The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Welcome to the newcomers!
Everyone is doing great and me, too!7 -
I read all the posts, but rarely post myself, but I have to shout out that as of today I have 100 days! The holidays were sometimes hard, but I never go anywhere without some tea bags with me so that I can occupy my hands if I have to.14
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shortchange1 wrote: »I read all the posts, but rarely post myself, but I have to shout out that as of today I have 100 days! The holidays were sometimes hard, but I never go anywhere without some tea bags with me so that I can occupy my hands if I have to.
Congrats on 100 Days AF! That's great!7 -
salleewins wrote: »MrSunshinez wrote: »Good morning gang! Waking up clear headed again today. Last night was a true test though. I'm a graphic designer but not to hot on the website coding side. I was having so many problems with WordPress I was on the brink of going out and getting a bottle of something. But...I decided to say a few choice words, turn off the pc and go to bed. Woke up this morning, chatted with technical support and all is well again. Good Sunday to all!
Great! Yes it all does pass. I specifically remember having problems with the work at home computer position I had and running out to the liquor store. Glad you stayed strong.
Thanks. Oh, it's maddening! When you have doubts about what you're doing and it turns out it's not your fault. I hate imposed updates!
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I am enjoying my run yesterday, the time I get to think about things
The reasons I don’t drink anymore running around in my head
I am healthier Weight loss over 170 pounds running every day swimming a lot
I am able to enjoy and remember my vacations and when we eat out our meals and if the food is good
My friendships are stronger without drinking as I am the driver and enjoying myself as much and remembering what I enjoyed
Sometimes in the beginning it seems hard and uncomfortable to be a non drinker but the benefit is more than worth it10 -
shortchange1 wrote: »I read all the posts, but rarely post myself, but I have to shout out that as of today I have 100 days! The holidays were sometimes hard, but I never go anywhere without some tea bags with me so that I can occupy my hands if I have to.
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Everyone's posts are so inspiring! @Norminv I'm so proud of you!! @lorrainequiche59 I like puzzles too! Great idea about sliding it under the sofa. Glad you made it through your dinner and the wine has left with your guests. @Ke22yB 170 weight loss?! That is a whole person! Good for you! I hate exercise but I am going to drag myself to the gym right now because I ALWAYS feel better afterward. Keep up the good work, Folks! Onward we go!7
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Hi folks, this is my kind of chat
Long time teetotaler here lol, but its still just a day at a time. It's all we have. Peace, good folks 6 -
I am enjoying my run yesterday, the time I get to think about things
The reasons I don’t drink anymore running around in my head
I am healthier Weight loss over 170 pounds running every day swimming a lot
I am able to enjoy and remember my vacations and when we eat out our meals and if the food is good
My friendships are stronger without drinking as I am the driver and enjoying myself as much and remembering what I enjoyed
Sometimes in the beginning it seems hard and uncomfortable to be a non drinker but the benefit is more than worth it
Thank you for providing this message for us!! That is a lot of weight to lose. I guess I can persevere with the last of what I want off. Thank you for this list!!4 -
@Norminv you are doing such a great job!!5
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Hi Y'all
GREAT comments...37 days...100 days...WOOHOO to you two 
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I am happy to be AF! I was a little surprised by cutting out ALL
my wine calories and really watching what I am eating the scale did not go down as far as I would have thought. Half a pound. I know it’s not just the number and very happy I am making the choice for overall better health! Has anyone else been surprised? 4 -
Fitness327wk wrote: »I am happy to be AF! I was a little surprised by cutting out ALL my wine calories and really watching what I am eating the scale did not go down as far as I would have thought. Half a pound. I know it’s not just the number and very happy I am making the choice for overall better health! Has anyone else been surprised?
I didn’t really lose much weight for the first month. Then, I stopped eating sugar to substitute the alcohol. And that’s when I lost some weight. So, give it time. It will all work out... .or off.7 -
I don't think I'm going to make it through tonight much less the week. Someone said something to me that hurt so deeply that it shook me to my core. It hurt because they said it. It hurt because it seems like an honest assessment and it hurts most that there's nothing I can do to change it. Right now as I write I'm bingeing on rocky road ice cream. We'll see what happens after the sugar rush sets in.9
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Hi, I'm on day 3. I actually lost almost all the weight 4 years ago and one key was being one year and a half sober. It's tough, I lost many friends, not really lost them but I was not cool anymore. And in any dinner they were all trying to get me drunk. So I had to pass on many social plans. It was very tough from that perspective. I didn't miss it, my body surely didn't but socially it was a disaster. Anyway here we are again.
After a christmas of a couple of bad binges, really feeling destroyed for a couple of days after I feel not worth it for the time being. Day by day.
Cheers to everyone.8 -
Lastchancetochange wrote: »Hi, I'm on day 3. I actually lost almost all the weight 4 years ago and one key was being one year and a half sober. It's tough, I lost many friends, not really lost them but I was not cool anymore. And in any dinner they were all trying to get me drunk. So I had to pass on many social plans. It was very tough from that perspective. I didn't miss it, my body surely didn't but socially it was a disaster. Anyway here we are again.
After a christmas of a couple of bad binges, really feeling destroyed for a couple of days after I feel not worth it for the time being. Day by day.
Cheers to everyone.
You'll eventually start getting "friends" who support your sobriety. Worth having. And it does get easier. For what it's worth I needed help getting away from the bottle and took up a friends offer to go to an AA meeting on December 8th, 1986. I haven't had a drink since and the desire to drink isn't even there any more. But, just like you, I only have today. Hang in there, you can do this.7 -
Lastchancetochange wrote: »Hi, I'm on day 3. I actually lost almost all the weight 4 years ago and one key was being one year and a half sober. It's tough, I lost many friends, not really lost them but I was not cool anymore. And in any dinner they were all trying to get me drunk. So I had to pass on many social plans. It was very tough from that perspective. I didn't miss it, my body surely didn't but socially it was a disaster. Anyway here we are again.
After a christmas of a couple of bad binges, really feeling destroyed for a couple of days after I feel not worth it for the time being. Day by day.
Cheers to everyone.
Hi. Welcome. Glad you are working on changing this vicious cycle for more peace. I have been there and tried to stop many times. Finally have strung enough days together that it is almost a year. I never want to go back. You are so worth a better life. Trying to figure out your username?? Great to meet you here!
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MrSunshinez wrote: »I don't think I'm going to make it through tonight much less the week. Someone said something to me that hurt so deeply that it shook me to my core. It hurt because they said it. It hurt because it seems like an honest assessment and it hurts most that there's nothing I can do to change it. Right now as I write I'm bingeing on rocky road ice cream. We'll see what happens after the sugar rush sets in.
I AM SO SORRY that has happened. Remember when we are vulnerable we often get kicked. In this case shoved, kicked and beaten. Here's hoping the ice cream helped in some way to avoid the temptation and you went to sleep as best as you could. Remember as bad as it has hurt and I have had PLENTY, too, nothing is worth drinking over. Stick close and let us know how you are doing.
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Fitness327wk wrote: »I am happy to be AF! I was a little surprised by cutting out ALL my wine calories and really watching what I am eating the scale did not go down as far as I would have thought. Half a pound. I know it’s not just the number and very happy I am making the choice for overall better health! Has anyone else been surprised?
Well maybe. You see I was gaining while drinking and that is what changed the most. I wasn't gaining like I was. While I was drinking so many calories, I was eating loads of junk, whatever I wanted, every day. You are benefiting in so many ways by cutting alcohol. How long have you cut out the wine?
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MrSunshinez wrote: »I don't think I'm going to make it through tonight much less the week. Someone said something to me that hurt so deeply that it shook me to my core. It hurt because they said it. It hurt because it seems like an honest assessment and it hurts most that there's nothing I can do to change it. Right now as I write I'm bingeing on rocky road ice cream. We'll see what happens after the sugar rush sets in.
There is a good quote i like to remember: “There are 7 billion people on the planet. And you’re going to let one idiot ruin your day.”
Keep perspective , I know it’s hard. But this is ONE person’s opinion and reality. It may be right and it may be wrong. You can only change you not others. Look up Don Miguel Ruiz The Four Agreements. I love his videos on. Youtube.5 -
I went to AA last night. We read the chapter on “to wives”. It was relevant and could have been called “to husband” “ to friend”. This also influence how Alanon started. Anyway, reading a book about alcoholism is so enlightening. My real point is whenever I ask someone how many meetings do you go to? They usually says 4 or 5 a week. I have a feeling that is the key. To keep at it. To never let your guard down. I go once a week, and I think that’s why I am always teetering on the edge. I have to take this more seriously. And really immerse myself in staying sober.
*P.s. I’m not saying this to debate or promote AA but for me this is the only way I can get support besides this thread.12 -
@RubyRed427 You are so inspiring and you are stronger than you know. We've got your back.
@MrSunshinez I hope you were able to let the craving wash over you then off your back like a duck. @Salleewins is wise. If you follow this thread you know she has been through the worst possible experience a parent can deal with. If she says nothing is worth drinking over, believe her. And if you did end up drinking, today is a new day. Please continue to come here for support.
I have not been sleeping well so I googled, "is there a difference between decaf and caffeine free tea?" Well, now I know.
"Decaffeinated tea is NOT caffeine-free. The decaffeination process leaves a minute amount of caffeine in the leaf. By law, tea labeled as “decaffeinated” must have less than 2.5 percent of its original caffeine level, which usually equates to less than 2 mg per cup."
So at night it will have to be CF.10 -
@JenT304 you and many others are so supportive of me and this thread❤️thank you !
I Bought sleepy time tea for evenings - maybe that would help. It's Celestial Seasonings brand 🌺4 -
@RubyRed427 you are taking care of yourself!! You are worth it!!3
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MrSunshinez wrote: »I don't think I'm going to make it through tonight much less the week. Someone said something to me that hurt so deeply that it shook me to my core. It hurt because they said it. It hurt because it seems like an honest assessment and it hurts most that there's nothing I can do to change it. Right now as I write I'm bingeing on rocky road ice cream. We'll see what happens after the sugar rush sets in.
I hope you made it through, but if you didn't that's ok...I wish I had seen your comment last eve and it looks like you were the last comment yesterday...Like has been said, if you did drink, today's a new day, a fresh start I love @RubyRed427's quote...I am going to try to remember that next time someone says something hurtful to me.
I'm wondering if the person's comment triggered something deeper in you...some past hurt that needs your attention. Please let us know you're ok 5 -
Fitness327wk wrote: »I am happy to be AF! I was a little surprised by cutting out ALL my wine calories and really watching what I am eating the scale did not go down as far as I would have thought. Half a pound. I know it’s not just the number and very happy I am making the choice for overall better health! Has anyone else been surprised?
I lost over 20 lbs the first couple of months I went AF, but I was pumped & being really consistent...& then somewhere along the line the wheels fell off the cart & I turned to food here & there to replace the alcohol drowning my feelings. I've managed to play around with 6 lbs lost & gained & lost & gained etc.... Food was my first love (addiction for lack of a better description) and it is my last hold out. SO, I have some issues that go beyond counting calories LOL.
Anyway, we're each unique & there are so many variables when it comes to losing weight as we all know. So, if you are being consistent in your efforts to eat healthy in proper portions with reasonable exercise, that's the formula that will work...it will come off.
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Lastchancetochange wrote: »Hi, I'm on day 3. I actually lost almost all the weight 4 years ago and one key was being one year and a half sober. It's tough, I lost many friends, not really lost them but I was not cool anymore. And in any dinner they were all trying to get me drunk. So I had to pass on many social plans. It was very tough from that perspective. I didn't miss it, my body surely didn't but socially it was a disaster. Anyway here we are again.
After a christmas of a couple of bad binges, really feeling destroyed for a couple of days after I feel not worth it for the time being. Day by day.
Cheers to everyone.
Your in the right place to get some great support. Yes, the social aspect can be difficult. Sounds like it may be helpful to find a new group of friends...ones that will support you not sabotage you. Do you have hobbies? Maybe join a group that is based on that? Glad you're here.4 -
Hello all,@MrSunshinez(hope I did that right) please check in and let us know how you are,had my 30 days AF yesterday again for the 800th time,all this starting/stopping is dumb and I read it messes our brain chemistry up to do that over and over,I always lost weight while drinking cuz I wouldn't (couldn't) eat most of the time,didnt want it interfering with my buzz! Very unhealthy relationship with booze thats for sure,wishing everyone a happy AF day 6
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RubyRed427 wrote: »MrSunshinez wrote: »I don't think I'm going to make it through tonight much less the week. Someone said something to me that hurt so deeply that it shook me to my core. It hurt because they said it. It hurt because it seems like an honest assessment and it hurts most that there's nothing I can do to change it. Right now as I write I'm bingeing on rocky road ice cream. We'll see what happens after the sugar rush sets in.
There is a good quote i like to remember: “There are 7 billion people on the planet. And you’re going to let one idiot ruin your day.”
Keep perspective , I know it’s hard. But this is ONE person’s opinion and reality. It may be right and it may be wrong. You can only change you not others. Look up Don Miguel Ruiz The Four Agreements. I love his videos on. Youtube.
I really like that quote, great! Support to all and @MrSunshinez I hope you are doing well.2 -
@JenT304....De-Caffeinated tea labeling is deceiving similar to the labeling on Non-Alcoholic beer is. There is still a minute amount of alcohol in Non-Alcoholic beer (.05% in most as stated on the labels). So unless it says its 100% Alcohol Free on the label ....It probably isn't.
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