The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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@lorrainequiche59 ... my heart goes out to you and your daughter. May you all find peace in this difficult time.3
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We did it motherlovers and mothers and dads!!!! O man....came close a few times but wanting to impress you guys kept me going....like Maximus said.....are you not entertained!!!
February starts and I am a little lost...11 -
We did it motherlovers and mothers and dads!!!! O man....came close a few times but wanting to impress you guys kept me going....like Maximus said.....are you not entertained!!!
February starts and I am a little lost...
NICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep it up! Feelings can trick us. They are unreliable at times. You aren't lost even if you feel it! We look forward to more success and you build on this success.6 -
salleewins wrote: »We did it motherlovers and mothers and dads!!!! O man....came close a few times but wanting to impress you guys kept me going....like Maximus said.....are you not entertained!!!
February starts and I am a little lost...
NICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep it up! Feelings can trick us. They are unreliable at times. You aren't lost even if you feel it! We look forward to more success and you build on this success.
The issue is one of Super Bowl....i have so little confidence in my ability to moderate that i suspect if i decide to drink on SB, i will be back to drinking in no time through the summer7 -
Everyone who did dry January--BRAVO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Great going!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!9
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Knitting is super duper fun!!!!!!!!!!
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salleewins wrote: »We did it motherlovers and mothers and dads!!!! O man....came close a few times but wanting to impress you guys kept me going....like Maximus said.....are you not entertained!!!
February starts and I am a little lost...
NICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep it up! Feelings can trick us. They are unreliable at times. You aren't lost even if you feel it! We look forward to more success and you build on this success.
The issue is one of Super Bowl....i have so little confidence in my ability to moderate that i suspect if i decide to drink on SB, i will be back to drinking in no time through the summer
Well think it over . Can you go and not drink? Will everyone else be drinking? If yes, can someone go with you that doesn't? Just some ideas. If you honestly think you can stop at one/two buckle my shoe and not keep going and going, that may be your answer? If you drink two drinks that day, will you be able to forget about drinking the following day or will you be thinking about it more? Can you go for just part of the game and watch the rest elsewhere, in a less tempting environment? What ever you do, we will support you. We aren't going to be disappointed whatever you decide. Just let us know how it is going/how it went/your plans...if that helps...
A story....I went to a professional baseball game and it was way harder than I thought to stay AF, but I did do it , two or three summers ago. The friend that I was with did not drink. I was sober a couple of months when I went. A few months later, I started drinking again on Christmas Eve. I was drinking even heavier than before then. It was like I took off from where I was before I quit and I had to make up for lost time with a vengeance. It took 13 more months to quit again. That is because I definitely have a problem that I am convinced NOW that I have it 100%. Sometimes I start to waiver, even now, and think that it may not be 100% and then I am reminded that I know I have a problem and that I am sure it's 100%. I don't need to prove it again. That is me, however. Someone told me before I was going to that game, to not be traipsing off to do places and things and be around people to tempt me. I don't know if she meant early on in sobriety or forever. I laugh now, but then she made me mad, kind of. I took a risk. I thought about beer a lot. Honestly I might have fallen, if my friend had ordered a drink. I made a plan before I went. I got some stuff I really wanted and brought it with me. I definitely had sweets with me and brought stuff I wanted to eat. I would have done something else--like shop around more--if I couldn't handle it. I have found an escape route plan (like in case of a fire) is always in order. I certainly wasn't following a healthy eating plan that day, if I didn't want to. I ate whatever I wanted. No one drank beer right next to me or I would have moved HOPEFULLY. I went for other reasons than drinking and did have a great time.8 -
Good morning, Friends! We are now in February. I am happy January is over for a few reasons. Now, it seems like I can start fresh once again. I have this quote on my ipad screen. I read it every time I open my eye pad.
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@NormInv Go with your gut. You think you may spiral out of control, so you may want to say just for today (Super Bowl) I will drink ginger beer or your fav non-alcoholic beverage. I spiraled out of control from March-July after being sober from Jan.-March. Our Brains are screwed but there must be a good reason for it. Also, just think how absolutely wonderful your body is feeling. I won’t tell you what to do because I drank once in Jan. But I do know that for many of us the moderation train has passed the station.
@salleewins Good story! I am 100 percent sure too. I hate crawling out of the depression that alcohol brings me. It’s just easier to be a non-drinker. Period. Love you!5 -
Now that January is behind us I am going to start kicking this sugar craving's behind. I might give in to the dessert I am bringing to a Super Bowl party (Brownie triffle, Lord, help me) but will not drink alcohol. I'm proud of everyone that made it completely through January....alas I did have some wine in Austin so I didn't go the ENTIRE month BUT I am back on track now. Norm, you do whatever feels right to you for the SB. Salleewins has thoughtful reflections as usual. You really have come so far and we are proud of you!5
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That was the longest January in history it seems,not cuz of the dry aspect,just the month in general! Here we go into February stay strong my friends,don't let that voice creep in,squash it like a bug before it takes hold and grows,have a fabulous AF day
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@whitpauly I agree! I thought it would never end. So cold and gloomy here in Maryland. We are in for a warm up next week though and I can't wait!4
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I have to also say I thought I was never a person to fall in the trap of drinking too much. I was and can see it SO clearly now of the people I have hurt while drinking too much. The other HUGE wake up CALL for me was the other day. I was cleaning out a closet.... My husband a few months back was concerned about my drinking (full honesty he should have been, I had been acting out, etc.., Not acting like myself, the Sally he knows) that I hid a bottle of wine. First time I have ever hid any alcohol. YES - I KNOW HUGE sign! I was mad 😡 and said I can handle drinking... Needless to say I forgot that I had hidden that bottle of wine until I was cleaning the closet and it all came back to me. I was embarrassed and then thankful that I have stepped up to make the necessary changes in my life. Hard to admit; however, if it can help one person I don’t mind sharing. Never thought that would have ever been me. Really shows how much alcohol can overtake your life.
NO MORE! I am and will remain to be FREE!
We had three cases of wine shipped from Italy (prior to me deciding to do dry January), we haven’t opened them. FIRST TIME EVER! I am going to have two glasses MAX tmo. I have set up my monthly schedule and will only have wine tmo (SuperBowl/Phoenix Open) and Valentine’s Day. A HUGE change for last year. I will not fall back into bad habits and if I feel like I can’t handle that then I will stay dry. I have experienced way too many positives to fall down. My husband is on board with me and supportive.
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@kcn2bluesky
Hi! I thought of you when I opened the mail yesterday! I received my new Flow magazine! Next month, book for paper lovers is coming out! Yea! Knitting update: I am enjoying knitting; however, I need another lesson, LOL, I haven’t quite figure out going from row 1 to 2. 🧶
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TBH I have been tempted to drink lately. Yesterday when out to dinner at a nice restaurant was one time. I didn't even care about the effects of the alcohol but it was more like "I'm out to dinner and this is what people do when they are out to dinner to make it more fancy," plus the place we went to makes cocktails that taste good. I wasn't sure what non-alcoholic drink to order that felt fancy enough for a night out so I got a Diet Coke and I didn't even drink most of it because I realized Diet Coke is gross, so I felt a bit disappointed. I think I was already over my calories yesterday though so it's probably for the best. Today I was out to brunch with friends and most people were drinking. I felt a little bit left out, again not because of the effects of the alcohol but just because "this is what people do." But nobody cared that I wasn't drinking and I had just as much fun as anyone else.9
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I had one of those days today where IF I were drinking still, I would be drinking right now!!! I`ve been trying to catch up on work due to our 3 days of snow squalls and overbooked myself today. I loved having the time off, but very much dislike the pressure of having to rearrange to fit everyone in. I "thought" I had booked two jobs today, but got a text from a client when I was at job #1 referring to me working for her this aft....EEEEK!! She was not one of the two jobs I was planning to do today...but thankfully job #2 that I planned is out of town so I can do them tomorrow squeezed in with another client....and then to the visitation at the funeral home for my bro-in-law..
I also forgot that I committed to attend a baby shower of a client's son & S.O. this eve and had to run to get a card and a gift card in between my jobs cause I totally gapped on the whole deal.THEN, to top it all off as I'm paying with a clear, or so I thought, credit card, it declined...so I paid with debit then went to another store & tried to use my card again figuring something was wrong with the terminal at the first store, declined!!!! Are you kidding me...paid with a different card & when I called the card company that declined my transaction was informed that my balance was $1,300+ WHAT??????
Long story short, a couple of months ago I had put a charge on my card for my 11 yr old grandson who wanted to buy some characters on the video game he was playing...he assured me that it was a one time hit and not a recurring charge...all was well until Jan 31 & Feb 1 when my card got hit with several charges from iTunes....when my daughter checked out what's what on his phone, apparently it was a different website that he was playing this game thru that was linked into iTunes & hitting my card with all these charges in the past two days....OMG!! Good news, iTunes is refunding my $$$...thankfully....NEVER again!!!!
I actually made it to the shower almost on time...woohoo!! I dislike being late!
Just needed to vent...Rrrrrrrrrr!!!
Does this sound familiar to anyone?? I've heard from a couple of people that this is an issue with kids & video games & parent's cards getting dinged with huge charges...has this happened to anyone here?
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@Fitness327wk ~ I hope moderation can work for you! I know it can't for me...I think most of us can relate to hiding alcohol...and it definitely is a huge red flag...it's interesting how our thinking clears when we are AF for awhile...I hope things work out as planned for you.
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@laurenq1991 Isn't it interesting how we can be going along in our AF journey just fine and then BOOM!! Where the heck did THAT craving come from?? But like you said it was the atmosphere and fitting in with the crowd...everyone else is doing it and it can make us feel left out or even kinda odd. WELL, if swimming against the current is odd, it takes a really strong person to not go with the flow. And that would be YOU!! And like you said, you can have just as much fun as everyone else....with no after-effects.5
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Good morning, friends. Nothing new here. Went to the library and got three Art magazines, a book on divorce in your 50s, and a philosophy book “The untethered soul”. What a difference a year makes! I am feeling calm and peaceful and know that alcohol would change all that. Tonight is the Super Bowl party in the neighborhood. Last year, i remember that I felt deprived and sad I wound’t be drinking but this year, I am so glad not to be drinking. Love waking up sober especially while teaching little kids.
@Fitness327wk Those magazines looks so good. I didn’t find them at the library but maybe will buy one at Barnes and Nobles.
@laurenq1991 This ride is a roller coaster. And yes, it’s so normal to have some wine with dinner in a restaurant, it feels weird not to. Diet Coke is awful; I order club soda with some cherries or Perrier. Or a pretty Mocktail. Happy you came out ok.
@lorrainequiche59 What a whirlwind. Very stressful for sure. You are handling it very well though. Can you imagine drinking with all that going on. It would be more stressful and anxiety filled. You got this!4 -
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