WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2016

How do I join this group? I just started logging a few days ago. I'm 53 and have gone through a lot of personal changes in the past 9 months including moving from my favorite place I ever lived (Santa Barbara, CA) to south Florida. Sold most of our worldly possessions, the rest are in storage - and ate my way through the last 5 months as I sorted, pitched sold and tossed stuff.

Now I need to find a community that will help me get my physical/mental house back in order.

Currently weight: 138.2 - (highest ever - other than when pregnant)
Height: 5'3.5" (and shrinking )

Goal is mostly to shed the excess fat, convert to muscle - and feel good again. Weight is part of that, but health is the bigger piece.

I'm still learning how to navigate the message boards, chats - but this group seems great and I'd like to be a part of it.

Tracy

Welcome Tracy!

All the talk of the odds of blue and brown eyes makes me dizzy. I was great at teaching everything but math in school and then I hit bottom. I did look up left/right handedness as both my grandchildren are lefties and it seems that they just have theories as to why some end up being left handed. No actual proof.

Miriam ~ That was interesting to read about the Victorians collecting antiquities as their world travels expanded. My FnL traveled all over the US for his work and did most of the collecting. My MnL and later my DH started and worked in the family antique shop in Roswell, GA using many of the items Fnl had collected on his travels. After my DH retired, he has supplemented his income by selling antiques online and doing a monthly antique show (Scotts). Our basement is overloaded with the remains of the shop plus all the family items that we store. I sometimes (when I'm in the mood) list vintage jewelry online. Unfortunately, over the past few years the interest in "vintage" items has really diminished.

Carol

Carol, when I was working, I wore exclusively vintage jewelry. Now I don't wear it much. Such better quality than any costume jewelry that you find today!

OK folks. My DH says the Barbacoa-beef recipe from skinnytaste.com was "delicious, lovely and distinctive" A+. !!!!!!!!!
I used my ancient pressure cooker and did 65 mins plus another 10 to make sure it shredded. I served it with butternut squash, a tomato and cucumber salsa and a blob of half fat creme fraiche. Heaven for 350 calories. I have 3 more dinners for two in the freezer. You could serve it on a lettuce leaf, a taco, or whatever.
Sooooooo pleased to have a new success.

Newbies - do check out skinnytaste.com.

Heather UK

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Jane, I just went through the same thing. I paged up and saw I needed to log in. I stay logged in so I didn't understand that but I logged back in and it works now.

Katla, I am sorry I didn't mention about your husband. Life changes are hard to do, Others have mentioned ways you could still keep your boat but yet others would benefit from it. I know that would still be hard. Does the act of sailing make him sick? How about if he did some instructions on sailing?

When Charlie and I were ready to move out of our started house, we knew what kind of house we wanted. We even got some one to draw up a simple blueprint using our ideas. We wanted a two story with kitchen, living room and bedrooms and one floor and a family room and small kitchen on another floor. The bi-level fit the bill. So we found a plot of land, talked to the owner and started making plans. It was in a subdivision that the owner wanted to meet anyone buying land and approve your plans. He had the most interesting home. He had a huge family room at the back of his home that was octonigal shape. The whole room was wall papered in his children's school papers or any thing they had drawn for them. The bathroom looked like an outhouse with a crescent moon on the door. The lot we picked out was right next to my best friend from work. Needless to say I was excited. But the land flunked the perk test and we were going to have to instal a septic tank. So we found a subdivision that from the outside the homes looked wonderful. The bi-levels were wonderful. We have 1100 square feet on each level and it had a large bathroom downstairs with the family room. It was long and boring.It had a sink in the very front, a commode close to the back and then a shower right at the back. So we had great plans to change that sink into kitchenette, dropped in two burner stove, an apartment size fridge. And then we wanted to install a door between that and the commode/bathroom area. Well the fridge stopped working, we loaned out the two burner and the dor never happened. Plus when we would have lots of rain, sewage would come up in the commode and shower. So now it is a storage area for the massive amounts of toilet paper and paper towels that charlie buys. But we have a large bedroom, storage room, family room and laundry room down there. Our intention was that if Charlie's Mom could have a nice bedroom, sitting room, bathroom and small kitchen for her. But it never worked out and she never needed to live here. We now have nice organization in the storage area.

I know it's silly but after 2 days of 'healthy' meals and a little bit of exercise that my weight would be down even a couple of tenths. But it wasn't.

Joyce, Indiana

frankiesgirl21 wrote: »

YEA JANET!!!!!!!!!! Way to go Girl!!

Thank you

Janetr OKC

Welcome to the new folks. I won't write a book to bore everyone but did want to pop in, read up on the lives here and commiserate or rejoice as the need be.

This weekend is the 13th annual family women's sanity weekend. We all abandon our husbands and children and go wild for a weekend. We've done all sorts of things, fancy meals, cooking classes, hiking, pedicures, movies.... this year we are doing an Escape the Room game, going to a special light art exhibit at the Art Museum and kayaking. I organized the first event the year my son got married as an attempt to show my new daughter-in-law that she was fully part of the family. Seems to have worked as she's still around. We have a grand time and this year will be no exception.

It's raining again. Hurricane season is starting into the serious part of it. Hopefully the building storms in the Caribbean will peter out and not head into the Gulf, especially not toward Louisiana!

Marcelyn in Houston

Tracy: Welcome to a great group. Best advice from me is log every bite and swallow, and move more. It doesn't seem as though you have a long way to go to reach your goals, but don't expect the loss to be as fast as it was "back when." I lost a ton, (about 75 pounds), in the first couple of years and I'm staying to keep on track. I plan to be here for the foreseeable future. :flowerforyou:

janemartin: Did you log into the site using your MFP ID? :huh:

Janet OKC: It looks like you got an A+ from your doctor. WTG!!!!!

Joyce: At present, DH can't even walk down the ramp onto the docks without getting motion sick. His MS doctor warned us that that is likely a long-term situation. I suggested selling the boat, and he says no. That idea will stay on the back burner for now. Thanks.

Marcelyn: Congratulations on organizing a women's sanity event for your family. It is a wonderful idea! :bigsmile:


Yesterday at Costco we bought four wild caught salmon fillets, along with a few other necessities. We had most of one for dinner last night, and I just put the rest of them into the freezer. Thanks to our Foodsaver, they'll stay in great shape for a long time. This will provide a lot of amazing dinners for the next few weeks or months.


Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

"So many of us believe in perfection, which ruins everything else, because the perfect is not only the enemy of the good; it's also the enemy of the realistic, the possible and the fun." Quote provided by Heather. I love it.

Peach1948 wrote: »

Janet ~ Add my congrats to frankiesgirl!

Thank you Carol. I was up about 5 lbs but she said she thought it was muscle mass. I think I'll just go with that lol

(((Hugs)))

Janetr OKC

Hello everyone! So yesterday (Wednesday) the TOPS meeting went well, and I lost .6 lbs from the week before. I will take it. Nice visiting with everyone, singing our song and the end, "The more we get together, together, to-gether, the more we get together the slimmer we'll be. For your loss is my loss and my loss is your loss, the more we get together the slimmer we'll be!!!" We all hold hands and swing them to our singing! Accountability and friendship is a great combo!

So after that, my husband picked me up and we went computer comparing shopping. We checked out the computers at Fred Meyer, but not really a selection. We then went to our "rent to own" store. We have bought our large TV, and our couch\loveseat and rug livingroom set there. The prices are good, if you live paycheck to paycheck. We can handle a $90 bill every month from them, so its really convenient. We do not have any credit cards so we don't ever want to start down that visa hellish road again. So our tower that is really ancient is being downloaded into the monitor that has the computer built right into the thing. That is cool! The sides of the computer has all the connectors for like our digital camera, and when my husband wants to download more podcasts into the mp3 player. He listens to old time radio shows, when he is exercising! So our "just looking" morphed into a lets buy this trip, which is kind of fun!

When you don't have a computer, it's easy to miss it. I have a couple of games that I have fun messing around with. One is " Uru Ages" kind of like "Myst" which is a atmospheric game with puzzles. It's fun to unlock stuff, and get things to work. My husband has a lot of games that are historical based and some he plays via an email with turns like the old Dungeons and Dragons games. Also it does this momma's heart good to type to my Navy sons now and then on Facebook. Makes the distance disappear for a moment.

Have a great weekend everyone! This weekend is the "Hood to Coast" race so our little nearby town of Seaside will be packed! If its nice, we will stay home and figure out our new computer! Hopefully we should be able to pick it up tomorrow after our gym time.
Becca
Oregon

Fly by hi, but the 1/4 times 1/4 times 1/4 mathematics is correct. Very rare!

Mary would it fit in a bowling ball bag?

Gee, I wonder what the odds are for 4 members of a family to have 'hazel' eyes that are different in color and that all change to a different color depending on situations around us.

Tracey – Oh, yeah … my parents’ house had the horsehair plaster over slats; one thing however, you need to think about is asbestos; the friends, who took down my parents’ house had to have it abated (all the plaster broken into pieces and taken away) before they could get to the salvage of the house. You need to make sure that you don’t disturb it in any manner; the dust is bad – you need to at least wear a mask; if not a complete hazmat suit when working with it; such as changing doors where you have to cut through it! When the ceiling came down on my Mother … we were all surprised it did not kill her. A fall from 11’ up and a piece that was about 14" in diameter.

Your house sounds wonderful. Refurbishing an old house definitely takes a lot of time and money … money, money, money!

I know what you mean about a Roman Catholic … they don’t usually want to go into another ‘church’. But, I can remember being raised as a Baptist; and, after we married (in the Baptist Church) we said our vows in the Catholic Church. Our boys were raised Catholic; DYS goes to church with DDnL#2 and DGD#4 (not a Catholic Church) … I don’t care where he goes … I’m just happy that he is willing to go. I think it is important to have a ‘church home’. We’re 30 miles away from the nearest Catholic Church; I go when I can … right now I am on a ‘driving restriction’ so I can’t go. DH is a ‘godly man’; but, he thinks it is too far; he drives to and from Albany twice a day. On weekends, he wants to take it easy and do things around here. I know, that he has a great open conversation with God throughout the day.

Hope you and DH have a great birthday dinner! I watched “Fixer Upper” a few weeks ago, saw the same show the other day; and, I just wanted to cry when the ‘new’ home owners wanted them to ‘rip out’ the painted panel wood in the MBR. It was “Pecky Cypress” from the looks of it; that someone very stupidly had painted. Not meant to be painted. Expensive and hard to come by. I just ‘hope’ they did not burn it. Maybe Clint got to it before that happened. Our den and dining area is paneled in it - horizontally.


KarenE – Even though we were right in the middle of a normal neighborhood; because the soil was deemed as being a “Wetland” nothing could be built on this 15 acre buffer. At least not directly behind our old house. Up a few blocks and across a main street; a realtor bought about 25 tracts for developing the land. He and his wife built a ‘huge’ house on it. Then the people who check soil told him that he could not build any more houses (other than his and one other in the neighborhood) because it was all a ‘Wetland’. Gated community with only 2 houses in it. The boys had a ball. When I was little, my BF and I would drag home appliance boxes from the stores uptown; and make houses out of them in our back yards and sleep over night in them. It would not be safe in most places now-a-days. I’m glad that my boys were brought up in a time when there wasn’t so much meanness and evil.


Heather – My first pregnancy (Hydatidiformole pregnancy) and the odds of 1:2000; it still did not make me feel any better that the odds were just the same with subsequent pregnancies. Naturally conceived twins occur 1:89 live births. My OB/GYN who has been ‘in practice’ now for 40 years; told me not long ago, that he and the rest of the practice of 6 MDs have only had 2 cases since; but, with modern equipment that take 3- or 4-D pictures it's easier to find and neither of them got as far along in their pregnancies that I did. I just ‘thank’ GOD every day that he was NOT going to perform a total hysterectomy on a 24-year-old woman, until he had exhausted all possible diagnoses. After I lost that pregnancy I looked like a skeleton with skin stretched over it; all knees, shoulders, elbows, hands, feet. I look like someone who had been saved from the Holocaust.

One of my BF from nursery school was talking about her DnL’s HCG levels being high and the MDs did not know why; because it wasn’t a ‘multiple pregnancy’ (she, herself was a twin). I told her to ask her DnL to ask her OB/GYN about the possibility of a ‘mole pregnancy’. She called me and told me that they discovered that was exactly what she had. When you are pregnant with a ‘multi-pregnancy’ your HCG levels are elevated anyway. One of the reasons I went into my 5th month was because they could not hear the baby’s heart beat; and, I had not felt it move. Like I would have known in my 1st time being pregnant. They did a regular x-ray on me; and found no fetal skeleton; but, what they did see was what looked like a mass of grapes. I provided Duke University Medical College with 5 tubes of blood every Friday for a year (or until all of the HCG was ‘out of my body’). Not the first time that I have nearly died; the next time that I remember was being “Lithium Toxic”. Normally, my range was .6 or .65 … then they tested me and it was 2.5; four times what was ‘normal’ for me. I now take Seroquel.

I try my best ‘not to flirt with danger’. But; I am a survivor!

Love the quote you posted:

Nice quote from Big Magic, by Elizabeth Gilbert. She quotes from Rebecca Solnit.

"So many of us believe in perfection, which ruins everything else, because the perfect is not only the enemy of the good; it's also the enemy of the realistic, the possible and the fun."


Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon - I love this quote, too:

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison


Tracey and Heather – My nephew had totally two different color ‘brown’ eyes. Noticeable, almost like that dog with 2 different colored eyes. One very 'light'; the other almost so dark brown that it looks black. You can only see the center hole if you are right in his face. You have that same thought … ‘how strange’!


Tracyjsbr22 – Welcome … we have a “Tracey” (fanny) … so it would be nice to have a ‘location’ (general or otherwise) so that we will make sure we are directing our posts to you or to her.

Current weight 138.2 (highest ever – other than when pregnant)??? … my goodness … am I looking at numbers that are transposed or not? I have not seen that weight since before I married. We are about the same height. I’m 65 and in a MD ordered/supervised weight loss program. My goal is to get down to a ‘normal’ BMI. Real close there.

Where in South Florida did you move? Was it a transfer because of a job or service? My DMS lives in Miami … and would never ever move anywhere north of Satellite Beach, if that. She loves it down there. But she is very gregarious; never meets a stranger. I’m a bit – less so. Just talkative! I tend to have a few 'trust' issues.

Just make sure to be able to easily that you ‘bookmark’ this site by clicking on the outline of a star in the upper right-hand corner of the posting area; then all you will have to do when you come back to the ‘community’ is click on the gray star and you will go back to your ‘last post’.

Several things to remember: IF you go back a page after you have started typing your post; unless you save it by posting it, you will lose it all. A lot of us open up a word processing program and either put them side-by-side (or go back and forth between MFP and the WPP and then we can respond to any or all of the posts that have been made since we posted last. A lot of people will read up to the ‘current’ page; I find that if I miss a day; I’ll end up with 80-100 posts. I ‘might’ read them; but, sometimes I just ‘jump into the current page’. That is something that only you can decide. Most of the time, a few posts about something, you sort of can ‘guess’ what is going on; if not, then just ‘ask’. This is a site/thread of women; so we will say just about anything. One thing we try NOT to discuss is ‘politics’ or ‘religion’ mainly because this thread is world-wide.
On the last day of the month; barbiecat will post a new link so you will go to the next month; and, you’ll need to ‘bookmark’ it as above.

Welcome, come often, post often. We’ve got ‘newbies’ and we’ve got people who have been here for several years. We’re here to encourage and to listen and sometimes offer suggestions that (maybe) have worked for us. Tell us a little about yourself, you family, hobbies, etc.

My middle sister is left-handed; she married a ‘lefty’; they had one of two children as a ‘lefty’; they all sat on the far end side of the table when we got together to keep from bumping into others. My oldest niece of my oldest sister is a ‘lefty’; our DOGD is a ‘lefty’ doing certain things; like eating; I am ambidextrous a lot of time. I draw with my right hand; I paint with my left. Right now I have hand tremors so bad that I am surprised that the bank has not called me and asked, did you write check ####, on such-and-such a date … made payable to? It is awful; but, some of it is because of the medications I take.


Jessica and Cary – I could fall asleep in any position; therefore … I snored in all positions. I’ve ‘snored myself awake’ and I have woken up to find my boys laughing their heads off (when they were teens). Last year, this time, we went out to visit DYS and his ‘new’ wife; and, she said that several times I ‘stopped’ breathing for over a minute at the time. I easily get 7 – 8 hours of sleep each night sleeping with it. The 2nd day of the 1st sleep studies I had (at the hospital); they had to come in and ‘wake me up’. I’m into my 6th year of sleeping with a C-pap and I’ll even bring it out into the den during the day if I feel sleepy. If I don’t use it; or turn over and pull the mask off; I know it! Sometimes because I am ‘exhausted’ the next day; but, more often because DH wakes me up and tells me to put my mask back on. I use a ‘wisp’ mask which covers only my nose. I’m too claustrophobic to wear a full- or half-face mask. At the hospital, they finally dug up one for me to use; otherwise I would have had to go back and have the tests performed a 2nd time. I just had one done; because my insurance will replace a C-pap machine every 5 years. It took me a while to get used to sleeping with the mask on; but, I would ‘hate’ to have to go without it. The 'new' machine is considerably quieter than my first; but, harder to find the 'fill' water mark.


Marcelynh – I am praying that there are not any big hurricanes in the Gulf either; not in the panhandle of FL and not in LA (where our DYS and his family live).


Janetr OKC – I sometimes get upset about a weight gain or seemingly plateau; but, then the dietician will tell me that my muscle mass has increased and my water % has increased; and, that is better sometimes than always seeing your scale # go down. I’m not worried about my weight now; working towards that ‘normal’ BMI – 2 points away! Muscle weighs more than fat.

I’d definitely need an Editor to work on my memoirs! LOL! As if you couldn’t tell.

Lenora