WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2017

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Rori, are you in touch with Charleen? I miss her and her stunning quilts.

Janetr okc

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Tere Happy Birthday!

Dana, that is awful to experience. And right at retirement time. The group need to stay together to resolve it. No one better to help you through a tau,attic situation but the ones who went through it with you.

We have an exotic animal park not far from us and they have walk red, kangaroos, expect is birds and he's some snakes. Very interesting to go through. They have a lot of volunteers just sit with the animals so that the visitors can sit among the animal families, listen to them talk and watch them interact. But you are right there just inches from them. And yes, they are told that kangaroos have so,e pretty powerful legs. But the trainers are on constant watch. I think it is called Kntucky down under.

I don't know why but on a rare occurrence I am logged in as kigjuv or some,thing like that. So if you ever see that, it will be signed by me.

The extends family is hang an argue,EMT a pit where to hav Christ,as this year. The place we have had it the last several years is secure. One door in, one door out. But the rate is increased from $75 to $150. They advertise 2 stoves and yes there are two stoves but the oven doesn't work in one. When my sister called to see if they had fixed the appliances, they said we must not have lit the pilot light correctly. Ummmm they are electric. I don't think they have even been in the facility for awhile. So one of the churches my sister went to has a large fellowship hall and we are going to see it tomorrow. We have one person who is blind and liked the other place because he was familiar with it, never needed to ask for help,going to the bathroom. We have another family that has an autistic child and I guess when she gets overwhelmed she runs. So this new place has to have doors that will lock. But the blind guy doesn't like it. My sister likes his church because he cooks there every month for Brother's Keeper and knows the kitchen. It is professional grade. But the church is in a rough part of town and my sister's daughter doesn't like it because it isn't safe and she doesn't want her blind husband going down there.mthe Grandma of the autistic child doesn't like it because she would have to be pushed down a ramp in a wheel chair to get to the fellowship hall. But this one is free. I'm not going to ask about my church, there are no doors on the fellowship hall at all and any child can escape to any part of the building. But the date of the autistic child has left our family message group because the mom of all his kids and she is mom of other kids that my nephew have just given his name to. Anyway, she is in the message group and giving orders. So he left. But he wants videos of this building. The blind guy wants videos so his wife can approve. But this church is out by my house and also right out by all the motels our out of town guests stay. My brother says he will personally pay the whole $150 if it the best place for his grand kids. But it has a lousy kitchen. Now do any of these people help cook?? Well we really haven't asked much of them since they get in the morning of our dinner. They all bring things that can be purchased at home like all thpaper stuff, rolls, green. Ean that we then fix. All those things. I just want a happyChristmas like we did when my parents were alive. They would be ashamed of us. And the family is so big, we can no longer use our house to do gift giving and then just hang out. So they arrive, we Evansville girls fix the meal, have gifts and then everyone leaves. It's al in folding chairs. My sisters daughter is a fantastic southern cook and loves to cook that way and will praise her cooking all the way to the state fair which she gets ribbons. She is always posting her pictures on FB and bragging. My daughter real can't work with her anymore. One year she said she was going to make the mashed potatoes. Well we just use instant and know how to Doctor them up. So Jenny brings in 10 pounds of potatoes about 20 minutes before we are to eat and starts peelimg'!!!!!! I'm people, dimmer is going to be late but everything else is al past done. Plus Sh makes an apple pie which is horrible. It her Dad loves it so she brings it. So of Jenny is in the kitchen Michelle is not and her and one other are the main cooks. They have been cooking this same meal for many years and it is on a. Assembly line

Ok, sorry for the large whine

those beautiful pieces of pottery reminded me so much of Syvia. She was another one with a heart of gold. I miss her a bunch

Still sprinkling may get up to 80 tomorrow. May rain all day tomorrow. Charlie called out yard guy and cancelled him making this last Saturday. I think this week will defientley need it. But my plants are perking up!

Night, night, Joyce, Indiana

Hmmm... that was a lot longer post but most of it disappeared when I hit Post Reply. Odd.

Anyway, got to get off to work - first day back after 2 weeks hols. Hi ho hi ho!

Have a splendid day everyone.

Annie, Cambridge UK

Morning. Ladies
I am awake,went to sleep yesterday at 4 pm,Tom told me he was expecting a phone call from his lawyer, who knows what there cooking up.But have to be at court at 9 am.took the day off from work, but if we can get things settled I will go in after I get out.
This is going to be a wonky week Tom and Elena have the deposition on Weds morning, i dont know if I told you i wass in Bristol to drop off my laptop to toms cousin, was about 5 min from Elena's house,so i did a drive buy just to see where TomCat was visiting..
I wasn't home much yesterday so he was on his own with the boys..
Will fill you all in when I get back, I wouldn't put it past him to not show up and just send his lawyer..

welcome Anne from Rochester stick around and chat, we are a fairly friendly and yes, talkative bunch! I think it takes great courage to say enough with a job, good for you.

A rainy day ahead, have to make progress with my school work today and a rainy day is as good as any. We are headed to a 4 day trip to Montreal this coming weekend, looking forward to that. DD finishes summer job and starts packing For her sophomore year at college. Reality that she is going and I will be back at work is sinking in. Back to the to dos!

NYKAREN

Tere - Happy birthday! (belated, though it is)

Anne from Rochester - what NYKAREN said goes for me, too. Unhappy and angry is no way to spend your life, but so many just don't seem to have the courage to quit. Shows great strength, well done, you! And many good wishes for your next steps.

Janet R - So good to see your face. I understand that feeling of nothing to contribute. My only hope right this second is that my own dilemmas will help someone else face theirs, but my ability to actively help someone else with weight loss or exercise questions is zip at the moment. Mia's a beauty!

Allie - Thank you for checking in regularly, we worry with you up in the middle of all this.

Heather - hope you are having glorious fun on your cruise!

mikesmom1983 wrote: »

You have incredible self awareness and you are taking the steps that work for "you". Each one of us is different and there are so many different approaches, just as there are so many different women on this forum. I have incorporated bits and pieces of many of the successes expressed here which have helped me get to where I am. My hope is that I can return the favor in kind and help someone else. Chris in MA

Chris - thank you once more for that gracefully phrased nudge.

@lpina2mi Don't know what to call you, sorry! - you caught me on exactly the crux of my own dilemma, which you could not have known. I'm struggling to get to some form of balance. Restrictions on specific food categories aren't sustainable for me. (Others probably also struggle with this, but I can only answer for myself). I know this, because I have tried them all--restrictions inevitably trigger binge behaviors for me. I am trying to find a way of eating that I can live with now as well as for the rest of my life. And maintenance seems very, very far away right now.

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All that said, this discussion has brought one mini-epiphany for me. I'm resisting logging because I know that restricting calories doesn't just trigger a backlash, but rebound, adding more pounds back. Not saying I won't be logging my food again ever, but trying to help that inner deprived child understand that it's a tool and a means to an end.

Thank you all for all the pics of babies and flowers and the beauty and grace you bring to my life.

I do love y'all,
Lisa in West Texas

Karen and Lanette love the wildflower pictures.

Heather gorgeous picture of you. The happiness bubbles out of you.

(((Lisa)))

On Saturday went to a blessing ceremony of my neighbors for their daughter. They are Hmong. I was they only non-Hmong person there. I felt it was an honor to be invited. DH had another obligation, so he wasn't there. I had a delightful time and tried a lychee fruit for the first time. You definitely want to peel them before you eat them. They look like small red sea urchins. Delicious. I love how they come out for each other as a community. Wonderful.

While channel surfing last night I watched a wonderful talk and discussion show given by a man who due to an accident is in a wheelchair since the age of 13. The show was on our local PBS. His friend, teacher, and student also was part of the program. His friend had ALS and also was in a wheel chair. The theme of the talk was mind body connections. I wish I had recorded it. He and his friend were wonderful teachers. They had quite the discussion on how we are such a fix it and overcoming society. Sometimes this attitude gets in the way of healing. He talked about the importance of opening yourself to experience your world through your nervous system. It was fascinating to listen to him. It was like listening to a a blind man in the sense that when one loses their sight their other senses become stronger. His sense of self and the importance of connecting to yourself and others was heightened. He teaches yoga. It was like listening to a a yoga master.

Some of the practical take things he talked about was to lift your chest because it opens you up to experience. Become aware as you root your feet to the ground and become aware as your body talks to itself. Take the time to really experience the taste, texture, smell of your food. Become aware of the smells around you.

Many of his ideas rang with the idea of Mindfulness.

Rori he did talk about the importance of if you are dealing with someone with dementia or PT is to touch them frequently (if they are comfortable with that) to help them stay in the present. He explained that someone with dementia or post traumatic syndrome is struggling to stay in the present. Their minds are pulling them throughout their past. Touching them helps ground them to the present. One of the most touching moments of the talk was when he reached out to his friend and touched him. One could feel the healing exchanged between the two.

Margaret