Has anyone become attractive after losing weight? If so then tell me..
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Look_Its_Kriss wrote: »Yes, people are more attractive at a normal healthy body weight. That's not to say overweight people are not also attractive. But I think a healthy weight does make someone more attractive.
I'm sorry but.. there is tons of normal healthy weight people out there who treat people like garbage, they abuse animals, they mistreat their family, lie, step on the little person to get what they want... those are things to ME that makes a person very unattractive, regardless of size, the idea of just purely assessing someone based solely on their outward appearance baffles me, the outside shell of a person should not give them some kind of sliding scale of attractiveness and worth. Calling someone "attractive but less attractive then normal weight people" is still demeaning to who they are.
Physical attractiveness and being a good person are two different things.
And if it's a shell... then how is it demeaning to talk about the shell? That means they're not even talking about who that person is. (See where that logic fails?)
Besides... no one here is talking about worth. Or degrading overweight people. (Btw... most of us posting are overweight.)
Seems like most of the people here seem to agree that attractiveness is more than one's weight. But I doubt anyone here would said it has nothing to do with it. There is attractiveness in a well tended garden. The same goes for a well tended body.13 -
For me, yes. Definitely. I went from 220 to 160. I didn't feel like I really looked any different, but I started getting lots of attention.1
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I was always a thin person growing up until I started having children and was a thin person before my last child was born 7 years ago. I actually think I look okay both overweight and when I'm at my ideal weight.
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Do I think I became more attractive? Maybe. I'm certainly happier with myself and perhaps that projects itself into more confidence which some people will interpret as attractive.
However, I would not use that as a motivation to exercise or become healthier or lose weight. Not only is it incredibly subjective, but it also might lead people to a false expectation. Maybe your face will have more lines or wrinkles after losing weight because there's no fat to fill them. Maybe you'll have stretch marks you never were able to notice before. Anyway, that's my take on it.1 -
akshaygunjal96 wrote: »I have heard stories that people become attractive after losing weight. I want to see whether anyone of you has ever experienced this. Honest answers will be appreciated. Thnx
i think that when you lose fat and become more fit, you get a big confidence boost that comes from real accomplishment. confidence is more attractive than physical appearance.3 -
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I think that I look better....i think that most who lose weight think they look better.3
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Look_Its_Kriss wrote: »Fine, if you all wanna discuss the shell of a person.. be my guest.
But i stick to my thoughts.. a persons self worth and over all value of themselves goes down the tubes when the impression is that people with healthier body weights are more attractive then they are..
Gardens don't have feelings.
Im out of this conversation though.. have a good one.
I think there was a miscommunication along the way and I'm sorry for that.
I'm going to be frank... OP has feelings too. He seems to be a fairly sensitive guy who was surprised and appalled when someone earlier in the thread became upset.
Compassion and understanding is emotionally easier than demonizing.14 -
Yes. My face is far less puffy and I get less breakouts. For me personally, I'm more attractive in that when I'm feeling good about myself, I'm happier and I smile more. When I physically feel like garbage, as I do when I'm carrying extra weight, I'm not as happy, I don't smile as often, my posture sucks, I have a double chin...the list goes on. Of course, I've seen people who physically I thought looked better with a little more weight on them but that is obviously subjective. What I find attractive, other people may not. Some people may think I look gross skinnier, lol. But personally, I feel my face is one of the first places to show my progress.2
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Loosing weight did not change how people treated me for the better. I admit I THOUGHT I would be viewed as more attractive and would be more accepted (it's a common cliche in American movies, right?!). The only thing I faced was more sexism (in that people assumed the skinny me couldn't lift/carry heavy things more intensely than when I was heavy, which was an issue because that was a skill in my line of work). However, my body feels better which outweighs all the noise from the rest of the world.3
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Outward appearance and therefore weight is physical attraction. This is going to depend on your personal preference, but my guess is that the average person, given a free choice, is going to be more physically attracted to a person that is in a healthy weight range vs. a person that is at an unhealthy weight, high or low. There are plenty of exceptions of course, but IMO, we are programmed to seek out a mate that is a healthy weight, when our own self confidence and self esteem provides the tools for doing so. The personality that goes with the person is a big factor, but it's independent of the physical attraction, although it could both compliment it or negate it to some degree as well.5
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JohnnyPenso wrote: »Outward appearance and therefore weight is physical attraction. This is going to depend on your personal preference, but my guess is that the average person, given a free choice, is going to be more physically attracted to a person that is in a healthy weight range vs. a person that is at an unhealthy weight, high or low. There are plenty of exceptions of course, but IMO, we are programmed to seek out a mate that is a healthy weight, when our own self confidence and self esteem provides the tools for doing so. The personality that goes with the person is a big factor, but it's independent of the physical attraction, although it could both compliment it or negate it to some degree as well.
What I find hilarious is that I view myself as more attractive when I'm skinnier, but physically I'm attracted to larger guys. Go figure.0 -
Idk why anyone is confused by this post . YES YOU GET MORE ATTRACTIVE. absolutely . Being over weight is fine . It's life . No one judges. But yes . ANYONE is not attractive thinner.
So yes.
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With that said .My girlfriend is the first "over weight " girl I ever dated and I like her more than ANYONE I ever met. So ......To strangers yes u will look more attractive......But the people in your life should of always thought so. good luck big guy3
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I'm waaaaaay more attractive when I'm thin. And self esteem is way high! Confidence is very attractive! In a few months I'm hoping to feel that way again.3
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Depends who you're attracting really. Am I conventionally more attractive to a broader group of people? Probably. The exponential increase in catcalls for every 10lbs lost would indicate that to be the case and quite frankly it's an absolute pain the *kitten*. But I've always had it at some level regardless of size. Even when looking a total mess.
I don't think there is anything wrong with vanity at any size or striving to be the most attractive you can be. As long as that isn't your only goal in life and every bit of your self worth and self esteem is wrapped up in that.
and I'm not sure it's appropriate to say to someone, yay, go exercise, you want to be attractive right?! is really the sort of motivation one needs. It could dent someones already poor self esteem because no, attractiveness isn't all about size.2 -
People are more attractive when they are comfortable with who they are. Since losing weight can help you become a happier, more confident person, then I can see why someone might seem more attractive after they lose weight if they were miserable with low self esteem before the weight loss. It's that sparkle of light/joy in the eye that makes someone attractive to me.0
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I think generally people are more attractive when they lose weight, partly physical and partly attitude.6
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I think there was a miscommunication along the way and I'm sorry for that.
I'm going to be frank... OP has feelings too. He seems to be a fairly sensitive guy who was surprised and appalled when someone earlier in the thread became upset.
Compassion and understanding is emotionally easier than demonizing. [/quote]
Exactly
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I've know people that have lost a lot of weight and look amazing, but became *kitten*-holes because of the crowd they now hang with. It's kind of sad.2
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perkymommy wrote: »
Lol thank you!1 -
I would say not a huge difference for me. I don't feel wildly attractive.
I look the same to myself when I look in the mirror. I feel better physically. I may be a bit more outgoing.
My spouse gives me the same amount of compliments and attention as he did before I lost weight. He has commented that I seem to have more energy.
I have not become more attractive to society that I have noticed.2 -
I think that a lot of people associate health with attraction. We're biologically made to seek out healthy partners so that our offspring have the best chance of surviving. So psychologically and generally, yes, losing weight and becoming healthy makes you're more attractive. But everyone has their own types and preferences so it's very subjective and can't be answered with a simple yes or no.3
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akshaygunjal96 wrote: »I have heard stories that people become attractive after losing weight. I want to see whether anyone of you has ever experienced this. Honest answers will be appreciated. Thnx
In my experience, yes.
Clearly different people find different things attractive but on a general level I got much more interest after I lost weight.
Incidentally, it wasn't because my confidence level grew either because it didn't. It took a number of years before I got my head straight.4 -
andrea4736 wrote: »JohnnyPenso wrote: »Outward appearance and therefore weight is physical attraction. This is going to depend on your personal preference, but my guess is that the average person, given a free choice, is going to be more physically attracted to a person that is in a healthy weight range vs. a person that is at an unhealthy weight, high or low. There are plenty of exceptions of course, but IMO, we are programmed to seek out a mate that is a healthy weight, when our own self confidence and self esteem provides the tools for doing so. The personality that goes with the person is a big factor, but it's independent of the physical attraction, although it could both compliment it or negate it to some degree as well.
What I find hilarious is that I view myself as more attractive when I'm skinnier, but physically I'm attracted to larger guys. Go figure.
This is definitely me, although I never really consider myself attractive. I'm drawn to men who are larger than life, like John Candy or Brian Blessed.2 -
For me I still look like I was beaten with an ugly stick but now it looks like I was able to fight back while it happened.12
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