What nobody tells you about losing weight
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1. That chronic back pain didn't have to be an inevitable thing - I'd just accepted it as the price of middle age... turns out exercise is actually good for you (I know - who knew, right?32
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2. That I'd be able to get up out of and sit down in chairs without making that old-person sighing noise each time (I'm 48)26
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That my fridge would actually be fuller than before.
Now that I eat much healthier, a lot more of my food is fresh produce nowadays.20 -
melissa6771 wrote: »Being a person with long hair, I notice my hair no longer gets stuck in my butt crack after a shower! I used to pull them out like string, not any more. Guess there's a lot more room for them to slide out on their own because it's not as fat and squished together... Lol....
This is the WORST! I'm glad it's not just me...
And I'm excited to hear that weight-loss will help.3 -
Madwife2009 wrote: »How much bigger your mouth appears in your smaller face . . .
I always thought I had a small head on a large frame. Now I feel like I have a large head on a small frame.
Haha! This is me! I want this! I've always thought my head was too small, and of course, the first place I lost weight was my face, so now my head is even SMALLER!! I truly hope that someday I can look in the mirror and think "my head is too big!"4 -
melissa6771 wrote: »For some reason now whenever I see a very overweight young woman I just want to burst into tears. Because I know how she feels inside. I want to help her but I can't. The truth is its a cruel world and for some reason it's still fair game to abuse fat people. It hurts like hell.
This! I feel like this often! I know the pain and wish I could spare them.
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100 pounds! Fantastic!1
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ridiculous59 wrote: »crystalmorrison378 wrote: »That good, supportive sports bras for big chested women do not exist! Well, not in store anyway... I've lost 69lbs and I'm still a DDD cup, can't find a good sports bra anywhere! Hate to order off line because I like to try stuff on b4 I spend $60 + on something!! It's so annoying!
Have you tried a specialty bra shop (not a running store)? I used to wear an enell bra but I've never seen them in running stores. When i googled enell I realized that a specialty bra shop about an hour away from me carried them so I was able to try some on. NOTHING moved when that thing was on!
I ordered the high impact bra from Lane Bryant and LOVE it! 40G here and probably will only get back down. to a DD cup at my smallest, so finding big bras is always a challenge. I have good luck with regular bras at Dillard's. They have a store brand in larger sizes that are under $30.0 -
MoultrieBoy wrote: »so how do you delete a post?
You report it (Not flag, the actual report button). An option will come up that says "This post is mine and I want to delete it". Click on that and the mods will eventually remove it.6 -
- clothing sizes lie! Haha
- I have loose skin but I see them as battle scars and am actually quite proud of it
Love these!!! especially the one about the lose skin. My lose skin is crepey and I hate it. I must learn to embrace it and know it from my 70 pound weight loss.3 -
That 65% to 80% of people who lose a large amount of weight gain it all back or more in a year.
That our bodies are fixated on returning to our highest weight in order to have the best chance of survival (we evolved in a world where food was hard to get) and that the losing and regaining takes a serious toll on your health, possibly taking years off your life.
That even if you do reach your goal weight and keep it off for awhile you still don't look like the pictures in the magazines, you have loose, flabby and unhealthy skin, stringy hair and bad nails and teeth from depriving your body of nutrients from calorie restriction.
I was more beautiful and more physically capable at a higher BMI. I wish that I had never restricted calories and just got in shape with exercise. I don't know why I'm posting this in here because no one could have talked me out of it a couple years ago (I lost 75 pounds in a year). I'm about halfway to gaining it all back now but after I quit restricting calories I got so much healthier...I was able to cycle 567 miles in a month at 195 pounds and could ride 100 miles in a day with almost no soreness or fatigue. By anyone's standards by looking at me I was a fat, weak, slob yet I could kick any skinny girls butt in a race or test of endurance on my bike even if I was drunk.
Eh, I'm just saying maybe there is a whole lot more to health and beauty and strength than being a certain weight and maybe all this pain and suffering and anxiety over a "healthy weight" isn't worth it, maybe "healthy" is different for each individual and maybe calorie restriction isn't the way to reach it.
Don't beat yourself up when you gain it all back.18 -
This is terrible.sybillabryson wrote: »That 65% to 80% of people who lose a large amount of weight gain it all back or more in a year.
That our bodies are fixated on returning to our highest weight in order to have the best chance of survival (we evolved in a world where food was hard to get) and that the losing and regaining takes a serious toll on your health, possibly taking years off your life.
That even if you do reach your goal weight and keep it off for awhile you still don't look like the pictures in the magazines, you have loose, flabby and unhealthy skin, stringy hair and bad nails and teeth from depriving your body of nutrients from calorie restriction.
I was more beautiful and more physically capable at a higher BMI. I wish that I had never restricted calories and just got in shape with exercise. I don't know why I'm posting this in here because no one could have talked me out of it a couple years ago (I lost 75 pounds in a year). I'm about halfway to gaining it all back now but after I quit restricting calories I got so much healthier...I was able to cycle 567 miles in a month at 195 pounds and could ride 100 miles in a day with almost no soreness or fatigue. By anyone's standards by looking at me I was a fat, weak, slob yet I could kick any skinny girls butt in a race or test of endurance on my bike even if I was drunk.
Eh, I'm just saying maybe there is a whole lot more to health and beauty and strength than being a certain weight and maybe all this pain and suffering and anxiety over a "healthy weight" isn't worth it, maybe "healthy" is different for each individual and maybe calorie restriction isn't the way to reach it.
Don't beat yourself up when you gain it all back.
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sybillabryson wrote: »That 65% to 80% of people who lose a large amount of weight gain it all back or more in a year.
That our bodies are fixated on returning to our highest weight in order to have the best chance of survival (we evolved in a world where food was hard to get) and that the losing and regaining takes a serious toll on your health, possibly taking years off your life.
That even if you do reach your goal weight and keep it off for awhile you still don't look like the pictures in the magazines, you have loose, flabby and unhealthy skin, stringy hair and bad nails and teeth from depriving your body of nutrients from calorie restriction.
I was more beautiful and more physically capable at a higher BMI. I wish that I had never restricted calories and just got in shape with exercise. I don't know why I'm posting this in here because no one could have talked me out of it a couple years ago (I lost 75 pounds in a year). I'm about halfway to gaining it all back now but after I quit restricting calories I got so much healthier...I was able to cycle 567 miles in a month at 195 pounds and could ride 100 miles in a day with almost no soreness or fatigue. By anyone's standards by looking at me I was a fat, weak, slob yet I could kick any skinny girls butt in a race or test of endurance on my bike even if I was drunk.
Eh, I'm just saying maybe there is a whole lot more to health and beauty and strength than being a certain weight and maybe all this pain and suffering and anxiety over a "healthy weight" isn't worth it, maybe "healthy" is different for each individual and maybe calorie restriction isn't the way to reach it.
Don't beat yourself up when you gain it all back.
I have only been in maintenance for about 5 months, but I feel way healthier and stronger than before. Those things I bolded can happen on a vlcd , but eating at a moderate deficit is not going to cause that. I may have some loose skin, but I feel and look a lot better and having a little loose skin is worth not being obese. I lost over 60 pounds eating all the foods I love in reasonable portions. I feel confident that I will be able to keep it off because I learned good eating habits, I didn't just drastically cut calories.
First those looking for motivation, please don't let this post discourage you.61 -
sybillabryson wrote: »That 65% to 80% of people who lose a large amount of weight gain it all back or more in a year.
That our bodies are fixated on returning to our highest weight in order to have the best chance of survival (we evolved in a world where food was hard to get) and that the losing and regaining takes a serious toll on your health, possibly taking years off your life.
That even if you do reach your goal weight and keep it off for awhile you still don't look like the pictures in the magazines, you have loose, flabby and unhealthy skin, stringy hair and bad nails and teeth from depriving your body of nutrients from calorie restriction.
I was more beautiful and more physically capable at a higher BMI. I wish that I had never restricted calories and just got in shape with exercise. I don't know why I'm posting this in here because no one could have talked me out of it a couple years ago (I lost 75 pounds in a year). I'm about halfway to gaining it all back now but after I quit restricting calories I got so much healthier...I was able to cycle 567 miles in a month at 195 pounds and could ride 100 miles in a day with almost no soreness or fatigue. By anyone's standards by looking at me I was a fat, weak, slob yet I could kick any skinny girls butt in a race or test of endurance on my bike even if I was drunk.
Eh, I'm just saying maybe there is a whole lot more to health and beauty and strength than being a certain weight and maybe all this pain and suffering and anxiety over a "healthy weight" isn't worth it, maybe "healthy" is different for each individual and maybe calorie restriction isn't the way to reach it.
Don't beat yourself up when you gain it all back.
I have only been in maintenance for about 5 months, but I feel way healthier and stronger than before. Those things I bolded can happen on a vlcd , but eating at a moderate deficit is not going to cause that. I may have some loose skin, but I feel and look a lot better and having a little loose skin is worth not being obese. I lost over 60 pounds eating all the foods I love in reasonable portions. I feel confident that I will be able to keep it off because I learned good eating habits, I didn't just drastically cut calories.
First those looking for motivation, please don't let this post discourage you.
Kgirlhart has it right! I lost 90 lbs and maintained in a 10 lb range for 1-1/2 years now. I reduced calories and tried to keep a balanced nutritional intake. My hair, skin, and nails have never looked better! I have some loose skin, but overall look younger and much more attractive.
Best of all, I feel better! Heartburn is gone, back and knee pain dramatically reduced. I am in better shape physically than I was in my 20's and lI can do so much more!
A big part of getting fit again was getting control of my calories and losing the excess pounds. Healthy bodies can come in a variety of weight ranges! But at some point excess fat will contribute negatively to your physical health and mobility.33 -
Let's shed some light here shall we?sybillabryson wrote: »That 65% to 80% of people who lose a large amount of weight gain it all back or more in a year.
I don't know the *exact* statistics and can't be bothered to look it up, but yes, a large amount of people who lose a large amount of weight gain it all back.
I could get into statistics about how obesity increases your chances of heart disease, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, stroke, gallbladder disease, osteoarthritis, sleep apnea, etc. but if I listed them all we'd be here all day.
So would you rather risk gaining the weight back or risk all of the above? I think I'll take gaining the weight back for 500 Alex.
That our bodies are fixated on returning to our highest weight in order to have the best chance of survival (we evolved in a world where food was hard to get) and that the losing and regaining takes a serious toll on your health, possibly taking years off your life.
LOL. This is just malarkey. Our bodies are not fixated on anything. Our bodies are not what make us fat. We make ourselves overweight/obese by overeating. It's really just that simple. (disclaimer: and in some cases people have underlying health issues re: thyroid issues which also play a part)
That even if you do reach your goal weight and keep it off for awhile you still don't look like the pictures in the magazines, you have loose, flabby and unhealthy skin, stringy hair and bad nails and teeth from depriving your body of nutrients from calorie restriction.
Who wants to look like a picture in a magazine anyways? You know you can't Photoshop real life right? That even Jennifer Aniston doesn't look like the Jennifer Aniston on the magazine cover.
I want to look like me. The way I picture myself in my head - at a normal size. I want to look like a healthy person. I don't want to have to avoid mirrors (like I was doing) out of shame and not liking what I saw because that obese girl? She's not me.
I was more beautiful and more physically capable at a higher BMI. I wish that I had never restricted calories and just got in shape with exercise. I don't know why I'm posting this in here because no one could have talked me out of it a couple years ago (I lost 75 pounds in a year). I'm about halfway to gaining it all back now but after I quit restricting calories I got so much healthier...I was able to cycle 567 miles in a month at 195 pounds and could ride 100 miles in a day with almost no soreness or fatigue. By anyone's standards by looking at me I was a fat, weak, slob yet I could kick any skinny girls butt in a race or test of endurance on my bike even if I was drunk.
You do realize that anyone can be out of shape at any size right? People seem to live under this assumption that just because someone is small or at a healthy weight that they are in shape. That's not a thing.
Being in shape/maintaining a certain fitness level requires consistent and often progressive exercise. Just because you lost the weight doesn't make you suddenly "in shape". I'm 195 lbs as of last Sunday and I could probably outrun my old self at 170 lbs because that girl didn't go to the gym. I do. Consistently.
However, you can't outrun a bad diet. People also seem to think that. It's not a thing. You can lose the weight solely through diet, but you will never be able to burn enough calories through exercise to lose weight if you continue with bad eating habits which I think it's pretty safe to say that overweight/obese people have bad eating habits.
It is possible to lose the weight through a combination of diet and exercise and what I would recommend but to each his own.
Eh, I'm just saying maybe there is a whole lot more to health and beauty and strength than being a certain weight and maybe all this pain and suffering and anxiety over a "healthy weight" isn't worth it, maybe "healthy" is different for each individual and maybe calorie restriction isn't the way to reach it.
Don't beat yourself up when you gain it all back.
The thing is so many people do get hung up with being a *certain* weight or seeing a certain number on the scale. I don't want to be a certain weight. I want to have a healthy BMI and be able to maintain it by eating at a level that is sustainable to me. Whether that's me at 145 lbs or 135 lbs I don't know, but I'm not going to stress myself about it either way.
Weight loss doesn't have to be painful and you don't have to suffer. I didn't realize that until this go around, but you don't. When you lose weight the right way, have reasonable expectations, and set reasonable goals losing weight isn't painful at all.
It may be hard because old habits die hard and most people have a lifetime of bad eating habits to break, but most things in life, the things worth having, are hard.
People work hard everyday for the things they want. Why should health and fitness be any different?
Lastly, as someone who has yo-yo dieting all her life (since the age of 12) and has lost and gained back significant amounts of weight repeatedly I will tell you don't live in fear of gaining back the weight.
Every single time I gained back the weight I did because I made bad choices consistently and repeatedly. Gaining the weight back isn't some mythical thing and it isn't guaranteed to happen to you.
My advice for keeping it off? Don't let yourself slip into old habits. Weigh yourself regularly. Be mindful of what you're eating. Log if you have to. It's only as hard as you make it and I do believe anyone can keep the weight off as long as they are mindful of their habits and what they are eating.63 -
"-Not everyone will notice or comment on your loss. Most of my closest friends haven't said a word about me losing weight, but their families have, and my family has."
Oh, they notice. They are secretly plotting their own weight loss plan or they are very jealous. I know because I'm one of them!
On behalf of your friends who don't comment for reasons of jealousy, "You look amazing, by the way. Congratulations on sticking to one of the hardest things people have to do/have done." 22 -
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Let's shed some light here shall we?sybillabryson wrote: »That 65% to 80% of people who lose a large amount of weight gain it all back or more in a year.
I don't know the *exact* statistics and can't be bothered to look it up, but yes, a large amount of people who lose a large amount of weight gain it all back.
I could get into statistics about how obesity increases your chances of heart disease, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, stroke, gallbladder disease, osteoarthritis, sleep apnea, etc. but if I listed them all we'd be here all day.
So would you rather risk gaining the weight back or risk all of the above? I think I'll take gaining the weight back for 500 Alex.
That our bodies are fixated on returning to our highest weight in order to have the best chance of survival (we evolved in a world where food was hard to get) and that the losing and regaining takes a serious toll on your health, possibly taking years off your life.
LOL. This is just malarkey. Our bodies are not fixated on anything. Our bodies are not what make us fat. We make ourselves overweight/obese by overeating. It's really just that simple. (disclaimer: and in some cases people have underlying health issues re: thyroid issues which also play a part)
That even if you do reach your goal weight and keep it off for awhile you still don't look like the pictures in the magazines, you have loose, flabby and unhealthy skin, stringy hair and bad nails and teeth from depriving your body of nutrients from calorie restriction.
Who wants to look like a picture in a magazine anyways? You know you can't Photoshop real life right? That even Jennifer Aniston doesn't look like the Jennifer Aniston on the magazine cover.
I want to look like me. The way I picture myself in my head - at a normal size. I want to look like a healthy person. I don't want to have to avoid mirrors (like I was doing) out of shame and not liking what I saw because that obese girl? She's not me.
I was more beautiful and more physically capable at a higher BMI. I wish that I had never restricted calories and just got in shape with exercise. I don't know why I'm posting this in here because no one could have talked me out of it a couple years ago (I lost 75 pounds in a year). I'm about halfway to gaining it all back now but after I quit restricting calories I got so much healthier...I was able to cycle 567 miles in a month at 195 pounds and could ride 100 miles in a day with almost no soreness or fatigue. By anyone's standards by looking at me I was a fat, weak, slob yet I could kick any skinny girls butt in a race or test of endurance on my bike even if I was drunk.
You do realize that anyone can be out of shape at any size right? People seem to live under this assumption that just because someone is small or at a healthy weight that they are in shape. That's not a thing.
Being in shape/maintaining a certain fitness level requires consistent and often progressive exercise. Just because you lost the weight doesn't make you suddenly "in shape". I'm 195 lbs as of last Sunday and I could probably outrun my old self at 170 lbs because that girl didn't go to the gym. I do. Consistently.
However, you can't outrun a bad diet. People also seem to think that. It's not a thing. You can lose the weight solely through diet, but you will never be able to burn enough calories through exercise to lose weight if you continue with bad eating habits which I think it's pretty safe to say that overweight/obese people have bad eating habits.
It is possible to lose the weight through a combination of diet and exercise and what I would recommend but to each his own.
Eh, I'm just saying maybe there is a whole lot more to health and beauty and strength than being a certain weight and maybe all this pain and suffering and anxiety over a "healthy weight" isn't worth it, maybe "healthy" is different for each individual and maybe calorie restriction isn't the way to reach it.
Don't beat yourself up when you gain it all back.
The thing is so many people do get hung up with being a *certain* weight or seeing a certain number on the scale. I don't want to be a certain weight. I want to have a healthy BMI and be able to maintain it by eating at a level that is sustainable to me. Whether that's me at 145 lbs or 135 lbs I don't know, but I'm not going to stress myself about it either way.
Weight loss doesn't have to be painful and you don't have to suffer. I didn't realize that until this go around, but you don't. When you lose weight the right way, have reasonable expectations, and set reasonable goals losing weight isn't painful at all.
It may be hard because old habits die hard and most people have a lifetime of bad eating habits to break, but most things in life, the things worth having, are hard.
People work hard everyday for the things they want. Why should health and fitness be any different?
Lastly, as someone who has yo-yo dieting all her life (since the age of 12) and has lost and gained back significant amounts of weight repeatedly I will tell you don't live in fear of gaining back the weight.
Every single time I gained back the weight I did because I made bad choices consistently and repeatedly. Gaining the weight back isn't some mythical thing and it isn't guaranteed to happen to you.
My advice for keeping it off? Don't let yourself slip into old habits. Weigh yourself regularly. Be mindful of what you're eating. Log if you have to. It's only as hard as you make it and I do believe anyone can keep the weight off as long as they are mindful of their habits and what they are eating.
^ thank you. I was hoping someone would respond to this in this manner. I couldn't find the correct wording and gave up.21 -
You know how when you stand straight up and you rest your hands on your love handles? You can do that when you don't have love handles anymore... what am I supposed to do with my hands now!23
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rldeclercq4 wrote: »You know how when you stand straight up and you rest your hands on your love handles? You can do that when you don't have love handles anymore... what am I supposed to do with my hands now!
Rest them on someone else's love handles?
(sorry, couldn't resist. I have an odd sense of humour).
Well done on getting rid of them though, mine are still lingering . . .20 -
Madwife2009 wrote: »rldeclercq4 wrote: »You know how when you stand straight up and you rest your hands on your love handles? You can do that when you don't have love handles anymore... what am I supposed to do with my hands now!
Rest them on someone else's love handles? (sorry, couldn't resist. I have an odd sense of humour).
Well done on getting rid of them though, mine are still lingering . . .
That's an amazing cake. Did you bake it?-1 -
thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
That's an amazing cake. Did you bake it?
Aw, thank you - I did indeed bake/make it. The models (caterpillar, butterfly and cucoon) took hours to make, the actual cake and putting it together a lot less time. I didn't eat any of it, I left that to the children
I've just done an "M&Ms" one for my daughter's 4th birthday; these are the models that went on top (each model took an hour):
And this is one I made for my teenage daughter's friend who was off to study medicine at university:
I enjoy the decorating but not so much the baking (I'm not great at baking but getting better). Not a fan of cake either so I don't bother eating any (rather have an apple or an orange to be honest).
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Madwife2009 wrote: »thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
That's an amazing cake. Did you bake it?
Aw, thank you - I did indeed bake/make it. The models (caterpillar, butterfly and cucoon) took hours to make, the actual cake and putting it together a lot less time. I didn't eat any of it, I left that to the children
I've just done an "M&Ms" one for my daughter's 4th birthday; these are the models that went on top (each model took an hour):
And this is one I made for my teenage daughter's friend who was off to study medicine at university:
I enjoy the decorating but not so much the baking (I'm not great at baking but getting better). Not a fan of cake either so I don't bother eating any (rather have an apple or an orange to be honest).
Gorgeous! There are a couple of threads you might want to post these on:
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10461199/any-crafty-people-out-there
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10490898/show-me-yours-ill-show-you-mine2 -
After losing 140lbs It feels amazing to not have to worry about if i will fit in a chair or a booth!
Clothes shopping is much more fun when you have more choices and are not just picking what FITS but more focused on what you actually LIKE!
That you will still see yourself as overweight, no matter how much weight you lose. It is harder to adjust than i ever imagined.
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carriestephens1 wrote: »After losing 140lbs It feels amazing to not have to worry about if i will fit in a chair or a booth!
Clothes shopping is much more fun when you have more choices and are not just picking what FITS but more focused on what you actually LIKE!
That you will still see yourself as overweight, no matter how much weight you lose. It is harder to adjust than i ever imagined.
Wow 140 pounds that is amazing good for you!!!5 -
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rldeclercq4 wrote: »You know how when you stand straight up and you rest your hands on your love handles? You can do that when you don't have love handles anymore... what am I supposed to do with my hands now!
Love this post! Hug your new fiancee!!
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rldeclercq4 wrote: »You know how when you stand straight up and you rest your hands on your love handles? You can do that when you don't have love handles anymore... what am I supposed to do with my hands now!
Yes, the standing-up-what-to-do-with-your-hands is an issue I've had to deal with myself. What is comfortable to me is to cross my arms on my chest. However that appears to some people as too defensive a posture, so I avoid that.
The option that works for me is a modified parade rest pose, a military pose where the feet are shoulder width apart with hands behind the back, at the small of the back, with the right hand holding the left hand's wrist. Officially the hands are intertwined only at the thumbs. I find it more comfortable to have the right hand hold the left hand. I can stand that way for an hour or so.
I also put mine in the back pockets of my jeans.
Or, you could hold a hydration container of some sort in one and a 10lb weight in the other and do curls, then switch hands. And then do triceps lifts from behind the head, and then flys or arm extensions....
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No one tells you how absolutely cute workout clothes can be and how awesome it is to buy brand new running shoes. 22
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