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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »

I was looking up the internet for baby names at wife's request and there's an article that says women are actually giving khaleesi as a name. I mean how bizarre is that. I feel sorry for those girls.

My husband and I had such a hard time agreeing on the names of our girls... I feel like since I was doing most of the work I should get the final say lmao but we were able to come to an agreement both times!

amcalmond768 wrote: »

Cutaway_Collar wrote: »

I was looking up the internet for baby names at wife's request and there's an article that says women are actually giving khaleesi as a name. I mean how bizarre is that. I feel sorry for those girls.

My husband and I had such a hard time agreeing on the names of our girls... I feel like since I was doing most of the work I should get the final say lmao but we were able to come to an agreement both times!

Just curious, can you share what you named them? I love hearing of other's name choices for their children.

amcalmond768 wrote: »

Cutaway_Collar wrote: »

I was looking up the internet for baby names at wife's request and there's an article that says women are actually giving khaleesi as a name. I mean how bizarre is that. I feel sorry for those girls.

My husband and I had such a hard time agreeing on the names of our girls... I feel like since I was doing most of the work I should get the final say lmao but we were able to come to an agreement both times!

It took forever for my ex-husband & I to agree on a name for my son. Fast forward... Hubby left before my son was 1 year old & neither my son or I like the name! My son actually went to court to request change (he was going to use his middle name as new first name - also my father's name- and then change last name to my maiden name) but in our state they require both parent's signature, even though I have full custody.
Moral of the story...don't compromise too much! Take time to find a name that you both love!

And writing of names, when I married my first husband, I immediately became a strong Minnesotan. I requested that he help me drop my southern/Midwestern whangy voice, and we worked hard on it -- I soon sounded like most Minnesotans -- the accent I still admire strongly, but I've pretty-well lost it, having moved from there in '81 (was it?). But I digress.

So when our daughter was on the way, he loved the name Jennifer. I didn't. I'd known a problematic girl in high school with that name, and I feared thinking of her every time I called upon our precious daughter. But he loved it, so I reset my mind, and "Jennifer" was chosen. I said, then, that I wanted to name her after a high school girl I strongly admired. That's the way she was named, then.

Then I learned I was pregnant with our son while riding a fair ride, and something was just a little different -- he went blub, blub, blub, blub every time that ride hit a certain point. We wanted a strong Viking warrior name -- important in Minnesota, don'tcha know. We named him Erik. and we gave him my first husband's middle name, which was also his father's middle name. I wanted to give him two middle names, my husband's first and middle names, but he didn't want that. He said that this caused problems in his family when his older brother was named after his father, so he didn't want Erik to have the same problems.

Then, when our children were ages 5 and 2, my husband was killed in an airplane accident. Soon, I wanted desperately for our son to have his name. The problems that made my husband not want that were gone, with his being gone. So I had our son's name changed, retaining the name, Erik, with my first husband's name as our son's two middle names.

A lot of thought often goes into naming a child. Special people are strongly recalled. Hopes and dreams are evident.

And our names strongly shape us.

For myself, I was given a hideous first name at birth -- a name I hated from my first memories. When I started 4th grade in a new school, I announced that I would no longer answer to my first name; everyone was to call me by my middle name, and this was the name I used in school. As an adult, before I returned to college, I decided to drop my first name legally, and Raina became my first name. Years later, I also legally dropped my old middle name. I love my names now. And since I named myself, Raina does not carry the commonly accepted meaning; it means "the soft rains that fall upon the redwood forest."

Hey folks! Celebrated 31 years last night with my love, on our official anniversary date. But for fun we did a Mud Run this last weekend and that was the best. Secret FOR US has been humor, personal space, mutual respect of our individual selves, intimacy as a PRIORITY and keep it fun and we have a rule: MONEY is not something to fight about. EVER.

projectsix wrote: »

Question!

If all you married folk ever separate/divorce from your spouses do you see yourself getting together w/ someone else or flying solo indefinitely?

If I were to speak now I would say never married again, but at 47 I have learned never to say never. I would definitely be single for an extended time....whatever that might end up looking like.

BinaryPulsar wrote: »

Raina, thank you for sharing all of that!

Oh, thank you, Binary.

projectsix wrote: »

Question!

If all you married folk ever separate/divorce from your spouses do you see yourself getting together w/ someone else or flying solo indefinitely?

When my first husband died, I tried some dating but soon got very turned off. I thought I would stay single for life, but 9 years after he was gone, an old boyfriend from my teen years was widowed. I'll admit it: I reluctantly married him a year later, but it ended up being one of the best decisions of my life. Regardless, should he ever be gone? No. I don't think I would remarry. There are a lot of good men out there, but I found the two best. I would not take that chance again.

projectsix wrote: »

Question!

If all you married folk ever separate/divorce from your spouses do you see yourself getting together w/ someone else or flying solo indefinitely?

Single for sure, marriage is exhausting, hahaa. It's a lot more fun being selfish in some respects whereas marriage is very much an "us" rather than a "me."

amcalmond768 wrote: »

Lonestar5715 wrote: »

amcalmond768 wrote: »

Cutaway_Collar wrote: »

I was looking up the internet for baby names at wife's request and there's an article that says women are actually giving khaleesi as a name. I mean how bizarre is that. I feel sorry for those girls.

My husband and I had such a hard time agreeing on the names of our girls... I feel like since I was doing most of the work I should get the final say lmao but we were able to come to an agreement both times!

Just curious, can you share what you named them? I love hearing of other's name choices for their children.

Alexis and Mattison..I had wanted something more original lmao

I think those are both quite original. Thanks for satisfying my curiosity.