All of my friends are getting bigger............
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kas1317
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I am 31, 5'1, CW 115, GW 112 (keeps bouncing back up bc I am not maintaining properly). I have been married a year and most of my friends are married, with or without kids, or in a long term committed relationship. EVERYONE is getting HUGE. Seeing friends from college or somewhere after a year or so, and they have gained 50 pounds. What is going on? Do they not care? Also, I would never FORCE diet advice on them, but if they ask or it come up, I say "MFP" and they say im pyscho etc and have no interest blah blah, takes too long, excuse. WHAT GIVES???
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That's their business.124
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RuNaRoUnDaFiEld wrote: »That's their business.
This.31 -
I once read that statistically, women are very likely to put on weight after the start of a long-term relationship. Wherever it was claimed it was because it comes naturally to someone dishing up food to give both adults exactly the same size of portion.
No idea if this is true, but it's interesting.26 -
How to lose friends: #1. Be skinnier than they are and tell them how to lose weight. So... keep hush no matter what.
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LOL, well they complain about it to me...that's why im asking *kitten*10
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oh weLL0
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HeliumIsNoble wrote: »I once read that statistically, women are very likely to put on weight after the start of a long-term relationship. Wherever it was claimed it was because it comes naturally to someone dishing up food to give both adults exactly the same size of portion.
No idea if this is true, but it's interesting.
This has happened to me twice, but was easily stopped when i realized portion sizes for men and women simply can't be the same (even if i want them to).
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To lazy to look this up and apparently iv'e lived in a dark fish bowl all my life, but why are people calling people kittens, and whats with the asterisk? Are you emulating the sound of a kitten? Is this a compliment since kittens are cute, fluffy and adorable or is it an insult because kittens are cute, fluffy and adorable? So many questions.
But almost everyone gains weight after school, having a job and a bazillion responsibilities and problems will do that to ya.11 -
Dr_Fishbowl wrote: »To lazy to look this up and apparently iv'e lived in a dark fish bowl all my life, but why are people calling people kittens, and whats with the asterisk, are you emulating the sound of a kitten? Is this a compliment since kittens are cute, fluffy and adorable or is it an insult because kittens are cute, fluffy and adorable? So many questions.
But almost everyone gains weight after school, having a job and a bazillion responsibilities and problems will do that to ya.
Kitten is the MFP way of editing out cursing.7 -
If they don't care why do you?11
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HeliumIsNoble wrote: »I once read that statistically, women are very likely to put on weight after the start of a long-term relationship. Wherever it was claimed it was because it comes naturally to someone dishing up food to give both adults exactly the same size of portion.
No idea if this is true, but it's interesting.
Yes, I have historically gained weight in new relationships. And I did used to split pizzas with my OH, then realized how foolish this was, given that he is a foot taller than me.9 -
Chef_Barbell wrote: »Dr_Fishbowl wrote: »To lazy to look this up and apparently iv'e lived in a dark fish bowl all my life, but why are people calling people kittens, and whats with the asterisk, are you emulating the sound of a kitten? Is this a compliment since kittens are cute, fluffy and adorable or is it an insult because kittens are cute, fluffy and adorable? So many questions.
But almost everyone gains weight after school, having a job and a bazillion responsibilities and problems will do that to ya.
Kitten is the MFP way of editing out cursing.
Yes, the swear filter used to be ****** which made a lot more sense. One April Fool's Day they went to *kitten* which would have been fine for a day, but they kept it despite community complaints, and it has caused confusion ever since.12 -
Kind of borrowing from 12-step groups, here. It's okay to talk about yourself and your experience; but not to offer unsolicited advice or tell them how to fix themselves. They have to want it and they have to make the leap.
If they ask, or complain, you can tell them how MFP helped you, changed your life;
Give them examples on how you have learned so much, why the forums are full of funny, helpful advice, etc.
Good luck.18 -
I am 31, 5'1, CW 115, GW 112 (keeps bouncing back up bc I am not maintaining properly). I have been married a year and most of my friends are married, with or without kids, or in a long term committed relationship. EVERYONE is getting HUGE. Seeing friends from college or somewhere after a year or so, and they have gained 50 pounds. What is going on? Do they not care? Also, I would never FORCE diet advice on them, but if they ask or it come up, I say "MFP" and they say im pyscho etc and have no interest blah blah, takes too long, excuse. WHAT GIVES???
Did you write the post below? If so it says you married in March which isn't a year ago, interestingly within a couple of months or so, there was a 9lb gain...so I guess you already know what gives....
I think the post about EVERYONE getting HUGE but not you is just a brag post.
Well done you, you lost your weight gain after your wedding, perhaps you could show your friends some compassionate and perhaps not be so judgemental about them. You have no idea what goes on in their lives, could be family or relationship issues, work issues, depression, children issues, emotional eating, etc etc...don't think for one minute they tell you everything about them.
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10558943/weight-gain-after-the-wedding
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I'm not sure if I should confess this, but I'm married to a sedentary vegetarian bloke who has a natural off-switch. He's one of those people who will never become anything over slightly overweight, however much cake you put in front of him. This isn't anything to do with a naturally high metabolism; it's his habits. He will only have cake after dinner, "because it wouldn't be enjoyable if you ate it all the time" and he always just stops after one slice because "he's full".
Any way, the upshot of all this is that since I raised my activity level to be two levels higher than his, and shrank my portion sizes to about his, I don't put on weight. Don't lose either, but I don't gain.
So that's what you need to do. Find a sedentary man with a small appetite, and exercise more than him.41 -
HeliumIsNoble wrote: »
So that's what you need to do. Find a sedentary man with a small appetite, and exercise more than him.
I am going to update my dating profile with this now - seeking slightly lazy man with no interest in food
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HeliumIsNoble wrote: »I'm not sure if I should confess this, but I'm married to a sedentary vegetarian bloke who has a natural off-switch. He's one of those people who will never become anything over slightly overweight, however much cake you put in front of him. This isn't anything to do with a naturally high metabolism; it's his habits. He will only have cake after dinner, "because it wouldn't be enjoyable if you ate it all the time" and he always just stops after one slice because "he's full".
Any way, the upshot of all this is that since I raised my activity level to be two levels higher than his, and shrank my portion sizes to about his, I don't put on weight. Don't lose either, but I don't gain.
So that's what you need to do. Find a sedentary man with a small appetite, and exercise more than him.
funny you mention this, this is exactly what i've done. 10 -
It really works!rainbowbow wrote: »HeliumIsNoble wrote: »I'm not sure if I should confess this, but I'm married to a sedentary vegetarian bloke who has a natural off-switch. He's one of those people who will never become anything over slightly overweight, however much cake you put in front of him. This isn't anything to do with a naturally high metabolism; it's his habits. He will only have cake after dinner, "because it wouldn't be enjoyable if you ate it all the time" and he always just stops after one slice because "he's full".
Any way, the upshot of all this is that since I raised my activity level to be two levels higher than his, and shrank my portion sizes to about his, I don't put on weight. Don't lose either, but I don't gain.
So that's what you need to do. Find a sedentary man with a small appetite, and exercise more than him.
funny you mention this, this is exactly what i've done.
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