Is it ok to ask for credit score/report before first date
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mrwineismybf wrote: »Is there not some way women can weed out the men without being critized
Maybe, but I doubt this is the best way. You're going in to a romantic relationship, not a financial deal.6 -
FireTurtle75 wrote: »It's an interesting concept, but I don't think it will weed out the kind of people you are concerned about. It might weed out the ones that are fiscally foolish or had some financial bad luck. But not all of those people are messed up, they are just bad with money or they could have hit a really *kitten* row of circumstances.
A Rorschach test might be a better option. I mean if every answer to every ink blot they see is vagina, boobies or a naked picture of their mom, then you know you have one to weed out.
Ugh true...better option...makes sense...but where can i get those0 -
peppermintpudgy wrote: »Honestly you should get to know them. If they're asking for photos of your body before the first date, don't date them. Maybe if you volunteered somewhere or took some classes or something you might meet a good person with similar interests you could get to know. A credit report isn't really going to tell you anything.
True so if i meet someone hiking...cause i like hiking...good date material2 -
I don't really understand why you would want this information before a first date, what's it to you?
Are you planning on getting a mortgage with him before you've even dated once?
People can have good credit and make horrible decisions with money, I know several.
I also know a couple of people whose credit score is bad because of a divorce and having to pay a share of their spouses debts that they were unaware of...lovely people who got seriously screwed over. It would be a shame to not give these people a chance because of their spouses mistakes.9 -
laurenebargar wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »Friend and i discussed this and although im not into money it may help weed out some weirdos...thoughts?
so there are no weirdos with good credit?
I could be wrong because i cant find the article but I swear I read at one point that something like 70% of serial killers had an above average-excellent credit score
That's because they like to save money in the bank and their victims' teeth in a tiny, tin box.5 -
It's weird because to do a credit report you need a lot of personal info like former addresses, possibly SS number... I wouldn't give that away to someone I hadn't met. Also, asking for proof of financial valor would probably be looked down on because dating someone "just" for their money is usually socially unacceptable, although I understand that in a long-term relationship finances should be a factor.4
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mrwineismybf wrote: »peppermintpudgy wrote: »Honestly you should get to know them. If they're asking for photos of your body before the first date, don't date them. Maybe if you volunteered somewhere or took some classes or something you might meet a good person with similar interests you could get to know. A credit report isn't really going to tell you anything.
True so if i meet someone hiking...cause i like hiking...good date material
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All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...0
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peppermintpudgy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »peppermintpudgy wrote: »Honestly you should get to know them. If they're asking for photos of your body before the first date, don't date them. Maybe if you volunteered somewhere or took some classes or something you might meet a good person with similar interests you could get to know. A credit report isn't really going to tell you anything.
True so if i meet someone hiking...cause i like hiking...good date material
My fav so far...ill use this gif on my next dating app to intice and scare away0 -
abetterme9366 wrote: »I have excellent credit. But I'm still an *kitten*.
same here.....
just remember, when I cut you off on the freeway and then flip you the bird, that Porsche didn't finance itself.2 -
MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
What extremely personal questions do guys ask?
Pretty sure i cant say it on here0 -
mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
Personal questions such as? I'm curious what other people consider personal.
I hate being asked personal questions...it just shuts me down right away...I'll tell you about me when I feel comfortable! I hate being asked "tell me about yourself" my mind goes blank and I feel 'put on the spot'.
Questions I'd like to know (maybe not first date questions) is if there are any 'deal breakers', things I won't compromise on. From there I'd decide what type (if any) of a relationship was possible.1 -
mrwineismybf wrote: »MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
What extremely personal questions do guys ask?
Pretty sure i cant say it on here
You can, just choose your words carefullyMeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
What extremely personal questions do guys ask?
Pretty sure i cant say it on here
Well I can't draw a comparison for an equivalent question if I don't know what we're talking about
I'm so curious now
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mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
Personal questions such as? I'm curious what other people consider personal.
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How dare you ask that ! Hmmmmph!
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MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
What extremely personal questions do guys ask?
Pretty sure i cant say it on here
Well I can't draw a comparison for an equivalent question if I don't know what we're talking about
does one of the questions rhyme with: Firetruck?1 -
TeacupsAndToning wrote: »My first guess is what's your bra size
I have no problem with this one, but ask me what my hobbies or interests are and I shut down!0 -
Rhymes with luck, bits, and torn knee0
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TeacupsAndToning wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »My first guess is what's your bra size
I have no problem with this one, but ask me what my hobbies or interests are and I shut down!
Same here. Whenever someone says, "what's your favourite movie?" I literally remember zero movies that I've ever seen.
Same! I'm glad I'm not the only one.
Or sometimes the only thing that comes to mind is some random movie I watched a long time ago that I have no particular attachment to, but it's the only thing that comes to mind.0
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