The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Hello Friends! I've popped over here from the old Less Alcohol thread that I joined back in January. Happy to see old friends and new
I'm AF since the first week of January, and I could not be happier! I've learned so much about myself along the way, and have improved so many areas of my life. I don't envision myself ever going back to drinking any alcohol. My family is completely supportive of me, which is tremendously helpful.
I've been on a journey the past 4 months of getting ready to run a marathon. This is something I have aspired to for years, but never made it much beyond a long run of 15 miles without injury or missing scheduled run days because I wasn't feeling up to it.
Today, I completed a 20 mile training run, and a total of 40 miles overall mileage for the week. I could not have done this if I was still drinking any alcohol. I eat a lot better these days! I eat good quality and quantity of food because I'm not expending any on drinking wine. My diet supports my training goals, and my diet is in check because I don't drink. I feel like, at 55 years old, I have finally figured out how to truly live healthy and happy.
I hope you all have a great day today!
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I quit after decades of drinking, cold turkey March 1 2016. Did not even have a ripple of an issue after drinking a few glasses of wine nightly for years!!. I was a heavy hard stuff drinker years earlier thru my 30s and 40s, so I was worried I would have problems stopping. Nope, just stopped that night and never looked back. It really surprised me how easy it was...in retrospect, I guess I'm very lucky.8
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@kcn2bluesky Thanks for stopping in! I do remember you because of your cute picture. Very happy to hear how well things are going. Xo
@ekim2016 You even quit before St. Patrick’s Day So impressive to hear how you never looked back. Gives me hope. 3 -
Good to read everyone’s posts. New folks, you will find supportive people here. Don’t be a stranger!
I start my new teaching job tomorrow and am SO nervous. The nerves hit me unexpectedly. I’ve been away from the classroom for 19 years, longer than my new students have been alive. A glass of wine would help the nerves but the many, many downsides are just not worth it.7 -
Good to read everyone’s posts. New folks, you will find supportive people here. Don’t be a stranger!
I start my new teaching job tomorrow and am SO nervous. The nerves hit me unexpectedly. I’ve been away from the classroom for 19 years, longer than my new students have been alive. A glass of wine would help the nerves but the many, many downsides are just not worth it.
Some ideas and tips: Humor is always good. A joke, a cartoon , etc. Music is also a motivator. Give them A get to know you inventory. You can also find a learning styles inventory quiz they can take so you can get to know their style. You will do great! How old are your students? Adults or juveniles?1 -
Thanks, @RubyRed427. They are incarcerated juveniles. There are things like having to remove the little metal ends from pencils. I believe it will be very rewarding but challenging and I’m sure heartbreaking at times.6
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Happy to be here!3
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Thanks for the welcome, @RubyRed427 ! I'm happy to have found you all over here
Good luck today, @donimfp ! You will do great!2 -
OMG, you guys. My new students have so much potential and so much desire to do well. And my fellow teachers and even the corrections officers who are in each classroom clearly care about these kids. I am so blessed to have landed in this place. Not drinking and having extra energy is icing on the cake. Going to bed early with Pellegrino and gratitude.11
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The strangest thing happened tonight. So, I went to my AA book club. And when I sat down, there was a person I knew. She was a “regular” at the bars in my town, so I saw her regularly because I was a “regular” too! We were a little bit stunned to see each other. She said she quit in April. I told her I quit in July. She said she still goes to some of the bars but everyone knows she only drinks soda. I told her that I’ve replaced the bars with exercise and green juice smoothies.
The irony of two “regulars” meeting not at a bar but an AA book club was such a surprise.
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@RubyRed427 Very Cool!!1
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Hey guys today is my day 5.9
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Has anybody tried Craig Beck's stop drinking program? Did it work?1
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@fdhunt1 a lot of us watch his videos. His no nonsense straightforward approach really resonates with me. I have not tried the program though.2
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This will be my day 3. While I haven't completely gone AF (please don't be rude) I have drastically cut back. The last two nights, I've had only 2 drinks. Both were right when I got home after work, and then I ate dinner and switched to hot tea. I think I will do this for a week, then move to every other day, then eventually go all the way AF for at least 30 days. While this may not be impressive to any of you, it's an accomplishment for me.7
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Sister Sue, no one here judges anyone else. We are all supportive. Good for you on cutting back. Remember, baby steps still move you forward.
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@RubyRed427 I was the one who mentioned “what do you call an alcoholic who doesn’t go to meetings A Drunk” that’s what my daughter said to me over 10 years ago as I was beginning to go AF and she had been in meetings for 10 years back then fortunately it’s now over 10 years AF for me and no meetings and 20 years for her AF with meetings
So it’s an individual choice and we have to pick the best course for ourselves5 -
SisterSueGetsFit wrote: »it's an accomplishment for me.
You're on your way
@mhaenzi Happy to have you here@kcn2bluesky Nice to see you guys @fdhunt1 Craig Beck is very instructive & a direct, no-nonsense type of guy. I watched his videos every day for over at least a month along with some Alcohol Mastery & Annie Grace's videos when I first stopped drinking. I also recently completed Annie Grace 30-day alcohol challenge. It's free & if you are looking for a program, that is what I would recommend. There is also a lot of support from others doing the challenge along with you. @donimfp SO happy for you. @Ke22yB Yes, whatever works, it's not a one-size fits all. Individual stories & individual journeys.
@Nomseys YAY Day 5
@JenT304 Hi 6 -
@RubyRed427 I was the one who mentioned “what do you call an alcoholic who doesn’t go to meetings A Drunk” that’s what my daughter said to me over 10 years ago as I was beginning to go AF and she had been in meetings for 10 years back then fortunately it’s now over 10 years AF for me and no meetings and 20 years for her AF with meetings
So it’s an individual choice and we have to pick the best course for ourselves
That’s right. I knew I heard it somewhere.
I dont know if the meetings are for me. I may be like you and handle life without them. I’m still in early stages so for now, I will keep going. I do know that some days I dont call my sponsor; It never occurs to me. So, I’m either not in the habit yet, or it’s not meaningful to me. I’ll see how the next few months play out.4 -
Love reading everyone’s posts. @RubyRed427, how crazy to meet up like that.
I am SO exhausted after another day on my feet and crazy wonderful experiences like reading a seriously beautifully written essay by a kid in for attempted murder. I’m totally blessed in this job. Teachers, administrators, and even guards exude compassionate care and discipline. The “kids” are getting a very good education and every chance for redemption. Statistics are gloomy but I can’t control that. A drinking me would not have the stamina.
I may not contribute much here as I’ve done since January but will certainly check in for inspiration. Can’t take my phone into work ! Thanks to all you fellow sober squad pilgrims.6 -
Does anyone else live with someone who drinks? Today was my day six and if there would of been extra alcohol available I may have given in. Does anyone have tips for the early days and constantly being around alcohol at home?3
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Does anyone else live with someone who drinks? Today was my day six and if there would of been extra alcohol available I may have given in. Does anyone have tips for the early days and constantly being around alcohol at home?
Well I live with someone who drinks daily. I poured out my fav booze because I don't care for his (scotch and whiskey). Other than that, I just from and bear it and sometimes get annoyed at how nuch he is drinking (but I keep that to myself).4 -
Started the Annie Grace 30-day alcohol challenge this morning. It's the first day of the rest of my life.7
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Does anyone else live with someone who drinks? Today was my day six and if there would of been extra alcohol available I may have given in. Does anyone have tips for the early days and constantly being around alcohol at home?
Well I live with someone who drinks daily. I poured out my fav booze because I don't care for his (scotch and whiskey). Other than that, I just from and bear it and sometimes get annoyed at how nuch he is drinking (but I keep that to myself).
Thanks for responding Ruby. Yeah I try not to be nagging. I’m trying to stay my course and remind myself that my sobriety does not depend on the decisions he makes or doesn’t make.
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There was an interesting Annie Grace video about how to live with someone that continues to drink. I think it is helpful. My husband drinks still (though rarely like I did...more sensibly) and I TRY not to be resentful.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IX7YvkzRQC8&t=7s 1 -
Day 459. For me, it got a lot easier about 90 days in. I have longings more than urges. Longings are a desire to return to drinking someday so I can enjoy a sunset sipping a mai tai on a beach in retirement. Urges are "I want it right now". I have had maybe 5 urges in the last year; I had several in the first couple of months. Longings are harder; there really isn't a count because it is pretty much ebb and flow of the same one. It is currently less of a concern because it doesn't seem to pose an immediate threat, but I am only 3 months from 60 so it isn't all that far down the road where it might spur urges.7
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I've also been trying to stay away from the drinks. Maybe a couple weeks now, I didn't want to count the time.
It's difficult to live with someone who continues to do something you don't want to do anymore. I've lived with people who still smoked after I quit. It does get frustrating, which may be why I do better on my own. It's also good to find support somewhere, even if it's not at home.
Knowing how much better I feel (overall) without it, is what keeps me on track. I no longer have to consume extra calories and extra water weight to avoid hangovers and process the toxins. Plus I save some money.
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To live with someone who does the things you are avoiding can be difficult. I find reasons to be outside more. My wife still smokes and drinks when we are on vacation or out to dinner when we are back home. I swim and run so the smoking annoys me even more than the drinking since it’s every day and around the house
I will be out early and again in the afternoon or read in another room, I have mentioned my feelings but after 45 years many of which I was the heavier drinker which she put up with I adjust and avoid being around if she is smoking4 -
There was an interesting Annie Grace video about how to live with someone that continues to drink. I think it is helpful. My husband drinks still (though rarely like I did...more sensibly) and I TRY not to be resentful.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IX7YvkzRQC8&t=7s
Thank you for sharing this video. It reminded me that I just need to focus on my journey. A lot of great insight.
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