The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Hello everyone,went to post this morning and the MFP app shut down on me for a sec,sounds like everyone is doing great! I like spending time with the G-sons,walking,reading,watching TV,coloring,crochet,shopping and unfortunately eating is one of my fave things to do hope everyone has a super,sober Sunday!3
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Good morning all. It’s day 6 already. Heading to that wonderful day 10. It’s sometimes like being on a roller coaster ride and sometimes around the corners, you have to hang on really tight so you don’t fall off. Other times, it’s like going up that big hill and then coasting down in exhilaration. With each passing minute, I feel better. The evenings are hard sometimes. I go through many thought patterns like “I’ll just have one little sip.” Or “why am i working so hard, for what?”
Then, I remember my “why”. All of the “whys” and then reassure myself that I’m doing what is best for me and my family.
Hope your day is peachy! I painted last night for two hours and that is such a mindful task. Be sure to immerse yourself into a hobby.
Well said! The evenings are the toughest for me as well. Breaking old habits! It is a wonderful thing when I wake up in the morning feeling refreshed and not dreading what I may have done the night prior. I do at times get frustrated...well everyone else is drinking and its really not that bad, however, like you I remind myself of the reasons “why”! I want and will be the best for my family, the Lord and true to myself.
I feel that once I don’t have my “cocktail” hour prior to dinner and eat a healthy meal then I am set! Day six baby!!
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Today the old man and I went to a jazz brunch (tea for me, coffee for him) then went on a hike as we are having unseasonably warm weather for January. Watching football now and felt a tiny tug as my husband made himself a scotch, but am having my chamomile tea. Day 7 tomorrow. I'll just keep on keepin' on. Have a good week, Friends.8
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Today the old man and I went to a jazz brunch (tea for me, coffee for him) then went on a hike as we are having unseasonably warm weather for January. Watching football now and felt a tiny tug as my husband made himself a scotch, but am having my chamomile tea. Day 7 tomorrow. I'll just keep on keepin' on. Have a good week, Friends.
Your awesome, Jen. . Well done!!..3 -
@kcn2bluesky That's awesome that you donate to those in need!!
My hobby is Sober Squad LOL Actually, what I love to do in the winter is jigsaw puzzles...cause of my limited space my niece made me a big board to do my puzzles on & then slide under my couch when I have people over. I find puzzles quite relaxing & it keeps me focused on the task at hand so I can tune the rest out. I also love to read...other than that I'm pretty boring!
My dinner is done and my house is wine free again!! YAYAYAYAYAYAY!! It's interesting to me how much the wine began to call my name as time went on...I was often fighting the urges...@RubyRed427 I can relate to your comments about questioning yourself as to "why" am I doing this? OH YA...then listing all the reasons to myself. This was a big test for me & I didn't view it that way initially...the longer it was in my house though, the more it spoke to me & the louder it got...I think it was just the constant presence even though it was hidden away in a cabinet.
Only two of the people I invited had wine...one had ONE glass & the other two, BUT standard pours not the old Lorraine-size pours...so only 1/2 of a bottle out of 4 was consumed...So they each went home with the rest of it and I feel relieved.6 -
Today the old man and I went to a jazz brunch (tea for me, coffee for him) then went on a hike as we are having unseasonably warm weather for January. Watching football now and felt a tiny tug as my husband made himself a scotch, but am having my chamomile tea. Day 7 tomorrow. I'll just keep on keepin' on. Have a good week, Friends.
Keep on Keepin' on...very inspiring3 -
Day 37 baby12
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »@MrSunshinez Death is an enemy!! Sorry for your losses. Sounds like you were dealing with some overwhelming grief. Takes courage to get back on the sober train. Hoping the best for you. You're in a great place to get some support to keep you on track.
I second this @MrSunshinez.3 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Thank you for all your support & love & hugs As I read back my comment & your responses, I'm wondering if my " I CAN drink" comment was taken as I'm going to drink...which was not the case LOL. We CAN ALL drink, but we choose not to cause we do not want to go down the slippery slope. It really helps me to come hear & vent my stuff & hear all the words of wisdom & experience.
I try to remember, "This too shall pass." And IT DOES
I've also been focusing on feeling left out, the isolation that comes from being different, the withdrawal from my drinking friends etc etc...so I really think that is fueling some of the anger I'm feeling...like I've said before, anger is a secondary emotion hiding sadness, hurt etc and THAT is what I'm dealing with right now. And THAT IS OK!!! this too shall pass!!
I'm sure most here can agree that it isn't the absence of the alcohol itself that is the most difficult, it is learning to carve out a different life , a different way of being. Anyway, I am finding my way and am at what Melodie Beattie describes as the "in-between place." In between where you were and where you are going! And in between people, those I need to leave behind & those I haven't found yet. It is a tough place to be, but necessary...I'm only feeling the feelings I was using alcohol to avoid feeling.
I did have my hot soak last eve & read in the tub....one of my fave activities to relieve some stress...then went to bed early.
Hope everyone has a great weekend!
Nice going on your journey and how you are handling it! Yes, I am the in between person as well with one foot stuck in the new door. Maybe I am on one leg, idk. I have made some new friends that are more encouraging than the last bunch. I found I was always needing to help someone or getting helped, by far mostly the first scenario, then drinking from the stress of it when I could afford the time to drink. Well it really needs to be a two way street in relationships unless you are doing volunteer work. I reconnected with one person and we both have changed for the better so far anyways. I will skip going out to eat with her, though. I realized that I have grown a lot the last year and probably the last 3 since my son passed. Yes I am feeling all of the feelings as well and having to learn better ways to deal with them than I was. It is tough for sure, but rewarding. More rewarding than if I never solved any of the problems and then created another problem by drinking. Sounds like you are doing the same. Keep it up.7 -
MrSunshinez wrote: »Good morning gang! Waking up clear headed again today. Last night was a true test though. I'm a graphic designer but not to hot on the website coding side. I was having so many problems with WordPress I was on the brink of going out and getting a bottle of something. But...I decided to say a few choice words, turn off the pc and go to bed. Woke up this morning, chatted with technical support and all is well again. Good Sunday to all!
Great! Yes it all does pass. I specifically remember having problems with the work at home computer position I had and running out to the liquor store. Glad you stayed strong.7 -
Welcome to the newcomers!
Everyone is doing great and me, too!7 -
I read all the posts, but rarely post myself, but I have to shout out that as of today I have 100 days! The holidays were sometimes hard, but I never go anywhere without some tea bags with me so that I can occupy my hands if I have to.14
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shortchange1 wrote: »I read all the posts, but rarely post myself, but I have to shout out that as of today I have 100 days! The holidays were sometimes hard, but I never go anywhere without some tea bags with me so that I can occupy my hands if I have to.
Congrats on 100 Days AF! That's great!7 -
salleewins wrote: »MrSunshinez wrote: »Good morning gang! Waking up clear headed again today. Last night was a true test though. I'm a graphic designer but not to hot on the website coding side. I was having so many problems with WordPress I was on the brink of going out and getting a bottle of something. But...I decided to say a few choice words, turn off the pc and go to bed. Woke up this morning, chatted with technical support and all is well again. Good Sunday to all!
Great! Yes it all does pass. I specifically remember having problems with the work at home computer position I had and running out to the liquor store. Glad you stayed strong.
Thanks. Oh, it's maddening! When you have doubts about what you're doing and it turns out it's not your fault. I hate imposed updates!4 -
I am enjoying my run yesterday, the time I get to think about things
The reasons I don’t drink anymore running around in my head
I am healthier Weight loss over 170 pounds running every day swimming a lot
I am able to enjoy and remember my vacations and when we eat out our meals and if the food is good
My friendships are stronger without drinking as I am the driver and enjoying myself as much and remembering what I enjoyed
Sometimes in the beginning it seems hard and uncomfortable to be a non drinker but the benefit is more than worth it10 -
shortchange1 wrote: »I read all the posts, but rarely post myself, but I have to shout out that as of today I have 100 days! The holidays were sometimes hard, but I never go anywhere without some tea bags with me so that I can occupy my hands if I have to.
Awesome!4 -
Everyone's posts are so inspiring! @Norminv I'm so proud of you!! @lorrainequiche59 I like puzzles too! Great idea about sliding it under the sofa. Glad you made it through your dinner and the wine has left with your guests. @Ke22yB 170 weight loss?! That is a whole person! Good for you! I hate exercise but I am going to drag myself to the gym right now because I ALWAYS feel better afterward. Keep up the good work, Folks! Onward we go!7
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Hi folks, this is my kind of chat Long time teetotaler here lol, but its still just a day at a time. It's all we have. Peace, good folks6
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I am enjoying my run yesterday, the time I get to think about things
The reasons I don’t drink anymore running around in my head
I am healthier Weight loss over 170 pounds running every day swimming a lot
I am able to enjoy and remember my vacations and when we eat out our meals and if the food is good
My friendships are stronger without drinking as I am the driver and enjoying myself as much and remembering what I enjoyed
Sometimes in the beginning it seems hard and uncomfortable to be a non drinker but the benefit is more than worth it
Thank you for providing this message for us!! That is a lot of weight to lose. I guess I can persevere with the last of what I want off. Thank you for this list!!4 -
@Norminv you are doing such a great job!!5
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