Cliques
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caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.
You seem like you’re friends with everybody!
Well i guess thats why a definition is needed. Because i think thats the opposite of cliques. I see value in everybody's interactions. But i dont necessarliy click with one group or group of people. ? Am i making sense lol, probably not
To me a clique is a group of people who will interact with each other to the exclusion of others. If this happens here, I’m genuinely unaware.
However, I do still remember being new and feeling like people were blind to my posts. What I didn’t realize then is that I was being subjected to a routine newcomer/catfish scrutiny. I felt unnoticed but behind the scenes people were trying to figure out who I was, if I was a former user. Why do I know this? Because it’s how I react to pretty much every new person.
One of the joys of being on the internet and learning new people, or is it someone who's returned and just wearing a new mask. Seems to be a whole crew of people who do it...
There is a bit of a close-knit group here. Which is common in many long-running forums. But, what gets me a bit is the unequal application of rule enforcement and what people deem as acceptable behavior. This has always been something I've never understood in the many years I've been online.3 -
caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.
You seem like you’re friends with everybody!
Well i guess thats why a definition is needed. Because i think thats the opposite of cliques. I see value in everybody's interactions. But i dont necessarliy click with one group or group of people. ? Am i making sense lol, probably not
To me a clique is a group of people who will interact with each other to the exclusion of others. If this happens here, I’m genuinely unaware.
However, I do still remember being new and feeling like people were blind to my posts. What I didn’t realize then is that I was being subjected to a routine newcomer/catfish scrutiny. I felt unnoticed but behind the scenes people were trying to figure out who I was, if I was a former user. Why do I know this? Because it’s how I react to pretty much every new person.
Ya, i can see the newbies feeling left out because there are inside jokes due to time being spent on here. And so weve all been there and felt excluded. And sometimes the banter between a group of people is carried on in such a way others might stop responding or feel excluded. Not sure thats a clique. But i must meet the clique quota. And so i will say clique one more time.
If someone says something I don’t understand I resort to saying something in code so they know I’m not following. But then they don’t know what I’m saying and we get confused and they make us both look bad.caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.
You seem like you’re friends with everybody!
Well i guess thats why a definition is needed. Because i think thats the opposite of cliques. I see value in everybody's interactions. But i dont necessarliy click with one group or group of people. ? Am i making sense lol, probably not
To me a clique is a group of people who will interact with each other to the exclusion of others. If this happens here, I’m genuinely unaware.
However, I do still remember being new and feeling like people were blind to my posts. What I didn’t realize then is that I was being subjected to a routine newcomer/catfish scrutiny. I felt unnoticed but behind the scenes people were trying to figure out who I was, if I was a former user. Why do I know this? Because it’s how I react to pretty much every new person.
Ya, i can see the newbies feeling left out because there are inside jokes due to time being spent on here. And so weve all been there and felt excluded. And sometimes the banter between a group of people is carried on in such a way others might stop responding or feel excluded. Not sure thats a clique. But i must meet the clique quota. And so i will say clique one more time.
If someone says something I don’t understand I resort to saying something in code so they know I’m not following. But then they don’t know what I’m saying and we get confused and they make us both look bad.
I resort to leaving the thread or being completely random to the point of embarrassing myself 0 -
I have such a wide variety of friends here. Some I talk to often one on one and others just in the forums. Most certainly not part of what I call a clique.0
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I notice cliqueish behavior in the selfie thread sometimes. Occasionally a new person will post and get overlooked or even woo’d and I don’t know why that is.5
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caco_ethes wrote: »I notice cliqueish behavior in the selfie thread sometimes. Occasionally a new person will post and get overlooked or even woo’d and I don’t know why that is.
Actually i can agree with this. If you are not a regular selfie poster or commentor (is that a word) i notice they get passed over. Maybe its a comfort level?3 -
mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »I notice cliqueish behavior in the selfie thread sometimes. Occasionally a new person will post and get overlooked or even woo’d and I don’t know why that is.
Actually i can agree with this. If you are not a regular selfie poster or commentor (is that a word) i notice they get passed over. Maybe its a comfort level?
I notice a lot of really attractive people getting woo’d and it seems like petty people are trying to discourage them from posting3 -
caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »I notice cliqueish behavior in the selfie thread sometimes. Occasionally a new person will post and get overlooked or even woo’d and I don’t know why that is.
Actually i can agree with this. If you are not a regular selfie poster or commentor (is that a word) i notice they get passed over. Maybe its a comfort level?
I notice a lot of really attractive people getting woo’d ]
I've learned just to not let it bother me.7 -
caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »I notice cliqueish behavior in the selfie thread sometimes. Occasionally a new person will post and get overlooked or even woo’d and I don’t know why that is.
Actually i can agree with this. If you are not a regular selfie poster or commentor (is that a word) i notice they get passed over. Maybe its a comfort level?
I notice a lot of really attractive people getting woo’d and it seems like petty people are trying to discourage them from posting
Could be. I'd hate that to be the case because on somr level we all struggle with self image or weightloss...or just in a difficult place atm.0 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »I notice cliqueish behavior in the selfie thread sometimes. Occasionally a new person will post and get overlooked or even woo’d and I don’t know why that is.
Actually i can agree with this. If you are not a regular selfie poster or commentor (is that a word) i notice they get passed over. Maybe its a comfort level?
hmm I don't know. I rarely post in the selfie thread but have never felt passed over when I do. I think it's more so that people support who they are friends with and the new people likely have not acquired any yet. Doesn't make it okay still. Not a way to welcome new people, for sure.
Yes thats why i question maybe its just a comfort level. But i could probably guess in some cases its more than that.0 -
Motorsheen wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »I notice cliqueish behavior in the selfie thread sometimes. Occasionally a new person will post and get overlooked or even woo’d and I don’t know why that is.
Actually i can agree with this. If you are not a regular selfie poster or commentor (is that a word) i notice they get passed over. Maybe its a comfort level?
I notice a lot of really attractive people getting woo’d ]
I've learned just to not let it bother me.
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Are "Cliques" people who only quote the other Cliques ?
I'm a bit confused ?0 -
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Clever_User_Name wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.
Loner clique then
Pretty much and im ok with that
Taking members applications currently. Must be weird. @SurfyPantsResurfaced if she comes back 1 -
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rickswifey83 wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Clever_User_Name wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.
Loner clique then
Pretty much and im ok with that
Taking members applications currently. Must be weird. @SurfyPantsResurfaced if she comes back
I say the most awkward things, I am clumsy, and I really have the worst comedic timing ever...does that count? Am I in?
Ha. Well. Yes. But understand this group is very exclusive. Only 2 people have been allowed in thus far.
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I am pretty certain that everyone is in a clique, but they just don't know it.0
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I'm just me.. If you like me, awesome! I like people and hope that they like me in return.. And if you don't.... I will hunt you down...j/j
The biggest thing is don't be afraid to join in. I bet there is a lot of people that feel unnoticed here on the threads, including myself. And sometimes that can make you feel alone or not part of something. But, like I said.. Don't be afraid to join in on the conversations. I, personally, love it.
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rickswifey83 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »
I am beginning to think you started this thread as a way to organize your "Clique"
I have dibs on everyone posting, muahaha suckas1 -
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Also, between work and home life, I am so extremely tired. I get on here and lurk around, but sometimes too mentally drained to think of a comment.0
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I don’t necessarily see cliques...I see people who post more than others...I do see people who react more to certain mfp’ers posts...but not really cliques.4
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There is an air of exclusiveness in many areas. Anytime a few or group of people make others uncomfortable, you are a clique. Though I can appreciate "being on here a long time" and inside jokes based on past experiences, take those elbow rubbing thoughts offline and email each other directly...spare the new folks. Many of them are looking for diet, nutrition and exercise support, which is as much emotional as anything. If they want another place to feel like a social out cast, Facebook serves.
Takes little effort to notice a "group" who seem to always hoover on certain topics or pounce on new posters and ideas not in the "norm". Can avoid them, once you know their MFP Ids but God help you if one those "cliques" descends on your post. If they can even stay on topic instead of drawing it off onto some obscure word someone not in their mind set stated.
Yes...there are cliques and some are pretty darn vicious. Kindness, even when you don't agree with someone or acknowledgement of a new face with just the slightest shout out of a "hi" would change the face of MFP rapidly and the cliquiness of it all.8 -
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lisawolfinger wrote: »There is an air of exclusiveness in many areas. Anytime a few or group of people make others uncomfortable, you are a clique. Though I can appreciate "being on here a long time" and inside jokes based on past experiences, take those elbow rubbing thoughts offline and email each other directly...spare the new folks. Many of them are looking for diet, nutrition and exercise support, which is as much emotional as anything. If they want another place to feel like a social out cast, Facebook serves.
Takes little effort to notice a "group" who seem to always hoover on certain topics or pounce on new posters and ideas not in the "norm". Can avoid them, once you know their MFP Ids but God help you if one those "cliques" descends on your post. If they can even stay on topic instead of drawing it off onto some obscure word someone not in their mind set stated.
Yes...there are cliques and some are pretty darn vicious. Kindness, even when you don't agree with someone or acknowledgement of a new face with just the slightest shout out of a "hi" would change the face of MFP rapidly and the cliquiness of it all.
Exactly.1
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