The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Today is just day 6 AF for me this time around. I was AF for 3 months plus 4 months (in between was one premeditated weekend of drinking with my college friends in New Orleans where we went to school, so I can’t count it as 7 months).
I’ve done shorter periods too. Each time, I’ve begun during a semester or summer break (I teach), and many of my previous runs have broken at the end of the first stressful week of a new semester. So I’m looking ahead to that as the first major challenge.
When I was most successful, that 3 + 4 month stretch, my AF was coupled with very serious weight loss efforts. It ended when I reached my goal weight. So that’s what I see as my second major challenge. Like that time (2016), I have serious weight to lose and feel tremendously motivated for that. But how will I feel when I am in maintenance?
Just my thoughts this NYE morning.5 -
Happy NYE!! Hope everyone has a safe,AF night,I'll probably be in bed right after the New York ball drops(I'm in Vegas so it'll be 9) just can't do late nights anymore cuz it messes up my sleep for about a week I swear! Just think how by not drinking we'll wake up feeling great while everyone else is sick as a dog!
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Good Morn to all my Sober Squad friends
I sometimes make recordings when I'm driving so that I can write whatever it is I'm thinking at the time in my journal later...It helps me to vent my stuff & then when I play it back, it is helpful to me in processing my feelings about stuff....ANYWAY, I was listening to a recent vent about being confronted with all the alcohol this season & my longing & feelings around it..this was my dialogue: "I WISH I could drink moderately, BUT I CANNOT!!" But, I don't wish I was hungover, I don't wish I felt like crap every day, I don't wish I couldn't sleep anymore, I don't wish I was gaining weight a mile a minute, I don't wish for all those things, I don't wish for a guilty conscience or regret, or disappointment...so when I think of the downside of drinking, there is WAY more downside than there is an upside!!!!!!!!!!!!"
When I think of all the courage & determination & honesty & strength on this thread of all of you who don't look at alcohol through a cloud of denial any longer. it inspires to me to show those same qualities in my struggle to remain AF!! It can be lonely & isolating to stand our as different in a world where it "seems" everyone else is having "fun" drinking. Yet the eventual price for that "fun" isn't worth it!
I've come to realize I don't have to defend my choice to not drink nor do I need to think less of those who do. We all were given free will to make our own choices in life. Not drinking is the BEST choice for me and I am so glad to be in the company of others who feel the same way.
Hope you all have a happy & sober evening & feel good about your choices No Regrets!!!!! 
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fyi if you are looking for a sober place to be tonight, many sober clubs will have a party tonight. sometimes with speakers and/or dinner.
NA options send some people off to the races, other people are fine.
enjoy the night, however you decide to spend it.5 -
Ruby thanks for bringing Craig Beck's video. Serious, "spot on" and made me laugh with his presentation as times.3
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salleewins wrote: »Ruby thanks for bringing Craig Beck's video. Serious, "spot on" and made me laugh with his presentation as times.
I think I have a crush on that Craig Beck. I absolutely love his honesty, his humor and seriousness. He gives me great inspiration to be AF free.6 -
@lorrainequiche59 Loved your post. I enjoy hearing your thoughts because they ring true to me. There are so many life changing positives that come with sobriety. And it is hard hard work to stay sober. But it’s hard work to make any significant change in your life. I’m so happy you have found strength to stay AF and are damn proud of it. As we all should be!5
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I am reflecting to years past. I actually never got very drunk on NYE because I probably had way too much during the Christmas holidays that on NYE I was probably tired of drinking. However, I do remember a sad moment. As a young mom, after celebrating with neighbors on NYE. I stumbled to bed, hanging one foot off the bed because the room was spinning. Then, I was awoken by my little girl at 5:00 a.m. and she was all happy and awake and ready to start her day. I remember laying on the floor of her room feeling like such a failure ; I was still partially drunk. I really thought something unique was wrong with only me. I really thought I was the only one who could not stop at one drink. I feel sorry now for that young mom (me) because I had no idea that there were others who felt like me.
What I’m trying to say is thank you so much to all who participate on this thread; some of us have been chatting since last January 1st. It is so comforting to know that i am not alone in this journey. Xo Happy New Year!12 -
This is my first NYE staying in since 2008 or 2009 I think. I have a cold and "that time of the month" so I don't feel like even leaving the house let alone having a night out, and my husband isn't much of a partier so he doesn't mind staying in. I feel like NYE is a bit overrated anyway and any other weekend is better for going out. Instead I'm going to do some work, we might watch a movie, and we will get some sort of sparkling cider or something to toast with. But anyway just saying that there's nothing wrong with staying in sometimes and there's a lot of societal pressure and FOMO to have the "perfect" night out for NYE but it's just a societal construct anyway and sometimes it isn't relevant to where you are in life. And here's a relevant joke for your amusement:
https://www.reddit.com/r/funny/comments/nuhxf/totally_overhyped_new_years_eve_party/4 -
Happy New Years Eve and thank you to all of YOU for your participation over the past months here. I never dreamed when I started this thread that we would have so many wonderful people sharing their stories, struggles, sorrows and joys. You are all so inspirational to me and this whole experience has been truly gratifying and humbling. May you all have a safe and happy New Years Eve tonight and I hope to see everyone back in 2019! Love, Jen 5
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Hello Sober Squad.
I know many of you from the less alcohol.....one day at a time thread. I started over there January 23, 2018 (with some speed bumps along the way) and have never looked back at getting to my goal. I felt like I owed many of you thanks for posting your hearts on there and also for being super supportive to me. I wish all of you a happy and healthy last day of 2018 as well as the new year of 2019.
CHEERS to all of us with the beverage of your choice.🍾
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someone help me!!!! so tempted....went to run an errand and the demon said i need a whiskey drink...stopped at the liquor store, parked the car, started looking at highball recipe....started walking toward the store....midway something stopped me....OMG it was so excruciatingly close...i am on thin ice today....the NYE is making me crave a drink on my last day of Dry December13
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You've got this Norm! Stay strong!
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someone help me!!!! so tempted....went to run an errand and the demon said i need a whiskey drink...stopped at the liquor store, parked the car, started looking at highball recipe....started walking toward the store....midway something stopped me....OMG it was so excruciatingly close...i am on thin ice today....the NYE is making me crave a drink on my last day of Dry December
Norm- you worked so hard for this - distract yourself.5 -
Norm you can do it---I looked at the store myself more than usual. It is the 3rd leg of the Bermuda triangle. Tomorrow you will be soooo upset if you cave. Yes you were close, BUT YOU DIDN'T DO IT. I was closer than usual myself today. You are always better at home once you get there, maybe get there quick. Order food in if that helps--do something special if you want. I got sweets and eggplant parm.....etc. No alcohol. You will be so happy tomorrow.....Plan the rest of the night with something fun or go to bed if that helps early. Prayers for all of us.4
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Check back in Norm and let us know how you are doing when you can. We all care!!
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Yes thank you @JenT304. You said it so well, that I wished I could have said it, lol. Thank you for beginning this group. This group has had my back and been there for me. Thank you to @RubyRed427 also for starting the less alcohol group where I joined last January. This last year has changed my life because of you all!! Happy New Year!!
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You've got this Norm! Stay strong!salleewins wrote: »Norm you can do it---I looked at the store myself more than usual. It is the 3rd leg of the Bermuda triangle. Tomorrow you will be soooo upset if you cave. Yes you were close, BUT YOU DIDN'T DO IT. I was closer than usual myself today. You are always better at home once you get there, maybe get there quick. Order food in if that helps--do something special if you want. I got sweets and eggplant parm.....etc. No alcohol. You will be so happy tomorrow.....Plan the rest of the night with something fun or go to bed if that helps early. Prayers for all of us.salleewins wrote: »Check back in Norm and let us know how you are doing when you can. We all care!!
Thanks for the support. I went to Target next door instead and bought some zero calorie root beer, chips and ice cream....heck that is still better than alcohol.....crisis averted for now.13 -
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RubyRed427 wrote: »someone help me!!!! so tempted....went to run an errand and the demon said i need a whiskey drink...stopped at the liquor store, parked the car, started looking at highball recipe....started walking toward the store....midway something stopped me....OMG it was so excruciatingly close...i am on thin ice today....the NYE is making me crave a drink on my last day of Dry December
Norm- you worked so hard for this - distract yourself.
sorry forgot to quote you3
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