The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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I went on Amazon and there are a bunch of different Alan Carr books. Please advise which ones you read.1
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It's way too quiet on here!! Hope everyone has a great, sober weekend along with some fun & relaxation. I am volunteering with 3 teen girls this morn & then we are hanging together this aft so it should be lots of fun & giggles. Hanging with teen girls takes me back!!6
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Good morning, friends! No issues this week with alcohol cravings. That has passed. But some anxiety has replaced the cravings. I am overtaxed at work, so I need to sit down this weekend and really make a list of priorities, and things that I can let go for now. The only alcohol related thought I have lately is feeling a little jealous that I don’t have a stress outlet like my husband or friends (I dont drink, smoke, etc.) But of course, I know that I should be grateful for that.
It’s been 10 weeks since my birthday binge, and I am extremely happy every Saturday/Sunday morning when I open my eyes and have no hangover. That’s a big gift to me. Tonight, I’m going to a party at my drinking friends house; I’ll go for a little while and sneak out. I just don’t have fun at them anymore. I should really change my mindset however and view it for all the other positives like good conversation, food, laughter and connecting with new people.
@lorrainequiche59 You’ll have a lot of fun today!7 -
I always thought I wouldn't be able to go to a bar without being able to smoke a cigarette, or be around people who smoked. I understand not feeling like you can enjoy events without drinking.
It is all about mindset @RubyRed427 !
Although everyone is different, and some benefit from staying away from "trigger" situations, you are still you, even without the alcohol. Hope you have fun!7 -
@jhilkene Thanks so much! Xo Hugs!1
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RubyRed427 wrote: »The only alcohol related thought I have lately is feeling a little jealous that I don’t have a stress outlet like my husband or friends (I dont drink, smoke, etc.) But of course, I know that I should be grateful for that.
It’s been 10 weeks since my birthday binge, and I am extremely happy every Saturday/Sunday morning when I open my eyes and have no hangover. That’s a big gift to me. Tonight, I’m going to a party at my drinking friends house; I’ll go for a little while and sneak out. I just don’t have fun at them anymore. I should really change my mindset however and view it for all the other positives like good conversation, food, laughter and connecting with new people.
@lorrainequiche59 You’ll have a lot of fun today!
Interesting you should mention missing the stress outlet of drinking cause I recently thought the same thing. Even though it is "temporary" there is this sense of a chillax factor that I miss too. BUT, then I thought of the feelings & anxiety & depression that comes after the "relief" & my envy vanished. Like you said we can be grateful for sobriety. It IS a gift!!
As for your lack of fun at parties with your drinking friends, I think you'll find a new kind of fun at some point as in good conversation etc & will be able to change your mindset when you're ready for that. Please be gentle with yourself & allow yourself to do whatever it is you need to do to take care of yourself at this point, and if that means making a brief appearance & then disappearing then that's ok. You don't need to "should" yourself into doing anything you're not ready for yet.
You seem to have a really good balance in taking care of yourself & being positive. You are definitely a stength & really good example for all of us on this thread.
AND YES, I had lots of fun with my young group of giggling teens...I am also exhausted....if I had only one 10th of their energy.....!!!!2 -
@JenT304, the one that totally changed my mindset was titled something like Quitting Drinking The Easy Way For Women. That may not be exact but close enough.
I MISS you guys! Hopefully things at the wonderful crazy juvenile jail will level off soon and I can participate more. Much love to you all.3 -
Today, I surpassed my AF record from wintertime. It was 76 days AF and then St. Pat’s Day hit. Today is day 77AF. All is well. Will reward myself with a trip to Ulta. Wishing everyone a great day!11
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@JenT304, the one that totally changed my mindset was titled something like Quitting Drinking The Easy Way For Women. That may not be exact but close enough.
I MISS you guys! Hopefully things at the wonderful crazy juvenile jail will level off soon and I can participate more. Much love to you all.
What’s extra nice about your job although stressful, is that you are in the zone, living in the moment each day at work. That’s such a good thing. We miss you too.0 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »RubyRed427 wrote: »The only alcohol related thought I have lately is feeling a little jealous that I don’t have a stress outlet like my husband or friends (I dont drink, smoke, etc.) But of course, I know that I should be grateful for that.
It’s been 10 weeks since my birthday binge, and I am extremely happy every Saturday/Sunday morning when I open my eyes and have no hangover. That’s a big gift to me. Tonight, I’m going to a party at my drinking friends house; I’ll go for a little while and sneak out. I just don’t have fun at them anymore. I should really change my mindset however and view it for all the other positives like good conversation, food, laughter and connecting with new people.
@lorrainequiche59 You’ll have a lot of fun today!
Interesting you should mention missing the stress outlet of drinking cause I recently thought the same thing. Even though it is "temporary" there is this sense of a chillax factor that I miss too. BUT, then I thought of the feelings & anxiety & depression that comes after the "relief" & my envy vanished. Like you said we can be grateful for sobriety. It IS a gift!!
As for your lack of fun at parties with your drinking friends, I think you'll find a new kind of fun at some point as in good conversation etc & will be able to change your mindset when you're ready for that. Please be gentle with yourself & allow yourself to do whatever it is you need to do to take care of yourself at this point, and if that means making a brief appearance & then disappearing then that's ok. You don't need to "should" yourself into doing anything you're not ready for yet.
You seem to have a really good balance in taking care of yourself & being positive. You are definitely a stength & really good example for all of us on this thread.
AND YES, I had lots of fun with my young group of giggling teens...I am also exhausted....if I had only one 10th of their energy.....!!!!
Thanks for your message. I enjoyed my party mostly. But one friend kept saying to me and the girls, “Let’s go bar hopping tomorrow for the football game. NOT you Julie, I know You cant go.” She was like a broken record. She said “bar hopping/not you Julie” about five times. So, either subconsciously she is jealous of my sobriety, because she’s stated a few times how much stronger I am than her. OR she was just being a b*tch!! Ha!
I told her “I wouldnt want to go anyway. I have things to do.”7 -
Jeez @RubyRed427 ,your friend sound kinda bratty! Hopefully she's just being silly and joking,I'd feel hurt if someone kept on and on about me not drinking,everyone sounds really good I'm on day 11 after my choice to drink in September,still disappointed about it and I just feel like its time to get my act together! I wasted most of my 30's on drinking I sure as heck don't want to waste my 40's too,hope everyone has a super,sober Sunday!5
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@RubyRed427 I’m so sorry your friend was such a punk. It sounds like she was both jealous AND b*tchy, but you handled it like a champ!
Today is day 75 AF. I intend to do this forever, so I know I’ll want to stop counting eventually... but for right now the counting is a source of pride and encouragement so I’m sticking with it ☺️ The last few days have been TOUGH and I am also one of those who is missing the temporarily chill factor of a glass (or 4) of wine... but I don’t miss the 3 am wake ups, or the hangovers, or the anxiety! Happy Sunday, friends 💙7 -
Well good news bad news I wound up in the hospital for cellulitis and a small clot in my leg after our flight back from vacation I need IV antibiotics good news l no longer drink so I don’t have to deal with the anxiety I had last time not being able to drink. The guy in the next bed has all the signs the veins in his face and the flush and now a small shake in his hands without a drink in 3 days12
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@RubyRed427 OR your friend may have had a few too many. My "former" friend who got her 2nd DUI recently used to repeat, repeat, repeat cause she forgot she had already told me the same thing 6 times to the point where I had to tell her to STOP IT!!. SO annoying!!! But, it can be a symptom of too much. I've been guilty of it myself LOL!!
@Ke22yB Sorry for your health issue. My brother has had cellulitis & ended up in the hospital for 9 days a few years back. No idea why he got it, but it can be a recurring issue also. Hoping the best for you & a speedy recoup. Glad you're ok!!3 -
I've never had alcohol in my entire life so I cannot say I totally understand how it feels to be addicted to it. HOWEVER- I WANT TO CONGRATULATE ALL THOSE WHO HAVE, OR ARE WORKING ON, SOBRIETY! May God bless you all!6
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Well good news bad news I wound up in the hospital for cellulitis and a small clot in my leg after our flight back from vacation I need IV antibiotics good news l no longer drink so I don’t have to deal with the anxiety I had last time not being able to drink. The guy in the next bed has all the signs the veins in his face and the flush and now a small shake in his hands without a drink in 3 days
Wishing you speedy healing!3 -
@RubyRed427 Glad it was a nice time despite the insecure friend, trying to exclude you for choosing to have not have alcohol. Guess they don't need a DD then.. their loss!
@LC0924 I do miss that "false feeling" of relaxing with a bottle of wine, but I absolutely agree with not missing ANY of the anxiety, or dehydration, stomach issues (which turn to bad breath issues), and brain fog, liver damage, etc..
Hang in there! You're doing great!
@whitpauly I too wasted my 30s drinking, and am done living my life in a fog.
We can do it!
@Ke22yB Hope you get better quickly!!5 -
Just got through my first AF weekend in over 10 years.
Having done a weekend cycle helped my confidence.11
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