Real women have curves.

ChangeThePath wrote: »

Noelv1976 wrote: »

ChangeThePath wrote: »

melmelw03 wrote: »

Noelv1976 wrote: »

Still disappointed! pulling out now

Way to be responsible.

You guys are horrible.

How are we horrible??

Whoops.
Looks like I'm the horrible one.
Nevamind.

Oh no, I was right there with ya. :laugh: I was about to say, it's only responsible if I don't have to sleep on the wet spot.

Nice thread resurrection. 9/10

My issue with that statement is the suggestion that a woman who isn't curvy is somehow not real.

An image that is more Photoshop than photograph is losing touch with reality, but the woman the image is based on is as real as any other.

I have mixed feelings when it comes to FA.

1) I am hypothyroid. I was born that way. It makes losing weight--especially as a female--that much more challenging, especially when I am not in the tax bracket I want to be in. :P

But losing weight is not entirely impossible.

2) I never asked to be born the way I was. I never asked to be born to two otherwise very loving people who, for some reason, do not love themselves enough to challenge themselves to be better than they have been. They have chosen their path, and I have chosen mine. Our lifestyles more or less clash like crazy.

But being healthy and fit the way I want to be is not entirely impossible.

3) I cannot shame my dad completely for being as round as he is. He has had a very tough emotional life, and he has yet to completely shed his misperceptions about how a musician should be. His excuse for not exercising is that he doesn't want to be a jock. "Exercise is for jocks" has been his unhealthy mantra and I think he's still secretly afraid he will turn into a mean jock who makes fun of others who are in the arts.

Yet I used to have that unhealthy attitude as well. "Used to," that is. My attitude changed when too many people around me were being diagnosed diabetic, including my mom. I knew I had to change myself, so I got a decent start in 2013. I fell off the wagon owing to a complete shift from working for someone else to working for myself.

I was able to let go of the remnants of that old attitude very quickly after I found out just how fit my favorite male singer is. I thought, "He is only six months younger than I am, and he is insanely fit, AND he's an amazing musician. I would really like to be with a guy who is that freaking amazing. So I have no more excuses. None."

So, I can understand why people get into the mess of being overweight. I can understand the reasons why the "real women have curves" concept has become a thing. But I can also understand the reason why such a concept has been used as an excuse to stay unhealthy.

Being outrageously skinny (beyond what is healthy for one's height, ideal weight) is harmful. So is being overweight for one's height. And if there is a history, be it physiological or psychological, or both, of being at risk for chronic diseases that *are* largely environmental (*cough* fast food & desk jobs *cough*), then the people at risk need to take a good, long look at whether they truly want to be where they are. If not, then they need to take action, even if it means going to talk therapy sessions that use cognitive behavioral therapy to get past unhealthy thinking, or whatever it takes.

This said, I do understand about the dis-eases that prevent some people from feeling up to exercising. CFS and fibromyalgia are the top two that I'm familiar with as my mom has dealt with the latter much of her life. Science has only recently (within the last 10-20 years) pronounced that fibromyalgia is definitely a thing, and that it's an auto-immune dysfunction. Therefore it has only been recently that exercise science has shown that gentle yoga poses are beneficial to those with fibro.

All in all, I understand how fat acceptance can be a big problem, especially with how rampant fast food chains, and the "convenience lifestyle" has become so prevalent, along with more emphasis on "desk jobs" being the ultimate in success, as far as money is concerned.

But I also believe that compassion is always the key to helping people feel understood, heard and accepted as they are, in the moment, whether they are healthy or not.

If I like a girl, I like the body she is in, whatever it might look like.

Then again, I like bodies in general...all kinds of shapes and sizes.

When women whip out that phrase, they are virtually always very obese. I guess round like a beach ball is technically "curvy'! It annoys the shizznit outta me though. As a fat person, I'm not okay with FA either. You can tell me you're "healthy" all day long, but it just isn't true. For gawdsakes, just own it and say you're fat! And if you don't want to change that, own that too, don't use wordplay and doublespeak to try to ease your guilt if you're NOT really ok with your fat. And don't ask anyone else to either. I'm fat, it's my own fault I got that way, I'm not okay with it because it is bad for my health, and I am working on it. It's slow, but I won't give up. End of story.

Curves for the win! Makes cuddling that much better

I was on an elevator by myself yesterday when this very HOT Female with huge boobs got on. I couldn't help myself, as I was staring at her Huge Boobs when she said "would you please press one"..........I finally came around about 4 floors later, and I should be able to open that eye in a few days!