The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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@tifano Thank you for your encouraging words for all of us. Even though AA may not be for everyone, I see its tremendous benefit for me personally. Even though I stumbled yesterday, I will dust myself off and try yet again, and again and again.
I will never give up on me. And I will never give up on you. We thrive with support from other likeminded people. So, thanks for your messages. And thanks to everyone for hugs, love and words.
I’m far past hiding my alcohol issues, which is why I woke up, opened one eye and typed you all this morning. We are all a work in progress. I love new beginnings like today, January 1st. There are several Dry January apps that you might like to try.
Welcome to the new friends who posted and shared their thoughts. This thread is magical, because it is a safety net from judgment. Keep on coming back. Post often. Share your thoughts. I know that this thread and the “less alcohol” thread has transformed my life in 2018. Overall, I had many sober days last year than in the past 30 years. For the younger folks out there, I wish I had tried to become sober much earlier in my life. It would have saved me from regrets, heartache, and pain. BUT I think I went through all that to be who I am today. I am better for those struggles.
@JenT304 Thanks for this Sober Thread! Much love to you.
@NormInv I like the beard! Looks great!
@MrSunshinez Happy sober birthday! Best gift was probably no hangover!
@KristaFIRE Welcome
@Ke22yB Always inspiring to hear from you.
@lorrainequiche59 and @salleewins Love your ideas and thoughts. Xo
@whitpauly Every year, I think of a new mantra or saying for the year. I will work on that today and tomorrow. Words to guide me. You made me smile when you said “chug it chug it”. Just like Tifano mentioned who would leave a glass of wine half filled. I never could do that.
@kcn2bluesky Congrats on ONE year. Amazing! And I’m so happy also for the little child in your picture; the benefits of AF living extend in multitudes to our family.
I’m sorry if I missed anyone; I like to thank you all. I took a hot bath but when I was in the water , the movement of the water made me nauseous.
I can’t wait to feel better tomorrow! 11 -
WOW and HUGS to all...fantastic comments!!!! 2
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Hi, all - mostly a lurker (I lurk A LOT, like I am daily reading and “liking” posts) and I wanted to thank you all for your honesty and encouragement. Survived my first sober Bermuda Triangle
Happy 2019 to all of you beautiful people!7 -
@MrSunshinez great going on 3 days! I know how hard it was for me to get 1 day. Just keep stringing them together one day at a time. Do what has worked. At times I would count, then I wouldn't count, then count the days again.......
I forgot and I better do this again this year to help me remain AF: on more vulnerable days of the year, I won't be passing by liquor stores so casually. I won't be turning my head to look at the lights flashing at the store. I will work on putting thoughts of alcohol more quickly out of my head and not dwell there a bit longer than I should. There are times that I won't go in the Dollar Store because it is only a few doors down from a liquor store. I played a bit with fire at times this year and went anyways to the Dollar Store plaza even though I was feeling more vulnerable to falling. There are times that I was successful in saying and doing what I needed to do so I will be sure to step up my game again.
I will also keep going with a meeting a week at AA and more if I feel I could drink easier. I will continue my mostly daily phone meeting for AA. My work schedule changed so much so many times, that I couldn't go to my favorite meetings as much, but I have picked a day and meeting once again and I will work on a back-up plan.
I will keep working on letting go of the past and not dwelling there so long and its many disappointments by accepting what has happened even though I didn't like it and not dwell so much on the future either that I don't live the current day.
I think I will leave my goals to alcohol related for now or this post will turn into a chapter.
Happy New Year!
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Hello to all, Happy to see an AF thread/group. I’ve failed at a lot of things over the years but in particular Staying Sober and Losing weight. I’m one thousand percent positive after countless fails that I cannot continue to drink and stay disciplined enough to live a healthy lifestyle and achieve my fitness goals. Good luck to everyone that’s embarking on an AF healthier 2019.
Let’s get it...8 -
Welcome @ randalld2014!
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@LC0924 Hi Lurker - I "lurk" on FB...I call myself a FB stalker cause I don't post anything & rarely comment, I just "lurk" L VE lurking!!
@randalid2014 Welcome to our loving group!!
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@KristaFIRE Welcome Welcome 1
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Yikes - out for a few days and over 100 new messages. Not going to pretend I caught up with all of them. tooling along doing fine. I have a physical on Thursday. My primary was one of the fist people I came clean with. Besides the alcohol problem, I had been working her for opioids. I cried a little when I told her that and when I looked up she was crying too. I can never change to another practice unless she leaves. I will be happy to tell her I have stayed to course on keeping clean and on staying healthy. I have been seeing her for several years and this will be the healthiest I have ever been. I haven't been in for several months. It will be my "official" assessment of where I am at 60 also. I am pretty sure I will be happy with how it goes.12
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GOOD Morn to everyone here It is a beautiful SUNNY day in my part of the world which is very rare this depressing time of year. I have a "happy light" on the way...it is delayed in Ottawa apparently & has been for a couple of weeks, but it IS on it's way...I'll take the sunshine for today....I LOVE sun!!!!!
SO thankful for all my friends here...Have I said that lately? LOL
Hoping y'all have a happy, healthy & AF day 6 -
Wishing everyone a happy AF day! 5
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Hi Friends,
Day 2 a success. Seems like such a climb to day 31. Treated myself to coffee after my tough workout and a burger no bun.
I keep seeing this book mentioned on this thread once or twice and then in the news. Here’s an excerpt. It’s called Sober Curious by the person who started “Club Soda” website.
https://books.google.com/books/about/Sober_Curious.html?id=HwVUDwAAQBAJ&printsec=frontcover&source=kp_read_button
Also, here’s a link to the Club Soda website. https://www.clubsoda.nyc/events/
This seems to be the event link in case some of you live in NYC. Looks cool.8 -
Just get to Day 10 and it is easy8
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Thanks RubyRed for the excerpt from Sober Curious. I read it and it looks like a great book.3
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I bought and read the book, and I really liked it.4
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AA.
AA was very helpful during the first five years; I enjoyed helping other drunk *kitten*. About year five, I started to feel the environment was toxic and repetitive. Too many folks were in the court-ordered or threatened jail spiral. At about the same time, I meet my future wife who didn’t drink either, and I simply moved on from AA.
But, in the initial period of sobriety, it was nice to hear my story come from the lips of so many other drunks. We like to think we’re special, but in the end, not so special. Just another drunk.
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Yes, AA is not perfect, but nothing is anyways, lol. I don't find this at the meetings I go to, what you mentioned very much @bulldogcpa. Maybe I am around the crowds mostly that are older. Yes there are some, but not many. Anyways whatever works for you as long as it is working.7
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Morning motivation - eleven minutes of powerful thoughts
https://youtu.be/dOkNkcZ_THA 7 -
Good Morn Y'all@RubyRed427 Hmmmm....Wayne Dyer video ~Interesting thoughts~ Thank you for sharing that! Definitely some food for thought ~ literally!
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A.A. I love it, it’s saved my life, given me friendships I could have never imagined and a connection with a higher power I never thought I could have.
Is A.A. for everyone, no. A.A. doesn’t own the monopoly in recovery but it’s worked for me and millions of others. One day at a time. I still pray every day to please keep me sober today and at night thank you for another day.
Here’s to another sober day friends! Have a great day11 -
Went to yoga after work. I really loved it. Felt so peaceful afterwards. Then went to eat with my son. Had a club soda with a few cherries. Made mint tea and going to read. Lots of time on my hands. But feeling good.13
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bulldogcpa wrote: »AA.
AA was very helpful during the first five years; I enjoyed helping other drunk *kitten*. About year five, I started to feel the environment was toxic and repetitive. Too many folks were in the court-ordered or threatened jail spiral. At about the same time, I meet my future wife who didn’t drink either, and I simply moved on from AA.
But, in the initial period of sobriety, it was nice to hear my story come from the lips of so many other drunks. We like to think we’re special, but in the end, not so special. Just another drunk.
+1 to the bold. Thumbs up.4 -
I have to admit I am surprised to see a few people on here who have been AF for years....it kinda says that you have to always stay vigilant and the demon never completely goes away.6
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Personally, I think once the door has been opened to excessive drinking, however which way it happened, we have to be on the watch forever. Just when we think we are ok, this is easy etc., then we better get more on guard. This poison can have the power to kill us, if we let it. Once we are under the influence, we are out of control. I have heard in the meetings that alcohol is cunning, powerful and baffling. In my book, a wicked foe for many, including myself. I wanted to die at one point. People don't have to get that low and still have a problem and some don't make it out alive, as they go even lower.6
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I'm making a recipe this weekend that calls for red wine. I have LOTS on hand, but do not want to open for the recipe. I want to wait till my guests are here to uncork it BECAUSE I do NOT want an opened bottle of wine on hand. Just cause!! I don't have a problem with wine in the recipe because the alcohol burns off anyway. Can anyone think of a substitute...Red wine vinegar perhaps?? It calls for 1/2 c. so vinegar may not be the thing to use...I don't have to use wine, but if anyone has an idea, please suggest.
My dinner is in 3 days and I can unload the wine I've been stockpiling!! Interestingly, I was watching a movie the other night & they were drinking wine with dinner...it was this one guy who was obviously stress drinking if you get my drift...in the scene he was upset & it was just the way he was drinking that I got this craving for the chillax factor, out of the blue...SO, I'm looking forward to having the alcohol gone. Even though my liquor store is only 1/2 block away, it is still 1/2 block away. I don't like having it so convenient in the case of a major crave!!!
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@lorrainequiche59 I think you’ll be just fine. You have inner drive and motivation that has lasted a long time. I think the RWV would ruin the recipe ; it’s so harsh. So use the wine.2
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When I reflect on the last 10-15 years, I am amazed I kept it together as much as I did. The stars aligned when I moved to this neighborhood. A potential alcohol (me) surrounded by people who drink at every single occasion. And plan events around drinking. It’s like the saying “we are the company we keep”. We say that to our children and I believe it to be true for adults. So, who knows if I would have become an alcoholic if I moved to a different street. But I do now that this journey has given me extra compassion with people who are addicted to anything. Was it in the stars I become an alcoholic? Probably. I still haven’t found the reason yet however.10
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