WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2017
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A date night last year with my guy in his Fedora, double breasted suit, saddle shoes and his pocket watch. I'm in the wiggle dress!
Ha!
Becca
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Heather - What is a 5:2 diet?0
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Accountability Post
March Goals
Thursday's Progress (3/23)
1. Carbs 50-75g (limit 25g/meal)
(B9, D87, BBS68= 165g)
2. Fiber 30g (12g)
✔3. Track/complete entry daily
4. Vegetables - big salad daily
5. Exercise - log 30 Fitbit minutes.
6. No eating after 9pm.
7. In bed by midnight.
8. Declutter: ✔Office Supplies, Electronics, Music, Craft Supplies, Cleaning Supplies, ✔Utility Drawer, Utility Closet
Didn't plan well on Thursday and had a late night binge.
Today was better than yesterday.
I hope you all had a great day!
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Chris in MA - what an up and down time you've had lately!
So sorry for the loss of your dog.
Congrats on being the lowest weight in 25 years.
Mia in MI1 -
Michele – I think it is: "Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?”
My oldest sister told me not long ago; when I had something to say about my DDnL#1 was (for ‘every’ bad thought or something I said’), I needed to write something ‘positive’ … even if it is the ‘same thing’. It’s been the same thing for 5 months; hasn’t change, might not ever. I really do not ‘think’ that there is any love left between our oldest son and she and it is showing by the things she says and does on a multi-time daily occasion. She ‘thinks’ she is to ‘blame for it’; in a lot of ways, she is. But, DOS would not put his ‘foot down’ and ‘stop it’ and ‘now it has caught up with them’. Now, we’ve been forced to take the “Tough Love” approach because if we don’t we’ll be dragged down, too. Hate it for them, it has certainly been a ‘humbling’ experience (at least for my son). Loaned him the money and told him that to pay it back; I won't pay what I had been towards children's tuition and mark it off each month. He was agreeable to it; and, I am not changing my mind.
I finally told him last weekend to “Shut the (*^*&_) up; I was tired of all the negativity; it was affecting everyone around them.” I finally broke the silence by telling him that it was going to be HARD and he said, that the marriage was barely hanging on by a thread’. I told him to ‘not make any threats that he was not prepared to follow through with them’. The threats only make the girls not feel ‘safe and protected’. They needed to take their ‘arguments’ away from the house, if they had to.
DOGD went back ‘home’ because she was ‘tired of it’. I can’t say that I blame her much. She did meet her Daddy and Papa for lunch before she left. We’ve seen a totally different relationship between her and her step-mom. They got ‘into’ it a few weeks ago, about her dog (and finding a place that was pet-friendly). DDnL#1 told her they needed to just ‘get rid of her’. She said “She is my fur-baby; would you ‘get rid of one of your children’?” DDnL#1 told her that from ‘here on out’ … she could just talk to her Daddy; or better yet … talk to HER MOTHER! Sort of a ‘low blow’; but, Taylor said that regardless of what is going on now with her mother, she will always ‘keep the door open’ … she WAS her Mother!
I had told DDnL#1 when the custody change went into affect; that she needed to stop downgrading her Mother to her or in front of her. Because one day they might ‘make up’ and she would be hurt because she would not be needed. One of the things my DMnL told me was ‘never tell my DH’s daughter why her parents got a divorce’ and I never did. Her aunt did; her own Mother's sister. I told her, well ... maybe she knew, I had not been around at the time, so I did not know. Family dynamics are sometimes a very touchy subject. Hope you can ‘let go, and let God’ deal with Denise. It is ‘out of your hands’. You’re right, if you keep ‘letting her hurt you’, you are ‘giving her the power over how you feel’. Sometimes you have to be a bit selfish to protect yourself.--The Flavor of Me—
My life as I see it is some sort of Pie –
The question I have is -- “What flavor am I?”
Each piece I have given with love don’t you see?
Now I turn and I find – There’s NO Piece For Me!(Written in 1987)“You’re Selfish!” – You say; but I laugh when you do!
If I’m NOT Good to ME – I Can’t BE to YOU!
My feelings are valid – Acknowledge – Don’t Kill”
No room to express them – “That’s No Way to DEAL!”
They’re not Right! They’re not Wrong! Allow me to Feel!
Be Me! Be Myself! – And to know that I’m REAL!
I’ve thought about walking – Just saying “Good-bye!”
I’m New and Improved – I’m Much Better – NO Lie!
Chameleon – This Woman! – I change with each Day!
New spice – different Flavor – same Pie! You Don’t say!!!
You don’t like it? – Too Bad! – I’m sorry! – That’s Tough!
There’s someone who’ll take me – Who can’t get ENOUGH!!!
My question of Life? – This Magnificent Pie?
The question to Ponder – “What flavor am I?”
The Answer? The Flavor? It’s Simple, you see!
The first Damn piece will go DIRECTLY to ME!(Written in September, 1989)The flavor of Life? It’s both bitter and sweet!
I’ve added New Spice – By the People I Meet!
“You’re friends with THAT person? HOW DO YOU DARE?”
“Because I’ve entertained ANGELS!!!! MOST – UNAWARE!"(Written in October, 1997)
Lenora M. André ©5 -
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First paragraph was a little after I found out the 'diagnosis' that I was going through was that I am "Bipolar". The following paragraphs were written after a long time of getting the 'proper' type of help and getting my medication cocktail 'tweaked' so that I stopped swinging to the manic side and slamming down on what felt like a frozen pond. I've only once or twice, broken through that frozen pond and felt the awful feeling of depression. The last paragraph is how I feel when I 'feel good about myself'. I have this poem hanging in my computer room; and, I know I have come so much further since 1997. I've had my moments; there have been times I have had to be admitted into the hospital; usually when my medications are not working for me. I do NOT do well when I am physically ill or if someone has really upset me or made me mad.
I've had some AWFUL psychiatrists. The worst was one that sent me to a State-run facility (for criminals) after telling me 'she'd fix me'. All I had done was 'ask her to at least turn around and look at me when I was talking to her'. She made me MAD after being in that facility and getting 'assaulted' on several occasions. I liked the MD I had down there and when he told me I should have NEVER been transferred there ... he also gave me the address of the State Composite Board of Medical Examiner; and, while this woman apparently 'thought' I was 'stupid' (since her attitude was that 'anybody' with a 'mental disorder' had to be) ... I showed her. "I don't get mad; I GET EVEN!" I reported her; my former boss had read over my complaint (of 2 1/2 months of a revolving door in-and-out 10-day hospitalizations with less than 5 days between them. There was no way to get better with that sort of treatment.
When her contract with the hospital ran out; they did NOT renew it and she does not have 'hospital privileges'. I won't go to a psychiatrist that doesn't have 'hospital privileges' ... that isn't what will help you. She has bounced around in different towns and different practices. I got as far as the 'Investigative Board' (which my former boss had told me they probably would not do anything about her, not even a slap on the wrist). They told me that since my complaint had gotten that far, the complaint would forever stay in her records. She will NEVER do to another person, what she did to me - or she'll risk having her license revoked or on probation at the least. But, they did!
I now travel 2 hours to see a psychiatrist 4x a year; because he isn't associated with this particular hospital. He is also a professor at the Medical Center there. I absolutely 'love' and 'trust' him. I not only have his office and answering service numbers; I also have his cell phone # in case of an emergency.
I can also get together with several of my former HS classmates and have lunch with them. I really look forward to this little treat. MDs are NOT gods; but, unfortunately some think they are "GOD" ... Some that I have been 'assigned' to while in the hospital have been 'horrific' beyond imagination.
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Marni in AK: It is good to see you! Enjoy your sunshine. We have DEEP water and rain at the moment. Luckily the river is still within its banks and many feet below my house.
Chris in MA: I am also sorry about the loss of your son & daughter in law's dog. Our dogs add so much love & companionship to our lives. It is good to know that you still have Jake to brighten your lives.
Lanette: I was in Junior High when JFK was assassinated. They sent us all home on foot. No busses or anything. They did the same thing when we had a horrific windstorm. In my teaching days, that wouldn't have happened. :noway: In an emergency, we took care of the kids until someone came for them. The explosion of the Challenger was the event that stood out most while I was teaching. We had the kids watching the space shuttle return on live TV. That was a tough one. We stayed with them until a parent picked them up. There didn't seem to be serious trouble in the days that followed. I'm not on facebook very much anymore. I stop by facebook occasionally to see how my friends are doing. Not as often as I stop by here, by a long way.
Denise: Welcome!
Becca: You & DH look great together on your date. :bigsmile:
Gloria: I love the little sleeping angels.
DH just took the last eye-drop following surgery. He has an appointment for getting new glasses in a couple of weeks. Yay! I am looking forward to a riding lesson tomorrow and a good night's sleep tonight.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
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Becca - Lovely picture of you and your DH.
Had a strange experience today. Was in a meeting of one of the volunteer boards I sit on. A woman came in that I had never met before. I rose and extended my hand in greeting, giving her my name. She pulled back, saying she had just washed her hands and doesn't do hand shakes. Didn't know quite how to respond, so I just sat back down. After thinking about it though, I had to snicker - she open the door and shut it after entering the room and I expect there were just as many germs on the door handle as on my hands. Oh well, it takes all kinds to make the world go round.
Hugs to everyone.
Paula Y.3 -
Heather great picture with your brother.
Chris sorry for the loss of your dog. I just saw Jackie too and wish it had been more about her outside of the assassination. I found it difficult to watch. It did make me think of the traumas in my life. I sure would not have wanted to be in the public eye when I went through my difficult stretches.
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Damn - Just lost my post! The times I have been coming out of an 'episode' ... I do not want to be around anybody. Just really upsets me when DDnL#1 treats me as if I am 'dangerous'. She can be very condescending with her remarks, too. One other thing that will make you lose you post, is ... when you drop your stupid mouse. I have a wireless one, and it just 'jumps' off the arm of my chair.
Not long ago, she came over (again to 'clear the air' of 17 years of resentment) ... Louis was home, so I let him do 'all the talking'. However, she 'did' admit that it was 'wrong of her to compare herself to DDnL#2'.
Lenora1 -
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Hugs! My dear sweet, wonderful Lenora!!
Becca
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Becca - you and that dude look great together. Where did he get the double breasted suit? Vince was looking for one and couldn't find one.
Lenora - beautiful poem. Trusting your MD is very important
Can't sleep right now. Probably because I had some of the chocolate from this dessert I made for Vince to have in the freezer for whenever I get home.
Michele in NC
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Beth near Buffalo.
Carol, Lenora and Michele I added you onto Facebook! If any of you want to add Mr, please tell me the name to look out for or I might just delete the friends request. My name is Becca Gossett and I have strawberries three huge ones in my hand as a profile pic.
Hugs my sweet ladies!
Becca
Oregon
Becca, Love - for you, I might actually open a Facebook account... LOL. Of course, I get to keep up with you here, so, I probably won't.
Sorry your Sis is such a pill.
xo
Re in TX2 -
Paula Y - LOVE the new profile pic! Darling, you look MAHVELOUS!1
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Denise - Welcome!
You will find that there are all sorts of ladies, here - on all sorts of journeys.
I, for one, have been fat for my entire life - and at 205 - I am down to the weight I was in my first year of college.
Some of us are bookish - some of us are athletic - some of us are artists - some of us are dancers... We really do have it all, here. We get along like old friends, because we try to keep our minds and our hearts open - and we do our best to keep our input Loving.
Here we acknowledge, daily, that there IS more to life than just losing weight... we celebrate the whole thing... ups, downs and the all arounds.
Welcome and enjoy your journey, with us.
Hugs,
Re in TX4 -
Good Morning, Girls...
It's two am - about the time I usually fall into bed - but, I wanted to check in with you.
I had a mini NSV tonight...
I did my usual Friday thing. Jammie Day - and got ready to go to the gym and then out for Tacos.
DH tried to welch on going to the gym - but, I guilted him into going by telling him that I needed 15 minutes on the elliptical... He didn't have to exercise - but I was going to.
At that point, he grumbled and said he would give me 30 minutes - and he did his time on the bike.... But - that's not even the NSV...
He was anxious to go eat, you see... as was I. I LOVE my tacos... Barbacoa beef, Green Chili Pork... guacamole - it was awesome. And because I had gotten in my time on the elliptical - I even had room in my calories for two of my little chocolate sticks. (an Aldi product - tiny individually wrapped finger sized chocolate bars with hazelnuts - 105 calories each.) I logged two of them, thinking surely I would reach down and grab them, in a few minutes...
But, I got distracted and forgot to eat them!! (Yes, Ladies, forgetting to eat chocolate is a VICTORY!!)
So... I got to leave some calories on the table - as I won't eat the chocolate right before I drop off to sleep - and I didn't eat them, just because I could.
So, now... I go to sleep the sleep of the pure at heart... and dream the dreams of the virtuous.
Goodnight, Dear Ones..
Hugs for Everybody!
Re in TX
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Yay Re!!!
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