The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Good morning, friends! I have taken some time off from typing on the thread. Just overall sadness in my heart right now due to relationship issues.
I drank twice in Feb. and that makes me so frustrated. I want to be sober 100 percent or at least 99 percent. I will keep trying.
The good....
Had some good successes this month: Super Bowl Party- no alcohol just lots of soda. Went with my husband (soon to be ex) and he stuck to me like glue. He’s hoping I change my mind.
Lobster dinner with four other couples (again with husband) and they all drank lots of wine. I had zero. Perrier is my friend!
No alcohol during deep discussion, tears, sadness over divorce..... so that’s a plus.
Now, the bad....
Scrapbook weekend- one bottle of wine (kept in hotel room) over three days (not horrible). Didn’t drink at hotel bar and saved a lot of money and calories.
Valentines Day evening- was invited to my neighbor’s house for wine and apps. I knew that this was a bad idea.
Just us girls! She’s the kind of neighbor who you know has a drinking problem but you go over anyway (selfishly) because you know she’ll have plenty of wine!
Anyway, it was cathartic. We shared a bottle and a half. Talked deeply about our marriages, hopes, fears, dreams etc. Felt pleasantly tipsy afterwards. Then, oh my... went to work Friday with such nausea (no headache); I felt so poisoned. I actually told myself “Good! You should feel sick; it’s a good reminder.” Anyway, I will be forgiving to myself. And I’m still following through with the rule “No drinking at home. Ever.” Will take the rest of February off from my bad friend “alcohol”. Because my body totally doesn’t agree with his evil ways. Xo
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Yellowstone1983 wrote: »So last Saturday I decided I wanted drinks at dinner, as we were going out.. And I had 2, per my old usual. My husband stopped on the way home to get a 6 for himself. I fought with myself mentally and also got a 6 of spiked seltzer. Definitely could've done without.. Had I stuck with the dinner drinks I wouldn't have felt like crap the next day.. On a positive note, the other half of the 6 is in the fridge untouched, which never used to happen. Haven't had anything since.. So I've been AF since 1/8 minus 2 days.. I allowed myself the drinks Saturday bc I felt I deserved them after tolerating some really obnoxious people out of obligation. Interesting how I deserve to ultimately punish myself.. Weird how something so unhealthy has been used as a reward when I feel I've had to endure unpleasant things.. Come Sunday, had a very scary incident with my little one requiring an ER visit.. It was traumatic as all get out and I'm so glad I wasn't drinking! I handled it all like a champ as well as my feelings of rage and helplessness after the fact.. Little guy is ok, btw.. I feel so fortunate that it wasn't nearly as bad as it could have been.. And it's been a very rough week since, perhaps because I'm seeing anyone's inappropriate, rude, or obnoxious behavior as a personal assault. But I'm still not drinking.. This was a good reminder that I really need to be on call all the time.. And while I was disappointed in myself both times I drank since my decision to go AF, I'm not using a lack of perfection to totally derail, which is a huge shift for me.. I credit this group to that, so thanks all!
Yes, I like the statement Interesting how I deserve to ultimately punish myself.. Isn’t that the truth!?
Happy your little one was ok after ER visit. That is such an incredible stressor for YOU. And yes, what a good thing not to have alcohol in your system in case of emergencies. I’m sending you a big hug. It’s hard not to take things personally. But try to. People’s rude behavior have nothing to do with you. It’s a reflection of their mind and psyche. Xo
I remember this past summer when I was AF, I had to Call the police because my car was damaged by construction. I called non-emergency number. Anyway, two cops came (yes, it’s a small town) and one was like “bad cop” and the other was “good cop”. And as I talked to them, I was so thankful I had nothing to drink when I went out with a girlfriend to dinner that evening.5 -
errydayimmusclin wrote: »TGIF everyone! Ready for the weekend. It's been a loooong week! The plan is to take my kids skiing if the weather isn't too cold. Just need to get out of the house and do something.
I'm feeling a little lonely/sad today. Been entertaining the idea of going to the brewery after work for a few beers. I'm missing that social aspect of being out and about, conversing with the locals and meeting new people. But, I know how i'll feel afterwards if I do that, so I won't, but I really, really want to.
How am I only 32 days AF???..... seems so much longer.
Congrats on day 32~ feels like longer doesn’t it?
Yes, I can relate to being bored and lonely when your routine involved alcohol socially. It’s hard to be the only one not drinking but as so many on this thread have said, that feeling passes and eventually you don’t think about it. Not sure when that will happen, but it will.
Have fun skiing! Such a lovely sport to share with the kids. Xo
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Fitness327wk wrote: »Morning!
After dry January and my mishap on Super Bowl Sunday, I was hesitant on drinking wine yesterday with my husband on Valentine’s Day. He could have cared a less if I drank or not, thus, no pressure. I have had a pretty much dry February as well. I changed my attitude knowing that my limit was two glasses and that’s that! I enjoyed my two glasses and didn’t want more, which is a huge win. I was mindful of my drinking and didn’t want to go down a bad path. It feels great to feel responsible and not let alcohol control the night. I am going back to AF reiterate my healthy habits!
I am going to workout this morning and golf with husband this afternoon. Awesome, feel great!
Love the quote about alcohol not controlling the event! Hope golf went well!
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Oh yes.. one more thing.. Today, three of my best girlfriends are going to a lake house to drink, chat, hang out, etc. I was going to go too. Yesterday due to my nausea, I sent a text that I’m not going. I think it would be a dangerous slide for me to go with them. They are going to drink basically besides hang out. They were disappointed but nice with their replies.
So, instead of having more alcohol and doing all that day drinking.... and feeling totally awful tomorrow, I will be painting, exercising, cleaning, grading papers at home. Just keeping it simple. Xo6 -
@rubyred427 Smart move! I wish you a quiet, peaceful weekend! 👍🥰💃🙋♀️4
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Good morning! It is a beautiful snow-covered day and at 22 days AF...I feel good. In fact, it is the best I have felt in years and years.
I thought I would list a few things I am not missing:- Waking up on the couch at 3 AM exhausted, TV blasting
- Showering every morning, feeling awful, with a pounding head saying, “Never again!” and then by 5 PM, repeating the whole process
- Disappointing my wife and kids
- Struggling to leave room in my calories for my nightly bourbons
- Bloodshot eyes
- Old man skin (my skin is amazing now!)
- Never really sleeping and waking up exhausted every morning
- Leaving the gym after a killer workout and stopping at the liquor store on the way home, then getting hammered
- My so-called drinking buddies...they dropped me fast when I stopped drinking (BTW - I never, ever drank and drove!...one of my “sophisticated” bourbon drinker rules)
- Spending a small fortune on liquor ... mid and top-shelf bourbon made me a very “sophisticated” bourbon snob. Why was I proud of this?
- Staggering, especially if people saw it
I could go on...don’t be like the former me.
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Morning all,RubyRed,good decision on skipping the meet-up with your friends,sounds like you have plenty to keep you busy as it is,Ed_zilla that's a great list! Yellowstone, great you weren't drinking during the visit to the e.r. I've always been scared of something happening while I'm drunk and being too helpless to do much good! Seems like alcohol just sucks all my energy and life out,32 days us great Erry (I had to shorten it!) It does feel like it goes slooooow! I would a been on day 70 today but damn it felt a lot longer!!!! So I'm 70 days-2 could be worse but I'm like Ruby and want 100% wishes for a happy AF day all 6
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@Ed_Zilla Excellent list- those are all so TRUE!
@whitpauly Good morning... wishing you a calm AF day!2 -
10 days without alcohol. Yay! I think I can do it, as long as I don't have to give up coffee and chocolate. :-)9
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@RubyRed427 So glad you cancelled your plans when you felt it wouldn't be healthy for you. It's so easy to let one lapse take over and get you back into the same patterns.. I hope you have a great weekend!2
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Fitness327wk wrote: »
@Rosie_TG Welcome! Kudos on ten days AF! 👏👍💃
Thank you for the encouragement. Early days, but I'm determined to make a positive change.3 -
Hello Driends! Checking in, looks like our group is expanding every day, welcome to the new faces.8
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Dang it - forgot to post yesterday. 601 days...10
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CarvedTones wrote: »Dang it - forgot to post yesterday. 601 days...
Congratulations! Such an accomplishment!4 -
Happy Saturday, friends!
I went to see a 90’s cover band last night at a tiny little dive bar with some friends, had a great time and no desire to drink 🙌🏼 I stayed out way later than normal but as a result got to chat on the phone with my husband (he’s deployed and in a different time zone) and finally got to bed around 2 am 😳 I woke up with a raging headache (because apparently 29 is when sleep deprivation becomes problematic) and a TON of gratitude that the headache wasn’t made worse by ordering all the G+T’s, or losing memory of parts of the night, or making dangerous transportation choices. Perspective is a weird and beautiful thing ☺️ Grateful for the lot of you today!6 -
Happy Saturday, friends!
I went to see a 90’s cover band last night at a tiny little dive bar with some friends, had a great time and no desire to drink 🙌🏼 I stayed out way later than normal but as a result got to chat on the phone with my husband (he’s deployed and in a different time zone) and finally got to bed around 2 am 😳 I woke up with a raging headache (because apparently 29 is when sleep deprivation becomes problematic) and a TON of gratitude that the headache wasn’t made worse by ordering all the G+T’s, or losing memory of parts of the night, or making dangerous transportation choices. Perspective is a weird and beautiful thing ☺️ Grateful for the lot of you today!
That's great!!! I'm glad you were able to enjoy your night AF, aaaaand get to chat with the hubby! 🤗5 -
Happy Saturday, friends!
I went to see a 90’s cover band last night at a tiny little dive bar with some friends, had a great time and no desire to drink 🙌🏼 I stayed out way later than normal but as a result got to chat on the phone with my husband (he’s deployed and in a different time zone) and finally got to bed around 2 am 😳 I woke up with a raging headache (because apparently 29 is when sleep deprivation becomes problematic) and a TON of gratitude that the headache wasn’t made worse by ordering all the G+T’s, or losing memory of parts of the night, or making dangerous transportation choices. Perspective is a weird and beautiful thing ☺️ Grateful for the lot of you today!
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LOVE THIS QUOTE!!! ❤️
Frank Outlaw expresses this principle well:
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.4
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