WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2018
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Lisa lovely house,is there a MLS number we can look up to see it?
Took my DD and DGD down to the lavender farm and then we went to this little place called down the lane farm....got some loose tea we will infuse water with for the wedding...
Going to take a nap.2 -
Barbie ~ I am no way the brave and caring woman you mentioned. Us keeping the dogs was my DH's and Son's idea. I even said I would pay to board them. When we got to the Pet Hotel to pick them up, it took my DH and a biggish girl to get the hound in the car. Then, he parked himself on the front passengers seat and rode like that all the way home. I sat in the back and the black dog laid in my lap.
Dana ~ I think the big dog has a lot of hound in him and perhaps some Great Dane.
Dana ~ Your grand children are adorable.
Carol from GA2 -
Barbie - your "social life" sounds perfect to me.
I went to the gym on Friday to spend a little time with my dear BFF who has so much going on in her life - work & health & family issues and I feel she's getting overwhelmed by them. A mutual acquaintance/former co-worker (who I really like) was there too, but conversation just isn't the same and it was kind of strained when it's between 3 people - I wanted to ask BFF/discuss some private stuff and so that didn't happen.
I normally turn down invites for lunches and social events if it involves conversing with more than one person at a time. To me, a friend is someone I care about and respect who deserves my undivided attention. And I expect the same in return. Otherwise, most people I know are just bobbing about my sea of acquaintances, lol.
I still plan to go to the gym once a week - we have the circuit training room all to ourselves. I got half an hour on the treadmill before they arrived which was good.
This brings me to the topic of BFF’s. When I was working, my BFF and I were thick as thieves. She's about 20 years younger than me. When I retired and she quit the gym, we’d no longer see each other on a daily basis but would keep in touch via email and phone and sometimes I’d whip by her house for a few minutes. I still try to email her at least every other day just to send hugs.
As I mentioned, she started having some health and work and family stuff that are weighing her down. I get emails from her saying, “I’ll fill you in when I see you!” But that day doesn’t come.
I don’t see her on weekends and evenings because it seems she is always on the run with her family stuff and she gets a lot of “weekend migraines” so I honor that and don’t impose by making her get out of bed for “company”.
I was a little miffed tho at the gym – she said a former co-worker of ours who just retired a week ago and was a real PITA to everyone was coming over on Saturday (yesterday) to visit! That co-worker was the expert at Passive-Aggressive and I could not wait to retire and get away from her. In fact, I have stayed away from events I know BFF will be attending or hosting because I don't want to run into PITA.
DH says I’m jealous. I know, this sounds a lot like 6th grade stuff. How DARE PITA spend time with my BFF, lol, even tho I don’t.
Good grief. I love my friend the most, I really do. Thank you for listening, ladies. I will send her an email or call her and tell her how much I miss her and that I’m looking forward to us spending time together by ourselves, and how seeing her again at the gym made me realize how important she is to me. I can leave the PITA discussion out. Who knows, she may have called PITA yesterday and told her not to stop by because she wasn't feeling well.
And maybe it’s time for me to get an additional BFF a little closer to my age who has time to walk and talk. Guess I need to pull myself out of the introvert cage and go to some of the group classes at the gym for starters. Of course, if the teleporter gets fixed, I’ll show up at some of your doors with my walking shoes in hand and we can get some miles in!!
SO do any of you have BFF's you get to visit/do things with like Barbie? It's sometimes easier when a person is retired, but maybe like in my case, it's different types of BFF's. I guess the main thing is to find someone with whom you have many things in common. Or are at least agreeable with, lol.
Katla - did you get your camping spot figured out with the County to your satisfaction? My PC and tablet don't feed posts from MFP reliably and I know I unintentionally skip posts when I jump from one device to another. So, if you posted new info, I missed it. I see a "mini home" for sale just down the street. We aren't travelers anymore but I always liked those little compact things. I once worked in the office at a travel trailer place that made them (Hey Pip - Nappanee! Before your time - mid 70's)
Before I forget, there's a cattle ranch at the end of our private road and we see/hear cows and calves all the time. I saw a sign that they had "Lowline" beef for sale and bought a few packages of grass fed ground beef from their truck and it was great. Looked up "Lowline" and darned if it isn't a breed of cattle developed in Australia that does well on just grass and silage - no grain/feedlot involved. Which makes it super healthy - tender and not really fatty at all. I have more on order.
Lanette
SW WA
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Machka: I take 3X as much Vitamin D3 every day as you are taking. I have 3,000IU capsules. You might think about bumping yours up a bit. (((hugs)))
Snowflake: Congratulations on facing your swimming fears. You are a strong and courageous lady.
Peachy: One of our training tricks with a pup is to keep it leashed in the house to help it learn manners. I would start by keeping it with me, and eventually put the leash around a sturdy table leg beside the food dish while the pup was eating. When he finished eating, he could either be with me, or be free depending on how the training was going. Our "pup" is now 11 years old.
Heather: I am enjoying your posts about shipboard life so much. Thank you for sharing!!! :bigsmile:
We just saw three deer in our yard! I suspect it is a mom with twins. Two were smaller than the third, and one of them is lame. I wonder how it got hurt. They've gone back and forth several times. I wonder if they've forgotten how they got into the yard and are looking for a way out.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
Ooh I take 5000 IU capsules! That's what my doctor told me to get! I have seen no difference in how I feel. My vertigo kind of overshadows everything...
Rebecca4 -
Allie--I agree I am not sure what to say in that kind of situtation, my DSIL has ALS and it is progressing fast and I lady I worked with had it and I know what is going to happen and I am at a loss. But I keep sending cards just saying love them and keeping them in prayer. My DB is doing everything he can to take care of her and keep her home. Breaks my heart.
Lanette--My BFF had a stroke just before the new year. She is just not the same and they are moving her this next week from rehab to assisted living. I miss my friend, but am working on this new friend relentionship. I still see the same person and know she is there, just not the same. She lives about 100 miles from me, but I try and get to see her once a week or everyother week at the most.
I am working today and then going to a church grill out at our minster's house this evening. It is 98 degrees outside so not sure how this will go. Know they have a big house. DGD is coming over to spend the night and her mom will pick her up before I go to work tomorrow afternoon at 3. My day off, but filling in for another lady as her daughter goes to court tomorrow to adopt her 3 foster children that she has had for several years. I do think it is important for her to be there and since I am the supervisor I said I would cover.
Blessings, Vicki GI NE6 -
BFF's: I wrote a long post about best friends forever but then deleted it. Over the past 10 yrs, I cannot say I have a close friend at all. Just the group of college girls that I see about once a month.
Carol in GA5 -
Lanette Perhaps she is seeing the passive aggressive PITA because she can’t say no, I don’t want to see you this weekend?
Your question made me think. Like Carol I do not have a BFF.
I guess my criteria for BFF (or I would say a ‘close friend’) are out of sync with society as a whole.
Such a friend would have to be Someone who I can (feel comfortable) talking or confiding just about anything and from whom I expect interest (at least feigned interest) and sympathy and empathy (genuine) in my life and activities. And vice versa.
Such criteria have been met in only a rare group of people. My mom, a gal from high school (with whom I lost touch when she got married and moved to France), my husband. My Mother In Law comes close, but there will probably always be a bit too much reserve between us. (Partly do to the ‘relationship’ and partly ideological and religious differences.). So only a few ‘close friends’ as an adult.
And that makes me sound pathetic and lonely. Which is so totally NOT the case. I am friendly with a wide array of people, and enjoy one on one time with them when the opportunity arises. However, I do admit to being a mostly solitary type, perfectly happy to spend large gobs of time alone. Alone, not lonely. The distinction is an important one to me.
And I have a few very dear friends that would be close friend (BFF) material but they are male. Dear friends indeed, but there are definitely limits to what I’m comfortable sharing with them, and our ability to sympathize and empathize around the gender gulf.
Groups are a totally different thing. One on one I’m good and enjoy social engagements. Groups of people...not so good! Well, I’d say that is probably a topic for a different day.
So, I’m in the car with DH driving - off to the group social engagement of the weekend. With luck I should not have another until July 4ish!
Laters,
Rye
P.S. Lanette, I have my coordinates ready for your teleporter. I’d love to go for a nice long walk and chat with you!5 -
Very tired..staying in bed..Tracy,Taliah and I had a lovely time at the lavender farm...spend a bit,but all in all lovely..2
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Barbie - your "social life" sounds perfect to me.
I went to the gym on Friday to spend a little time with my dear BFF who has so much going on in her life - work & health & family issues and I feel she's getting overwhelmed by them. A mutual acquaintance/former co-worker (who I really like) was there too, but conversation just isn't the same and it was kind of strained when it's between 3 people - I wanted to ask BFF/discuss some private stuff and so that didn't happen.
I normally turn down invites for lunches and social events if it involves conversing with more than one person at a time. To me, a friend is someone I care about and respect who deserves my undivided attention. And I expect the same in return. Otherwise, most people I know are just bobbing about my sea of acquaintances, lol.
I still plan to go to the gym once a week - we have the circuit training room all to ourselves. I got half an hour on the treadmill before they arrived which was good.
This brings me to the topic of BFF’s. When I was working, my BFF and I were thick as thieves. She's about 20 years younger than me. When I retired and she quit the gym, we’d no longer see each other on a daily basis but would keep in touch via email and phone and sometimes I’d whip by her house for a few minutes. I still try to email her at least every other day just to send hugs.
As I mentioned, she started having some health and work and family stuff that are weighing her down. I get emails from her saying, “I’ll fill you in when I see you!” But that day doesn’t come.
I don’t see her on weekends and evenings because it seems she is always on the run with her family stuff and she gets a lot of “weekend migraines” so I honor that and don’t impose by making her get out of bed for “company”.
I was a little miffed tho at the gym – she said a former co-worker of ours who just retired a week ago and was a real PITA to everyone was coming over on Saturday (yesterday) to visit! That co-worker was the expert at Passive-Aggressive and I could not wait to retire and get away from her. In fact, I have stayed away from events I know BFF will be attending or hosting because I don't want to run into PITA.
DH says I’m jealous. I know, this sounds a lot like 6th grade stuff. How DARE PITA spend time with my BFF, lol, even tho I don’t.
Good grief. I love my friend the most, I really do. Thank you for listening, ladies. I will send her an email or call her and tell her how much I miss her and that I’m looking forward to us spending time together by ourselves, and how seeing her again at the gym made me realize how important she is to me. I can leave the PITA discussion out. Who knows, she may have called PITA yesterday and told her not to stop by because she wasn't feeling well.
And maybe it’s time for me to get an additional BFF a little closer to my age who has time to walk and talk. Guess I need to pull myself out of the introvert cage and go to some of the group classes at the gym for starters. Of course, if the teleporter gets fixed, I’ll show up at some of your doors with my walking shoes in hand and we can get some miles in!!
SO do any of you have BFF's you get to visit/do things with like Barbie? It's sometimes easier when a person is retired, but maybe like in my case, it's different types of BFF's. I guess the main thing is to find someone with whom you have many things in common. Or are at least agreeable with, lol.
Katla - did you get your camping spot figured out with the County to your satisfaction? My PC and tablet don't feed posts from MFP reliably and I know I unintentionally skip posts when I jump from one device to another. So, if you posted new info, I missed it. I see a "mini home" for sale just down the street. We aren't travelers anymore but I always liked those little compact things. I once worked in the office at a travel trailer place that made them (Hey Pip - Nappanee! Before your time - mid 70's)
Before I forget, there's a cattle ranch at the end of our private road and we see/hear cows and calves all the time. I saw a sign that they had "Lowline" beef for sale and bought a few packages of grass fed ground beef from their truck and it was great. Looked up "Lowline" and darned if it isn't a breed of cattle developed in Australia that does well on just grass and silage - no grain/feedlot involved. Which makes it super healthy - tender and not really fatty at all. I have more on order.
Lanette
SW WA
I used to work for an attorney in napanee. We lived in Syracuse. Kirby would drive me and the bike there and he would ride there to pick me up and we would ride home together on our bikes3 -
Lisa I like that stone house.
Lanette I had a BFF from high school. It almost killed me when, after 40 years, she inexplicably distanced herself from me. Another mutual friend told me it was because I was in a same sex relationship & my BFF did not approve of it. The loss of that friendship is still a source of tremendous grief & pain for me. I have other friends from HS & they say "Who cares? Just forget about her." But this friend was the kind of person you might not talk to for months, and then you'd pick up where you left off as if you talked every day. She always had my back, from the time we were about 14 years old. She loved my mother, and kept up with my 3 siblings. She would call whenever something happened in my little home town that she thought I might like to know about, like someone who had died that was important to our family. I was there for her when she got pregnant as a teenager, and when her brother was hit by a truck, and later when her sister died...and she was there for me when my dad, & later my sister committed suicide. She stayed at my mom's house with me the night my mom died and 2 days later helped me mess up my (deceased) mom's hair a little bit so it looked more natural at the funeral home. We confided in each other things we did not trust anyone else with. Whenever I traveled to my home town to visit my mom, she would tell her husband not to expect her to be around very much for a few days, & she would show up at my mom's house with a big smile, ready to catch up and hang out. She helped me get my mom's house emptied out after she died...I could go on & on. She sang at my wedding.
I have to stop now.
My advice: Don't go steady with your girlfriends...
LOL! of course I am living with a woman but that isn't exactly what I am referring to...
Karen in Virginia9 -
Trying to post a pic of us in our finery, but WiFi can't do it. Tomorrow I will have data.
DH did the waltz and the tango with me!!!!! I did the quickstep with the host dancer. My legs are tired now.
Barbie - I love your dad's saying!!!
Lisa - love the house. I love stone.
Bed time for me.
Heather ☓ ☓6 -
stats for the day;
treadmill jog- 8.56min, 6.4-7.8sp, 3incline, 138ahr, 158mhr, 1mi= 108c
Apple Watch- 110c
walk from car to furry5k and before walk w/yogi n floyd- 22.59min, 2.4ap, 103mhr, .9mi= 156c
Apple Watch- 160c
furry 5k w/yogi n Floyd, slow jog/walk- 43.16min, 4.5ap, 154mhr, 3.2mi= 396c
Apple Watch- 316c
walk after to the car w/kids- 15.23min, 122mhr, 2.5ap, .6mi= 150c
no apple. watch-
TOTAL cal 8103 -
Lanette - I have tons of acquaintances, a few friends, and exactly one best friend. I really hate the BFF reference, though we use it jokingly. My best friend (and no, it's not my husband) has what she calls her local best friends, and then me. She is capable of having many strong, intense, female friendships in her life, and I honestly don't go out of my way to encourage them, though I've visited enough to know all of them at one level or another. She lives in Montana, I live wherever I happen to live at the moment, and we talk to each other at least weekly, sometimes daily for weeks on end. We met when I was 24 and she was 20, when we were both in technical school in Montana, as well as both going through fertility treatments. Hers worked, mine didn't, and we've been as nearly psychically linked as humanly possible ever since.
Karen in VA - I had one friend break my heart in high school, and it's probably why I don't go out of my way to develop tons of friendships of either gender, honestly. Once was enough. That I still remember it forty years later tells you something about how much it meant to me.
Honestly, this place (and I mean it when I say I love y'all) is really exactly my speed--as I can be a part of the conversations at the exact level at which I'm comfortable, and when I'm not comfortable, I can be silent without someone taking me to task.
Love y'all!
Lisa in Arkansas6 -
Just got home from a lovely visit with Meg from Omaha. She sends greetings to all of you.
Rori
Colorado Foothills
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Regarding friends: I have a handful of friends that live in California, that I text now and then. One gal I had a crush on. I know strange to say, but really she lights the world where ever she goes. Maybe I just loved her aura she exuded. I have a handful of friends still in Oregon, and I text them off and on weekly. I have one girlfriend that I met 1985 in Japan, and we talk on the phone about every other month. It's the kind where we talk, and just pick up where we left off. I do worry, because she is single and does the internet dating. She is sadly an easy target for overseas scammers, and has been led on by a couple of them. Emotionally she is just lonely, and believes what they tell her. Here on the island I have my husband, my hair stylist, my neighbor to my right, and I wave to people! Baby steps, I don't want to scare people! "Hi my name is Rebecca, nice to meet you, why don't you come over for a cup of coffee"! Hey that works on a military base, but civilians get scared and lock their doors if you do that!
Rebecca
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Karen in VA - (((HUGS))) I am so sorry to hear about your friend and I know you still feel the pain of her loss.
Carol - (((HUGS))) and I think it's great you still see your college girlfriends! That counts for a lot.
Lisa - I agree, this group definitely helps close the gap when we need support or just to listen in - and that's what good friends do. Another reason this group is so special.
I do have a few other girlfriends that I've known for a long time that I care deeply about whether I talk to them on a regular basis or not.
D - lives in Seattle and she's the one where we pick right up if we haven't talked for a year. When I am lucky enough to get up there, we love to shop or go garage sale-ing if the weather is fit or mostly just sit and drink tea and yak for hours on end. But she's not close by. She taught me compassion and how to be a giving person, and the ability to be goofy surpasses everything.
C - is a few years older than me with a wicked sense of humor and we kept each other sane while working at the county. She is going through some health issues - doesn't live that far away but isn't able to go walking with me. So we do lunch every month or so. So we've known each other over 20 years. She taught me to be silly and enjoy life no matter what gets thrown at me.
G - I've never met in person, we became acquainted when I was working in the fish biz in Seattle and she was a buyer for a company in Dallas. Very sensible, strict but loved to laugh and I'd like to say I've known her for 30 years which I have. For a while we'd talk on the phone every weekend after I left the Seattle job and we still keep in touch but not like we did- she's been going through cancer treatments. We shared the birth of her grandchildren, the loss of her dog, the loss of her job and then her cancer. No matter how crappy she feels she nearly always puts that in the background and asks how I am doing. She taught me to be patient and understanding.
Yes, the "BFF" is the trendy term right now, but in my case, my young friend really is (I hope) my BFF since she's the executor of our wills, medical power of attorney and all that. She understands our wishes and I have total faith that she'll make the right decision when the time comes (providing I don't outlive her!) In which case, we have her sweet smart son as backup since we don't have kids or any relatives close by. She's the one who visits me when I'm in the hospital and remembers our birthdays.
And Rye, I think you're right - it's hard for her say "No" because she doesn't want to hurt people's feelings. She is very big hearted and loving. I just want to be there for her. By the way, I'll take you up on the coordinates. I gotta call the guy who knows the guy who'll get that teleporter fixed, lol.
What I admire in a friend is the ability to laugh, to make fun of ourselves, to keep secrets and to have someone who actually listens. And will give an honest opinion if asked.
Oh, Rori & Meg - adorable photo! Love your smiles! Bet you had a wonderful meet-up.
That's it for now, supper almost ready.
Lanette
SW WA State
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Lenora2
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Rori and Meg - you both look amazing! It's always such fun when we can reach out to each other in real life.
Well, the offer's in... Here's the link, Allie. Should know by tomorrow whether they'll come back with a counter offer, or accept our offer. There are still hints of the showpiece it was at one time, supposedly just beautiful, but the older lady who owns it let her son live in it for a number of years, and he just trashed it. My husband just drooled over that gas range... I did the same over the original wood floors. The bathrooms will have to be gutted and redone, as I prefer two full baths, but it's all accomplishable.
Quite a bit of work to do, but ten months to do it in, and only about 20 minutes away from our current abode. If we get it, we will be busy little beavers over the winter... Lots and lots of cleanup, mostly, and neither one of us are afraid of hard work. Trying not to get my hopes up, not to trust in forever until the papers are signed.
Love y'all... early bed tonight, lots to do this week.
Lisa in Arkansas8 -
Popping on before I turn in for the night.
Heather- Your trip just looks fantastic! Were those chairs on the beach, all bundled and numbered? I can just picture you and DH tango-ing across the floor!
Lisa- Pretty little house! Fingers crossed for you!
Rori and Meg- So glad you both got a chance to meet! You both look wonderful!
Dana- a website that I visit often to get great ideas is www.sciencekiddo.com Lots of easy and very cool kitchen science ideas! Have fun with your grandkids!
Got my kitchen painted today! Next project is baseboards, window trim, and cupboards painted. I figure that will take the next three weekends.
ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)5 -
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