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  • sramgirlsramgirl Posts: 16Member, Premium Member Posts: 16Member, Premium Member
    "I associated pink with pigs and pink looked terrible on me. I also avoided browns, because I saw myself as looking like a big ole bear in browns. No more, the slimmer and trimmer I'm becoming, the more I am loving pinks, grays and browns. "

    This makes me feel more normal to hear someone else who has thought in these terms too. I have avoided purple because I'll be the McDonald's Grimace. I avoided red because I'd be the Kool Aid Man, and I always visualized smashing through walls shouting "ooohhh yeah" just like him.

    We can wear different colors. Yes, thanks for this insight :)
    edited November 2018
  • NewLIFEstyle4MENewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 3,433Member Member Posts: 3,433Member Member
    sramgirl wrote: »
    "I associated pink with pigs and pink looked terrible on me. I also avoided browns, because I saw myself as looking like a big ole bear in browns. No more, the slimmer and trimmer I'm becoming, the more I am loving pinks, grays and browns. "

    This makes me feel more normal to hear someone else who has thought in these terms too. I have avoided purple because I'll be the McDonald's Grimace. I avoided red because I'd be the Kool Aid Man, and I always visualized smashing through walls shouting "ooohhh yeah" just like him.
    We can wear different colors. Yes, thanks for this insight :)

    Thank you ever so much for this reply...WOW, it's amazing how one perceives things. Your post so made me smile--because it's so NICE to know one is not alone in their way of thinking/believing.
    {{{{ Hugs}}}}
    edited November 2018
  • VUA21VUA21 Posts: 2,085Member Member Posts: 2,085Member Member
    No one told me that I would be afraid to go into stores. Afraid that the ladies would be side-eyeing me wonder if I really belonged in that store. No one told me that clothes shopping could be just as traumatic at a smaller size as it had at larger, only being mostly in my head. I'm sure no one is paying attention to me, but... BUT MAYBE THEY ARE.

    No one told me I'd still encounter a store not having my size... except the other way around. Not enough smaller sizes and some of the things I wanted only came in a size that was too large.

    I still can't bring myself to shop by myself like an adult because I'm afraid it will be an epic failure. I stare in stores like they are an impossibility. Someday, I hope to cross this mental hurdle.

    All the time!!!!! "Oh this is a cute top....let's see the sizes....XXL, XL, L, L,......nope no smalls grrrrt"

    I get the added bonus of being very small chested aka women's blouses have too much boob rooom now.

    My advice: ask an associate for help, they'll help you figure out what actually looks good on you.
  • workinonit1956workinonit1956 Posts: 992Member Member Posts: 992Member Member
    I’m encountering a lot of “no smalls” also. I see I’m not alone.
  • dhiammarathdhiammarath Posts: 615Member, Premium Member Posts: 615Member, Premium Member
    @Vonny198334 -- I think so much that surely there's no way what I fit into is ACTUALLY the size on the garment. (Which isn't helped by the fact that in another store, that same size won't fit. Either one way or the other). Someday, I'll see this new me... Someday! You're right, we will get there!

    @VUA21 -- I have the opposite problem. Ahem, lots on top but a narrow ribcage. So it's either too big to fit the top and makes me look heavier or fits and is too, ah, tight and makes me look awkward. So shirts are kind of hit and miss. For now, mediums seem to be a nice compromise. Not too baggy around the arms and waist, but not skin tight across the top as smalls can sometimes be. A quality sales associate can help you find things tailored to your shape!
  • JessiBelleWJessiBelleW Posts: 648Member Member Posts: 648Member Member
    No one told me that I would be afraid to go into stores. Afraid that the ladies would be side-eyeing me wonder if I really belonged in that store. No one told me that clothes shopping could be just as traumatic at a smaller size as it had at larger, only being mostly in my head. I'm sure no one is paying attention to me, but... BUT MAYBE THEY ARE.

    No one told me I'd still encounter a store not having my size... except the other way around. Not enough smaller sizes and some of the things I wanted only came in a size that was too large.

    I still can't bring myself to shop by myself like an adult because I'm afraid it will be an epic failure. I stare in stores like they are an impossibility. Someday, I hope to cross this mental hurdle.

    Identify with this a fair bit!

    Amazing how smaller sizes are sold out & when I shop for clothes I do think when I'm pulling out these items (that are less than half the size I used to need) that anyone nearby might be thinking "pffft, who's she trying to kid??" 😆
    Do tend to feel like an imposter & even when the label says small or size 8/10/12 (pearshape!) I just tell myself it's vanity sizing.

    My lovely hubs says "It probably IS vanity sizing...you should've just squished yourself into these clothes when you were a size 22, no need to have lost any weight cos...they aren't REALLY those sizes 😏"

    Fair point babe...fair point 🤣

    We'll both get there on our collective emotional rollercoasters...we always do in the end, right? ❤️
    No one told me that I would be afraid to go into stores. Afraid that the ladies would be side-eyeing me wonder if I really belonged in that store. No one told me that clothes shopping could be just as traumatic at a smaller size as it had at larger, only being mostly in my head. I'm sure no one is paying attention to me, but... BUT MAYBE THEY ARE.

    No one told me I'd still encounter a store not having my size... except the other way around. Not enough smaller sizes and some of the things I wanted only came in a size that was too large.

    I still can't bring myself to shop by myself like an adult because I'm afraid it will be an epic failure. I stare in stores like they are an impossibility. Someday, I hope to cross this mental hurdle.

    Identify with this a fair bit!

    Amazing how smaller sizes are sold out & when I shop for clothes I do think when I'm pulling out these items (that are less than half the size I used to need) that anyone nearby might be thinking "pffft, who's she trying to kid??" 😆
    Do tend to feel like an imposter & even when the label says small or size 8/10/12 (pearshape!) I just tell myself it's vanity sizing.

    My lovely hubs says "It probably IS vanity sizing...you should've just squished yourself into these clothes when you were a size 22, no need to have lost any weight cos...they aren't REALLY those sizes 😏"

    Fair point babe...fair point 🤣

    We'll both get there on our collective emotional rollercoasters...we always do in the end, right? ❤️
    No one told me that I would be afraid to go into stores. Afraid that the ladies would be side-eyeing me wonder if I really belonged in that store. No one told me that clothes shopping could be just as traumatic at a smaller size as it had at larger, only being mostly in my head. I'm sure no one is paying attention to me, but... BUT MAYBE THEY ARE.

    No one told me I'd still encounter a store not having my size... except the other way around. Not enough smaller sizes and some of the things I wanted only came in a size that was too large.

    I still can't bring myself to shop by myself like an adult because I'm afraid it will be an epic failure. I stare in stores like they are an impossibility. Someday, I hope to cross this mental hurdle.

    Maybe for now you can order off of the internet? Most places have free returns and if you use a tape measure to measure yourself you should be able to get pretty accurate wig sizes
  • MexicangreensalsaMexicangreensalsa Posts: 197Member Member Posts: 197Member Member
    No one told me that I would be afraid to go into stores. Afraid that the ladies would be side-eyeing me wonder if I really belonged in that store. No one told me that clothes shopping could be just as traumatic at a smaller size as it had at larger, only being mostly in my head. I'm sure no one is paying attention to me, but... BUT MAYBE THEY ARE.

    No one told me I'd still encounter a store not having my size... except the other way around. Not enough smaller sizes and some of the things I wanted only came in a size that was too large.

    I still can't bring myself to shop by myself like an adult because I'm afraid it will be an epic failure. I stare in stores like they are an impossibility. Someday, I hope to cross this mental hurdle.

    Identify with this a fair bit!

    Amazing how smaller sizes are sold out & when I shop for clothes I do think when I'm pulling out these items (that are less than half the size I used to need) that anyone nearby might be thinking "pffft, who's she trying to kid??" 😆
    Do tend to feel like an imposter & even when the label says small or size 8/10/12 (pearshape!) I just tell myself it's vanity sizing.

    My lovely hubs says "It probably IS vanity sizing...you should've just squished yourself into these clothes when you were a size 22, no need to have lost any weight cos...they aren't REALLY those sizes 😏"

    Fair point babe...fair point 🤣

    We'll both get there on our collective emotional rollercoasters...we always do in the end, right? ❤️
    No one told me that I would be afraid to go into stores. Afraid that the ladies would be side-eyeing me wonder if I really belonged in that store. No one told me that clothes shopping could be just as traumatic at a smaller size as it had at larger, only being mostly in my head. I'm sure no one is paying attention to me, but... BUT MAYBE THEY ARE.

    No one told me I'd still encounter a store not having my size... except the other way around. Not enough smaller sizes and some of the things I wanted only came in a size that was too large.

    I still can't bring myself to shop by myself like an adult because I'm afraid it will be an epic failure. I stare in stores like they are an impossibility. Someday, I hope to cross this mental hurdle.

    Identify with this a fair bit!

    Amazing how smaller sizes are sold out & when I shop for clothes I do think when I'm pulling out these items (that are less than half the size I used to need) that anyone nearby might be thinking "pffft, who's she trying to kid??" 😆
    Do tend to feel like an imposter & even when the label says small or size 8/10/12 (pearshape!) I just tell myself it's vanity sizing.

    My lovely hubs says "It probably IS vanity sizing...you should've just squished yourself into these clothes when you were a size 22, no need to have lost any weight cos...they aren't REALLY those sizes 😏"

    Fair point babe...fair point 🤣

    We'll both get there on our collective emotional rollercoasters...we always do in the end, right? ❤️
    No one told me that I would be afraid to go into stores. Afraid that the ladies would be side-eyeing me wonder if I really belonged in that store. No one told me that clothes shopping could be just as traumatic at a smaller size as it had at larger, only being mostly in my head. I'm sure no one is paying attention to me, but... BUT MAYBE THEY ARE.

    No one told me I'd still encounter a store not having my size... except the other way around. Not enough smaller sizes and some of the things I wanted only came in a size that was too large.

    I still can't bring myself to shop by myself like an adult because I'm afraid it will be an epic failure. I stare in stores like they are an impossibility. Someday, I hope to cross this mental hurdle.

    Maybe for now you can order off of the internet? Most places have free returns and if you use a tape measure to measure yourself you should be able to get pretty accurate wig sizes

    Very much a fan of internet shopping!! Sometimes it's nice to go for a wee wander, see what's there & try things outside your usual style though. Clothes shopping is like a whole new world now 😮
    No one told me that I would be afraid to go into stores. Afraid that the ladies would be side-eyeing me wonder if I really belonged in that store. No one told me that clothes shopping could be just as traumatic at a smaller size as it had at larger, only being mostly in my head. I'm sure no one is paying attention to me, but... BUT MAYBE THEY ARE.

    No one told me I'd still encounter a store not having my size... except the other way around. Not enough smaller sizes and some of the things I wanted only came in a size that was too large.

    I still can't bring myself to shop by myself like an adult because I'm afraid it will be an epic failure. I stare in stores like they are an impossibility. Someday, I hope to cross this mental hurdle.

    Identify with this a fair bit!

    Amazing how smaller sizes are sold out & when I shop for clothes I do think when I'm pulling out these items (that are less than half the size I used to need) that anyone nearby might be thinking "pffft, who's she trying to kid??" 😆
    Do tend to feel like an imposter & even when the label says small or size 8/10/12 (pearshape!) I just tell myself it's vanity sizing.

    My lovely hubs says "It probably IS vanity sizing...you should've just squished yourself into these clothes when you were a size 22, no need to have lost any weight cos...they aren't REALLY those sizes 😏"

    Fair point babe...fair point 🤣

    We'll both get there on our collective emotional rollercoasters...we always do in the end, right? ❤️

    To some extent, it is vanity sizing. I remember reading a lot of posts on here about how US size 00 is what used to be a US size 6-8 a few decades ago.

    Absolutely, very similar here in the UK too for sure!

    The hubs just meant vanity sizing or no, they are half the size of the clothes I used to have to buy. Even with vanity incorporated into that he meant...stop downplaying your success, no matter what the label SHOULD say size wise, it's still a massive amount of weight to have lost. He tries to drill it into me cos for some reason, I'm always of the opinion I'm not at goal & therefore not a "real" success yet... saying the labels aren't *really* whatever size is sort of part of that if it makes sense?...totally stupid, I know, but that's my brain for you! 😆

    Ohhhh, I am sorry I misunderstood what you were getting at in the post! If that is you in your photo, you have surely made astounding change no matter what the clothing size is! To go from a 22 to a 8/10/12 is huge.
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