Wondering how everyone else feels about getting asked out at the gym?
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I only work out in my apartment gym, but I live in a large complex, so theres quite a lot of guys who work out there. I think three guys have asked for my number, and its always really awkward. I'm married, but dont wear my ring when I go lift for obvious reasons. Idk, I take it as a compliment, but I dont like when it happens0
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Depends how it's done. At last gym had one guy who I played tennis with ask if I wanted drink a couple of times, no problem as I knew him. However his Dad asked me out couple of days later which was just weird.
Not as bad as the guy who dropped plate under bench I was using at present gym, reached under and grabbed my thigh to help himself up, then asked if I minded him watching me! That seriously gave me creeps. Never seen him before and hopefully won't again.
Generally would appreciate a hi a few times walking in and out of the gym or casual conversation before someone asks anything else.
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Better then being laughed at.0
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Once you hit 54 all that stuff stops being an issue :-) I know that from personal experience :-)0
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It's never happened to me but I think I'd find it quite awkward. And I get what you mean about it being intimidating going out with a total stranger.
Also,Complaining about getting positive attention is like complaining about too much cheese on your pizza. That's crazy!
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Idk...I honestly never asked a girl out at the gym.0
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And I'm there almost every single day lol0
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Hmmm I never get asked out boo now I'm sad. I get free drinks from bars .. but. I never have a regular hard working guy ask me out .. I think I have resting *kitten* face or something . Lol.. crazy because I actually admire when a guy has guts to come up to me ..! But. They never doooo.. take it as a compliment girl . It's silly when females complain about being attractive. Always stay positive0
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25brittany25 wrote: »Hmmm I never get asked out boo now I'm sad. I get free drinks from bars .. but. I never have a regular hard working guy ask me out .. I think I have resting *kitten* face or something . Lol.. crazy because I actually admire when a guy has guts to come up to me ..! But. They never doooo.. take it as a compliment girl . It's silly when females complain about being attractive. Always stay positive
Haha, you're gorgeous. I don't get free drinks from bars very often. So maybe we attract different types.
I admire the guts and am never a jerk when asked out, I just was wondering if the norm was to ask out of the blue. I always thought you should build rapport first or maybe I just posted to encourage guys to try and subtly build rapport or familiarity before just going for it? lol0 -
25brittany25 wrote: »Hmmm I never get asked out boo now I'm sad. I get free drinks from bars .. but. I never have a regular hard working guy ask me out .. I think I have resting *kitten* face or something . Lol.. crazy because I actually admire when a guy has guts to come up to me ..! But. They never doooo.. take it as a compliment girl . It's silly when females complain about being attractive. Always stay positive
Haha, you're gorgeous. I don't get free drinks from bars very often. So maybe we attract different types.
I admire the guts and am never a jerk when asked out, I just was wondering if the norm was to ask out of the blue. I always thought you should build rapport first or maybe I just posted to encourage guys to try and subtly build rapport or familiarity before just going for it? lol
Probably they just jump into it because they don't want to distract you but they REALLY would like to go out with you so they ask so you don't get disturbed . A males mind is different than a females. They are probably trying to be considerate. Hey its actually a REALLY nice compliment if a guy approaches you sweaty, red faced in a gym LMFAO .0 -
Capt_Apollo wrote: »we get it, you're sooooo ridiculously good looking that guys just can't help but ask you out!!!
i bet they're all ugly, that's why you're complaining. if they were hot you'd love it.
lol. She could stop using makeup and keep her hair all messy and wear baggy clothes. Oh the turmoil of being so attractive. Just can't go anywhere.0 -
It's never happened to me but I think I'd find it quite awkward. And I get what you mean about it being intimidating going out with a total stranger.
Thanks! I'm glad someone agrees. I am also already really awkward. Some guy asked me out for a drink and I replied, "like a protein shake?" he wasn't amused...
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My past history with men would make me think anyone who asked me out at the gym was a threat. I think of the gym as a safe space that I go to in order to be healthy.
I have also been trained to deal with threats. Shifting into fighting position with a keeyap usually makes them leave me alone. I've only had to do this twice.
I am also a proponent of not ****ing where you eat. Being asked out at a gym (or when I'm volunteering, or at work) makes that place awkward for me forever after. If it's someplace I go every day, it's really inconvenient.
Everyone's different. I don't think it's fair to poke fun at the discomfort of the OP. Some gym guys really are quite creepy.0 -
I'll let you know when it inevitably happens.0
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sunn_lighter wrote: »maybe you could do things to make yourself less approachable, like licking the bench before you sit down, or using your water bottle like a neti pot over the water fountain.
Oh! You could also just say "meow meow meow" anytime anybody talks to you. Maybe even mutter "meow meow meow' under your breath, as a deterrent to any that may be watching and thinking of approaching you.
Holy hell. That made me spit water. For real, that imagery just made my day. Thank you.
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I would find it creepy to get asked out if I hadn't had some kind of actual conversation with the person previously. What's he basing it on, how I look in yoga pants?0
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BigDougie1211 wrote: »I'll let you know when it inevitably happens.
What he said.0 -
I think in a gym environment because you're all doing roughly the same thing (of course people have different goals etc) people think that they automatically have something in common with other people there, plus " do you need a spot on that" or " wow you're pretty strong" is a way of using what you have in common as an opener.0
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I've never understood why people ask me out at the gym. Now as much as I'd love to find my swolemate and all.... I don't understand why guys don't try to get to know you or create some sort of friendship or familiarity before diving straight into ask for a date or number.
Am I the only girl who thinks this?
Guys, do girls ask you out at the gym too?
What are your feelings about being asked out on the MFP forums!? I mean we could get dinner or a drink sometime?0 -
I'm stil waiting....0
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