What nobody tells you about losing weight
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kenyonhaff wrote: »motivatedmartha wrote: »long_for_me wrote: »I am shocked by this. I was wearing size 16 or 18 40lbs ago. I am still wearing size 16! I was expecting a drop in size by now :-\ ! I am 5ft 9...but still!
This happened to me for such a long time - suddenly the sizes do start to fall. Take a good look at how the s16 sits on you, and what sort of shape those clothes are, some styles are more accommodating than others! I am sure your clothes will fit and look better than they did 40lbs ago. Don't let it derail you
Some clothes are extremely forgiving, and you may simply have a wardrobe that favors that. Also remember women's sizes are almost meaningless because of vanity sizing and hug differences between manufacturers and designers and so on. I lost 40+ pounds and I have labels everywhere from S to XL still...
In my case, there's also the fact that the size I was wearing wasn't necessarily the size I really was. Just because I refused to buy bigger clothes didn't mean I didn't need them
The first couple of sizes seemed to take forever. Now it only takes a few pounds to drop, it seems (but I'm just shy of 5'3, so less surface area, lol)
Oh yes, denial was strong with me too. I was always a size 14! You can't tell me otherwise! I don't care that my sleeves are almost cutting off circulation!12 -
I was shopping with a friend at a thrift store and found a top I loved but it was a medium. I showed it to my friend she said it looks like it would fit. I've been an xxl or xl for a long time and have just recently fit into a few larges, so I thought no way. She talked me into trying it on - it fit. I bought it and refer to it as the mislabeled medium. I still have XL's that don't fit. Size differences are SUPER annoying.10
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long_for_me wrote: »I am shocked by this. I was wearing size 16 or 18 40lbs ago. I am still wearing size 16! I was expecting a drop in size by now :-\ ! I am 5ft 9...but still!
I'm also 5'9". When I am at a higher weight, it takes at least 20 lbs for me to notice in my clothes. It took 35 for me to drop a size. Once I got close to goal (the first time around... I'm back up 30 lbs), it didn't take as much. If I dropped 5 -10 lbs I noticed.6 -
ExistingFish wrote: »TanyaHooton wrote: »I've been reading this whole thread for many months, but never thought I would post. Not because I wouldn't lose the weight (I've lost 30 lbs) but because I was only slightly overweight so I didn't think there would be anything noticeable.
Yet I've noticed my wedding and engagement ring are loose on my ring finger. It's very annoying when I'm typing, which is 40 hours a week, and I get nervous now about wearing them in the shower. Also my shoes are a bit loose, which is mostly only a problem with ballet flats as those can slip off suddenly while walking. And it's much easier to correct my posture by aligning my pelvis properly (I have an anterior pelvis tilt) now that there is less weight on my lower belly.
I had expected to lose more evenly on my body than I did. But I've mostly lost in my hips and lower belly, which I understand is what a lot of other women want, but for me - having narrow hips - I still am nowhere near a flat belly despite being 21.9 BMI. And I've lost very little on my upper arms, chest, and shoulders. I can feel my clavicle now...even see it a tiny bit...but well, I guess I got to keep trucking with the weight loss to get those last unwanted pounds off.
Also, I learned that being in a deficit and lifting heavy weights - FOR ME - was completely not going to work. I never worked out when younger, so I have tons of muscle to build. And when I lift weights, I get so very hungry to the point that I end up sabotaging my calorie deficit. So I'll keep up with cardio and light bodyweight exercises until I get to goal, then increase to maintenance calories and lift.
I haven't been able to wear my wedding ring for about 8 months. I sometimes wear it when I get dressed up, I just wear a smaller silicone ring on top of it to hold it on. But it swivels, so I don't do that always. The majority of the time I wear a silicone ring. It's safer in the gym than a metal ring and it allows me to keep wearing *a* wedding ring until I am at a place where I am comfortable resizing my rings.
Rings are pretty cheap to get resized, maybe 30-$50 depending on where you live.
I wanted to wait until I was done losing weight and had maintained for at least 6 months. I don't want to have to have it resized repeatedly, it's already been resized once (to make it bigger). The metal can only be manipulated so much.5 -
long_for_me wrote: »I am shocked by this. I was wearing size 16 or 18 40lbs ago. I am still wearing size 16! I was expecting a drop in size by now :-\ ! I am 5ft 9...but still!
I'm also 5'9". When I am at a higher weight, it takes at least 20 lbs for me to notice in my clothes. It took 35 for me to drop a size. Once I got close to goal (the first time around... I'm back up 30 lbs), it didn't take as much. If I dropped 5 -10 lbs I noticed.
It must be a height thing. I'm 5'0", 5lbs changes how my clothes fit. 10-15lbs is a size change for sure.
I have total lost 40lbs, at 35lbs lost I'd gone from a 14 to a 4, an XL to a S/M. At 40lbs, 5 additional pounds lost, I'm now shopping for 2/XS in pants and S in shirts.
The flip side though, If I gain 15lbs, I physically can't wear my clothes anymore. I have to buy a whole new wardrobe or things just won't fit. There is just less leeway for short people. Less area to spread the weight around.11 -
What nobody tells you about losing weight; suddenly everyone around you is an expert at how what you are doing is 'wrong', 'too much' or 'a fad'....even when you lose 43 pounds, look amazing, feel great, and achieve more than you did before physically.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; they are so supportive until you surpass them, then it's all judgement, jealousy, and passive-aggressive commentary.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; its a lifelong battle of wills...with yourself.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; when you are bigger, you think the thin girls are giving you looks and laughing at you behind your back. When you are thinner, you notice the big girls treating you with icy politeness.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; the confidence and delight in finding out what your body can do;what you allow it to be able to do, is worth more than any clothing size in the WORLD.39 -
DeserveVictory wrote: »tealfoxonfire wrote: »Tracey_B_72 wrote: »
This. Bugs. Me. So. Much. I had to endure a bunch of that being refitted for my wedding dress. Everyone around me, overweight (not judging just saying) telling me to stop, that I'm losing all my good bits, that the dress looked better before. And no I'm not anorexic, I was barely at the BMI and etc where I'm not literally considered obese by my DOCTOR. It took a lot for me to face them and say- well I'm going to keep going so...guess I'll just have to be horribly healthy for my own wedding.
Horribly healthy cracked me up and actually made me laugh out loud! Thank you for that!
Congratulations on your wedding and on having to resize your dress!
YESSSS I HAD THE SAME EXACT EXPERIENCE! I was SO PEEVED that EVERYONE kept telling me to stop, or saying that now my wedding dress wasn't looking as good, because i lost weight and my 'boobs were gone'. I went from a size 12 to size 6.5, smack in the healthy BMI range, and everyone lost their minds in unhappiness. Crazy. I'm not there anymore, but COME ON.12 -
My realizations about halfway through my weight loss so far (35 down, 40ish to go)....
- My balance is so much better. I can walk up/down stairs without holding the railings, do a quick pivot on one foot with grace, put my shoes/socks on in the mornings while standing and balancing rather than sitting down - It has been a LONG time since I've been able to do these things!
- My body would give me new problems to deal with - After losing the first 20ish pounds, I started having acne breakouts worse than I have ever had in my life. I'm still working through how to manage this, but REFUSE to let it discourage me. I'm hoping eventually it will clear up.
- It is such a LONG TERM COMMITMENT. I had to finally accept that I would need to give myself a lot more time to lose the weight than I wanted - I'm targeting losing 75lbs over the course of 3 years. Then I'm also having to accept the fact that I'm not done after that - it will be a lifelong commitment to maintenance.24 -
tealfoxonfire wrote: »What nobody tells you about losing weight; suddenly everyone around you is an expert at how what you are doing is 'wrong', 'too much' or 'a fad'....even when you lose 43 pounds, look amazing, feel great, and achieve more than you did before physically.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; they are so supportive until you surpass them, then it's all judgement, jealousy, and passive-aggressive commentary.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; its a lifelong battle of wills...with yourself.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; when you are bigger, you think the thin girls are giving you looks and laughing at you behind your back. When you are thinner, you notice the big girls treating you with icy politeness.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; the confidence and delight in finding out what your body can do;what you allow it to be able to do, is worth more than any clothing size in the WORLD.
It’s not all bad! I was out running Saturday at the park and passed a lady running the other direction. I was thinking, “Gosh, she must work out a lot, she looks great! I wonder what she does? She looks about my age.” And then she smiled and nodded at me like we were members of the same club. Not all women want to cut each other down!34 -
I have also noticed that since I started paying more attention to my appearance and now that the weight loss shows, some mums no longer say "Hello" at the school gate....People definitely pay more attention to me now, so this is deliberate....15
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rheddmobile wrote: »tealfoxonfire wrote: »What nobody tells you about losing weight; suddenly everyone around you is an expert at how what you are doing is 'wrong', 'too much' or 'a fad'....even when you lose 43 pounds, look amazing, feel great, and achieve more than you did before physically.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; they are so supportive until you surpass them, then it's all judgement, jealousy, and passive-aggressive commentary.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; its a lifelong battle of wills...with yourself.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; when you are bigger, you think the thin girls are giving you looks and laughing at you behind your back. When you are thinner, you notice the big girls treating you with icy politeness.
What nobody tells you about losing weight; the confidence and delight in finding out what your body can do;what you allow it to be able to do, is worth more than any clothing size in the WORLD.
It’s not all bad! I was out running Saturday at the park and passed a lady running the other direction. I was thinking, “Gosh, she must work out a lot, she looks great! I wonder what she does? She looks about my age.” And then she smiled and nodded at me like we were members of the same club. Not all women want to cut each other down!
Heavens, no! If you're out there running or walking or whatever, and I don't care what size you are, I'm glad you're there! (Also, I feel a bit safer when there's people about and I'm not just walking alone outside).
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ExistingFish wrote: »long_for_me wrote: »I am shocked by this. I was wearing size 16 or 18 40lbs ago. I am still wearing size 16! I was expecting a drop in size by now :-\ ! I am 5ft 9...but still!
I'm also 5'9". When I am at a higher weight, it takes at least 20 lbs for me to notice in my clothes. It took 35 for me to drop a size. Once I got close to goal (the first time around... I'm back up 30 lbs), it didn't take as much. If I dropped 5 -10 lbs I noticed.
It must be a height thing. I'm 5'0", 5lbs changes how my clothes fit. 10-15lbs is a size change for sure.
I have total lost 40lbs, at 35lbs lost I'd gone from a 14 to a 4, an XL to a S/M. At 40lbs, 5 additional pounds lost, I'm now shopping for 2/XS in pants and S in shirts.
The flip side though, If I gain 15lbs, I physically can't wear my clothes anymore. I have to buy a whole new wardrobe or things just won't fit. There is just less leeway for short people. Less area to spread the weight around.
I hear you. I’m 5’4” on a good day. 10-15 lbs is at least one size. Maybe 2. I’m 128-130 now, comfortable in a 2 (a few are too big, a few too tight, 95% fit). By 135 I’m in a 4, 2s are indecently tight. By 145, it’s a 6 at least.
I threw out/donated all my 4s except 1 church dress for fat days/emergencies. So if things get bad I am living in workout clothes other than on Sunday morning. Maybe that’ll keep me on track 😆14 -
Thing that makes me smile today - it's jean week at work right now and I haven't looked good in a pair of jeans in 18 years. I seriously can't stop checking out my butt in the mirror in the bathroom. It's crazy but it makes me happy! I even wore sexy underwear underneath it all today!42
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chr1sjohnson wrote: »Thing that makes me smile today - it's jean week at work right now and I haven't looked good in a pair of jeans in 18 years. I seriously can't stop checking out my butt in the mirror in the bathroom. It's crazy but it makes me happy! I even wore sexy underwear underneath it all today!
I seriously love this NSV
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chr1sjohnson wrote: »Thing that makes me smile today - it's jean week at work right now and I haven't looked good in a pair of jeans in 18 years. I seriously can't stop checking out my butt in the mirror in the bathroom. It's crazy but it makes me happy! I even wore sexy underwear underneath it all today!
Underwear makes a difference too! I want to get some nice underwear. I'm 31 and I've never owned a pair of "cute" underwear. I've always just bought the stuff that comes in packs. I want cute underwear now!26 -
springlering62 wrote: »Well, today is 60 pounds gone. Having a hard time coping with “smaller me”. It kind of hit me today when my trainer just about forced my chin up to make me look at myself in the mirror. I can’t bear to see myself. I still feel fat, make the same old apologetic fat jokes, etc.
I was very surprised in that instant. It was like seeing a stranger. I was the first time I had thought of myself as (dare I say it?) thin.
I keep thinking, naw, “thin” was the 120 I weighed when I got married, and 161 just doesn’t “sound” thin, and these smalls I’m wearing are just the result of vanity sizing.
As I sit here typing this, I still feel like same old same old “me”, as if nothing’s changed, right? It’s just all so confusing. When I first got on MFP, I read the posts and secretly thought Body Dismorphia was BS. It’s a thing, y’all. This whole weight thing, the beating myself up for being up or down, the refusing to look at myself in the mirror, to see or acknowledge the changes in my body, wanting to crawl under a rock when someone says something nice, it all makes my brain feel so disassociated with my body.
Ummm wow. Literally could have written this myself word for word. Have lost 50 lbs and currently sitting at 161. Experiencing all the same things, thoughts, and feelings. Unfortunately, I have no suggestions to help- only to say that I know how you feel and you're not alone!
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Going to the movies is a different experience when your sides aren't rubbing against the arm rests for 2 hours. (It's been a long time since I felt that, I'm hoping to feel it again one day.)6
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vx_comanche wrote: »How your clothes are suddenly too big and it feels like the Twilight Zone...like they got bigger rather than you got thinner.
Yes, me too! All my nerdy t-shirts are huge.7 -
oceangirl99 wrote: »chr1sjohnson wrote: »Thing that makes me smile today - it's jean week at work right now and I haven't looked good in a pair of jeans in 18 years. I seriously can't stop checking out my butt in the mirror in the bathroom. It's crazy but it makes me happy! I even wore sexy underwear underneath it all today!
I seriously love this NSV
Me too!2 -
Underwear makes a difference too! I want to get some nice underwear. I'm 31 and I've never owned a pair of "cute" underwear. I've always just bought the stuff that comes in packs. I want cute underwear now![/quote]
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