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LittleHearseDriver wrote: »@_unsteady_ If things aren't going right I'll say " Come on, work with me Mr/Mrs _______"
I do a lot of thinking when we have a young person . I think about all the potential that has been lost and wonder how their lives would be different if they wouldn't have died.
This makes me feel better a bit. My 9 year old son died several weeks ago, and hearing that the people who worked on him may have thought about his life and the what could have been makes me feel better somehow.17 -
LittleHearseDriver wrote: »SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »@LittleHearseDriver , you are very attractive. So my question is this:
Has a man (or woman) who is burying their spouse ever hit on you at the service?
"Not sure if you're doing anything tonight but I'm free as soon as we're done here"
I have received some questionable hugs, but I haven't had a spouse hit on me. A lady's son gave me his card and told me to call him if I'm ever in Denver. He said he'd like to take me out to dinner. I couldnt tell if he was just being nice or hitting on me because he was in his 50s.
Old men like that are creepy2 -
katanaavion wrote: »LittleHearseDriver wrote: »@_unsteady_ If things aren't going right I'll say " Come on, work with me Mr/Mrs _______"
I do a lot of thinking when we have a young person . I think about all the potential that has been lost and wonder how their lives would be different if they wouldn't have died.
This makes me feel better a bit. My 9 year old son died several weeks ago, and hearing that the people who worked on him may have thought about his life and the what could have been makes me feel better somehow.
I'm so sorry for your loss... I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. *hugs*1 -
katanaavion wrote: »LittleHearseDriver wrote: »@_unsteady_ If things aren't going right I'll say " Come on, work with me Mr/Mrs _______"
I do a lot of thinking when we have a young person . I think about all the potential that has been lost and wonder how their lives would be different if they wouldn't have died.
This makes me feel better a bit. My 9 year old son died several weeks ago, and hearing that the people who worked on him may have thought about his life and the what could have been makes me feel better somehow.
Oh.... wow. That's terrible. Godspeed.0 -
When my grandpa was in the hospital, he was suffering from a bit of medicine induced dementia. He kept telling us to straighten his legs. Over and over. "Straighten my legs! "
When we asked him why, he finally answered that if they're not straight when rigor mortis kicks in, they're going to have to cut them off to get him in the box.
We tried to convince him this wasn't true...
It isn't, right? Haha1 -
I don't know. Most normal people probably couldn't do what you do. I believe it takes a certain type of person.LittleHearseDriver wrote: »Have you ever grabbed something from your "dead room" and almost eat it by mistake?
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LittleHearseDriver wrote: »Hydrolysis is basically boiling the body instead of burning it...
So they basically make soup - like a kind of "bone broth" so to speak...
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katanaavion wrote: »LittleHearseDriver wrote: »@_unsteady_ If things aren't going right I'll say " Come on, work with me Mr/Mrs _______"
I do a lot of thinking when we have a young person . I think about all the potential that has been lost and wonder how their lives would be different if they wouldn't have died.
This makes me feel better a bit. My 9 year old son died several weeks ago, and hearing that the people who worked on him may have thought about his life and the what could have been makes me feel better somehow.
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FindingAwesome wrote: »When my grandpa was in the hospital, he was suffering from a bit of medicine induced dementia. He kept telling us to straighten his legs. Over and over. "Straighten my legs! "
When we asked him why, he finally answered that if they're not straight when rigor mortis kicks in, they're going to have to cut them off to get him in the box.
We tried to convince him this wasn't true...
It isn't, right? Haha
Bless his heart! No, that isn't true.katanaavion wrote: »LittleHearseDriver wrote: »@_unsteady_ If things aren't going right I'll say " Come on, work with me Mr/Mrs _______"
I do a lot of thinking when we have a young person . I think about all the potential that has been lost and wonder how their lives would be different if they wouldn't have died.
This makes me feel better a bit. My 9 year old son died several weeks ago, and hearing that the people who worked on him may have thought about his life and the what could have been makes me feel better somehow.
*hugs*People who lose a spouse are called widows and children who lose their parents are called orphans, but there is no word for a parent who loses a child because we are naturally supposed to go first. I can't imagine the grief you are going through, it's a loss like no other.
If you need to vent, I'm here.15 -
LittleHearseDriver wrote: »SoulRadiation wrote: »Has your work as a mortician affected your philosophical outlook on life?
I have previously struggled with the though of death for myself and those that I love. I feel like I have come to a certain peace with the way things are, although I still find the nature of life somewhat malevolent...I can accept my own place as part of it as I myself can be malevolent and not entirely peaceful.
Do you think much about existentialism? I was a philosophy major in school...I'm now a programmer, although it's a topic I often revisit mentally...often forced or prompted through the death of a loved one. I have been a lifelong reader of philosophical and religious works, and the topic of death is fairly described as universal to the human experience.
I don't mean to ramble...but the topic of existentialism isn't particularly well defined. I suppose I would ask, has working with the dead changed your idea about the nature of what you are as a 'self'...and if so, how?
In any case, I hope you have a wonderful afternoon.
My job has changed the way I look at people. I tend to see more bad than good especially when it comes to money. One family member doesn't want the other to know about life insurance so they can keep it all for themselves.... that sort of thing. Then there is the idolization bull crap when you die you automatically become a good person. Why can't people just be honest and real? For once I'd love for someone to say " Tammy had a hard time keeping her legs closed, but she made the best damn cheesecake I ever had."
I confess I had to Google existentialism. I'm kind of confused what you are asking.I think we all determine our own fate by the choices we make everyday. I think we never truly know how much of an impact we have on those around us.thielke2015 wrote: »Hi @LittleHearseDriver I have 2 questions.
1.) once rigor Mortis sets in is it perminant? Or is it temporary ?
2.) is it true that if someone has a pacemaker it needs to be removed prior to cremation otherwise it will blow up?
Rigor mortis can be relieved by moving the limbs. If the body has been in that position for longer than 24 hours, it can become permanent.
Yes, it is true. The pacemaker will explode and cause damage to the retort if it isn't removed.
Omg, at my friend's grandmother's funeral the priest said "Well, we all know Betty was a bitter woman...." lmao, the priest couldn't find something nice to say! Her family was not offended, btw, they were just like 'yup, she was'6 -
When my brother died we saw him a few days later in his casket. His lips were glued (or sewn) shut and he was ice cold. It was horrifying for me. I guess other people get some comfort from seeing their loved one one last time but I would rather have not experienced that.
I appreciate the work you do.2 -
I'm not sure if you know this or not, but who does the scene clean up after a particularly bad removal? I'm thinking someone who died but wasn't found for a couple weeks, or a murder scene or suicide. That's got to be a special kind of mess to deal with. Is that left to the family to take care of? Are there people for hire that specialize in cleaning up? Just curious.
Thanks for all the answers you are providing here. Love this thread so much!1 -
LittleHearseDriver wrote: »My job has changed the way I look at people. I tend to see more bad than good especially when it comes to money. One family member doesn't want the other to know about life insurance so they can keep it all for themselves.... that sort of thing. Then there is the idolization bull crap when you die you automatically become a good person. Why can't people just be honest and real? For once I'd love for someone to say " Tammy had a hard time keeping her legs closed, but she made the best damn cheesecake I ever had."
I confess I had to Google existentialism. I'm kind of confused what you are asking.I think we all determine our own fate by the choices we make everyday. I think we never truly know how much of an impact we have on those around us.
That's very interesting. It makes perfect sense that financial concerns would surface to somebody who's constantly dealing with people who've passed on...unfortunately, a lot of people grow apart from their families and people probably don't do a very good job of leaving their affairs in the best legal order as a matter of course...so, any family divisions would run riot around the time of a death...and especially, if there's money on the table.
It's sad.
I've not had to bear the brunt of resolving an estate, yet...but it's something I'm not looking forward to very much. I've not always been on the best terms with my own brother, so...well, maybe it's just a recommendation to mend family fences where possible.
I don't mind the idolization aspect. Everybody has different religious and philosophical traditions and understandings about what is the purpose of a funeral, but my own is that it is for the living. They need to figure out how to grieve and accept the loss of the being of somebody they loved...imperfect or not. If that makes you better as a dead person...hey, they you can't be sued?
I don't want to be remembered, personally. Dust to dust.
Regarding existentialism...it's a weird topic. There is a lot of it regarding the idea of having a "free will" but that isn't really what I was wondering about (although, I'm always interested in that topic as well...being a nerd).
I was thinking more in the respect of visualizing yourself and coming to peace with trading places with the people who have passed on that you work with...really understanding that one day, you're going to die.
That's something I always push to the back of my mind, and I imagine it's something as a mortician you would not be able to easily do.
I don't have a specific question. I'm not sure there even is one to be formulated regarding existentialism. That's why it's so weird. "The nature of self and being". "Does seeing dead people all the time affect your nature of self?"
Just chit-chatting.
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jessiefrancine wrote: »I'm not sure if you know this or not, but who does the scene clean up after a particularly bad removal? I'm thinking someone who died but wasn't found for a couple weeks, or a murder scene or suicide. That's got to be a special kind of mess to deal with. Is that left to the family to take care of? Are there people for hire that specialize in cleaning up? Just curious.
Thanks for all the answers you are providing here. Love this thread so much!
There are disaster clean up services that the family can called take care of it.SoulRadiation wrote: »
I was thinking more in the respect of visualizing yourself and coming to peace with trading places with the people who have passed on that you work with...really understanding that one day, you're going to die.
"Does seeing dead people all the time affect your nature of self?"
I'm comfortable with the thought of dying one day. Most people in my age don't think about it or push it to the back of their minds because it's something they think they don't have to worry about. My job has made me realize that life is too short to spend it unhappy.6 -
@jessiefrancine wrote: »I'm not sure if you know this or not, but who does the scene clean up after a particularly bad removal? I'm thinking someone who died but wasn't found for a couple weeks, or a murder scene or suicide. That's got to be a special kind of mess to deal with. Is that left to the family to take care of? Are there people for hire that specialize in cleaning up? Just curious.
Thanks for all the answers you are providing here. Love this thread so much!
There is a movie starring Amy Adams, called Sunshine Cleaning Company (or something like that). That's what they do. It's a quirky movie. Entertaining.0 -
SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »@jessiefrancine wrote: »I'm not sure if you know this or not, but who does the scene clean up after a particularly bad removal? I'm thinking someone who died but wasn't found for a couple weeks, or a murder scene or suicide. That's got to be a special kind of mess to deal with. Is that left to the family to take care of? Are there people for hire that specialize in cleaning up? Just curious.
Thanks for all the answers you are providing here. Love this thread so much!
There is a movie starring Amy Adams, called Sunshine Cleaning Company (or something like that). That's what they do. It's a quirky movie. Entertaining.
I must find this movie!!!0 -
OutOfUserName wrote: »why cant i lay on a casket when im casket shopping lil hearse?
Who said you can't?1 -
So...erectile embalming stories. Go.
Also the *hush hush, keep on the DL* home furnace question...1 -
LittleHearseDriver wrote: »OutOfUserName wrote: »why cant i lay on a casket when im casket shopping lil hearse?
Who said you can't?
All the family members there seemed to be upset. To be fair that one was occupied.2 -
LittleHearseDriver wrote: »OutOfUserName wrote: »why cant i lay on a casket when im casket shopping lil hearse?
Who said you can't?
All the family members there seemed to be upset. To be fair that one was occupied.
I think when you took off your shirt and rubbed your boobs on the casket got them the most.MrStabbems wrote: »So...erectile embalming stories. Go.
Also the *hush hush, keep on the DL* home furnace question...
That is referred to as angel's lust and it's a myth. Sorry to burst your bubble. You can't have an erection if there is no blood flow.1
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