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RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »
No that was me 😘
It ain't creepy when the other person reciprocates 😉
Like a dog as I paws and pant 😉1 -
RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
But I'm confused... Comparisons to celebraties?
Well I do get a lighter Urkel sometimes 🤷🏽♂️
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RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
idk me personally i love it when someone tells me im pretty
i think this may come down to being a woman/man issue though.
like most guys wanna hear they resemble a celebrity because it feeds the ego a bit and the ego can (but not always) be used to drive yourself harder (from my own perspective as a guy at least)
but i *think* a lot of girls may just feel insecure when compared to a celebrity because instead of driving the ego, it can force it into retreat by making them view themselves as "less than" in some kinda way i.e. "im not as pretty as her" "guys will never like me like her" etc etc3 -
CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
The industry as a whole is geared to make people feel inadequate. Those insecurities force you to purchase products in hopes to achieve that 'ideal look'. It's more of a marketing gimmick than anything but has really adverse effects on self esteem and appearance. It's sad really but most people are extremely impressionable so it is effective.
Oh I get it now...
I once listened to this book written by a personal trainer and he said that just about all fitness models pushing products are on steroids...
It's not like there is any type of antidoping athletic commission that regulates models...1 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
But I'm confused... Comparisons to celebraties?
Well I do get a lighter Urkel sometimes 🤷🏽♂️
I just mean that if someone tells us we look like a celebrity who we find attractive we accept that as a compliment to our appearance, but not when someone compliments our appearance directly...
Did that make more sense? Maybe I made it clear as mud.CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
The industry as a whole is geared to make people feel inadequate. Those insecurities force you to purchase products in hopes to achieve that 'ideal look'. It's more of a marketing gimmick than anything but has really adverse effects on self esteem and appearance. It's sad really but most people are extremely impressionable so it is effective.
This is the thing, the ideal look changes so frequently that it's unattainable, and many people forget that what is ideal to one person may not be to another. You are right, people are impressionable, and there is a lot of focus within social media currently on achieving the perfect body. Sometimes this is geared towards self-acceptance but inherently incites self-sabotage due to feeling inadequate.
I was making reference also to the fact that if someone compliments our appearance we may be reluctant to accept the admiration for fear of being called narcissistic, whereas we will accept a vicarious compliment in the guise of a comparison to an attractive celebrity.
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I'm like Mickey Rourke...the older, really haggard one...sans the plastic work.1
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RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
But I'm confused... Comparisons to celebraties?
Well I do get a lighter Urkel sometimes 🤷🏽♂️
I just mean that if someone tells us we look like a celebrity who we find attractive we accept that as a compliment to our appearance, but not when someone compliments our appearance directly...
Did that make more sense? Maybe I made it clear as mud.CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
The industry as a whole is geared to make people feel inadequate. Those insecurities force you to purchase products in hopes to achieve that 'ideal look'. It's more of a marketing gimmick than anything but has really adverse effects on self esteem and appearance. It's sad really but most people are extremely impressionable so it is effective.
This is the thing, the ideal look changes so frequently that it's unattainable, and many people forget that what is ideal to one person may not be to another. You are right, people are impressionable, and there is a lot of focus within social media currently on achieving the perfect body. Sometimes this is geared towards self-acceptance but inherently incites self-sabotage due to feeling inadequate.
I was making reference also to the fact that if someone compliments our appearance we may be reluctant to accept the admiration for fear of being called narcissistic, whereas we will accept a vicarious compliment in the guise of a comparison to an attractive celebrity.
This reminds me of one time at work... I was coming out of the locker and stopped in front of the mirror in my uni for a once over...
My Boss walked past me and said sarcastically "You look very cute Jesse" 😂😂😂
You had to have been there, we're all blue collar guys so it was hilarious in many respects2 -
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RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
idk me personally i love it when someone tells me im pretty
i think this may come down to being a woman/man issue though.
like most guys wanna hear they resemble a celebrity because it feeds the ego a bit and the ego can (but not always) be used to drive yourself harder (from my own perspective as a guy at least)
but i *think* a lot of girls may just feel insecure when compared to a celebrity because instead of driving the ego, it can force it into retreat by making them view themselves as "less than" in some kinda way i.e. "im not as pretty as her" "guys will never like me like her" etc etc
Yeah, I see what you're getting at here, if a male is compared to someone who they aspire to be like it may reinforce that their goals are achievable and that they are making progress. If you see
And, yes you make a good point about comparing females to celebrities, however, it depends what you are commenting on. Maybe an individual will be more likely to see it as a compliment rather than a detriment if they have put energy into enhancing their similarities, and thus it's a comment that their efforts are coming to fruition.
I used to get much more embarrassed when someone complimented me, I guess that boils down to feeling unworthy of the compliment. However, I tried to change that and become better at accepting compliments because I considered that if I deny someone their opinion, even on something so trivial as my appearance it could lead to them feeling invalidated. And that would make me feel incredibly guilty.2 -
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »
No that was me 😘
It ain't creepy when the other person reciprocates 😉
Like a dog as I paws and pant 😉
And .... drool?
FYI... if I call you cute, it's not sarcasm.2 -
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MistressSara wrote: »I just want to jump in here to say that all well-meaning compliments are gratefully accepted by me, with or without comparisons.
Blow me a kiss any day beautiful, I loved that pic 😘💖1 -
RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »
No that was me 😘
It ain't creepy when the other person reciprocates 😉
Like a dog as I paws and pant 😉
And .... drool?
FYI... if I call you cute, it's not sarcasm.
Sorry it's the over bite... Just turn the pillow over 😂
❤️❤️❤️
Validate me bahby 😉1 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »
If Cardiac arrest, just revive for more...
Think you can break it?
And learn the reverse...
Brief cardiac arrest then tachycardia.
Is it worth it?
Flip it AND reverse it.2 -
RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
I think in a way we have been taught to view self love and appreciation as vanity or conceit... there is a big difference in loving and accepting yourself and being conceited or braggadocios. Society tells us what is "beautiful"... its interesting to go back through time and see what was considered "beauty" in a particular era... 40 + years ago the standard of beauty was so completely different from today. Celebrities usually set that standard...3 -
Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
I think in a way we have been taught to view self love and appreciation as vanity or conceit... there is a big difference in loving and accepting yourself and being conceited or braggadocios. Society tells us what is "beautiful"... its interesting to go back through time and see what was considered "beauty" in a particular era... 40 + years ago the standard of beauty was so completely different from today. Celebrities usually set that standard...
Exactly. Seeing the changes in thinking over time has fascinated me as well. What I've noticed was the 50's & 60's represented was presenting yourself to the world the best way possible. People dressed up going to the grocery store. Here come the 90's. Enter Nirvana, Facebook (Mr. Sloppy Tshirt CEO), Married with Children and Rosanne all told society that it was okay to be *you* even if you wanted to be fat and sloppy...just be happy. Not such a good idea over time and here we are playing catch up. I love the aspect of it's okay that one size or style doesn't fit all because it's not realistic.2 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
We all like compliments, I think? It’s how to appropriately reply to the compliment that’s a struggle. Some worry they come across as conceited or that they have to repay the compliment and perhaps not come across as genuine. Really a simple thank you, does well.
As for the celebrity comparisons that’s the media messing with us, trying to install their image of beauty. As a teen I had stacks of cosmo magazines. I’d read all the beauty articles, obsesses over the girls and felt I couldn’t be good enough if I wasn’t 5’9, size zero, with tan skin, full breasts and a pretty bow mouth. But then I grew up some, learned to love myself, and now I can’t give a care. At the end of the day, what we think of ourselves is most powerful.
Absolutely, on some level all of us like compliments. Regardless of whether we feel like we deserve them, however in the cases of severely abused children who may feel only shame and guilt when receiving a compliment this is probably not accurate.
As an adolescent I think we are much more likely to be affected by what the media portrays as attractive. Possibly down to hormones and peer pressure, but also self image at a time when our bodies are changing and we may not have the control we want over our appearance (to a larger extent than in adulthood). I guess as a teen the need to be accepted is so prevalent and intrusive that I would call it damaging.Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Disclaimer: I'm not targeting anyone here, I know I'm guilty of this myself. But..
Why is it that we cannot accept when someone tells us we are beautiful, but we adorn ourselves with comparisons to celebrities.
I think in a way we have been taught to view self love and appreciation as vanity or conceit... there is a big difference in loving and accepting yourself and being conceited or braggadocios. Society tells us what is "beautiful"... its interesting to go back through time and see what was considered "beauty" in a particular era... 40 + years ago the standard of beauty was so completely different from today. Celebrities usually set that standard...
That's exactly what I was getting at, receiving a compliment graciously is an art form because you're navigating the misconception that you're narcissistic if you 'agree.' The 'ideal' self image is so ubiquitous throughout society that it's inescapable, celebrities contribute to this hugely and it creates a domino effect. Even so far as the mannequins that high-street stores use. But that's how we are manipulated as a society, to purchase things that create a false image of who we are so that we feel like we fit in, and to continue moving those goal posts so we are always striving for an unattainable ideal. It's like planned obsolescence.
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hippohumptif wrote: »Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »hippohumptif wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
funny enough Ophelia drowning has personal meaning to me
I didn’t know that. I hope I didn’t hurt you with my careless references ❤️
She comes up a lot in my writing and other crafts. Even a quilt block.
hold up, u quilt? me toooooo
Yes, very, very badly. But I do it anywayMistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
funny enough Ophelia drowning has personal meaning to me
I didn’t know that. I hope I didn’t hurt you with my careless references ❤️
She comes up a lot in my writing and other crafts. Even a quilt block.
hold up, u quilt? me toooooo
that’s awesome! i have a friend who’s a fiber artist and her quilts are amazing
i kinda strictly craft with it though, just making things like bags and blankets
I’ve made one smallish traditional quilt. I think the block is called called Georgia? Took me forever. I have a problem with the precision required to quilt well.
i’m not precise at all, I use scrap and no pattern and kinda hobble it together
heres a bag i made
I recognize that hand.
Are you ever going to be open about who you are? Because i love me a good catfish but not for every meal, nomsayin
Isn't it obvious?
Is it?caco_ethes wrote: »Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »hippohumptif wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
funny enough Ophelia drowning has personal meaning to me
I didn’t know that. I hope I didn’t hurt you with my careless references ❤️
She comes up a lot in my writing and other crafts. Even a quilt block.
hold up, u quilt? me toooooo
Yes, very, very badly. But I do it anywayMistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
funny enough Ophelia drowning has personal meaning to me
I didn’t know that. I hope I didn’t hurt you with my careless references ❤️
She comes up a lot in my writing and other crafts. Even a quilt block.
hold up, u quilt? me toooooo
that’s awesome! i have a friend who’s a fiber artist and her quilts are amazing
i kinda strictly craft with it though, just making things like bags and blankets
I’ve made one smallish traditional quilt. I think the block is called called Georgia? Took me forever. I have a problem with the precision required to quilt well.
i’m not precise at all, I use scrap and no pattern and kinda hobble it together
heres a bag i made
I recognize that hand.
Are you ever going to be open about who you are? Because i love me a good catfish but not for every meal, nomsayin
Isn't it obvious?
That person swore to me it wasn’t them.
Who was that?slimgirljo15 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »hippohumptif wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
funny enough Ophelia drowning has personal meaning to me
I didn’t know that. I hope I didn’t hurt you with my careless references ❤️
She comes up a lot in my writing and other crafts. Even a quilt block.
hold up, u quilt? me toooooo
Yes, very, very badly. But I do it anywayMistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
funny enough Ophelia drowning has personal meaning to me
I didn’t know that. I hope I didn’t hurt you with my careless references ❤️
She comes up a lot in my writing and other crafts. Even a quilt block.
hold up, u quilt? me toooooo
that’s awesome! i have a friend who’s a fiber artist and her quilts are amazing
i kinda strictly craft with it though, just making things like bags and blankets
I’ve made one smallish traditional quilt. I think the block is called called Georgia? Took me forever. I have a problem with the precision required to quilt well.
i’m not precise at all, I use scrap and no pattern and kinda hobble it together
heres a bag i made
I recognize that hand.
Are you ever going to be open about who you are? Because i love me a good catfish but not for every meal, nomsayin
Isn't it obvious?
That person swore to me it wasn’t them.
Well that's it then, can't be them 😁
You are being very condescending.caco_ethes wrote: »@hippohumptif wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »hippohumptif wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
funny enough Ophelia drowning has personal meaning to me
I didn’t know that. I hope I didn’t hurt you with my careless references ❤️
She comes up a lot in my writing and other crafts. Even a quilt block.
hold up, u quilt? me toooooo
Yes, very, very badly. But I do it anywayMistressSara wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
funny enough Ophelia drowning has personal meaning to me
I didn’t know that. I hope I didn’t hurt you with my careless references ❤️
She comes up a lot in my writing and other crafts. Even a quilt block.
hold up, u quilt? me toooooo
that’s awesome! i have a friend who’s a fiber artist and her quilts are amazing
i kinda strictly craft with it though, just making things like bags and blankets
I’ve made one smallish traditional quilt. I think the block is called called Georgia? Took me forever. I have a problem with the precision required to quilt well.
i’m not precise at all, I use scrap and no pattern and kinda hobble it together
heres a bag i made
I recognize that hand.
Are you ever going to be open about who you are? Because i love me a good catfish but not for every meal, nomsayin
Bluegill is pretty good.
I’m just sayin if you reveal who you are and you aren’t the person everyone thinks you are, you might find your time here more enjoyable. And even if nobody feels like they know who you are, people who come back anonymously often say that they feel invisible compared to before. That doesn’t sound very enjoyable.
You strike me as desperately unhappy at times and really cynical as a result but that’s like 94% of us here. And I’ve seen glimmers of a sense of humor, one that i think you’re trying to hide so as to protect your identity.
You seem to be here to stay, and it bothers me to see a regular appear to feel so low. I’d love to see you join in more without feeling as though you’re a total outsider. I honestly hate how many woos get thrown your way.
I guess that’s all.
I’m enjoying my time here, did I say I wasn’t? I don’t feel any more invisible here than I do in the real world. I am unhappy and I’m glad you think I have a glimmer of a sense of humor, you are just about the only one. I haven’t attempted to hide my identity with my posts. I don’t feel I’m an outsider I know I am, I’ve always been one. Do people give me woos? That means they love me right? That’s a good thing I guess.
Nope, I wasn't and @caco_ethes the lady I responded to knows me well enough to know that was a tongue in cheek light hearted response..
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My dad.. I'm angry and annoyed that certain family members are telling him he shouldn't have so many animals. (Horses, chooks, dogs, cats, ducks)
It's true his health hasnt been the best, but he gets around enough to look after them.
I truly believe they are what keeps him alive and whilst I am able I will make damn sure they don't take his enjoyment away.
My dad is of sound mind, so why they think they have the right to tell him how things should be and how he should live..
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I'm worrying that I'm not being the best mum that I could be at the minute, worrying that I may be messing my kid up for life by not being able to be present as often as she needs because I just need a break that never seems to come.
The fear of not knowing I'm doing a good enough job and that i will never know until she's all grown up, and by then, well it's too late.
Its some scary *kitten*..2 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »My dad.. I'm angry and annoyed that certain family members are telling him he shouldn't have so many animals. (Horses, chooks, dogs, cats, ducks)
It's true his health hasnt been the best, but he gets around enough to look after them.
I truly believe they are what keeps him alive and whilst I am able I will make damn sure they don't take his enjoyment away.
My dad is of sound mind, so why they think they have the right to tell him how things should be and how he should live..
That's what's on my mind
I'm sorry you are having to go threw this within you're own family .
I love the fact how you are wanting to protect you dad and his happiness .
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You're a wonderful person Eckhart. My little Yoda.
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RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »
If Cardiac arrest, just revive for more...
Think you can break it?
And learn the reverse...
Brief cardiac arrest then tachycardia.
Is it worth it?
Flip it AND reverse it.
I'll bring the AED, don't worry I'm certified (I even got a pin that says so 🤷🏽♂️)
Have you seen Call of Wild?
I'll bring it for you 😉
Mount and pound into submission Bb
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That I miss a lot when I'm working on here lol and I still need to post in the voice thread4
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