WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2018

I think Lisa and Wendy got my husband so right. I really appreciated Wendy's comments about a mans lack of self anaysis. He is very careful to be a good friend to his good buddy from high school. Alan is obese, drinks a lot of beer while they a re out Karaoke, has had open heart surgery and is just not in good health. He has talked to him about his weight. So he is a real good friend to him. And he can be a very snsitive man with me. The man still won't let me go downstairs with my laundry or carry it upstairs. He says my blood pressure still fluctuates to much and I could get fainty. So if he sees my baskets to full he takes them and puta them in the wash, then dryer and brings them back up. Right now, most of my clothes are sweatshirts and jeans so they don't get wrinkled until I can hang them up. He carries in all the groceries, he doesn't want me to lift heavy things. So he does a lot to take care of me. I just wish he would talk to me about just stuff, not politics. I have asked him many things about things in his childhood and he doesn't remember. I just hope nothing terrible happened that he has had to repress. I know it is very important to call his siblings on their birthday. But that's about it. That's about all the communication they do. And he was a wonderful son with his Mom when she was in senior housing, nursing home , all the way up until her death. He took his Mom in mind when we got a new car. He asked himself if she could easily get into it. I don't now how many times that man took her wheel chair in and out of the car and lifted his Mom into it. He was the same with his Dad. His add looved searching for old LPs. So they would go to Goodwill, Salvation Army, thrift shops to look for old records. And he helped his Dad build this huge cabinet to put them in. Then they discovered Karaoke. His Dad had developed that condition of his eyes that his vision was extremely limited to a little pinhole. He found an adapter to take with him to karaoke and he could see the monitor. He helped his Dad build a whole karaoke system in his basement. They had carpet on the walls,mthe whole thing. So he is a good man. When we knew Mom needed a inpatient rehab center, he took my sister and I all over to at quite a few homes and had some very good input in choosing the right one for Mom. Along with my brother in law, he was willing for me and my sister to be the care givers in hospice for my Mom. We didn't need that but I love the two men for their sacrifice to let us be Moms caregivers. One of us would have had to be there with Mom 24 hours a day. That's a lot of time Norma and I would have to be away from our husbands.

My Mom was a preschool teacher for many years. Every church that Dad was a preacher in, Mom tried to open a preschool. The ages there was 3 and 4 year olds. They never had any set 'everyone sit at a table and we are going to do an activity'. She did have times that they had circle time and they were expected to sit and listen even if they had to sit on Moms lap. Mom had different areas that were learning centers. She had one assistant and the two of them would work with the kids in the different learning centers. They also had a snack time, followed by outside time on a playscape and then quiet time. Mom had a very quiet tape on, yes those were the days that tapes were played, and most of them slept at their desks for a short nap, her mission was to provide a quality preschool in the area the church was located at a lower than normal preschool price. It was all part of the outreach program of the church.

Christina is part of an online program that if you have soemthing that you no longer need, you put it on this site and it's knd of like first come first served. But it is arrange with the person getting the item when the item will be available. Usually it's just put out on the porch at the agreed time and he people don't meet. Some of the things she has got is near new or new. It is expected to be part of this group that you also do the same thing and offer things free. Trinities clothes are all held for Ellie but pretty much everything Elllie grows out of or doesn't want anymore are saved to give free. I finally thought of the name of this group. All things in common. I think quite a few. I ties have it. Here in Evansville we have a facebook group called Swap till you drop. You put what you have to swap and you have an 'in search of' list on your page. A group of SUVs meet every Saturday at one of our malls with their trunks open and every one and every one does their swaps.

I'm done for the night, Joyce, Indiana

DamitJanit wrote: »

Hello my friends,
I am at the SC state convention for the weekend. We are on a break and I just wanted to stop in and say hi. I think of you all daily and hope that you are each doing well.

Much love,
DJ
chilly Myrtle Beach, SC

Miss you much Janet #1, hope things settle down and you can visit more often. Enjoy your conference

Janetr OKC

Morning ladies, raining here today but mild thank goodness.

RORI you are so organised, looks like you have this retirement stuff nailed.

My baby brother (he is 15 yrs tounger than me) is about to become a grandad for the 3rd time. Can't believe I used to take him out in his pram. We really tease him about how he looks on our wedding photo when he was 5 LOL.
More somber news was that his MIL has only days to live and his wife is with her, I love my DSIL but her Mum was not a nice person and sometimes I resent the fact that she has lived so long and my Mum died so young. Not very Christian I know but there it is.

My DD is coming from Birmingham today with the 2 grands (or maybe only 1 as 17 yo has EDS and frequently is in too much pain or exhaustion to travel) as well as being a stroppy teen, we all know what that's like.

Off to do exercise and then sort out sleeping arrangements as well as getting ready for our Spain trip. Stressed as I don't enjoy disruptions to my plans, I do enjoy change when it happens but not thinking about it. Of course I'm looking forward to seeing them just wish it wasn't this weekend (I'm awful I know)

Happy Saturday
Kate UK

Kylia - Sounds like it might be time to resign from the family business! Families, eh! ! ! I know I couldn't work with family. :noway:

Today my Portsmouth friend has invited me to a cream tea at our local megastore. She gets a free tea for two for her birthday because she has one of their store cards. I am happy to go and see her for a catch up and will have one clotted cream and jam scone and one small quarter of egg and watercress sandwich. I am not having bread with lunch and I have prepared a prawn and tomato dinner with zoodles for me. Should just about manage the calories.

My alcohol evening passed off well, as I managed to stick to 250 mls. The wine was delicious, but I found myself not enjoying the after effects. That's good. :bigsmile: Next time I will try 125 mls only. I love the taste of a good red wine, but I'm going off feeling not up to par. I normally feel so good these days that I don't want to spoil it.

Rori - A book that is helpful is ALCOHOL EXPLAINED by William Porter. But a good read is THE UNEXPECTED JOY OF BEING SOBER by Catherine Gray. Very helpful on society's expectations. The Sober or Mindful Drinking movement is growing fast and there are some great drinks out there. The AF vermouth that came yesterday is a little sweet, but I bittered and soured it up to my taste and really enjoyed it.

I'm now reading WHAT I TALK ABOUT WHEN I TALK ABOUT RUNNING by Hari Murakami. I have read 10 running books since I started on January 1st. And four "Runner's World" magazines.

My Triple Chocolate Cheesecake came out fine, but I didn't have a 7" springform pan so had to use a pushpan. Quite a lot of sawing round the edge to get it out, but it's ok. Once I've put the ganache on it will be perfection. Now it's in the freezer. I will do the ganache when I take it out. In case anyone is wondering, yes, I did lick the spoon when I was mixing it. And the bowl. :laugh: I can say it was delicious, but I will only have a tiny serving on the day.

Sorry for all those who are losing members of their family. It's tough if you were especially close. (((HUGS)))

DJ - We want to see more of you!

Barbie and Becca - Good luck with your husband's ops.

Much love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxx

Ack! Skip a week and 14 new pages :noway:
Minor NSV, when Joe opened the Thin Mints box, was able to stop at two. Had to say "no thank you" VERY firmly several times to get him to stop urging more on me [sigh].
Blew AF Tuesday, feeling sorry for myself after ultrasonic dental hygiene appt. The unfamiliar vibrations and high pitch whine plus her clumsy poking and pricking. Yuck. Still managed 2 AF days this week. Amazing.
Laura Belated happy Birthday!
Machka Belated happy Birthday! Was it the 8th or the 9th? Two birthdays? If I'd felt that something on my neck I'd have been jumping up and down and screaming. No rest for unbitten hubs til he found it, killed it and shown me the smashed remains.
KJ your friend's griefs remind us every day and every love is a precious gift.
Michele "clean one thing a day", maybe that would work for me too...naaah.
Lanette, "can't imagine what all folks put in those lockers... it can't all be treasures" :noway: you are so right. Heard yesterday people are renting storage lockers, filling with trash and just walking away... presumably due high cost both of garbage pickup and at transfer station. We have no dump in Curry county, it all gets trucked inland to the Medford area. And recycling is a joke, CTR doesn't monitor the recycle dumpsters so all kinds of non-recyclables get dumped in making the whole lot garbage.
Itsme Congrats on your February successes!
Yvonne, Doesn't absinthe drive folk crazy? Good thing our hubs know where they stand in the heirarchy Love the lavender hair!
Rye I have an old Wii (not wii plus) with the add on Wii Fit balance board and games including hula hoop. Its the only hula hoop I can get and keep up What happened Monday to make you feel down Tuesday?
Sharon congrats to Jheri on painting sales and commissions Can you take HER aside when Harmony is in dance class and ask her to choose a code phrase, that when you say it, she'll change the subject? Stop dissing Jason? To protect Harmony? Having her choose the phrase might get her buy in. When Joe isn't hearing me set boundaries, our code is "Please reconsider and let's talk about it later". This keeps me from shrieking "You have your head up your '@ss!"
Terry when we got her, her call name was Tumbleweed. Hmm. Uh no... that won't work. She loved to roll down the grass hill in our back yard so "Tumble" just fit. Here's a pic of her at 4 months old on the road home.
Beth ((hugs)) and [sighs]
Carol, ugh, dog digestive issues, ugh!
Wendy Husbands! Finding new friends helps, I need my women friends to talk things out. If I need to tell DH something, learned to it to 3 bullet points and most important first. But BOO to him putting no effort at all into your relationship. Can you help him understand that he'll get out of it what he puts in? That you and your relationship are worth his time and attention?
Sue in WA ((hugs)) for your DGD and family.
Evelyn "better than a handful of cookies" amen, sister!
Joyce you and Becca are natural beauties!
Marcelyn and Okie you sure get your workouts with all those leaves!
Janetr con very gratulations on the good choices and success! Thanks for telling your DGS's story. Clean for two years is great cause for hope.
Karen in Va, Olivia tummy. Yay! Just the joy we all need.
Terry Bingo! I'd never put it together, but Joe and I have had some of our best talks on road trips. Will have to make better effort at sitting next to him.
Jita and wgail, micro actions help me when I'm stuck and down on myself.
Mary from AZ caught hot broccoli on the fly with your mouth? Yikes! :noway:
pip, what is this about checks and steps closer to financial independence?
Michele no one needs to eat nasty frosting, glad you had home made
Meg so glad to hear you so positive and content! Brava!
Welcome goatgirl, beans

Whiine! Definitely NOT looking "forward" to the time change. Always takes me weeks to adjust. Grumble, mumble, complain!

Only thru pg 25 of 34, ttyl, hugs to all,
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD.

My baby boy is home for a week! OS is coming over for the day. Both my chicks in the nest for a little while and all is well.

Morning you fabulous women! My DD is home from college for the week, so cuddles and conversations are on my to do list all week. Today we are heading to a mega-shopping day (for her) and tomorrow a Broadway show (for us). Looking forward to the time, she is just full of life and expectations and promise ! Will go to back to work Monday, weather dependent--a 3rd nor'easter is lining up but hopefully will blow out over the ocean, fingers crossed.

Counting blessings along with calories today. NYKAREN