The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Morning motivation - eleven minutes of powerful thoughts
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Good Morn Y'all @RubyRed427 Hmmmm....Wayne Dyer video ~Interesting thoughts~ Thank you for sharing that! Definitely some food for thought ~ literally!
Hope everyone has a wonderful day2 -
A.A. I love it, it’s saved my life, given me friendships I could have never imagined and a connection with a higher power I never thought I could have.
Is A.A. for everyone, no. A.A. doesn’t own the monopoly in recovery but it’s worked for me and millions of others. One day at a time. I still pray every day to please keep me sober today and at night thank you for another day.
Here’s to another sober day friends! Have a great day11 -
Went to yoga after work. I really loved it. Felt so peaceful afterwards. Then went to eat with my son. Had a club soda with a few cherries. Made mint tea and going to read. Lots of time on my hands. But feeling good.13
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bulldogcpa wrote: »AA.
AA was very helpful during the first five years; I enjoyed helping other drunk *kitten*. About year five, I started to feel the environment was toxic and repetitive. Too many folks were in the court-ordered or threatened jail spiral. At about the same time, I meet my future wife who didn’t drink either, and I simply moved on from AA.
But, in the initial period of sobriety, it was nice to hear my story come from the lips of so many other drunks. We like to think we’re special, but in the end, not so special. Just another drunk.
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I have to admit I am surprised to see a few people on here who have been AF for years....it kinda says that you have to always stay vigilant and the demon never completely goes away.6
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Personally, I think once the door has been opened to excessive drinking, however which way it happened, we have to be on the watch forever. Just when we think we are ok, this is easy etc., then we better get more on guard. This poison can have the power to kill us, if we let it. Once we are under the influence, we are out of control. I have heard in the meetings that alcohol is cunning, powerful and baffling. In my book, a wicked foe for many, including myself. I wanted to die at one point. People don't have to get that low and still have a problem and some don't make it out alive, as they go even lower.6
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I'm making a recipe this weekend that calls for red wine. I have LOTS on hand, but do not want to open for the recipe. I want to wait till my guests are here to uncork it BECAUSE I do NOT want an opened bottle of wine on hand. Just cause!! I don't have a problem with wine in the recipe because the alcohol burns off anyway. Can anyone think of a substitute...Red wine vinegar perhaps?? It calls for 1/2 c. so vinegar may not be the thing to use...I don't have to use wine, but if anyone has an idea, please suggest.
My dinner is in 3 days and I can unload the wine I've been stockpiling!! Interestingly, I was watching a movie the other night & they were drinking wine with dinner...it was this one guy who was obviously stress drinking if you get my drift...in the scene he was upset & it was just the way he was drinking that I got this craving for the chillax factor, out of the blue...SO, I'm looking forward to having the alcohol gone. Even though my liquor store is only 1/2 block away, it is still 1/2 block away. I don't like having it so convenient in the case of a major crave!!!5 -
@lorrainequiche59 I think you’ll be just fine. You have inner drive and motivation that has lasted a long time. I think the RWV would ruin the recipe ; it’s so harsh. So use the wine.2
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When I reflect on the last 10-15 years, I am amazed I kept it together as much as I did. The stars aligned when I moved to this neighborhood. A potential alcohol (me) surrounded by people who drink at every single occasion. And plan events around drinking. It’s like the saying “we are the company we keep”. We say that to our children and I believe it to be true for adults. So, who knows if I would have become an alcoholic if I moved to a different street. But I do now that this journey has given me extra compassion with people who are addicted to anything. Was it in the stars I become an alcoholic? Probably. I still haven’t found the reason yet however.10
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »I'm making a recipe this weekend that calls for red wine. I have LOTS on hand, but do not want to open for the recipe. I want to wait till my guests are here to uncork it BECAUSE I do NOT want an opened bottle of wine on hand. Just cause!! I don't have a problem with wine in the recipe because the alcohol burns off anyway. Can anyone think of a substitute...Red wine vinegar perhaps?? It calls for 1/2 c. so vinegar may not be the thing to use...I don't have to use wine, but if anyone has an idea, please suggest.
My dinner is in 3 days and I can unload the wine I've been stockpiling!! Interestingly, I was watching a movie the other night & they were drinking wine with dinner...it was this one guy who was obviously stress drinking if you get my drift...in the scene he was upset & it was just the way he was drinking that I got this craving for the chillax factor, out of the blue...SO, I'm looking forward to having the alcohol gone. Even though my liquor store is only 1/2 block away, it is still 1/2 block away. I don't like having it so convenient in the case of a major crave!!!
Probably not the red wine vinegar. Cooking wine? There is more sodium to it, however, it seems, unless there is something new out there. What type of recipe is it?1 -
I have to admit I am surprised to see a few people on here who have been AF for years....it kinda says that you have to always stay vigilant and the demon never completely goes away.
I was clean and sober for 10 years with the help of a supportive partner and family. I was too full of myself in saying I had this beat for good. My circle of loved ones started passing away in 2011 through 2016. They are all watching over me now. I managed without a drink focusing on being superman and trying to keep it all together for others by being their caregivers. I needed that responsibility. It's been two years of no responsibility.
This year I truly feel the loss or I should say being alone. I did before but it was mixed with grieving. The grieving has subsided because they are in a better place. Here I am. What to do now? I slipped this year because I started feeling that I was staying sober for them in trying to be responsible or that I didn't want to disappoint them. That little demon that I thought I had conquered came up behind me and yelled "What's the use!"
Day #6 Clean & Sober13 -
@MrSunshinez Death is an enemy!! Sorry for your losses. Sounds like you were dealing with some overwhelming grief. Takes courage to get back on the sober train. Hoping the best for you. You're in a great place to get some support to keep you on track.6
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »@MrSunshinez Death is an enemy!! Sorry for your losses. Sounds like you were dealing with some overwhelming grief. Takes courage to get back on the sober train. Hoping the best for you. You're in a great place to get some support to keep you on track.
Thank you! Yes, it was a traumatic situation one right after the other. When I seemed to work on the depression something else happened but here we are. Yes, I'm feeling the strength and sending it out too. We can do this together!6 -
@salleewins Thanks for your response...it's sausage-tortellini soup so it doesn't matter if I use wine, but it does add a depth of flavor...I will check out the cooking wine tho.2
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There was a blurb on MSN yesterday with comments from celebrities who do not drink, most because they have an issue. I'd like to share a comment from Daniel Radcliffe..it begins by saying he loves life as a sober person and said, "My life is a lot better & less chaotic. I just felt like I was chasing chaos & making my life difficult, all the time thinking I was having fun. So it feels very nice not to be putting myself in danger, to be waking up in the mornings & not thinking, "On my god, who am I going to hear from? What did I do? It's a life lived without dread & fear and it's lovely."
I very rarely got drunk, but often "close to drunk." Close enough to feel crappy in the a.m. & sluggish through the day having to pull myself through my job. Close enough to have to check my phone to see if a particular number was on my log cause I had this vague recollection of talking to someone, but couldn't remember the conversation...and if I saw a 20 min or hour long call, my stomach would bottom out!! That was some of my fear & dread. It indicated that, "There's something wrong with this!!!"
Last eve on the way to my meeting, I passed our neighborhood OPP station & saw a friendly officer waiting to enter the highway...as I approached I automatically looked at my speed (it's a bit of a trap there cause it is 50 and just the other side of the OPP lane way it turns to 70 & they take great pleasure in stopping anyone who transgresses) I was at 60 & didn't want to slow down giving the guy any reason to suspect me of something....anyway, he pulls out behind me & followed me several kilos to the intersection where I needed to turn...it was nerve wracking...first of all I have a heavy foot so it's a conscious effort to regulate my speed...the limit is 80 km, so I worked very hard to keep it at 90....he would follow closely, then pull back for a distance, then speed up again & get close again etc...at one point I thought that he's either going to pull me over or pass me, but he hung back once again...AND THEN at the light he turned behind me, but my next turn was into my meeting place. Phew!!!
On the way home, it was smooth sailing until I got to the intersection before my place. There were two OPP vehicles, lights flashing...on either side of the road...initially I thought they had someone pulled over, but they didn't...then I wondered if it might be a ride check but other vehicles were driving right through...so I slowed down & did the same....
Get to the point Lorraine!!! The point is THIS: If I were drinking and had one/two/three & felt I would take the chance to drive cause I tricked myself into thinking I was fine to drive.......I was fearful enough just driving and doing nothing wrong...I could imagine how many people driving through that scene last night may have felt if they had a drink or two...as I watched people drive through I wondered how many people were scared poopy driving between those cruisers.6 -
Happy Friday all! Hope everyone has a great AF day!5
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@lorrainequiche59 I completely agree. When I have even had 1 drink and I see a police car I am nervous. It is nice to not have to worry about that now.
@RubyRed427 Very interesting observation about your neighborhood. Ours was hard partying too when we were in our 30's but it slowed down quite a bit over the years, thank God. Still, where I came from (we moved 6 months ago) was definitely a drinking town. The bars are full every night with people of all ages but definitely a lot of folks in their 50's (like us now). Still, when I look around, I DO see some people not drinking alcoholic beverages in the bars so not everyone is indulging. I need to avoid bars right now; I am not feeling terribly confident about going to any, and I am determined to have an absolutely dry January (and beyond hopefully but we will see about that...first things first.) Anyway its the 4th day of the new year and I am trying not to do anything that will make me feel tempted. Needless to say, I will be doing more cooking at home as eating out is definitely a trigger for me. We won't even get into how many sweets I've been eating but I am allowing myself to as it is better than drinking. I'll deal with THAT next month6 -
Greetings everyone. I've been sober for 15 months thanks to God & A.A. Now I'm preparing to lose the 20 lbs. I gained last year (I thought I'd lose weight not drinking, but???) and get in shape for a hike in & out of the Grand Canyon. I could use a few sober MFP friends.10
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I have to admit I am surprised to see a few people on here who have been AF for years....it kinda says that you have to always stay vigilant and the demon never completely goes away.
Only 18 months for me this time. I have had a problem with deciding I would have it under control if i started back. Trying very hard to make it different this time, accepting that I can't drink.
AA really doesn't work for me. I don't believe in a higher power and I think I am capable of doing this myself though accountability to others helps.
I had my physical yesterday afternoon. My weight was 158 with clothes on, except shoes, which were off for height check. Height is still 5'8", probably from improved posture and stretching. So my documented BMI is 24.0. BP 120/75, HR 64, don't smoke, no longer drink (over 18 months now) and I turned 60 a few days ago with visible abs. My primary was really pleased with that and so am I. I was in the 220s 2 years ago and the 170s last year.8
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