WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2016

miriamwithcats wrote: »

grandmallie wrote: »

I have prayed for a long time that Tracy would smarten up and leave the loser but she stays for Taliah..I soooo wish she would find a wonderful guy that would treat her with love and kindness...

Have you thought about what sort of example you are setting for her, staying with Tom when he treats you so poorly? There is no way you could say that Tom treats you with love and kindness. We all here have prayed that YOU would smarten up and leave the loser, find a guy that would treat YOU with love and kindness. You deserve it!

Miriam That took guts. I know I am a newcomer, but I have been worrying daily about you, Alison, and what you endure every day. It is not liver failure or severe ulcerative colitis or a brain tumor or many other ailments, but it is a chronic daily stress which takes a big toll. You aren't sleeping, either.

Years ago I married too young, and it was a mismatch. I stayed in the relationship because I thought I had too. Finances were certainly a factor. And of all things, I didn't want to disappoint my parents, whose marriage lasted until my dad died. My dear mother, who hardly ever gave unsolicited advice, finally, after listening to my misery for years, asked me why I didn't leave. So I told her I didn't want her to be disappointed in me, and I was afraid of how I would support myself. She didn't say much, but she did set me straight in a hurry, and I left that marriage soon after. Interestingly enough, my ex and I are good friends now, and are good co-grandparents and even have lunch together on occasion. Alison, I wish you the happiness you deserve.

Karen in Virginia

Peach/Carol yes please call me GLo that's what my grands call me. The flowering bush is a viburnum or high bush cranberry which does really well here and is easy to prune...it grows quite quickly but you don't have to be an arborist to keep it under control.

Heidilove the pic of your buddy...always wanted a standard poodle but after we lost our last shepherd my husband hasn't wanted to face the heartbreak again. Maybe someday.

Pennyjust watched Richard Bangs' Adventures program on Creat TV (a PBS channel) spotlighting Norway & the Vikings starting north of the arctic circle in your neck of the woods to Kirkenes, Oslo and Lofotr. All the more interesting since I've been following your posts!

Glad some of you like my little shed I'd like it even better if my DH hadn't invaded it storing some of his lawn equipment in what was supposed to be "my space"!

GLo enjoying another cool day on the Morth Shore of Ma just made for weeding and planting

morning peeps and welcome new peep -c's -

well, yesterday was my first ride to and from work. was going to ride to work but it was raining so I said, NAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

I like the great cycle challenge page it has my stats for me. It automatically uploads my strava riding app info. I only have to manually enter my spin class rides.:
No. of rides: 6
Longest ride: 11 mi
Mi to reach my goal: 365 mi

I'm #7 in the State (ranking on how many miles ridden so far) pretty cool. says I've ridden 35.5mi.

Marelyn – I would be sooooooo tired of that rain, too … seems like y’all have had WEEKS of rain. Enough is enough. Seems like is it time to build an ark.

I like “Fixer Upper” and “Rehab Addict’ on HGTV. I’ve watched with interest of how genius the people with having to build a tiny house for 2 or 3 to live in. I could not do so it, too claustrophobic. But, if I was alone; I could move into a condo like my BF live in, though I would rather it all be all on one floor.

Kim from N. California – I’d have to have one of those seats with a back to sit that long.

Gloworm46 – You aren’t trying to go back to a previous page are you? IF you do, that is one way to lose your post. If you want to go back to a previous page; you’ll have to ‘save’ your post. Another way is to open up the word processing program and minimize it as well as the MFP page of posts. That way you can go back and forth between the two and answer any posts you want to, then cut the writing from the word processing program and take it to the last post (on the last page) and copy it there. Even if it makes you have 2 posts in a row (which it probably will), because at all times there are several others posting at the same time. I hope this helps. You can also ‘edit’ or ‘add’ the 2nd part of your post to the original one by going to the black gear that will show up in the upper right-hand part of your post and it will drop down a screen with the amount of time you have to ‘edit’ it. One hour is the most time you have. Hope this makes it clear to you. If you have any other questions, I’ll be happy to answer them … or I am sure somebody else will tell you how they do it.

Heather – I usually peel off the polish on my nails. I have to put several coats on them because they have ridges in them, I got that from my Mother.

Lisa in West Texas – I have always wanted to be able to sing. I sing as an Alto; which doesn’t have nearly the range that a Soprano does. I just can’t get up that high. So I am glad, instead, to be able to paint and draw.

Granmallie – I would have to agree with Miriam; that ‘example’ is the best way to teach our children. I’ve always wanted them to be ‘happy’. I know that my DYS is happy, more ‘ecstatic’ if you ask me since getting married for the first time at 36 (now going to be 38 this August). I’m not so sure about DOS. He got married when he was 19 and had his first child at 20; his first wife was 17 and about to turn 18 when their child (my DOGD) was born. They fought like cats and dogs; and were in the process of getting their settlement agreement done after they had gotten the decree of divorce taken (which we paid the last little bit) to his attorney. Her lawyer was getting paid a ‘different’ way … and then he would say that she had not paid the balance of his fee. So we paid DOS’s attorney the difference so that she would take the decree and get it signed. He met his 2nd wife (DDnL#1) during the time between the decree being taken and the settlement being worked out. I got very upset when she decided (against his wishes) to come ‘introduce herself to me’ as his fiancée (then quickly changed it to 'his girlfriend'). I had thought that I had missed something because I had been in a near fatal collision during that time. I walked away from her, because I just was not prepared for that description because we had really wanted him to move back in with us so he could finish his college studies and then be able to get a job of his choice. They’ve been married almost 17 years; and, fight about as much as he did with his first wife. But, I do have to say that she has been a ‘good mother influence on our DOGD). She has a ‘good heart’; but she is sometimes quite selfish and naïve (most of the time). We have a very strained relationship; and back in November she made a move that I find difficult to get over. After trying to get my DDnL#2 and DYS into an ‘argument’ and could not ‘do it’ she turned on me and wrote me a ‘scathing’ email. When it was titled “Good Morning”; it made my morning anything but ‘good’ after reading it. I did not respond to it, thought about showing it to my DOS; but, decided to just let it lie. She already thinks that we love our DYS and his family more than we love DOS and her, I’d something like to be a fly on the wall to hear what she has to say about us behind our backs. It is obvious that she has said a few things about us because of how the grandchildren act when they are around us.

Heather – I have the ‘opposite’ feeling about our ‘local politics’. Why too ‘cliquish’ and therefore some things get ‘voted’ down because of the Head Commissioner. He retired this year and did not run again; which was at least 38 years too many. I think if I had a gun, I might have taken it with me a few times. LOL! Just joking.

Patceoh – Love the Clematis.

Penny – And it could not be ‘concealed’ and you would not be able to take them by surprise! I agree with you about people getting into your business in a small town. I grew up in a small town, left to go to Atlanta to attend ‘art school’; got married and moved to Jacksonville, FL; then started moving down in size when we moved to Albany, moved to Macon (just a little larger), back to Albany and now in Dawson (really small town); but, we tend to keep to ourselves; although both DH and DOS know everybody (or almost everybody) in town … and we attend the Catholic Church in Albany. We’ve thought about going to the Church in Americus; but, unless my husband is willing to drive, I don’t attend either at the moment.

Lenora

This sounds like a great group to be part of! I've just turned 50 and am very focused on exercising and eating right and clean. I've been on this journey since April 4, 2016 (I've actually exercised regularly for years but have always struggled with food).

My goal for June is to lose 6 lbs. I've only lost 2 in the last 2 months and am fairly discouraged.

Just re-watched ORION'S BELTE - all in Norwegian and hardly understood a word. But DH did watch it with me. It's set in Penny's neck of the woods, during the Cold War.

Had a nice lunch with my friend, but I was a little upset by her retelling the conversations my "difficult friend" had with them on their recent jaunt that I bowed out of. I know I would have exploded at her arrant, self serving nonsense.
I have agreed to join them in London in November. I will not stay in her apartment. I will limit my time with her. This is for the sake of the others and for old time's sake. I do hope I can keep my temper. It is too much to hope that she will keep her mouth shut.

When I came back from the pub my cleaner was there. She really helped me by serving as my "sounding board" as to which clothes to take, so now I have more or less got the right selection lying on the beds. Not packed yet, but progress. I really needed a third eye and ear as my brain was a mush and fog. I need 4 wardrobes, basically. Arctic gear, casual/informal gear, sports/swimming gear and very posh gear plus appropriate footwear and jewellery. :sad: Now I just hope I can fit everything in, including technology and drinking equipment.
Packing woes

Going to do my hair roots tomorrow and have to get some more cash to leave for the cleaner. She will water the garden and has taken my chilli plant away with her to babysit. I demolished my basil bush and froze the leaves to make pesto when we get back.

Love Heather UK

Good morning! Glad I found you! Thanks for posting this on your page Barbie.

Gosh, I don't know if I even posted at all in May. It appears I still have April's forum saved as a favorite. Work has been crazy busy and so has my home life, so I think between the two I just plain got depressed and stressed, and I just stopped trying for a bit. I'm back now all refreshed and with new determination.

I hope you are all doing well. I said a prayer for this group collectively for all our needs to be met. You are wonderful ladies and I miss reading about your days, so I am going to make one of my June resolutions be that I keep up on this thread better.

My daughter is a Lifestyle and Health Wellness Coach ( as well as regional manager of the Medi-Weightloss Clinics in our area) and she is helping me to adopt a healthier lifestyle. I'm doing pretty good with it except for occasional slip ups when I am out of town for work for any length of time. That doesn't happen often but seems to be happening more often in the last few months. I do not like traveling for work but I guess a person's gotta do what a person's gotta do, right? Anyway, I think from when her and I started this journey in April, I am down about 17 lbs. Pretty tickled about that because I actually FEEL better!

Well, I need to get back to work now but will try to read the previous 5 pages tonight when I'm home with my DH. It's his birthday today so I hope to be able to STAY AWAY from the cake!!!

Have a wonderful day ladies and I will talk to you soon.

Tracie in Green Bay, WI

June Goals:
1. Journal every bite
2. Stick to the nutrition plan / no added sugar
3. Drink half my weight in water or 64 oz, whichever is greater
4. Find something to be grateful for every day and add it to my "Blessings" Jar for 2016
5. At least three days of activity for 30 minutes
6. Take 15 minutes every day to do something I enjoy, for me
7. Keep up with this group!!!

The flowers clematis pictures are beautiful! Ours have not flowered yet. Thanks for sharing!

Glad I found this group! I'll be sixty next year and the struggle is real. I know with all certainty that you need a focused mindset. What does it for me is knowing that the best gift I can give to my loved ones years from now is my continued health and independence. There are so many things I'd like to do and I want to enjoy them to the fullest. Remembering this keeps me going.

My goal for June 2016 is to enjoy family, food, and fun! BUT only after I have taken care of myself first by keeping up with my fitness goals and only indulging once per week (my cheat day or an actual holiday).

gobrongo wrote: »

Hi
I've been enjoying reading many of your posts this morning and thought I'd introduce myself. Such a supportive group!

Just before the Holidays last year, I had found my balance, albeit delicate. Was doing/feeling pretty good about my body and lifestyle and on a healthy and realistic diet/exercise routine.
But soon after Christmas my dad passed on (he had been sick for a while) and that whole experience through me off track.
That said, I am so grateful to have been there with him. He told me I was a good nurse. (I'm not a nurse but it was his way of telling me he was glad I was there.)
He and I had a wonderful, sweet conversations. I miss him so much. He passed January 9.

Now I'm dragging butt. Am trying to build up my routine again, but I'm just feeling saggy and disillusioned. I know there's grief but I'm also frustrated that I have to think yet again about my weight issues. I'm attempting to forget about it and the clothes I can't fit into and just do what feels healthy and good, but some days I look in the mirror and feel so downtrodden. What's the use? Wahwahwah

So I'll do this instead. I'll move back to planning - here's the plan.
Goal: 1.5 - 2 pounds a week (but weigh only every two weeks).
Exercise: 20ish minutes of intermittent walking/trotting 5 days a week. Yoga and weights three days a week.
Attitude: Keep it light and simple and realistic. Patience, persistence. Have fun.
Life goal: Find a balance that becomes such a habit that it sticks with me (and I to it) through the next big challenge that rolls along.

Thank you for putting up with my long post. Hopefully reading and sharing a bit with you all will help me shift my attitude a bit.
B

B~ What a great gift to have all those memories of caring, and having sweet conversations with your late father. It's hard to lose your anchors, those people that keep you grounded and put your life in a kind of balance. You are just off-balance and hey that is normal. When my mother passed I felt like a was just drifting out on the ocean. (I'm a retired Navy wife so all my life seems to be sea-farng stories). I would be bobbing just fine one day, and a wave would come, emotions would come, and it was hard to breathe. Life slaps you in the face sometimes, but we humans are self-righting. You will find your "line of horizon" like pilots do when they are flying. You dive you soar but you find that line.

Let me give you some great sayings to put on your frig:

Losing weight isn't the key to happiness, happiness is the key to losing weight.

Do not put all your emotional eggs in one basket.

You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.

Nothing tastes as good as healthy feels.

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain!

There you go :-)

Becca
((((hugs))))
Oregon

Alright, today shall be a busy one for DH and I. At noon we start the trek to OHSU in Portland. He can't eat after 3 PM so we will eat somewhere for lunch. Then do labs, and then WAIT around. He is having an MRI at 9:50 PM. From 4-9 will be waiting, because with his knee he isn't really up for going anywhere. I don't want to do the Sunset freeway during rush hr, so going early is our only option.

We got a call from his doctor today, and he said hopefully this MRI will show something. The liver biopsy didn't show anything, (which is a great sign, but proves that they have to keep looking). The doctor did mention that it could be a stone blocking a duct. Normally stones are quite painful, but with him having the liver transplant, the doctors cut a lot of nerves so he might just not be feeling the pain of a stone. We shall see.

Oooooh last night I took out my MIL's old Betty Crocker cookbook. I made some criss-cross peanut butter cookies, and they just melt in your mouth. I had my teenager sample them! the last batch of cookies I added some unsalted peanuts, dried cranberries, and walnuts, to make a "breakfast cookie" kind of thing. I had two this morning with my coffee.

Yesterday afternoon I visited with my neighbor across our 2nd story landing in the apartment complex here. I helped her change a battery on her "TV ears amplifying device". She had been trying to open it since January she said. Poor thing. I told her to not wait that long, just knock on my door. She is the 90 yr old that swears like a sailor. She said she rec'd a speeding ticket and had to go yesterday at 6 PM to the courthouse in Astoria. It was $100 fine and she said she can't pay, so she told me she was going to bring her PJ's in case she has to stay in jail. She is priceless. Later on last night I knocked on her door and gave her a margarine container filled with my cookies (well 5 of them anyway).

Hugs peeps
Becca

Miriam~Girls brushing their hair is a social activity....it can last ALL day...hahaha... Great job in the posting of summer vacation rules. Good job in re-affirming that "good things come to those that wait" (wait meaning get the stuff done they are suppose to do).
Becca