WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2017

Lisa – Prayers and {{{{{HUGS}}}}} for you and DH. I know what he is going through; I have pins, screws, and plates in my left arm (almost took it off in a wreck); and in my right heel and ankle. So much so that whenever I went to the office to see my former boss; and, had to walk through the ‘metal detector’ I would set it off. For so long as the Marshals working it ‘knew’ me, I did not have to get further scrutiny; when they all retired and I went back to visit him or the ladies in the Clerk’s Office … I had to ask them to go get the Clerk, so she could tell them that “it was ‘ok’ for me to come in.” After that, I was never able to ‘surprise’ him with a visit. I ended up retiring on a disability and receiving Social Security and had to keep my insurance COBRA’ed from my retirement check. My income dropped by about 75%. That was the kicker; but, we finally were able to make it on my lowered income and then on DH’s SSI (but, he also, still works for what we call our 'fluff money'). Took early retirement; and now that he is well over the age of 65 – he can work as much as he wants or is able. Hopefully, the wrist your DH broke was not his dominant hand. Maybe he will be able to return to work soon even if he has to cut back on what he can do. I have an awful scar on my left arm; because the bones were crushed and they had to remove the shards and then attempt to fix the other, then sew it back up. Was seen by the Orthopedist ‘on call’ at the hospital, so I don’t think I had the ‘best’ surgeon. It used to embarrass me; but, now if someone looks at it or asks, I ask, which story they want, ‘the pit bull dog attack’, the ‘washing machine agitator’, or the ‘boring one’ [truth]. Happy that I was driving a big heavy vehicle; but, still had to be 'cut out of it'. That is about the most frightening thing I remember ... I do not remember being 'in pain'. But, I was also in 'shock'.

Re – In the Deep South, we look to the pecan trees to tell us if we will no longer have any more ‘cold weather’. Some people go by the “Easter” Rule; but, unless the pecan trees have started ‘leafing out’, there is still a chance for a freeze. Unfortunately, we have warm days, followed by a few ‘cool’ days; and, certain flowering bushes/shrubs/trees and flowers or house plants will start growing and blooming and then get ‘hit’ by a ‘freeze’. For example, my Japanese Magnolia has blooms on it now. If we get a ‘freeze’ they will die; but, then it might bloom again on other branches, then once they do, the leaves on it will come out. Azaleas can also start blooming, only to be ‘nipped in the bud’ because of a freeze. That is an interesting bit of information about the alligator and chicken.

The M’'s doing their annual check-up are doing what they can do to “CTA” (CYA) … ‘cover their @$$-e$. I get in my car and something I will drive to my MD’s office and wonder why. I go to town every other week for my weigh-in and then get them to print off any schedules of appointments I have. All my MDs except one (who is out-of-town) are either in the same building or within ‘spitting distance’.

Never been to Dallas; but, lived in Atlanta for 2 years … traffic was brutal; and, you have a 5-minute window to either beat the traffic or be stuck in it for 2 hours. I finally moved to within walking distance of school and work. So much better; and, I took my VW out on the weekends for a good ride up in the mountains (or home).
LOL! I think all of us who have lived with a spouse longer than those first 7 years (which they say is about the length of time for most relationships in our 'throw away society') … have ‘thought’ of ways to ‘do them in’. I’m convinced mine is going to outlive me, just so he can get the $$$ from the insurance we pay so dearly for. LOL!!!!
28 years? Try 44 … I’ve learn to just say, ‘sure, whatever’ and walk away. He is one of those types who was raised that ‘everything had a place; and, everything in its place’. Boy, have I frustrated him, a lot. Me? I lay it down wherever I stopped using it (usually not the expected place); but, I am ‘finally’ learning! I hate having to call him and ask ‘what was on the grocery list’ or 'where he last saw my keys or pocketbook'. He runs through all the things that we DO have; before he starts on things we need. Sometimes if I misplace something I get so angry that I 'go blind' and then walk away and then back in the room and whatever (keys) will be right there as if someone came in and laid them down on the counter. I have to sit down and calm down sometimes to be able to find things. I hate it when I put something I will need later and think, 'oh, this is a good spot - easy to find'. Wrong!

NYKaren – Our DOGD calls us (Papa) twice a week; we sometimes hear from her when her own parents don’t. Especially if she has to ‘talk to her step-Mom’ who never went to college. Her Dad did until he married her ‘mama’. Years of hindsight and wishing we had been able to talk him into moving home and going back to college. Still trying to talk him into going to technical school to do something he wants to do ‘when he grows up’. He is 40. Works for his Dad … $$$ is gonna be ‘slim-to-none’ when DH can’t work any longer.

I think “Freshman” go through a stage of wanting to be ‘grown-ups’ … but, don’t realize where the ‘gravy train’ is coming from, until it passes them by.

Beth – I can drive just about anywhere … but, DH will NOT allow me to drive on the Interstate. So he has to take me to Macon (2 hours away) every 3 months to see one of my MDs; but, we get together with some of my former HS classmates and their spouses for lunch. Great group and we all look forward to it.

barbiecat – I don’t think we could get Cracker in a coat if our lives depended on it. LOL! When it is ‘raining’ … she just ‘holds’ it. She will go out in the ‘misting’ rain; but, not any heavier.

Janetr okc – I like chocolate; but, not a ‘big’ chocolate eater; but, my DFnL was the KING OF DUCT TAPE. If it was broken and had been thrown out by my DMnL … he’d go get it and duct tape it back together. She finally got to the point that she would ‘smash’ up things and throw part of it out in a neighbor’s trashcan. She hated it more than anything! Duct tape will take your skin off if left on for very long. Whoever invented it make a fortune, for sure. Now some enterprising person has been able to make is less offensive by adding color and patterns to it.

Lanette – You’re probably right about cracking your tailbone. There isn’t much covering it, even with a big tush … I weighed all of 116lbs in HS. All muscle; weighed 125lb when I got married; after first pregnancy ended up weighing 90lbs … all hands, joints, and bones. I looked like a Holocaust survivor. DH took a picture of me (naked); but we destroyed it and one other before we moved out here. Pitiful looking. Now if I get down to 145-150lbs, I will be ‘happy’ about it ... my BMI should be within 'normal' range then. Now to ‘kick start’ my @$$ off the plateau of losing and finding the same damn 2lbs for the past 2 months. Upping my protein, upping my water, and upping my exercise. I’m doing my treadmill in 15-minutes bursts. I did 40 minutes on it one night and could not move a little bit later on.

DJ – You and your friend are going to have such a ‘fun’ time on your cruise.

Michele – That’s pretty nice; it looks like it is bigger.

Paula Y – I’ll hug my family members; but, I was physically attacked once; so I do NOT want anybody inside my personal space (from my bent elbows and circle around) without either being ‘asked’ (preferably) or being ‘warned’. I don’t sit with my back to the door, I hate for someone to touch the back of my shoulder to try to get my attention … usually I will jump when that happens. No sudden moves. It upset my DH for a long time … long story … but; we’ve managed to work through it. He is very protective of me in most situations.

I cannot wait until it is warm enough to open up the pool; I can stay in it for hours; to the point my skin is wrinkled. Put on a big brimmed hat and walk; sometimes just laying on my back floating.

Lenora

Paula Y - glad we're not alone with the 13 months of winter! lol I am a hugger too!
Barbie - cute pup coats! they must be the most fit doggies around!
Re - wow you did great in that challenge! I hope I can lose some through mine! and if we can look good in clothes - well, I'll take it! luckily my hubby seems to be blind to my imperfections naked! ha!
Karen in VA - glad to hear she is stable, but wow what a tough thing to deal with - poor baby! continued prayers!
My daughter-in-law told me she is doing workout videos by Popsugar on youtube. I tried one out tonight! it was awesome! and so many choices! I loved that you could pick a 15 min, or 30 min, or 45 - whatever you're in the mood or have the time for! I'm excited to try more of them!

Lisa: (((HUGS))) For you and your DH.

Lanette: I'm happy that you are on the side of I-5 that is away from the flooding. :flowerforyou:

Ginger in TX: Tracking calories is the key to success. You are off to a great start! :bigsmile:

Sherry: I think of the news footage I've recently seen from Hood River and it is gorgeous up there! Snow is always a treat for about three days and after that--not so much fun. I'd rather deal with rain and soggy ground. We're used to that around here.

Karen in VA: Sending good thoughts and prayers for Olivia.

Marni in AK: Sending good thought for Quinn and her whole family. :flowerforyou:


Thanks to everyone for their kind comments about DH''s eye surgery. He is doing so much better. It will be another month before he gets the second eye done, but he is already 10 thousand percent happier although a bit grumpy about getting his eye drops in a few minutes ago. :grumble:

Katla in beautiful NW Oregon

Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!" -Audrey Hepburn

Karen in Virginia - Sending prayers for Olivia. She is gorgeous even with all the extra attachments.

Rita - I don't envy the packing/storing/downsizing but once it's done you will be free to hit the open road. Adventure awaits.

Margaret - the sugars I am using are malt barley syrup, glucose syrup and ? ( ha, can't remember) It's been interesting so far. I really need to get on baking the No Sugar brownies.

Yvonne - You might trade weather with me for today but guaranteed you wouldn't have wanted Sat-Wed.

Michele - Nice work on the pelicans and tree trunk

Lisa - Hope the surgeon can get Corey fixed up so life can get back to normal.
I just read your next post. Looks like it's going to be a while before that happens.

Katla - So happy to hear that your DH is doing well after his surgery.

Beth - Sending prayers that your Mother has a quick recovery. My Mom had her complete hysterectomy at age 80. I chuckled quite a bit when she answered some of the questions the medical people asked her.

Barbie - Sasha and Bess look very smart in their new coats.

DJ - You must be looking forward to your cruise so much

Paula Y - I would love to hug more people but I have a hard time breaking out of my personal bubble

Marni - Prayers for Quinn

also more prayers for Reid

Okay, weirdness for today - my ex(Jason's father) called today again. I think? I got a sort of apology. "I am not sorry for anything I did in the past. I am sorry if I did anything wrong concerning you and Jason" If? If? The man has to ask? He also asked if I needed anything as he feels he owes me something. Send me something if you want to but I am not asking for anything. Paid the Credit Cards for flowers I never got, hotels I never stayed in, etc. Not a penny of child support. He went to Europe and carried on with a new life. He can do things for Jason and Harmony. He has to wonder why Jason seems guarded and distant with him? Really? He's a smart man so he should know that when you have not been in someone's life and they are nearly 40 they might want to take it slow and careful. Trying to let by gones be by gones but I am definitely no Saint.

My brother looked beat after dialysis. Tomorrow he goes in to have the operation so that he can do dialysis at home. I wanted to talk more about it with him but my sister dominated the conversation with chatter about clothes. I was too tired to compete with that. I needed the afternoon nap today.

Weather went from - 21 F yesterday to +42F this afternoon. I am hoping the warmth stays for more than a day.

-Sharon in Lethbridge, Alberta
(dreaming of a Crunchie bar)

Sharon in Lethbridge~ My mom was on hemo dialysis the whole time she was on it. she was able to travel and it worked well.. hoping he does well..
fell asleep at 6:15 last night after taking 3 tylenol..working 9-5 today and Tom took my car as he has farther to go..we are supposed to get more snow tonight ugggggh

Good morning lovely ladies

Lenora thanks so much for the morning chuckle. The most comprehensive analysis of the chicken/road dilemma I have ever heard.
Lisa wow, so sorry to hear about your husband and the difficult ensuing situation
Re I love you, you are too funny! Thanks for the kick in the butt, I needed that. Please take care of you in all this caring for your hubby. And now you have a license to swear, it shows you are honest!! And men really???
Karen good news about Olivia
Sharon must have been hard having that call. You did good being the better person. My hubby was on dialysis until he got his transplant.

I am not feeling so good this morning. I am dizzy and a little congested. I work at a hospital so there is always something going around but because I work there my immunity is pretty good and I am rarely sick. If I wasn't 55, I would say I was pregnant, that's what this reminds me of. It is probably a strain of the flu even though I get the shot, sometimes I will have a day or so of very mild flu like symptoms. So no nookie for hubby because he is immuno-compromised with a transplant, if anyone is sick they need to stay away from him.

Luckily today is not an exercise day although I am fearful of how I will do my 3 hours tomorrow I have meetings all day so that will keep my mind off myself and hopefully I am back here reading all your inspiring words before I know it

Have a great day! Sarah, Ontario, Canada

Good morning everyone.
I signed up for the Biggest Loser challenge!!! My elliptical should be in on Monday which is the challenge start date woohoo!

I hope all that aren't feeling well have the best possible day today!!!

Happy Friday!!!

KJ so apropos lol!!

beth I know how hard that driving conversation is! Sounds like your dad listened to you. Do you have siblings that live closer? We were lucky that one sister lived 10 minutes from mom but that still created agitate cause she had the biggest work load and always reminded us!

Lenora I think you hit the nail on the head about my freshman.. we are at a crossroads and that's just the way it is till she gets a little more grown!

Having a delayed start to the day so I am reading all of your wonderful posts while I drink my 3rd cup of coffee in my bathrobe which feels really decadent and lazy and I it. But I must set up the rest of the day for success--pack gym bag, pack lunch, prep a good dinner so we don't get takeout-the usual strategies to help me stay on track.

Cheers to everyone plugging away despite all the serious to annoying challenges in our day to day world

NYKAREN

Shoveled deck and stairs twice yesterday for dogs. Other than that, vegetated and was on laptop most of the day just absorbing what is to come.

Now have to complete snow removal in prep for the next snow dump.

More later.

Rita in freezing CT

KJLaMore wrote: »

Sister passed away this morning. That's all I've got. Feeling low.

(((Hugs))) so sorry for your loss

Lillian

sherryminchagain love your minions and other cartoons. Giggles are good for the soul.

Lillian ...... temporarily on the Colorado River
And starting to get homesick

Hi folks! New to the group. Became eligible for my AARP card last summer. Is there anything I should do on a regular basis with this group? Weekly weigh ins? Goal setting? Or is it mostly motivation and support? I like the way you've all gotten to know each other on a more personal basis and lend support to life issues as well as food issues.

Is this the post for stronglifts for women 50+ or am I at the wrong board? I'd l like to join it but it seems to be about personal matters. Please direct me. Thanks

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