What I Hate About Watching My Weight/New Lifestyle/Dieting, etc. (A Place to Vent)
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VanVanDiane wrote: »psychod787 wrote: »Call me a douche or just old fashioned. It does not sound sexual to me. Just someone being... gasp.... nice... maybe the wrong thing to say, but I believe that people are just so freaked out by strangers. Don't get me wrong, there are dangerous people out there, but not everyone is like that. I think people need to speak to each other more. A good day probably would have been better, but just maybe, just maybe, he was just being nice. Or maybe, a pervert. Who knows?
I think the poster before you got it right - how many men get told by women ' Come on love give us a smile'? I'd be genuinely interested to know if that has happened to any of you guys. It's happened to me a lot - I'm not a doll to smile on command sweetheart...
I actually hear this being said a lot to some GUYS I work with. They always frown and people are constantly telling them they need to smile. They never take it sexual at all. It also happens to me quite a bit and isn't really a big deal. Annoying yes but mostly people are trying to be nice. This girl I work with tells me more than anyone but she is always smiling and I'm not much of a smiler.8 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »VanVanDiane wrote: »
RIGHT?!? I hate wasting the delicious points (calories) on non-delicious foods! :mad:
Especially when it's something you used to love when you were younger or before you lost weight.
I used to love a lot of the Little Debbie snacks when I was younger & even when I was morbidly obese, but totally not worth it anymore!
Well unless it's a Swiss Roll, Nuddy Buddy, or Pumpkin Face.3 -
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Makes it really hard to enjoy the weekly treats that get brought in for our weekly staff meetings. I usually ignore them except the random week when something from a really good local bakery is brought in. Totally blows everything for the day, but at least it's maybe once a month that it happens.4
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kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »VanVanDiane wrote: »
RIGHT?!? I hate wasting the delicious points (calories) on non-delicious foods! :mad:
Especially when it's something you used to love when you were younger or before you lost weight.
I used to love a lot of the Little Debbie snacks when I was younger & even when I was morbidly obese, but totally not worth it anymore!
Well unless it's a Swiss Roll, Nuddy Buddy, or Pumpkin Face.
I'm still partial to the zebra cakes4 -
jdubois5351 wrote: »
Don't judge. It IS difficult to stick with a social circle that drinks while you stay sober. Being around drunk people when you're not is super annoying.29 -
I hate that when grill a burger it can't be my burger of the past--6oz of 80% beef, blue cheese, lettuce tomato, onion, mayo, ketsup,mustard and relish with a side of both potato and macaroni salad. That is what I want...what I really really want.
(and please don't give the friendly advice to fit it into my calories...or everything in moderation)
So I hate weighing out 4oz of beef, no cheese, trimming off the roll so it weighs the right weight and having fake cauliflower potato salad.14 -
@Noreenmarie1234 (geek alert) they're symbols of my house in The Ilvermorny challenge I'm currently in (Harry Potter world, sort of). The bottom right one means I'm in Horned Serpent, and earning points for said house by completing various challenges, meeting my calorie goal etc.2
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VanVanDiane wrote: »@Noreenmarie1234 (geek alert) they're symbols of my house in The Ilvermorny challenge I'm currently in (Harry Potter world, sort of). The bottom right one means I'm in Horned Serpent, and earning points for said house by completing various challenges, meeting my calorie goal etc.
Omg I am a huge Harry Potter too ! Didn’t see that challenge lol thanks for explaining !2 -
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MonkeyMel21 wrote: »
Pretty much!MonkeyMel21 wrote: »I just hate that it’s never ending. I really enjoy working out, I’ve got that part down. I do NOT enjoy paying constant attention to what I eat in order to maintain my weight. It’s like I can never truly relax, constant vigilance.
Sick of looking at numbers.
Can’t wait to hit maintenance so I won’t have to be so strict.
Spoiler alert, maintenance is almost just as hard, lol.
Way to rain on my parade 😅😊
Frankly I think maintenance is the hardest part - when I relax a bit I gain my weight back and have to start all over again
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I love beer. So many damn tasty craft beers out there and I can’t have any while dieting unless I starve myself!8
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jdubois5351 wrote: »
I'm 27 and love to go out to bars and watch football with my friends. Sue me!
So do I (only I go to watch rugby instead of football). I guess I'm lucky that my friends in general don't drink (a beer or a cocktail, sure, but rarely more). I never understood the need to get drunk to have fun.1 -
That I have to look at something's yumminess in term of it's calorific value.
For example, the other day I had a gooey chocolate fondant type pudding, and although it was really yummy, for the number of calories it was, it wasn't quite yummy enough9 -
MonkeyMel21 wrote: »
Pretty much!MonkeyMel21 wrote: »I just hate that it’s never ending. I really enjoy working out, I’ve got that part down. I do NOT enjoy paying constant attention to what I eat in order to maintain my weight. It’s like I can never truly relax, constant vigilance.
Sick of looking at numbers.
Can’t wait to hit maintenance so I won’t have to be so strict.
Spoiler alert, maintenance is almost just as hard, lol.
Way to rain on my parade 😅😊
Frankly I think maintenance is the hardest part - when I relax a bit I gain my weight back and have to start all over again
Never relax! Never turn your back! I remember the moment I was like I'M HERE HELLO GOAL WEIGHT ok I get basically no more calories forever. OK then.5 -
Butterchop wrote: »VanVanDiane wrote: »psychod787 wrote: »Call me a douche or just old fashioned. It does not sound sexual to me. Just someone being... gasp.... nice... maybe the wrong thing to say, but I believe that people are just so freaked out by strangers. Don't get me wrong, there are dangerous people out there, but not everyone is like that. I think people need to speak to each other more. A good day probably would have been better, but just maybe, just maybe, he was just being nice. Or maybe, a pervert. Who knows?
I think the poster before you got it right - how many men get told by women ' Come on love give us a smile'? I'd be genuinely interested to know if that has happened to any of you guys. It's happened to me a lot - I'm not a doll to smile on command sweetheart...
I actually hear this being said a lot to some GUYS I work with. They always frown and people are constantly telling them they need to smile. They never take it sexual at all. It also happens to me quite a bit and isn't really a big deal. Annoying yes but mostly people are trying to be nice. This girl I work with tells me more than anyone but she is always smiling and I'm not much of a smiler.
As a guy, I've never been told to smile, and never heard a guy been told to smile, in the same way that its told to women. Sure if a guy is looking all grumpy, maybe a friend will say to them "Don't be sad, be happy, smile more." That's completely different than going up to a stranger and saying "come on love, give us a smile" or "you would be really pretty if you smiled more" or all the other condescending, creepy ways its said to women. It's totally in your right to not find it offensive when someone does it you, but a it makes a significant number of women uncomfortable, and men should stop doing it because of that.
Like my wife actually likes it when construction workers catcall her. It makes her feel good. That's totally her right to feel that way but that doesn't make catcalling good or an okay thing to do or make it wrong that other women don't like it.
I think it's the same thing with telling a woman to smile. If the guy knows the woman well and is absolutely sure that she doesn't take offense to it (and not just going along with it to placate you), sure go ahead. But for women that they don't know well or for strangers, it's not an appropriate thing for men to do.24 -
jludwick78 wrote: »I love beer. So many damn tasty craft beers out there and I can’t have any while dieting unless I starve myself!
I feel your pain. I'm a crafter and brewer and the tricky part is making this fit the budget. It can be done, but many of the rich brews are really calorie dense.
Why I'm partial to heavy grainy/oatey stouts - both a refreshing drink and a meal.5 -
jdubois5351 wrote: »
Agree, I've never had this problem! In fact my friends love how I'm available to be DD lol. And I get all the fun without any of the illness.6 -
Butterchop wrote: »VanVanDiane wrote: »psychod787 wrote: »Call me a douche or just old fashioned. It does not sound sexual to me. Just someone being... gasp.... nice... maybe the wrong thing to say, but I believe that people are just so freaked out by strangers. Don't get me wrong, there are dangerous people out there, but not everyone is like that. I think people need to speak to each other more. A good day probably would have been better, but just maybe, just maybe, he was just being nice. Or maybe, a pervert. Who knows?
I think the poster before you got it right - how many men get told by women ' Come on love give us a smile'? I'd be genuinely interested to know if that has happened to any of you guys. It's happened to me a lot - I'm not a doll to smile on command sweetheart...
I actually hear this being said a lot to some GUYS I work with. They always frown and people are constantly telling them they need to smile. They never take it sexual at all. It also happens to me quite a bit and isn't really a big deal. Annoying yes but mostly people are trying to be nice. This girl I work with tells me more than anyone but she is always smiling and I'm not much of a smiler.
As a guy, I've never been told to smile, and never heard a guy been told to smile, in the same way that its told to women. Sure if a guy is looking all grumpy, maybe a friend will say to them "Don't be sad, be happy, smile more." That's completely different than going up to a stranger and saying "come on love, give us a smile" or "you would be really pretty if you smiled more" or all the other condescending, creepy ways its said to women. It's totally in your right to not find it offensive when someone does it you, but a it makes a significant number of women uncomfortable, and men should stop doing it because of that.
Like my wife actually likes it when construction workers catcall her. It makes her feel good. That's totally her right to feel that way but that doesn't make catcalling good or an okay thing to do or make it wrong that other women don't like it.
I think it's the same thing with telling a woman to smile. If the guy knows the woman well and is absolutely sure that she doesn't take offense to it (and not just going along with it to placate you), sure go ahead. But for women that they don't know well or for strangers, it's not an appropriate thing for men to do.
I actually like what you wrote. I'm a more serious and reserved person by nature and I don't go around with a phony smile planted on my face. Something funny happens or I'm happy for a reason, yes, then I will smile genuinely. I am told often by strangers in my workplace to smile because I'd be pretty. I now respond that I think I'm pretty regardless of my boring and reserved personality. I could never understand why strangers think it's at all acceptable to tell someone this type of stuff. I'd never tell an overweight stranger to lose weight to be pretty, to cut their hair to be pretty, to wear something more flattering to be pretty, etc.17 -
Butterchop wrote: »VanVanDiane wrote: »psychod787 wrote: »Call me a douche or just old fashioned. It does not sound sexual to me. Just someone being... gasp.... nice... maybe the wrong thing to say, but I believe that people are just so freaked out by strangers. Don't get me wrong, there are dangerous people out there, but not everyone is like that. I think people need to speak to each other more. A good day probably would have been better, but just maybe, just maybe, he was just being nice. Or maybe, a pervert. Who knows?
I think the poster before you got it right - how many men get told by women ' Come on love give us a smile'? I'd be genuinely interested to know if that has happened to any of you guys. It's happened to me a lot - I'm not a doll to smile on command sweetheart...
I actually hear this being said a lot to some GUYS I work with. They always frown and people are constantly telling them they need to smile. They never take it sexual at all. It also happens to me quite a bit and isn't really a big deal. Annoying yes but mostly people are trying to be nice. This girl I work with tells me more than anyone but she is always smiling and I'm not much of a smiler.
As a guy, I've never been told to smile, and never heard a guy been told to smile, in the same way that its told to women. Sure if a guy is looking all grumpy, maybe a friend will say to them "Don't be sad, be happy, smile more." That's completely different than going up to a stranger and saying "come on love, give us a smile" or "you would be really pretty if you smiled more" or all the other condescending, creepy ways its said to women. It's totally in your right to not find it offensive when someone does it you, but a it makes a significant number of women uncomfortable, and men should stop doing it because of that.
Like my wife actually likes it when construction workers catcall her. It makes her feel good. That's totally her right to feel that way but that doesn't make catcalling good or an okay thing to do or make it wrong that other women don't like it.
I think it's the same thing with telling a woman to smile. If the guy knows the woman well and is absolutely sure that she doesn't take offense to it (and not just going along with it to placate you), sure go ahead. But for women that they don't know well or for strangers, it's not an appropriate thing for men to do.
No we are not told to smile.
However, to suggest that we are not told to not be ourselves is not true either. We are told to express our emotions, except anger, we are not supposed to be angry. Somehow, anger is a sin.
We are told we shouldn't be so shallow.
We are told that we are inferior when it comes to relationships. I.E. women are better at relationships and if you were only more like women... Nope, we would be redundant. The same goes for caring for children. We are not inferior, we each have areas of relative strength and weakness. If we are of equal value, then embrace the differences, don't suggest that our ways are somehow inferior, base, shallow, or other such put downs.
So even if we don't hear the exact same messages, the underlying message is the same to both men and women, you are not good enough as you are, you need to be more like _______.10
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