goodness. Eat too much of anything you gain weight. You gain weight from the block of butter. Protein and carbs have nearly half the calories of fat by weight.

Mallybear2020 wrote: »

@64crayons
If you eat too much protein it gets converted into glucose, glucose goes up and that will make fat store. Basically if you eat too much of it it'll turn into sugar/carbs that you didn't mean to put in your body.

Nope.

Mallybear2020 wrote: »

@ultrahoon
Then what?

Any surplus of calories will make your fat stores go up over time. No deficit of calories will. The content of those calories is irrelevant from a loss/gain perspective. This is a point that has been made many times in this thread. Throw out your old knowledge and start fresh with your conceptions of weight loss/gain.