how to not hate exercise?
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laurenq1991 wrote: »
So maybe I should try speedwalking instead, and try to not be ashamed of myself for not being able to do running or Crossfit like other people?
Just because you START running at a 13 minute mile pace, doesn't mean you will always be at that pace.
people don't just get up one day and run a marathon, they train and practice and get fitter and faster.
unfortunately though, i agree with the fact that you need to change your attitude to exercise to actually be successful in doing any. good luck.7 -
laurenq1991 wrote: »clicketykeys wrote: »That was me starting out!
One thing that has helped me keep working at it is telling myself that feelings aren't facts. I didn't feel like exercising today. I still feel weak and sluggish and slow and incompetent. But by keeping track of my progress - how far I'm running, how fast my miles are, how much weight I'm lifting, how many reps I'm doing - I can see the progress I'm making even when it doesn't feel like I'm making progress.
Feelings are deceptive little kittens. Don't trust 'em.
Yeah but then I get into the existential thing of "does it really matter if I biked faster today or lifted more weights?" I guess part of the problem is that I don't really see value in myself that much so subconsciously I think there's no point to improving myself.
Ouch. Yeah, for me it definitely helps that I have longer-term goals. That way, the little bits of progress I see show me that I'm moving closer to the bigger goals.
You may want to make working on your self-image a priority as well. Because you DO have value, exercise or no exercise, whether you see it or not. But having difficulty seeing it can definitely create problems.
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laurenq1991 wrote: »
Which is exactly why I'm asking how people stop hating exercise....
Write those of "I hate" on piece of paper.. fold.. and put it in a hat.. until you have all your "I hate"..
Close your eyes.. pick one from a hat... And start there.. only you can make a choice..
Ppl can give you advice all day.. not gonna matter unless you give up the "I hate"..
Unless is medical reason that you can't. That's different story.
Sound advice! It all starts in your head, the excuses we make, and not having a clear goal that will be bigger than the stories we tell ourselves. You don't have to lose weight - that's good. But are you healthy? You clearly realise exercise is good for something, otherwise you wouldn't be asking for help. To you exercise feels exhausting because your fitness level is low. But the question to ask is not how to stop hating exercise, instead you should be asking why should I exercise? what will that give me? once you have a few answers, ask yourself the same questions again: why? what will that give me?. Then you may come up with something to motivate you enough to get moving. Start with something small, even if it is going up and down the stairs in your house for 10 minutes and build up on it. Or buy a hula hoop! Anything that gets you moving. There are so many ways to exercise in your own house /garden if you just get online and google exercising at home for beginners or something. Or do Yoga /Tai Chi, they're good for the body mind and soul, again, plenty of stuff available online.
No one can save you, it's down to you to change something. Don't wait until your health deteriorates and the Dr tells you you need to do something. I wish you well.2 -
I've always liked exercising, so I can't offer any insight from personal experience about going from hating it to loving it.
TBH, it sounds like you are just going to have to choose between avoiding what you hate and reaching the goals that you know you need exercise for. I imagine that it's a tough spot to be in.
It sounds like you are fairly active as far as the walking you have to do because of not having a car, and you already aren't overweight. I do agree with the people who recommended seeing your doctor if exercise is that exhausting for you. If there is something causing that and it could be treated, you may not hate exercising so much... Also, as others have said, some counseling might be beneficial if your aversion to exercise is really that strong.
Otherwise, you just have to make a choice. Good luck! I hope you get this worked out to a result you are happy with.1 -
TavistockToad wrote: »laurenq1991 wrote: »
So maybe I should try speedwalking instead, and try to not be ashamed of myself for not being able to do running or Crossfit like other people?
Just because you START running at a 13 minute mile pace, doesn't mean you will always be at that pace.
people don't just get up one day and run a marathon, they train and practice and get fitter and faster.
unfortunately though, i agree with the fact that you need to change your attitude to exercise to actually be successful in doing any. good luck.
And, unless you *really* want to do a race that has a cutoff of an 11 or 12-minute mile pace, there's no reason that you can't do the 13. I was saying to my therapist the other day that that's part of what I actually love about running. I'm not fast. I'll never be fast. I will never place. I'm still working on getting back to that 11 or 12-minute mile, after some health drama in 2018.
But I can get out and enjoy it, and run for the sake of running. And that's what makes it pleasurable for me. There are *no* expectations.7 -
laurenq1991 wrote: »I've tried so many times to get into an exercise routine but I can't make it happen because I hate exercise. I've never been overweight but also haven't been in shape for most of my life.
*I hate the feeling of getting sweaty and itchy.
*I hate getting out of breath and feeling like I'm about to die. In middle school we measured VO2Max and I had the second lowest in the class -- the lowest was someone whose parents were chain smokers.
*I hate going to the gym. I don't drive so it's very annoying to get there, they play annoying music so loudly that even if you have something else in your headphones you can hear their music over it, and I hate working out in public.
*I also hate exercising outside. Even walking is not as enjoyable as it once was between the bad drivers and poorly trained dogs, and with those two things and the broken sidewalks in my town, running or biking are out of the question.
*I hate that it takes out half my day between getting ready, doing exercise, showering, and the exhaustion afterwards. After exercising I feel so exhausted that I can hardly do anything for the rest of the day and hardly even get up.
*I also have bad associations with exercise because one of the worst times of my life was when I was on the track team in high school, and my physical health was terrible during that time (I was constantly exhausted and lost my period for six months) because the workouts were so draining.
*I don't get any kind of "runner's high."
*It's possible I might have mild exercise intolerance.
How can I make exercise not suck? I know I'm never going to do it unless I can find some way to enjoy it. I don't get how other people can be excited to work out. My husband gets pissed off if he can't run for an hour every day and he's constantly judging me for being "too lazy" to work out.
Have you tried walking?
I felt the same way at first.
After a mile I felt like I was going to die, and had to lay down for an hour. I forced myself to keep doing it until I could do 3 miles. Then I started power walking, and kept increasing the speed and distance.
It took a few months until it started feeling good, but it was well worth the pain that it took to get there.
I can power walk over 10 miles at over a 4 mph pace now, and over the past couple years I have taken up running. I did my first 10 mile run last Sunday.
I'm 61 years old.
Once you get over that hump you will be glad you did it.
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OP, you mentioned this in one of your posts: "Our finances are actually really good (thanks to my husband's job and inheritance from my grandma), but it's more that I feel guilty spending a lot of money on myself since I'm only working part-time."
I have no idea what type of work you currently do or want to do but just wanted to add my "out of the box" suggestion - have you thought about cleaning houses part time? It's a job that is always available and when my son was little I cleaned houses 4 days a week. I was in the best shape of my life pretty much. I was active all day but not overly so. Up and down stairs, carrying things, scrubbing, etc. used every muscle and even better? I didn't have to work out on my time off!9 -
AdrianSee1975 wrote: »
It doesn’t seem that exercise specifically is the problem.laurenq1991 wrote: »
Approaching life positively makes all the difference.
If you think something’s going to be really hard, it usually is.
Also gratitude counts for a lot.
Almost any person permanently in a wheelchair would give anything to be able to walk for 5 mins a day.
If that was how mental illnesses worked then no one but the most masochistic of people would have them. You can't just wish or logic away a mental illness and trying to compare it to someone in a wheelchair wishing they could walk (so you should be grateful you can) shows a sheer lack of understanding. It's also just offensive. Never mind that there are surely plenty of people who use wheelchairs who have mental illnesses....
Yes the OP has issues surrounding positivity which are likely tied to her mental health issues. Yes, I think they should be addressed. "Approaching life positively" will likely not make all the difference. If it did she probably wouldn't be in the spot she's currently in.3 -
I empathise with so much of your posts, OP, especially the delayed sleep phase disorder. I agree that general sleeplessness is probably making your goals seem more insurmountable. I find exercise mitigates my sleeping issues to an extent.
Some thoughts:
1) it doesn't have to be full-pelt, sweat dripping down your face levels of activity to qualify as exercise and improve your health.
2) any possibility your energy levels could be due to nutritional deficiencies? Have you already been able to discount that?
3) Perhaps the kinds of activity you've tried so far just aren't right for you. To use running as an example, some people are more comfortable running short distances very fast, and other people like to go a bit more slowly for a lot longer. Neither is superior to the other.
4) Arrange your hatreds in priority order and separate them into an Absolutely No Way list and a Can Possibly Begrudgingly Endure list. Then set up a new list called, What I Want My Form of Exercise To Have. If that doesn't give you ideas on what to try, posting your lists on MFP will get you overwhelmed with suggestions!
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P.S. Don't underestimate the impact of happiness. I wouldn't describe myself as someone who enjoys exercise for the sake of it, and nor would anyone else. Team sports with balls are my worst nightmare come true, and a 12 minute mile is something I can only aspire to
But it's amazing how far and fast I can go when I'm trying to learn a physical skill that I value in a supportive, positive atmosphere with other enthusiasts, especially if we have a cushioned floor.
Different people will find that joy and desire to improve at ballroom dancing classes, adult gymnastics, aerial hoop classes, table-tennis clubs, tap-dancing, swimming, and many more.
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AdrianSee1975 wrote: »It doesn’t seem that exercise specifically is the problem.
Approaching life positively makes all the difference.
If you think something’s going to be really hard, it usually is.
Also gratitude counts for a lot.
Almost any person permanently in a wheelchair would give anything to be able to walk for 5 mins a day.
If the "wheelchair" argument was a sustainable way to motivate people to work out, we would be a nation of bodybuilders.
Also all the power of positive thinking in the world isn't going to change the physical effects of exercise that I have to recover from every time I do it.0 -
I am sorry you were let down like this. Sometimes I don't think people appreciate how much it can affect your brain not to have positive feedback and role models for exercise and being active. Doesn't need to be depression or bi-polar (that bit you wrote about your past doctor was horrible, yikes) or anything diagnosable to just make everything feel like a struggle when it shouldn't be.
I'm glad that by the time I got to the end of the thread you're not feeling as negative. I think you should be proud of yourself for trying so hard when the benefits don't seem as tangible for you as they are for others.
Thanks for the kind words. Yeah I think a lot of people like to judge based on their own conception of how things or people "should" be. Just because something motivates or is easy for them, doesn't mean it will motivate or be easy for someone who has a different set of life experiences and different genetics. Not everyone can do the same things.
Feeling very sore and tired today
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clicketykeys wrote: »Ouch. Yeah, for me it definitely helps that I have longer-term goals. That way, the little bits of progress I see show me that I'm moving closer to the bigger goals.
You may want to make working on your self-image a priority as well. Because you DO have value, exercise or no exercise, whether you see it or not. But having difficulty seeing it can definitely create problems.
*hugs*
Thanks. I don't think it's possible for me to build self-esteem. It is just not there. It's like asking a blind person to see.
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OldAssDude wrote: »Have you tried walking?
I felt the same way at first.
After a mile I felt like I was going to die, and had to lay down for an hour. I forced myself to keep doing it until I could do 3 miles. Then I started power walking, and kept increasing the speed and distance.
It took a few months until it started feeling good, but it was well worth the pain that it took to get there.
I can power walk over 10 miles at over a 4 mph pace now, and over the past couple years I have taken up running. I did my first 10 mile run last Sunday.
I'm 61 years old.
Once you get over that hump you will be glad you did it.
Yes I walk all the time and have walked up to 20 miles in a day with no problems. It's more anything that breaks a sweat that causes the exhaustion and energy problems. I am looking for more exerting forms of exercise besides walking. Speed walking is a possibility.
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OP, you mentioned this in one of your posts: "Our finances are actually really good (thanks to my husband's job and inheritance from my grandma), but it's more that I feel guilty spending a lot of money on myself since I'm only working part-time."
I have no idea what type of work you currently do or want to do but just wanted to add my "out of the box" suggestion - have you thought about cleaning houses part time? It's a job that is always available and when my son was little I cleaned houses 4 days a week. I was in the best shape of my life pretty much. I was active all day but not overly so. Up and down stairs, carrying things, scrubbing, etc. used every muscle and even better? I didn't have to work out on my time off!
I work as a freelance app developer. I would enjoy a job cleaning houses, but my goal is to get a full time job in tech soon...maybe if that doesn't work out though.1 -
HeliumIsNoble wrote: »I empathise with so much of your posts, OP, especially the delayed sleep phase disorder. I agree that general sleeplessness is probably making your goals seem more insurmountable. I find exercise mitigates my sleeping issues to an extent.
Some thoughts:
1) it doesn't have to be full-pelt, sweat dripping down your face levels of activity to qualify as exercise and improve your health.
2) any possibility your energy levels could be due to nutritional deficiencies? Have you already been able to discount that?
3) Perhaps the kinds of activity you've tried so far just aren't right for you. To use running as an example, some people are more comfortable running short distances very fast, and other people like to go a bit more slowly for a lot longer. Neither is superior to the other.
4) Arrange your hatreds in priority order and separate them into an Absolutely No Way list and a Can Possibly Begrudgingly Endure list. Then set up a new list called, What I Want My Form of Exercise To Have. If that doesn't give you ideas on what to try, posting your lists on MFP will get you overwhelmed with suggestions!
Thanks for all the suggestions. The sleep problems definitely mess up my whole life. I can't have any routine because of it, since I never know when I will sleep or get up or how many hours I will sleep. My whole life would be different if I didn't have insomnia. Last night I couldn't sleep until 7 am. I got up at noon, the original goal was 9:30 but I knew I would be too tired to get anything done with under three hours sleep. I was also too tired to work out today since I had more important things to preserve my energy for, like work and cooking. It messes up my concentration and cognitive functioning too.
I thought "vigorous exercise" is what the expert recommendations call for. That's why I want to do exercise besides walking.
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laurenq1991 wrote: »HeliumIsNoble wrote: »I empathise with so much of your posts, OP, especially the delayed sleep phase disorder. I agree that general sleeplessness is probably making your goals seem more insurmountable. I find exercise mitigates my sleeping issues to an extent.
Some thoughts:
1) it doesn't have to be full-pelt, sweat dripping down your face levels of activity to qualify as exercise and improve your health.
2) any possibility your energy levels could be due to nutritional deficiencies? Have you already been able to discount that?
3) Perhaps the kinds of activity you've tried so far just aren't right for you. To use running as an example, some people are more comfortable running short distances very fast, and other people like to go a bit more slowly for a lot longer. Neither is superior to the other.
4) Arrange your hatreds in priority order and separate them into an Absolutely No Way list and a Can Possibly Begrudgingly Endure list. Then set up a new list called, What I Want My Form of Exercise To Have. If that doesn't give you ideas on what to try, posting your lists on MFP will get you overwhelmed with suggestions!
Thanks for all the suggestions. The sleep problems definitely mess up my whole life. I can't have any routine because of it, since I never know when I will sleep or get up or how many hours I will sleep. My whole life would be different if I didn't have insomnia. Last night I couldn't sleep until 7 am. I got up at noon, the original goal was 9:30 but I knew I would be too tired to get anything done with under three hours sleep. I was also too tired to work out today since I had more important things to preserve my energy for, like work and cooking. It messes up my concentration and cognitive functioning too.
I thought "vigorous exercise" is what the expert recommendations call for. That's why I want to do exercise besides walking.
Moderate exercise is often what I see quoted. From the NIH, "The Guidelines recommend that adults should do a minimum of 2 hours and 30 minutes, or 30 minutes 5 days a week, of moderate-intensity aerobic activity a week." Every minute of intense cardio counts for 2 minutes of moderate.
I wonder if rollerblading might be interesting for you. It might involve having to travel to a place that is more amenable to that (so possibly to NYC), but if you're able to find rental rollerblades it's worth a try. Race walking would also be worth a try, though it is/can be very strenuous from everything I've seen. It's worth a try though and if you don't like it you don't have to keep doing it. If that doesn't work, I'd probably just stick to very long walks for now (given that you're able to do them without much trouble).2 -
I am sorry but all I hear is excuses. If you don’t want to exercise don’t but don’r ask for ideas when you shoot every one of them down. I cannot imagine hating every type of exercise. But since you asked here is my honest answer, quit complaining and making excuses and just go do it. Cardio of some form for heart health and strength training to help you be stronger and more functionally fit. Don’t like to sweat, than walk, swim. Just do something for even 20 minutes a day.6
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I can relate to a lot of aspects of this. I started going to Zumba a few months ago. I went to a few gym classes just to see if anything stuck. I'm absolutely terrible at it, but the instructor makes me laugh and I just generally enjoy how she teaches. It's not necessarily the class, but the energy of the people in it that makes me keep going back. Maybe look for that. I generally hate exercising and am not at all self motivated, but I love this.3
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Nah, it's moderate exercise.laurenq1991 wrote: »HeliumIsNoble wrote: »I empathise with so much of your posts, OP, especially the delayed sleep phase disorder. I agree that general sleeplessness is probably making your goals seem more insurmountable. I find exercise mitigates my sleeping issues to an extent.
Some thoughts:
1) it doesn't have to be full-pelt, sweat dripping down your face levels of activity to qualify as exercise and improve your health.
2) any possibility your energy levels could be due to nutritional deficiencies? Have you already been able to discount that?
3) Perhaps the kinds of activity you've tried so far just aren't right for you. To use running as an example, some people are more comfortable running short distances very fast, and other people like to go a bit more slowly for a lot longer. Neither is superior to the other.
4) Arrange your hatreds in priority order and separate them into an Absolutely No Way list and a Can Possibly Begrudgingly Endure list. Then set up a new list called, What I Want My Form of Exercise To Have. If that doesn't give you ideas on what to try, posting your lists on MFP will get you overwhelmed with suggestions!
Thanks for all the suggestions. The sleep problems definitely mess up my whole life. I can't have any routine because of it, since I never know when I will sleep or get up or how many hours I will sleep. My whole life would be different if I didn't have insomnia. Last night I couldn't sleep until 7 am. I got up at noon, the original goal was 9:30 but I knew I would be too tired to get anything done with under three hours sleep. I was also too tired to work out today since I had more important things to preserve my energy for, like work and cooking. It messes up my concentration and cognitive functioning too.
I thought "vigorous exercise" is what the expert recommendations call for. That's why I want to do exercise besides walking.
If that wasn't enough, remember that consistent moderate exercise every week beats all the sessions of vigorous exercise that you didn't do because you didn't have the energy for them.
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