Non friendly females in the gym.
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I don't try to flirt or come on to any females.
I try to be friendly and decent to everyone. Wheather it's spotting someone or just saying hello. I do understand everyone has different perspectives on this. As Bobby Mcfarine sings
"Don't worry be happy"12 -
I have a lot of gym buddies. I love them. They make my day and can be super helpful when I'm training heavy and need motivation. I also have people avoid at the gym because I dislike them.5
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@happilymegan Maybe you misunderstood the OP. No one asked for a full on conversation but all he wants is a simple Hi and surely you can agree that as humans it's only natural to want to communicate and be acknowledged by another person? Keep in mind most people find there confidence in the gym and want to express themselves in this space.23
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Iv been going to the gym for years. Just my opinion but ladies just don't seem to be very friendly. Maybe it's just me!
I know we are there to workout but a casual chat would be nice.
It could be you and having different expectations of the environment.
A gym isn't a social club to many people.
Are guys at the gym more chatty or is it just the situation/personality not gender?
Someone taking classes is probably more social/chatty than someone coming to the gym alone to knock out a certain number of minutes/reps.
Females may be less interested in chatting if that exercise time is their only personal time of the day.
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I have a lot of gym buddies. I love them. They make my day and can be super helpful when I'm training heavy and need motivation. I also have people avoid at the gym because I dislike them.
And I guess you wouldn't have found these gym buddies if neither of you bothered to say Hi.8 -
People aren't really required to behave around anyone else in a certain way. Some people at the gym talk to me (or even acknowledge my existence). Other don't. I have zero expectations of how people I don't know should react when I enter a room. Do you get upset when people at the store don't want to hang out either?17
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I have met some of my best friends at the gym.. I am always sociable and make chit chat no matter where I am. But when I am focused and working out, I tune others out. I am not being bitchy, just doing what I need to do. Before or after my workout though.. I chat a little, time permitting.8
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Alldaygainz wrote: »
Right. But I still pick and choose who I want to say hi to, to a certain extent. Or at least who I will continue having conversations with.0 -
Gym is for working out don't talk to me unless you need a spot, then I'm happy to oblige4
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At my old gym that was the norm. People ignored each other.. We didn't chat.. We didn't smile.. We just listened to our music and worked out in our own little world. I was there for 6 months and during that time I talked to strangers twice.. once when a dude approached me and once when I asked a coach to help me out cause I had a broken wrist and needed assistance with one armed DL.
I loved that place but I'm a social person and I didn't like the unwritten rule about not talking to anyone.
At my new gym(box) no one has any headphones. There's loud music, there's laughing, there's chatting and there's lots of smiles. I love that! Everyone is so happy all the fricking time and so helpful. It suits me a lot better cause of it and I'm already getting to know people only 2 months in.
If you feel like the unwritten rule of ignoring other gym members isn't for you I think you might look into a smaller gym, maybe even a crossfit box.
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I just find it odd than because a woman doesn't talk to you, she is automatically "non-friendly".30
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PlaydohPants wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Alldaygainz wrote: »@happilymegan Maybe you misunderstood the OP. No one asked for a full on conversation but all he wants is a simple Hi and surely you can agree that as humans it's only natural to want to communicate and be acknowledged by another person? Keep in mind most people find there confidence in the gym and want to express themselves in this space.
Hello/good morning ect. That's fine! But the OP said causal chat. I don't have time to chat. I'm busy. Perhaps if I had more time I'd be open to more communication but I have 1hr 15 minutes most days.
No, no, no, silly you have to have a conversation with everyone you come across otherwise you're an unfriendly female. Don't be too friendly though because if you smile too much you're just a tease.
Odd how this was prompted as a gender issue when some males and females enjoy not socializing at the gym and putting in that work. So confusing
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Odd how this was prompted as a gender issue when some males and females enjoy not socializing at the gym and putting in that work. So confusing
My guess is because the OP is trying to chat up women, but disguising it as "just being friendly".
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Iv been going to the gym for years. Just my opinion but ladies just don't seem to be very friendly. Maybe it's just me!
I know we are there to workout but a casual chat would be nice.
Dude, how many times do I have to tell you? I'm not a lady, and please stop talking to me while I'm working out!13 -
Socialization at the gym for me is saying good morning to the guy at the counter and nodding at the other regulars I know. Then headphones go in and workout. If it's a good workout, talking is difficult. If you want to chat, start slow. Nod and wave for a couple weeks, then you can work in a short conversation after she's acknowledged you.4
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littlemissbgiff wrote: »I find females in general are unfriendly, not just at the gym. The amount of angst contained in these gineys is unbelievable.
we can be *kitten* that's for sure2
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