WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2017

Heather: Your grandchildren's pictures always cheer me up, and also make me miss mine. They are so far away. :flowerforyou:

KJ: a number of films were made in or around Astoria. I liked Short Circuit and Kindergarden Cop. Here is a list that I found on the net:

The Goonies is about lost treasure and modern day pirates, and was filmed in numerous locations around Cannon Beach, Astoria, and highway 30, also
• One Flew Over The Cookoos Nest. henninghomepage. ...
• Kindergarten Cop. Giphy. ...
• Stand By Me. trespassmag. ...
• Short Circuit. oregonfilmmuseum.org. ...
• Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles 3. ComicsAlliance. ...
• Wild.

Okie Woman 510: Christmas has been sad and lonely the past few years with both of our kids far away and my DH too miserable with MS to travel. This year we are hoping to go to our son's place because he & his wife have a baby due on Christmas Day. We hope to see our daughter and her three kids on that same trip. We should start looking for airplane tickets soon. In fact, we should have started weeks ago.

Yoga today! I also have to take my VW to the dealer for work because a service light is on.

Katla in beautiful NW Oregon

Katia - I'm so sorry Christmas has been sad for you. I hope you are able to spend time with your children this year.

Okie in the TX Hill Country

To ALL the “Newbies” – On the last day of the month Barbiecat will post a ‘link’ that will take you to that page; make sure you ‘bookmark’ it by clicking on the outline of the star at the upper right-hand corner of the posts … it will turn ‘yellow’; after that when you hit the community on the Home page; it will take you to this thread (and any others you have ‘bookmarked’ in this way. That way you don’t have to go ‘searching for us’. When you get to the gray start (between the gear and bell) click on it and the ones you have bookmarked will show up as a drop down screen (by month – for us). Then just start reading and posting. A lot of us open up a word processing program and minimize each to put them side-by-side. This is an easy and almost foolproof way to make sure you post/responses are safe. When you get to the last page then cut the WPP typed responses and the ‘paste’ them to the yellow block that will be open. THEN, and only then you can close out the WPP and make any changes you want to make to your post, then post it. MFP ‘used’ to take you back to the first post after your last one. It is not doing it for me for some reason. What it seems to be doing is taking you to the top of the last page. One thing you cannot do is ‘go back’ if you have not save your post … you will lose it every time. It is probably a good idea to notice where you left off and who posted right before you. We are a large, very chatty group of women who welcome all women regardless of their age; but, most of us are 50 or above. It is nice if you sign your post with what you prefer to be called and give us a location (general or specific) so we’ll get to know you. We have several Karen’s and Virginia’s … so adding something different so we’ll know you are not the one we are used to. Give us as much personal information as you wish to share such as marital status, children/grandchildren, hobbies, goals, and that sort of thing. I won’t attempt to tell you how to add pictures because I do it so rarely; but, it has to do with the icon above your post. You’ll see others posting pictures, some as a full picture; others that you have to click on them to see them. We are here to encourage everybody. We sometimes ‘rant, rave, and vent’ about things or our weight or our family members. You’d see a lot of “D’s” before other things such as DH, DD, DS, DM, DMnL, etc. The “D” maybe mean “Dear”, “Damn”, “Darling” or “Dumb” or any other adjectives associated with that person. Most of the icons are pretty much self-explanatory. You can ‘highlight’ a post someone else has made and hit “Quote” and it will appear in your message. You can also delete all of it that you do not want to post again. There will the set of brackets “[“ with a letter and one at the end; do NOT remove these as they have meanings. If you want to add color you will type in a ‘color’ an ‘equal mark’; and change it back to ‘black’ by doing the same. I find that it helps others know quickly if someone has addressed them and they might want to skim over the rest of the post. IF anyone else has other tricks, jump right in. Some use ‘emoticons’. I don’t simply because my security will not allow me to. There is a way to send a ‘private message’ to another (using their avatar name) so that nobody else can see it. Please do not later on ‘post’ what a PM is on the site. That only causes ‘hard feelings’ (unless you have expressed permission of the person sending it to you). That is why it is ‘private’ … the envelop at the very top allows you to do this. We are women from all over the world, not just in America. We ‘try’ to stay away from topics of politics and religion; but, occasionally something will happen and it is discussed; but, only for a short period of time. IF you think a post should be removed you can ‘flag’ it; and, it will ask you ‘why’. Then it will be taken down or it won’t be and that is decided by Barbiecat … and she will check with several others about their ‘opinion’ and then remove it or not. I don’t know if she will contact you; but, we all ‘try’ not to be hurtful to anyone else as a ‘post’ to the site. You have to have made friends with the person you want to send a PM to; the ‘heads’ beside the envelop shows you that someone has asked to be your friend. Just jump right in and post so we can get to know you. You will find that some use words that you might not understand because they live in a different country. You will see a lot of people talking about IP … that is an InstanPot [Sp?] (pressure cooker) that some of us have … some not by this name; but, a pressure cooker just the same. I think I have touched on some of the simple things when in this site/thread.

Yvonne in TX – I have gone to a ‘new’ hair-stylist and the first time she cut my hair she did it exactly like my DDnL#2 out in Louisiana. I should have waited until we got out there to have it cut the 2nd time; but, it was so shaggy I gave in and went back. That time she got very scissor-happy – due to everybody being very talkative about a sad situation that had occurred 2 days before. I finally asked the nurse of my GYN where she got her hair cut and now I will be going to a ‘new’ one. My original one died the end of last year – suddenly; although he was in the hospital waiting for a lung. He was married and a year before she swerved to miss a deer in the road and it is a surprise she even lived. They had no children. She is in a nursing home and was doing better and he was ‘hoping he could bring her home’; but, that never happened. Went to another stylist in his shop; but, very unhappy with the way she cut it. I’ve shopped around for a good stylist that will ‘scrub’ my head when she washed it and be able to cut and maintain my ‘favorite’ hair-style. Sister said the different between a bad haircut and a good one is about 2 weeks. My DDnL#2 says – they usually say about 3 weeks (depending on the cut).

My Mother also passed away right before Christmas and “Silent Night” was one of the hymns sung at her ‘memorial service’ (she died on a Saturday afternoon, about 30 minutes too late to have it on Sunday afternoon). My oldest sister had major breast surgery and we had to put the funeral off until Wednesday before Christmas. I still miss her terribly. "Silent Night" was sung; and, now I cannot listen to it without bursting into tears.

My sons do NOT want me to dye my hair or anything like that; but it is mostly ‘white’ now; so I try not to be seen in public without some make-up on. I wish I could find a lipstick that I could not ‘lick off’. Even stains get licked off. My DDnL#2 had lipstick on one day when she and DYS went hunting and she posted pictures on FB and that was one of the first things her friends commented about. It is a stain that also had a gloss that sets it. I told her that I’d like a ‘coral’ color; but, she wrote back and said they had 3 and she was not comfortable picking one out. But, when we got there she was not feeling well and then the day after we left we got a call that she had miscarried. Going through IVF – this was the last embryo left; so they are taking it very hard. They have no answers so they are staying at the lake house and she has turned off her cellphone and social networking site at her OB’s order, so they can get to the point of grieving without everybody asking ‘why’. Lots of people were not told because of their going the IVF procedure; but, her Fallopian tubes are blocked, therefore that is their only chance for DYS to be given a baby. They’ve got to decide what their plans are and a lot of other things. We will wait until they call us, instead of calling them. She did call me and tell me that they were disengaging and therefore we should not worry. Neither of them have ever seen the other ‘cry’. I can’t imagine my son ‘crying’; but, I never knew that DDnL#2 and her daughter could get him to do a lot of things he now does. Love will make you do all sorts of things. I don’t and rarely have worn any foundation since my young teenage years; when I wore ‘pancake’ make-up to hide a birthmark on my neck. It has faded a lot since then and few people can see it unless they stare at me.

Joyce – Besides wearing a lot of reflective clothing … I agree that it is a good idea to tell someone you are living with what your route will be and what time to come home. I cannot imagine how the ‘notification’ came about. When Louis’ daughter lost her only child in a pedestrian accident; my sons found out ‘on the evening news’. What was so bad is that a 2nd ambulance had been dispatched and it ran into the one they were putting her in and knocked them off their feet. I was out-of-town ‘in training’ for my job. I had to go pick up my DMnL; and, the second I got to the door my DFnL threw the door open for me, grabbed me by the arm and told me, “Do NOT cry!” It was hard; but, I hope I never have to attend another funeral for a child. Now, we don’t even see or talk to them and they (new husband) have a child (through IVF) that we haven’t seen since she was about 14- or 15-months old. That was ‘her’ choice and while it ‘hurt’ … we let her go. She hasn’t made any attempt to contact us for any reason. I put my hand out only to be ‘totally ignored’. We were NOT happy that we found she had been terribly ‘greedy’ and did things that the guys had ‘undone’. But, my Daddy used to say, ‘nothing brings out the worst in people than someone dying that might have money or articles that someone things they are entitled to’.

That is one reason we changed our Wills. We have basic “I Love You – mirror Wills” other than his writes her out of his.

A HS friend of mine (actually an old boyfriend) and his wife and Louis and I sat together at our last reunion. They were talking about the time she took their bulldog for a walk and she had a heart attack and landed on the sidewalk. None of the neighbors who were leaving for work and saw it could get near her because of the dog who was only protecting her. When she did not come back in time to finish getting ready to go to work, he went looking for her and the ambulance was already there. Hitting the sidewalk is probably one thing that brought her back to consciousness. She ended up having 4 stints put in by open heart surgery. She was a 'young' woman, too. At least 12 or 13 years younger than we were, so she was in her late 40's or early 50's at the time. I liked her and was very happy to find out how happy he was. They brought him back from Vietnam when his Dad had a debilitating stroke. They had never gotten along. He said when he went into the room, he was sleeping and he bent over and asked him, 'You, B******; do you even know who I am'? He said his eyes popped open and told him, 'Yeah, you are Gary - my son'. Gary took him in until his death. He said that for the first time in his life he was actually like a Dad should be to a son. He had really had a hard time, was sort of like "The Little Man" to his Mother who was as sweet as she could be; but, any noise made her recoil. I late realized, and also told, that he was a bad alcoholic and a mean one at that.

Can “Stainless Steel” be cleaned? I wear a “Medic Alert” bracelet – could not afford a gold one; did not want a ‘silver’ one … but the chain must have a lot of body oil on it since it takes someone else to take it off and put it back on me.

I went to the grocery store yesterday and was 'shocked' to see how the shelves were so empty. I guess the FL evacuees bought what they could take home, knowing their stores would not be open or not have much food, it just never occurred to me before because this one is the first one that made even people as close as Tallahassee be evacuated.

Lenora

Good workout today. Swam 2850 meters total. 2150 crawl, then aquafit class, then 700 mixed strokes. There are a few sources suggesting that 1 mile swim is like 4 miles running (calorie and endurance wise) so that would be similar to 7 miles.

Rye

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I want to pipe in holiday plans in a nutshell for us. Thanksgiving for many years involves us going to the grocery store, and buying 4 or 5 Hungry Man Turkey dinners. My job is getting the frozen veggies out of the cranberry dessert! The fact that I am not cooking up a storm for a 30 minute eating experience, gives me great joy. I know it seems like I am "sticking it to the establishment of all that's Thanksgiving", but really I'm just mentally telling stuffing to "stuff it". Haha! If I had girls instead of all sons, this mindset might be different.

For Christmas its all up in the air if I decorate or not. My middle son and his wife move up to Vancouver Washington in November, and he wants to host his first Christmas. Ambitious of him! We might not have our other two Navy sons home, so my husband is hoping we won't decorate the place, for the first time ever. I am pondering this.

Day 3 of really doing this, and I have been victorious! Logging, drinking, walking, and I am in control of it all. I am proud of myself!
Love all of ya!
Becca
Oregon

Becca ~ Proud of your 3 day progress. Keep up the good work!

Meg ~ Prayers for you and your family!

Rye ~ Hope you will hear about the application.

Long day here! The weather is just wonderful but my knee is hurting more than usual.

Carol in GA

Christmas celebrations sometimes trouble me but when it a tiallycomes down to doing it, I am as happy as a lark. I just get to busy with getting it all doNe, will it be right, will everyone few along? But we always do. I'm just glad that no one loves that far away. My brother lives 6 hours away and he is th furthest. He makes a good salary and they usually stay 3 nights in a hotel. We do need to make some changes though. Everyone sits at the same tables. This is the only time we all are together and now that they are no longer at my house, people don't stay around. They go back to their own hotels. Orthopedic problems and ADHD problems ditches them leaving. So the John Peterson family sit together, the Paul Peyerson family sit together. I want to sit with my grandkids and Charlie wants to sit with me so that's another table. So my sister and her husband sit with her daughter and SIL. That leaves her other child and Michelle. They gave always felt they were the outcasts even though they are the main cooks. But they sit together. We need to change that up some way. But all these young kids do need to sit with their own parents. Ok, I'm not sure why I even wrote that. Just thoughts going throu my mind. Plus I am trying to put off going to get lab work done.

The ne hing that has to be done is for my brother to read the Christmas story from the Bible even if it is read from his phone. And then we sing carols. Unfortunately this is also a time when sme of the grandkids start snickering and bickering. But the oldest generation who is the core family will never give up this part of Christmas. It is Chriatmas.

Joyce, indiana

Inspiring Short video. Trying out Kim's link tips Still don't understand how to add color to highlight a name. Do I click on an icon at the top first? And how did Machka make her video show up without needing to link to it?

janetr7476 wrote: »

I put up Christmas trees in every room of my house including the two bathrooms. I do it if it is only Jack and I or the whole big bunch of extended family (his kids and mine and grands). I did it for all the years I was single and lived alone. I do it for me because I LOVE CHRISTMAS

Janetr OKC

I respect that, but I'm afraid I developed an attitude a couple years ago. I was the only one decorating and certainly the only one in my house cleaning up after, and it just really annoyed me. So I bought one of these.

It takes three minutes to put up, and I was done.

Now we have two of them, and we bought a small live tree. I put up the nativity, the magi travel around the living room. We didn't do stockings last year because we weren't home. My teenager fussed about that a little, but basically they all know better not to complain. If they want full-on decorating. They can do it. I'm over it.

I still love Christmas, but I prefer low-key.

Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon

Thank you for the wedding attire advice! I've been looking at pants just like those Karen NY!

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