What nobody tells you about losing weight
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I must admit I'm somewhat jealous of those who love shopping. I hate it. No matter what size I am, I am inevitably between sizes. It's incredibly frustrating. I also have to accept the fact that due to bone structure (more bone length than bone girth, like shoulders and long arms) I will never be a small, and most likely not really a medium. I am out of plus sizes. I tried on winter coats this weekend to figure out what size I am so I don't have to deal with as much a hassle on black Friday sales. My shoulders and boobs meant that I didn't fit into a women's xl in two major brands. I ended up buying a men's coat for the size and color choices and the arms are too long even though it fits through the body. I can't win for trying.10
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How long meal prep takes. I hate it, but I definitely feel better once I do it and don't cave to fast food at the last minute.
Also, how much it hurts when people tell you how much better you look now. At first it's flattering, but I had someone not even recognize me in an old picture, and she said, "Oh, wow, you look so much better now! Don't gain again!" Thanks for telling me I used to look like absolute s***27 -
I feel your pain. I haven't met my goal yet, but I'm already noticing how difficult shopping is starting to be. I'm probably going to have to get most of my wardrobe tailored when I meet my goal. I'm in a medium now, but Its hard to find shirts long enough so I'm kind of stuck at large until I figure it out.aerochic42 wrote: »I must admit I'm somewhat jealous of those who love shopping. I hate it. No matter what size I am, I am inevitably between sizes. It's incredibly frustrating. I also have to accept the fact that due to bone structure (more bone length than bone girth, like shoulders and long arms) I will never be a small, and most likely not really a medium. I am out of plus sizes. I tried on winter coats this weekend to figure out what size I am so I don't have to deal with as much a hassle on black Friday sales. My shoulders and boobs meant that I didn't fit into a women's xl in two major brands. I ended up buying a men's coat for the size and color choices and the arms are too long even though it fits through the body. I can't win for trying.
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re: childhood obesity that was mentioned by several
My teenage daughter is headed that way. And I'm on a tightrope. I want to talk with her about it and help her decide she needs to lose weight now. But there's the whole fat-shaming thing to not run into and my daughter has RAD and is 15. You may not know RAD. It's Reactive Attachment Disorder. My daughter also has PTSD and depression. So she won't take anything I say well. And she certainly won't take my example of losing 32 pounds and keeping most of them (around 30) off. Basically, she doesn't want me to be right about anything!
So us parents aren't always in a position to help our obese children not be obese. I think my daughter is just overweight now but I haven't calculated it. She's 5'1" and last I heard was 170 lbs.
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brenlikethat wrote: »Going out to lunch, sitting in a booth with a table that doesn't move and having there be "space" between you and the table when there didn't used to be.
THIS!!!!
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re: childhood obesity that was mentioned by several
My teenage daughter is headed that way. And I'm on a tightrope. I want to talk with her about it and help her decide she needs to lose weight now. But there's the whole fat-shaming thing to not run into and my daughter has RAD and is 15. You may not know RAD. It's Reactive Attachment Disorder. My daughter also has PTSD and depression. So she won't take anything I say well. And she certainly won't take my example of losing 32 pounds and keeping most of them (around 30) off. Basically, she doesn't want me to be right about anything!
So us parents aren't always in a position to help our obese children not be obese. I think my daughter is just overweight now but I haven't calculated it. She's 5'1" and last I heard was 170 lbs.
what about just making healthy foods available all the time, instead of foods that could make her gain more weight. Maybe she can help you to prepare or cook healthy meals. there does not have to be a pep talk about it. and if you're going to go out for a walk ask her if she wants to join you. Baby steps.
and my apologies if I sound like I'm giving unsolicited suggestions or ideas.12 -
re: childhood obesity that was mentioned by several
My teenage daughter is headed that way. And I'm on a tightrope. I want to talk with her about it and help her decide she needs to lose weight now. But there's the whole fat-shaming thing to not run into and my daughter has RAD and is 15. You may not know RAD. It's Reactive Attachment Disorder. My daughter also has PTSD and depression. So she won't take anything I say well. And she certainly won't take my example of losing 32 pounds and keeping most of them (around 30) off. Basically, she doesn't want me to be right about anything!
So us parents aren't always in a position to help our obese children not be obese. I think my daughter is just overweight now but I haven't calculated it. She's 5'1" and last I heard was 170 lbs.
when I was about 8 years old I was very overweight and had chest pains and would cry. When my mother took me to the doctor he said to my mother that we should go park and get me a bicycle or roller skates or play ball, etc. and he also said that my mother should not allow me to eat so much ice cream and bread and cake and cookies and fried foods. that's just paraphrasing. I don't remember all the exact words. My mother grew up in the country in PR and was very skinny so when she raised us she thought that being fat was healthy. I remember thinking that it would be a good thing to lose wt because I was tired of the kids making fun of me at school. I was scared that I would grow up to be as big as my mom who was about 250 lbs at least. She seemed grumpy &/or depressed much of the time.
-That i would have to deal with these issues, shedding wt & shedding emotional baggage.10 -
sapphiremoon23 wrote: »re: childhood obesity that was mentioned by several
My teenage daughter is headed that way. And I'm on a tightrope. I want to talk with her about it and help her decide she needs to lose weight now. But there's the whole fat-shaming thing to not run into and my daughter has RAD and is 15. You may not know RAD. It's Reactive Attachment Disorder. My daughter also has PTSD and depression. So she won't take anything I say well. And she certainly won't take my example of losing 32 pounds and keeping most of them (around 30) off. Basically, she doesn't want me to be right about anything!
So us parents aren't always in a position to help our obese children not be obese. I think my daughter is just overweight now but I haven't calculated it. She's 5'1" and last I heard was 170 lbs.
what about just making healthy foods available all the time, instead of foods that could make her gain more weight. Maybe she can help you to prepare or cook healthy meals. there does not have to be a pep talk about it. and if you're going to go out for a walk ask her if she wants to join you. Baby steps.
and my apologies if I sound like I'm giving unsolicited suggestions or ideas.
That is easier said than done. You can't always or really even ever control what a teenager eats. Everyone has their own family dynamics that play onto it.
My daughter was always underweight so we were told to have as much calorie dense foods on hand as possible and let her eat whatever she wanted whenever we could get her to. My son has a tendency to be overweight so the advice would be to stock the pantry only with "healthy" foods and keep the "junk" foods out of the house. It was hard to find the right balance and I'm sure I made plenty of food mistakes when my kids were growing up. You just do the best you can.13 -
KFC is actually a reasonable dinner choice if you are careful20
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sapphiremoon23 wrote: »re: childhood obesity that was mentioned by several
My teenage daughter is headed that way. And I'm on a tightrope. I want to talk with her about it and help her decide she needs to lose weight now. But there's the whole fat-shaming thing to not run into and my daughter has RAD and is 15. You may not know RAD. It's Reactive Attachment Disorder. My daughter also has PTSD and depression. So she won't take anything I say well. And she certainly won't take my example of losing 32 pounds and keeping most of them (around 30) off. Basically, she doesn't want me to be right about anything!
So us parents aren't always in a position to help our obese children not be obese. I think my daughter is just overweight now but I haven't calculated it. She's 5'1" and last I heard was 170 lbs.
what about just making healthy foods available all the time, instead of foods that could make her gain more weight. Maybe she can help you to prepare or cook healthy meals. there does not have to be a pep talk about it. and if you're going to go out for a walk ask her if she wants to join you. Baby steps.
and my apologies if I sound like I'm giving unsolicited suggestions or ideas.
That is easier said than done. You can't always or really even ever control what a teenager eats. Everyone has their own family dynamics that play onto it.
My daughter was always underweight so we were told to have as much calorie dense foods on hand as possible and let her eat whatever she wanted whenever we could get her to. My son has a tendency to be overweight so the advice would be to stock the pantry only with "healthy" foods and keep the "junk" foods out of the house. It was hard to find the right balance and I'm sure I made plenty of food mistakes when my kids were growing up. You just do the best you can.
I jave one child underweight told to give am extra meal before bed.lots of calorie rich food boost instead of milk etc. other child.over weight...no food after dinner only water to drink and limit calories.....this is so hard to balance and keep emotional well being of the kids intact.12 -
that you get so much more done in a day without all tje resting!17
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You can taste salt and sugar in foods after eating clean for awhile.
Not getting winded walking up a flight of stairs and being able to bend down easily.
Healthy feels good.17 -
healthy does feel good!! I didn't know what I was missing till I started eating healthy. down 60 with 70 more to go can't wait to see how I feel at goal!15
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I completely understand you and I also grew up in Puerto Rico and to be skinny was not to be healthy in the island, in which is a misconception of the culture; so my family would always try to fatten us up.sapphiremoon23 wrote: »re: childhood obesity that was mentioned by several
My teenage daughter is headed that way. And I'm on a tightrope. I want to talk with her about it and help her decide she needs to lose weight now. But there's the whole fat-shaming thing to not run into and my daughter has RAD and is 15. You may not know RAD. It's Reactive Attachment Disorder. My daughter also has PTSD and depression. So she won't take anything I say well. And she certainly won't take my example of losing 32 pounds and keeping most of them (around 30) off. Basically, she doesn't want me to be right about anything!
So us parents aren't always in a position to help our obese children not be obese. I think my daughter is just overweight now but I haven't calculated it. She's 5'1" and last I heard was 170 lbs.
when I was about 8 years old I was very overweight and had chest pains and would cry. When my mother took me to the doctor he said to my mother that we should go park and get me a bicycle or roller skates or play ball, etc. and he also said that my mother should not allow me to eat so much ice cream and bread and cake and cookies and fried foods. that's just paraphrasing. I don't remember all the exact words. My mother grew up in the country in PR and was very skinny so when she raised us she thought that being fat was healthy. I remember thinking that it would be a good thing to lose wt because I was tired of the kids making fun of me at school. I was scared that I would grow up to be as big as my mom who was about 250 lbs at least. She seemed grumpy &/or depressed much of the time.
-That i would have to deal with these issues, shedding wt & shedding emotional baggage.
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That after wearing the baggy clothes and feeling small in them you put on a pair of pants that fit just snug and you feel fat again even though it's a size you haven't worn in years.46
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That when you reach your goal you might not feel physically any better. In my case, slightly worse (physically speaking) as the exercise makes your joints hurt. Something that didn't occur when I was just heavy. In all fairness I had no other problems just too heavy. No high BP, No joint paint, No diabetes, no high cholesterol. Psychologically you feel better and the ladies like you more but physically not so much.
That seems to disappoint a lot of people but I really feel that was 100% accurate.
Research msm for joint support. Youtube gauge girl training, she talks about it. She a chemical engineer, food scientist, fitness coach.0 -
Definitely starting to feel the cold everyone has mentioned..
Also, that eating things you used to eat will not taste very good, or make you feel very good, same for eating too much, it just feels terrible, and I can't believe it was my normal..15 -
becca_rup23 wrote: »Also, that eating things you used to eat will not taste very good, or make you feel very good, same for eating too much, it just feels terrible, and I can't believe it was my normal..
Agreed. I feel ill for days afterwards if I over-indulge. Makes sticking to the plan easier though
I happened to glance at myself when having a drink earlier and was completely creeped out as I could see my oesophagus moving the drink down . . . yuck.
Probably the most gruesome thing to date . . . . apart from visible pulses and seeing parts of your internal digestion system moving. Bleugh.
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that I wouldn't feel deprived at a work function not having a dessert when everyone was having cake! didn't bother me at all.
that baggy clothes look bad in me but I'm not ready for fitted clothes either.11 -
treehugnmama wrote: »that baggy clothes look bad in me but I'm not ready for fitted clothes either.
Try some... I don't really like my tubby belly being "on show" in more fitted things, but these days I'd rather have that than be hiding my new waistline under something baggy and shapeless!
I feel so much better when I dress in something more fitted - it doesn't have to be tight, but just something with a bit more shape than you might be used to. I won't wear belted tops or dresses yet and prefer my tops not to be tucked in, but tops that are shaped at the waist make me feel good now!
I can also recommend styles with a ruched front - I picked up a couple of tops from my local thrift store and feel great in those since the folds make it harder to tell what's fabric and what's flab!
(One I have is quite similar to this, only with a crossover V neck and in red because I love red! )
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After all the serious discussion...a couple of much lighter items!
1. That shopping is so much fun (and kinda expensive!).
2. That after going down 60+ pounds, even my gloves are too big.
and the more serious one,
3. That so many people in my life are so supportive of my journey...and how lucky I am that is true for me after reading others stories.29 -
After losing 65 pounds and feeling i look great iv hit a stage where my skins becoming a little loose and the weight is coming off in strange chunks in my stomach, Making me look fatter and weird XD Im sure its just a phase but no one warned me! lol18
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Every single person would ask me what my secret was. I didn't have the heart to tell him it is just hard work and dedication.20
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Every single person would ask me what my secret was. I didn't have the heart to tell him it is just hard work and dedication.
So very true! My response is always 'Eat less, Move more'. They look at you like you're taking the p!ss. I think with all the media attention on fad diets people have become conditioned into thinking the only way you can lose weight is to pay over the top prices for some quick fix powder type thing that basically just does the same thing as CICO13 -
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Every single person would ask me what my secret was. I didn't have the heart to tell him it is just hard work and dedication.
So very true! My response is always 'Eat less, Move more'. They look at you like you're taking the p!ss. I think with all the media attention on fad diets people have become conditioned into thinking the only way you can lose weight is to pay over the top prices for some quick fix powder type thing that basically just does the same thing as CICO
I even leave out the "move more" part most of the time, as it's barely applicable to weight loss. Most of the actual deficit comes from caloric restriction, unless one is borderline athlete training. Granted, they still think I'm full of crap, but I've pulled my 1400 kcal/day logs out before, which was my caloric target when I cut from 195 to 150 in a few months.
The actual hard part is trying to convince them to accurately measure their damned food.18 -
While i agree 'move more' is not needed its how I did it. I ate sensibly within reason and trained for various ironmans and marathons.Gallowmere1984 wrote: »Every single person would ask me what my secret was. I didn't have the heart to tell him it is just hard work and dedication.
So very true! My response is always 'Eat less, Move more'. They look at you like you're taking the p!ss. I think with all the media attention on fad diets people have become conditioned into thinking the only way you can lose weight is to pay over the top prices for some quick fix powder type thing that basically just does the same thing as CICO
I even leave out the "move more" part most of the time, as it's barely applicable to weight loss. Most of the actual deficit comes from caloric restriction, unless one is borderline athlete training. Granted, they still think I'm full of crap, but I've pulled my 1400 kcal/day logs out before, which was my caloric target when I cut from 195 to 150 in a few months.
The actual hard part is trying to convince them to accurately measure their damned food.
But yes the scales bit i by far the hardest bit to explain as they just look at you like your some kind of weirdo, weighing your food. I still have co workers look at me funny when I bring my lunches into work with my pre made snack packs thats all pre weighed and measured11 -
But yes the scales bit i by far the hardest bit to explain as they just look at you like your some kind of weirdo, weighing your food. I still have co workers look at me funny when I bring my lunches into work with my pre made snack packs thats all pre weighed and measured
So true, especially when these coworkers see my little zip bag and comment how it is way too little food. By the time I take all the bags out of my lunchbox they finally shut their mouths when they see how many of these little bags I have... Celery, carrots, bell peppers, radish all complementary to a small main course of lean beef, chicken or fish. They can't understand that CICO thing, I'm earthing all that but still loosing weight!
Meanwhile my coworkers have a single cheeseburger with a can of coke and another 2 slices of 1-inch thick pizza with double cheese and bacon and for them this is not so much food either... Humm... 350 kcal vs. 3500... after all it is only a single "0" more ;-))
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It's funnyBut yes the scales bit i by far the hardest bit to explain as they just look at you like your some kind of weirdo, weighing your food. I still have co workers look at me funny when I bring my lunches into work with my pre made snack packs thats all pre weighed and measured
So true, especially when these coworkers see my little zip bag and comment how it is way too little food. By the time I take all the bags out of my lunchbox they finally shut their mouths when they see how many of these little bags I have... Celery, carrots, bell peppers, radish all complementary to a small main course of lean beef, chicken or fish. They can't understand that CICO thing, I'm earthing all that but still loosing weight!
Meanwhile my coworkers have a single cheeseburger with a can of coke and another 2 slices of 1-inch thick pizza with double cheese and bacon and for them this is not so much food either... Humm... 350 kcal vs. 3500... after all it is only a single "0" more ;-))0
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