The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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RubyRed427 wrote: »@MrSunshinez I loved reading your list. Very good thinking. I have always said to myself that God wants us to be happy, to enjoy life, to laugh, to love and to help others. Sounds like your philosophies are right along that track.
Thanks! Yes, I've always had a spiritual outlook. I try to step back out of myself and see what I'm doing to my soul vs to the person. It doesn't always work but just have to keep trying.5 -
Good morning everyone! Hope you all have a fun, safe and sober 1st weekend of the New Year! We can do this!6
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@RubyRed427 I love Craig Ferguson's sense of humor...I had watched this clip when I was rooting around YouTube to get some help for my drinking issue. It was definitely worth watching again.
Some of his lines that he shared, "I don't have a drinking problem - I have a thinking problem!!" YES. Agreed! I also can relate to "Drink responsibly. I'll try! BUT I can't!!" and I also really appreciate how he repeatedly said, "I ONLY speak for myself." then he went on to say that he finds people who have similar experiences & talks to them & hints that he finds them at the beginning of the phone book LOL....But that is us here...we all have similar experiences & we can help each other heal and stay AF.
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Checking in....I was hungry all day yesterday because of a massive workout the evening before....but I wanted to stay with my preset calories and macros....it resulted in me having a strong craving in the afternoon for a drink...by 4pm I had surrendered and thought for sure I am getting a drink later...then I told a coworker that I was doing Dry January and was craving and they said its only Jan 4, you can do it....for some reason that helped and I am here on Dry day 5...slipper slippery10
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Been really angry lately...crying quite a bit....seasonal stuff & some emotional unearthing of stuff...I've thought more today about drinking than I have since I quit 217 days ago according to my app. Rather than thinking that I cannot drink, I am thinking that I CAN drink and I CAN have all the crappy side effects from it...that stops me from following up on my desire to drink. It's only a bandaid that gets ripped off the next day & then over & over until you stop it!! I've already stopped it, so why go backwards & go through all that again....
Actually, it isn't the thought of going "through all that again." It's the thought, "What if I didn't want to go through it all again & I just kept drinking...?" It happens, but I don't want it to happen to me...
Can someone give me some happy thoughts please.....?
Sorry I did not see this sooner...I hope you are feeling better....just realize that how crappy you feel, you will only make it worse by drinking....the only path to feeling better is AF6 -
@NormInv Love your new photo! But of course, I miss your beard though. Xo
I’m happy you pushed through. That is a lesson for all of us. When we’re thinking about caving, let someone know.3 -
MrSunshinez wrote: »Good morning everyone! Hope you all have a fun, safe and sober 1st weekend of the New Year! We can do this!
Sober weekend: What will all of us do to keep busy? Now that we will have tons more time on our hands.
I will exercise , journal, watch a movie, and maybe get back to painting. I was also thinking about learning Spanish so I can travel more to faraway places like Costa Rica.5 -
One more thing.... I have identified my triggers are certain girlfriends and certain bars. So, for January I will have to stay clear of both.5
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Checking in....I was hungry all day yesterday because of a massive workout the evening before....but I wanted to stay with my preset calories and macros....it resulted in me having a strong craving in the afternoon for a drink...by 4pm I had surrendered and thought for sure I am getting a drink later...then I told a coworker that I was doing Dry January and was craving and they said its only Jan 4, you can do it....for some reason that helped and I am here on Dry day 5...slipper slippery
Proud of you! I am happy for you that you made the right choice, let’s do it!
I have been drinking wine for years and also decided for dry January. I am happy that I made that decision. Thinking clearer, more energy, slept great last night (few nights of tossing and turning, didn’t sleep well). It also made me realize I have been using wine to help me go to sleep. I don’t need that.
I do like the app for dry January. Keeps track of how many sober days, graphs etc.
Best to all!
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RubyRed427 wrote: »MrSunshinez wrote: »Good morning everyone! Hope you all have a fun, safe and sober 1st weekend of the New Year! We can do this!
Sober weekend: What will all of us do to keep busy? Now that we will have tons more time on our hands.
I will exercise , journal, watch a movie, and maybe get back to painting. I was also thinking about learning Spanish so I can travel more to faraway places like Costa Rica.
Hi Ruby!
I will exercise, food prep, organize my closet, read and make tea! One thing for me that has been a big help is hot tea! I love to cook while drinking wine and having wine with dinner. Instead I bought a glass teapot I can put on the stove and then have flowering pods that are beautiful! I feel like I am not giving up my wine as much and know I am making healthier choices.
That is really cool about thinking of learning Spanish. Great free app called Duolingo out there that I used while learning Italian. I wanted to learn key words/phrases before we went to Italy last summer. Not fluent, but it was fun!
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It's Saturday night, the 5th day of Dry January! Aside from a FEW fleeting longings, I am doing pretty well....not really craving, but eating so many sweets. Ugh. Anyway we are watching a movie tonight with subtitles so I'm glad I will be sober so I can read it with both eyes open and remember it after. Happy weekend, Friends!8
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@Norminv YAY you!!
@JenT304 Yes with the sweets. I made Butter Tart Squares for dessert tomorrow to serve with vanilla ice cream. I HAD to try it before serving to my guests. The 2nd piece was almost as good as the first LOL
I'm organized for my dinner. Just need to vacuum the bachelorette pad which will take me all of 15 mins. That is one really good thing about living in a "shoe box" cleaning is a breeze!
AND....drumroll please......................The countdown is on to my wine-fee zone...22 hours to D-day!!
@RubyRed427 Very insightful identifying your triggers. Happy Day 5
@Fitness327wk Great to hear your enjoying the benefits of being AF.
@MrSunshinez YES WE CAN DO THIS!!4 -
Good morning all. It’s day 6 already. Heading to that wonderful day 10. It’s sometimes like being on a roller coaster ride and sometimes around the corners, you have to hang on really tight so you don’t fall off. Other times, it’s like going up that big hill and then coasting down in exhilaration. With each passing minute, I feel better. The evenings are hard sometimes. I go through many thought patterns like “I’ll just have one little sip.” Or “why am i working so hard, for what?”
Then, I remember my “why”. All of the “whys” and then reassure myself that I’m doing what is best for me and my family.
Hope your day is peachy! I painted last night for two hours and that is such a mindful task. Be sure to immerse yourself into a hobby. 5 -
Fitness327wk wrote: »RubyRed427 wrote: »MrSunshinez wrote: »Good morning everyone! Hope you all have a fun, safe and sober 1st weekend of the New Year! We can do this!
Sober weekend: What will all of us do to keep busy? Now that we will have tons more time on our hands.
I will exercise , journal, watch a movie, and maybe get back to painting. I was also thinking about learning Spanish so I can travel more to faraway places like Costa Rica.
Hi Ruby!
I will exercise, food prep, organize my closet, read and make tea! One thing for me that has been a big help is hot tea! I love to cook while drinking wine and having wine with dinner. Instead I bought a glass teapot I can put on the stove and then have flowering pods that are beautiful! I feel like I am not giving up my wine as much and know I am making healthier choices.
That is really cool about thinking of learning Spanish. Great free app called Duolingo out there that I used while learning Italian. I wanted to learn key words/phrases before we went to Italy last summer. Not fluent, but it was fun!
Thanks! I downloaded Duolingo and did my first lesson. Xo2 -
We use Duolingo too! My hubby, daughter, and I are using it to learn Spanish. It’s a great little app!
Regarding keeping busy.....I think this is so important. In the past year, I have completed several knitting and sewing projects that languished for years, unfinished. I find that having a cup of tea in the evening and knitting fills that need to be doing something. It’s relaxing and purposeful, and just ticks all the right boxes for me.
What hobbies does everyone have? I knit, quilt, and sew. I love that I’m able to make beautiful and useful items. I recently sorted through a bunch of my fabric and yarn stash, and donated the items I knew I would never get around to using. I then gathered several unfinished items/projects and am working my way through completing them. I have a sizeable stash of completed hats which I’m getting ready to donate to people in my area that need something warm for their head 7 -
That is awesome!3
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I like to knit as well.I used gigantic (size 50) knitting needles and made my daughter in London a shawl for Xmas. She was so touched to have a handmade gift from Mom. I could never had done that drinking wine every night. It would have been a hot mess, full of mistakes.6
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Good morning gang! Waking up clear headed again today. Last night was a true test though. I'm a graphic designer but not to hot on the website coding side. I was having so many problems with WordPress I was on the brink of going out and getting a bottle of something. But...I decided to say a few choice words, turn off the pc and go to bed. Woke up this morning, chatted with technical support and all is well again. Good Sunday to all!9
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I like to knit as well.I used gigantic (size 50) knitting needles and made my daughter in London a shawl for Xmas. She was so touched to have a handmade gift from Mom. I could never had done that drinking wine every night. It would have been a hot mess, full of mistakes.
My daughter and I saw big needles like that at the store the other day! That's wonderful that you created a lovely, useable gift for your daughter! It will be treasured, I am sure!
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kcn2bluesky wrote: »We use Duolingo too! My hubby, daughter, and I are using it to learn Spanish. It’s a great little app!
Regarding keeping busy.....I think this is so important. In the past year, I have completed several knitting and sewing projects that languished for years, unfinished. I find that having a cup of tea in the evening and knitting fills that need to be doing something. It’s relaxing and purposeful, and just ticks all the right boxes for me.
What hobbies does everyone have? I knit, quilt, and sew. I love that I’m able to make beautiful and useful items. I recently sorted through a bunch of my fabric and yarn stash, and donated the items I knew I would never get around to using. I then gathered several unfinished items/projects and am working my way through completing them. I have a sizeable stash of completed hats which I’m getting ready to donate to people in my area that need something warm for their head
SUP paddling, fishing, hiking and correcting people on the Internet. :laugh:
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Hello everyone,went to post this morning and the MFP app shut down on me for a sec,sounds like everyone is doing great! I like spending time with the G-sons,walking,reading,watching TV,coloring,crochet,shopping and unfortunately eating is one of my fave things to do
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Good morning all. It’s day 6 already. Heading to that wonderful day 10. It’s sometimes like being on a roller coaster ride and sometimes around the corners, you have to hang on really tight so you don’t fall off. Other times, it’s like going up that big hill and then coasting down in exhilaration. With each passing minute, I feel better. The evenings are hard sometimes. I go through many thought patterns like “I’ll just have one little sip.” Or “why am i working so hard, for what?”
Then, I remember my “why”. All of the “whys” and then reassure myself that I’m doing what is best for me and my family.
Hope your day is peachy! I painted last night for two hours and that is such a mindful task. Be sure to immerse yourself into a hobby.
Well said! The evenings are the toughest for me as well. Breaking old habits! It is a wonderful thing when I wake up in the morning feeling refreshed and not dreading what I may have done the night prior. I do at times get frustrated...well everyone else is drinking and its really not that bad, however, like you I remind myself of the reasons “why”! I want and will be the best for my family, the Lord and true to myself.
I feel that once I don’t have my “cocktail” hour prior to dinner and eat a healthy meal then I am set! Day six baby!!
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Today the old man and I went to a jazz brunch (tea for me, coffee for him) then went on a hike as we are having unseasonably warm weather for January. Watching football now and felt a tiny tug as my husband made himself a scotch, but am having my chamomile tea. Day 7 tomorrow. I'll just keep on keepin' on. Have a good week, Friends.8
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Today the old man and I went to a jazz brunch (tea for me, coffee for him) then went on a hike as we are having unseasonably warm weather for January. Watching football now and felt a tiny tug as my husband made himself a scotch, but am having my chamomile tea. Day 7 tomorrow. I'll just keep on keepin' on. Have a good week, Friends.
Your awesome, Jen. . Well done!!..3 -
@kcn2bluesky That's awesome that you donate to those in need!!
My hobby is Sober Squad LOL Actually, what I love to do in the winter is jigsaw puzzles...cause of my limited space my niece made me a big board to do my puzzles on & then slide under my couch when I have people over. I find puzzles quite relaxing & it keeps me focused on the task at hand so I can tune the rest out. I also love to read...other than that I'm pretty boring!
My dinner is done and my house is wine free again!! YAYAYAYAYAYAY!! It's interesting to me how much the wine began to call my name as time went on...I was often fighting the urges...@RubyRed427 I can relate to your comments about questioning yourself as to "why" am I doing this? OH YA...then listing all the reasons to myself. This was a big test for me & I didn't view it that way initially...the longer it was in my house though, the more it spoke to me & the louder it got...I think it was just the constant presence even though it was hidden away in a cabinet.
Only two of the people I invited had wine...one had ONE glass & the other two, BUT standard pours not the old Lorraine-size pours...so only 1/2 of a bottle out of 4 was consumed...So they each went home with the rest of it and I feel relieved.6 -
Today the old man and I went to a jazz brunch (tea for me, coffee for him) then went on a hike as we are having unseasonably warm weather for January. Watching football now and felt a tiny tug as my husband made himself a scotch, but am having my chamomile tea. Day 7 tomorrow. I'll just keep on keepin' on. Have a good week, Friends.
Keep on Keepin' on...very inspiring 3 -
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »@MrSunshinez Death is an enemy!! Sorry for your losses. Sounds like you were dealing with some overwhelming grief. Takes courage to get back on the sober train. Hoping the best for you. You're in a great place to get some support to keep you on track.
I second this @MrSunshinez.3 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Thank you for all your support & love & hugs As I read back my comment & your responses, I'm wondering if my " I CAN drink" comment was taken as I'm going to drink...which was not the case LOL. We CAN ALL drink, but we choose not to cause we do not want to go down the slippery slope. It really helps me to come hear & vent my stuff & hear all the words of wisdom & experience.
I try to remember, "This too shall pass." And IT DOES
I've also been focusing on feeling left out, the isolation that comes from being different, the withdrawal from my drinking friends etc etc...so I really think that is fueling some of the anger I'm feeling...like I've said before, anger is a secondary emotion hiding sadness, hurt etc and THAT is what I'm dealing with right now. And THAT IS OK!!! this too shall pass!!
I'm sure most here can agree that it isn't the absence of the alcohol itself that is the most difficult, it is learning to carve out a different life , a different way of being. Anyway, I am finding my way and am at what Melodie Beattie describes as the "in-between place." In between where you were and where you are going! And in between people, those I need to leave behind & those I haven't found yet. It is a tough place to be, but necessary...I'm only feeling the feelings I was using alcohol to avoid feeling.
I did have my hot soak last eve & read in the tub....one of my fave activities to relieve some stress...then went to bed early.
Hope everyone has a great weekend!
Nice going on your journey and how you are handling it! Yes, I am the in between person as well with one foot stuck in the new door. Maybe I am on one leg, idk. I have made some new friends that are more encouraging than the last bunch. I found I was always needing to help someone or getting helped, by far mostly the first scenario, then drinking from the stress of it when I could afford the time to drink. Well it really needs to be a two way street in relationships unless you are doing volunteer work. I reconnected with one person and we both have changed for the better so far anyways. I will skip going out to eat with her, though. I realized that I have grown a lot the last year and probably the last 3 since my son passed. Yes I am feeling all of the feelings as well and having to learn better ways to deal with them than I was. It is tough for sure, but rewarding. More rewarding than if I never solved any of the problems and then created another problem by drinking. Sounds like you are doing the same. Keep it up.7 -
MrSunshinez wrote: »Good morning gang! Waking up clear headed again today. Last night was a true test though. I'm a graphic designer but not to hot on the website coding side. I was having so many problems with WordPress I was on the brink of going out and getting a bottle of something. But...I decided to say a few choice words, turn off the pc and go to bed. Woke up this morning, chatted with technical support and all is well again. Good Sunday to all!
Great! Yes it all does pass. I specifically remember having problems with the work at home computer position I had and running out to the liquor store. Glad you stayed strong.7
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