Introverts Unite!!!

jenna_mikewolf wrote: »

scottma3 wrote: »

Ha :P Luckily I have a wife that is an extrovert thats makes me talk to people at parties even though Id rather sit in the corner with my drink and people watch.

I have times of extroversion and always drag my husband along!

So random question cause Im kinda new to MFP. Is there a way to activate notifications if someones comments on a comment youve made. I just happen to run across this today but its nice to see what others think of your comments sometimes.

Here's another one - add me

timtam163 wrote: »

Fellow member of the "wow I am at max absorption of other people" club! rowr.

I call that feeling 'saturation' and thankfully my husband is very good at recognising when I'm there and leaving me alone when I need it!

sfcrocker wrote: »

Best definition of introverts and extroverts I've heard:

Both introverts and extroverts like contact with people. When introverts are around people, their gas tank depletes and they need to refill it by being alone. When extroverts aren't around people, their gas tank depletes and they need to refill it by being around people.

I enjoy parties and socializing, but then need a day by myself to recover. I guess that makes me an introvert.

Yup - this is me!

I enjoy being alone, but I don't want to be alone ALL the time. But if I'm around people, most of the time I prefer to be on the sidelines watching them, and under no circumstances do I want to draw attention to myself!

Being around people definitely depletes my energy stores, and after a while, I'm looking for a bathroom stall for a few minutes of alone time lol

I like the anonymity of a keyboard on a message group, and will talk a person's ear off online with super long messages and posts. But in real life, face to face? I'm awkward usually. If its someone I'm comfortable around and its one on one, I'll talk a lot, but the more people are added to the group, the quieter I become. I rarely speak up in groups of 4 or me - myself included.

Then again, I don't have problems socializing with strangers. I'll carry a conversation with a person in line at the grocery store and tell them my life story and usually way more information than I should - IF I'm comfortable around them. Otherwise, I keep to myself.

As for personality type, I've never been tested and nowadays, its almost impossible to find free tests online to determine these things, but after reading through a few descriptions, I'd say I'm mostly ISFJ with perhaps a touch of INFJ. In temperament type, I'm definitely strongly melancholic, and, if you subscribe to the 5th type, a little supine as well and maybe a smallest hint of phlegmatic as I tend to not want to get involved in much.

Introverts do need their own support network and friends that understand they just want to stay in and binge watch netflix on a Friday or Saturday night instead of going out for a drink.

In a society where most people are expect to be extroverts understanding how introverts tick is very important as they many positive attributes to bring and if most people think about their best teacher or boss then they will have probably shown more introvert tenancies than extrovert ones. For example a good listener, not rushing in and making rash decisions, ask for everyone's perspective and taking the best one (so not just asking people's opinion for the sake of it), giving people credit when they could easily have taken it for themselves.

If you haven't read 'Quiet' by Susan Cain or watched the TED talk https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts both are well worth reading and watching.

Feel free to add me. I'm about the most introverted person I know, so I feel your pain!

Interesting thread, needing to read all of this! Thanks!

BruinsGal_91 wrote: »

hannahsmithmd wrote: »

Introverts do need their own support network and friends that understand they just want to stay in and binge watch netflix on a Friday or Saturday night instead of going out for a drink.

In a society where most people are expect to be extroverts understanding how introverts tick is very important as they many positive attributes to bring and if most people think about their best teacher or boss then they will have probably shown more introvert tenancies than extrovert ones. For example a good listener, not rushing in and making rash decisions, ask for everyone's perspective and taking the best one (so not just asking people's opinion for the sake of it), giving people credit when they could easily have taken it for themselves.

If you haven't read 'Quiet' by Susan Cain or watched the TED talk https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts both are well worth reading and watching.

'Quiet' is currently on my nightstand. My manager lent it to me; she's an introvert like me. In fact we both recently had to attend a two day team-building event (I hate these things with a passion) and she and I gave a presentation on introverts in the office and we showed that TED talk to the delegates. And yes, it was bloody hard work to get up on that stage.

I have a copy of Quiet but never got through it. Felt a bit self-indulgent, to be honest. Maybe I'll give it another try...

Not an INTJ but close , I am an INFJ introvert. I can deal with people in short bursts with prior warning but always need plenty of recovery time after.

hannahsmithmd wrote: »

Introverts do need their own support network and friends that understand they just want to stay in and binge watch netflix on a Friday or Saturday night instead of going out for a drink.

In a society where most people are expect to be extroverts understanding how introverts tick is very important as they many positive attributes to bring and if most people think about their best teacher or boss then they will have probably shown more introvert tenancies than extrovert ones. For example a good listener, not rushing in and making rash decisions, ask for everyone's perspective and taking the best one (so not just asking people's opinion for the sake of it), giving people credit when they could easily have taken it for themselves.

If you haven't read 'Quiet' by Susan Cain or watched the TED talk https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts both are well worth reading and watching.

I got the ebook but could never finish reading it... I was crying too much and had to pause so many times! This might sound weird, but I felt like in so many decades finally someone is speaking on my behalf (tears).

I’m still trying to get more info from this book so I can “educate” my also-introverted fiancé about the good qualities of ourselves.

(Yay it’s raining outside! Hot-drink-and-reading/workout time )

bmeadows380 wrote: »

I was given this link in another thread, which I found interesting:

https://www.16personalities.com/

it has its own definitions of the acronyms, and I had some trouble taking their assessment - I had trouble answering the questions and kept thinking "I don't know?" but though I'm not sure I agree with the outcome in some respects, one thing was clear - every time I take it, I get around 90% introvert lol

Yeah, I score differently each time I take it. Over the last 10 years, I've been an ISTJ, INFP, and most recently an ISFP... I think it depends on the phase of the moon or alien rays? Each time it agreed on the 90% introversion though. Whatever.

They needed an option to answer "yes, I do that shizz when it's required or when no one else will, but otherwise I'd rather sit on a chair of rusty nails in a thong bikini..."