Unexpected downsides of losing weight
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There used to be a chain store in some of the malls that catered to small sizes - it was called something like 3-5-7. Does it still exist?0
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spiriteagle99 wrote: »There used to be a chain store in some of the malls that catered to small sizes - it was called something like 3-5-7. Does it still exist?
I think the store was 5-7-9 and at least near me I have not seen any in the past few years. They also catered mostly to teenagers so everything was crop tops and short-shorts, it would not be a place to go shop for work clothes or really anything I would want to wear lol1 -
I had this problem when I was younger and a size 4. I was actually pleased when I gained weight and found my new size, 8 or 10, everywhere. Have you tried Ann Taylor? In my experience the sizes there tend to run small.1
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I had this problem when I was younger and a size 4. I was actually pleased when I gained weight and found my new size, 8 or 10, everywhere. Have you tried Ann Taylor? In my experience the sizes there tend to run small.
Yes that is the main place I shop Ann Taylor or LOFT, sometimes New York and Company but like I was complaining about they are on the pricier end so I have to wait for sales or coupons. Luckily I have been at maintenance for a few years so I have a decent wardrobe built up, but that took quite a bit of time and when things need replacing or I need something new for a special event it can be rough. You have no idea how many weddings I have worn the same 2 dresses to lol.4 -
I just don’t think it is vanity that manufacturers are catering to by making their clothes sizes bigger to suit the population as it gets bigger. I think it is perfectly fair enough to adapt. I’m not saying that small people shouldn’t be able to get clothes, but I want, as someone who currently takes the biggest size in the shop (even after it has been “vanity sized”) I don’t think there is any shame in wanting clothes that fit. I don’t think “vanity” is the right thing to call it.
Unfortunately, that is what it is called. I truly wouldn't think too much into it. We all want the same thing - clothes that fit. At least there are plus sized stores available, I don't know of any stores that are for smaller than average individuals. I understand not everyone wants to have to shop at a separate store and I don't think that is how it should be, but at least there are stores available. I might have to resort to shopping online with stores that don't vanity size and just hoping something fits.
It is unfortunate our society as a whole is getting bigger, but I don't think that is going to change any time soon. I just read an article that women in American weight, on average, 18.5 percent more now than in 1960. Our health as a society is going to continue to suffer as our weight continues to increase. I can completely understand your point regarding vanity sizing becoming a necessity to keep with our growing population. Maybe someone will open a store for smaller individuals if there is going to be a gap in available clothing sizes.
The problem with plus size stores is that they cater to women who are shorter than average- when I was in the plus size range I had trouble buying trousers because the legs on the plus size ones were not long enough for me (I am 5”9) as they were clearly designed for someone about average height.
Vanity sizing may be what people call that phenomenon but I think that term is inherently insulting to people who need bigger sizes through no fault of their own and we should find something else to call it that doesn’t put people down.
This was not my experience a few years back at Lane Bryant at all - in fact, the opposite - pants were too long. I'm almost 5'7" and had to buy Petites in jeans.3 -
wannabeskinnycat wrote: »QuinntessentiallyMe wrote: »Some of us, especially those of us who live on little money, get tired of having to buy new clothes. I've dropped 14 sizes, and have gone through at least 3 wardrobes. Even thrift store prices get to become a burden. At this point, I'm scouring 25 cent clothing piles at yard sales, and even yard sale leftovers left outside for free because I can't afford even Community Aid's half-off day prices. I'm still working on my body, and I appreciate the positive changes, but they come with a price.
This is something I’m not looking forward to. I’m only 22lb into a 100+lb loss and it’s going to take me a long time so I know I’ll be in each size for a while. I know I’ll be happy about being in a smaller size but not being able to afford nice new clothing will be tough. I’m already looking at skipping the next size down and thinking tracking bottoms, leggings etc. I can’t wear them for work so I’ll just have to take the hit on a few items and wear the life out of them. And I’m dreading buying new bras in each size.
I moaned to my hubby about it just the other day and he said think of the money we’re saving on food! I nearly launched my phone at him. Not that I’d ever say he’s right but it has made me think about putting away a little each week for when I’m ready to size down. And I’m going to check the charity shops each week for good quality pieces even if they’re way too small. Hopefully I’ll only spend the same amount I normally would over the same period.
Good luck on your clothing quest x
With bra extenders I can wear the same bra plus or minus a lot of weight. These come in two hooks and three hooks: https://www.walmart.com/ip/3-Pcs-3-Hooks-Ladies-Womens-Bra-Extenders-Extension-Expander-Black-White-Beige/440032201?selected=true
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grinning_chick wrote: »RE: Vanity sizing. If you want to for real, on purpose, be shamed as an obese person (or even "just" overweight per BMI) try shopping in an REI brick and mortar store. That'll do the trick every time. The majority of outdoor clothing manufacturer's never adopted the vanity sizing manure and it's nearly impossible to find anything above an "old school" (circa early 2000s) women's size 16 in pants/shorts unless you don't feel humiliated having to shop in the men's department.
Seriously. I'm on the slimmer side of a normal BMI, but have linebacker shoulders (thanks, swimming!) and boobs. Trying to find a running jacket at REI was an interesting experience.1 -
grinning_chick wrote: »spiriteagle99 wrote: »Re: Vanity sizing - I was a size 10 most of my life. During that time, my weight varied from 120 to 175. My body changed and grew bigger but manufacturers labeled the clothes smaller and smaller so I was in denial that I was actually getting fat. If I still wear a 10, I have nothing to worry about, right? I have a very old pair of sized 10 jeans that fit me now, at 123, but if I go to the store I have to buy a 4 or a 2. It makes it impossible to shop online because I have no idea what will fit.
Yeah, I am dreading this. I have a ton of clothes in storage from the early-mid 2000s when I was 138 through ~165 lbs. Most will be okay as far as not standing out as "old", but when they wear out? If I finally succeed in my weight loss and maintenance endeavors now that determination has shown up to the party, I will be adrift in a sea of new clothes sizing I don't understand as I missed the whole vanity sizing thing. I missed it because I have bought used/old stock clothes off of ebay as I've gained weight that are from circa early to mid 2000s as well so the sizing is still the same scale I've always known. But I can't dress like that forever 'cause that would be weird. And I can't exactly wear nylon shorts/skirts/pants/tops from outdoor companies who never adopted vanity sizing for business attire. And let's be honest; it will be hard for me to justify buying off the rack new and giving up on online shopping after so many years of perfectly good discounted clothing.
! 90s is back in and early 2000s fashion is making a come back. Ahhh you are so lucky and smart for keeping them.
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Fitnessgirl0913 wrote: »spiriteagle99 wrote: »There used to be a chain store in some of the malls that catered to small sizes - it was called something like 3-5-7. Does it still exist?
I think the store was 5-7-9 and at least near me I have not seen any in the past few years. They also catered mostly to teenagers so everything was crop tops and short-shorts, it would not be a place to go shop for work clothes or really anything I would want to wear lol
Yeah i noticed everything in those type of stores run small. Walmart too if you buy out of the Jr's area. So getting to a size 9.. it's hard to find stuff because a teenage size 9 doesn't fit an adult.
I did finally find size 9 adult pants on Amazon. yay!
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kshama2001 wrote: »wannabeskinnycat wrote: »QuinntessentiallyMe wrote: »Some of us, especially those of us who live on little money, get tired of having to buy new clothes. I've dropped 14 sizes, and have gone through at least 3 wardrobes. Even thrift store prices get to become a burden. At this point, I'm scouring 25 cent clothing piles at yard sales, and even yard sale leftovers left outside for free because I can't afford even Community Aid's half-off day prices. I'm still working on my body, and I appreciate the positive changes, but they come with a price.
This is something I’m not looking forward to. I’m only 22lb into a 100+lb loss and it’s going to take me a long time so I know I’ll be in each size for a while. I know I’ll be happy about being in a smaller size but not being able to afford nice new clothing will be tough. I’m already looking at skipping the next size down and thinking tracking bottoms, leggings etc. I can’t wear them for work so I’ll just have to take the hit on a few items and wear the life out of them. And I’m dreading buying new bras in each size.
I moaned to my hubby about it just the other day and he said think of the money we’re saving on food! I nearly launched my phone at him. Not that I’d ever say he’s right but it has made me think about putting away a little each week for when I’m ready to size down. And I’m going to check the charity shops each week for good quality pieces even if they’re way too small. Hopefully I’ll only spend the same amount I normally would over the same period.
Good luck on your clothing quest x
With bra extenders I can wear the same bra plus or minus a lot of weight. These come in two hooks and three hooks: https://www.walmart.com/ip/3-Pcs-3-Hooks-Ladies-Womens-Bra-Extenders-Extension-Expander-Black-White-Beige/440032201?selected=true
But the cups shrink too right?
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Yeah point #4 would really piss me off I don't blame u1
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I have become a shop-a-holic. At least, it seems like it. After losing 60+ pounds I needed to replace my total wardrobe (from undies to winter clothes, including shoes!) Seems that someone who has had an intense dislike for shopping suddenly finds, 63 pounds later, that shopping can be FUN. Am now living on a tighter budget and tracking expenditures to try to move from spending to saving mode (the logging/tracking habits learned while losing weight are helpful for financial management too!)5
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Concern and health trolling are awful and humiliating.8
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eliseeleblanc70 wrote: »You didn’t say how old you are but if you’re getting up there then as you lose weight you see wrinkles on your face. The one pro of being overweight is that it plumps out the wrinkles. But better to look old than feel old right.
I'm 43. 2 years ago I easily looked 10 years younger because of my plump face, now 84 pounds less and I have wrinkles galore and loose skin! I would take the wrinkles over looking young any day...because I FEEL so much better12 -
I have become a shop-a-holic. At least, it seems like it. After losing 60+ pounds I needed to replace my total wardrobe (from undies to winter clothes, including shoes!) Seems that someone who has had an intense dislike for shopping suddenly finds, 63 pounds later, that shopping can be FUN. Am now living on a tighter budget and tracking expenditures to try to move from spending to saving mode (the logging/tracking habits learned while losing weight are helpful for financial management too!)
I've replaced everything from bras to all my pants...EVERYTHING. The one that shocked me? My shoes are all too big!3 -
Spadesheart wrote: »i think every sane human can agree that sizes that aren't an actual size are idiotic. I'll accept small medium and large, 32 inch, 38 inch, whatever, but who in the world was the moron that thought size 0 was something that made sense. Stahp it. I don't know how ladies put up with it, its just annoying to be so unclear on what you're looking at.
I'm almost surprised they haven't started sizing in the negative numbers yet.
Vanity sizing is NOT selling larger-sized clothing to those who need them. Vanity sizing is taking what used to be, for example, a size 22, and calling it an 18 to make the clientele happy. Then what used to be a 24 becomes a 20, what used to be a 26 becomes a 22, etc. The danger in that is people can be in denial about it. "Hey, I haven't gained weight at all! I was a size 22 seventeen years ago, and I'm still a size 22 now!" But they don't consider the difference between the size 22 of seventeen years ago and the size 22 of nowadays. And that's why they call it vanity sizing. It gives people a false sense of what's going on.26 -
I just don’t think it is vanity that manufacturers are catering to by making their clothes sizes bigger to suit the population as it gets bigger. I think it is perfectly fair enough to adapt. I’m not saying that small people shouldn’t be able to get clothes, but I want, as someone who currently takes the biggest size in the shop (even after it has been “vanity sized”) I don’t think there is any shame in wanting clothes that fit. I don’t think “vanity” is the right thing to call it.
Unfortunately, that is what it is called. I truly wouldn't think too much into it. We all want the same thing - clothes that fit. At least there are plus sized stores available, I don't know of any stores that are for smaller than average individuals. I understand not everyone wants to have to shop at a separate store and I don't think that is how it should be, but at least there are stores available. I might have to resort to shopping online with stores that don't vanity size and just hoping something fits.
It is unfortunate our society as a whole is getting bigger, but I don't think that is going to change any time soon. I just read an article that women in American weight, on average, 18.5 percent more now than in 1960. Our health as a society is going to continue to suffer as our weight continues to increase. I can completely understand your point regarding vanity sizing becoming a necessity to keep with our growing population. Maybe someone will open a store for smaller individuals if there is going to be a gap in available clothing sizes.
The problem with plus size stores is that they cater to women who are shorter than average- when I was in the plus size range I had trouble buying trousers because the legs on the plus size ones were not long enough for me (I am 5”9) as they were clearly designed for someone about average height.
Vanity sizing may be what people call that phenomenon but I think that term is inherently insulting to people who need bigger sizes through no fault of their own and we should find something else to call it that doesn’t put people down.
I would think the term "plus size" would be viewed worse than vanity sizing. Is saying plus size insulting also? Is there something different I can call that so I don't offend people?
I guess it depends on the person- for me plus size is closer to the facts whereas vanity sizing carries a negative connotation because nobody aspires to be vain.
But 'plus size' and 'vanity size' are two entirely separate things.
Plus size: Adding larger numbers to the size range.
Vanity sizing: Just making all the existing sizes larger.
Manufacturers are making existing sizes larger because people feel good about being able to fit into a smaller number. I think that 'vanity sizing' is a perfectly good term for that.
That has nothing to do with whether you, specifically, can find clothes that fit; it only affects what number is on the label. However it does affect the ability of smaller people to find clothes that fit, when sizes that used to fit perfectly are now too big and there's no size below zero...20 -
kshama2001 wrote: »wannabeskinnycat wrote: »QuinntessentiallyMe wrote: »Some of us, especially those of us who live on little money, get tired of having to buy new clothes. I've dropped 14 sizes, and have gone through at least 3 wardrobes. Even thrift store prices get to become a burden. At this point, I'm scouring 25 cent clothing piles at yard sales, and even yard sale leftovers left outside for free because I can't afford even Community Aid's half-off day prices. I'm still working on my body, and I appreciate the positive changes, but they come with a price.
This is something I’m not looking forward to. I’m only 22lb into a 100+lb loss and it’s going to take me a long time so I know I’ll be in each size for a while. I know I’ll be happy about being in a smaller size but not being able to afford nice new clothing will be tough. I’m already looking at skipping the next size down and thinking tracking bottoms, leggings etc. I can’t wear them for work so I’ll just have to take the hit on a few items and wear the life out of them. And I’m dreading buying new bras in each size.
I moaned to my hubby about it just the other day and he said think of the money we’re saving on food! I nearly launched my phone at him. Not that I’d ever say he’s right but it has made me think about putting away a little each week for when I’m ready to size down. And I’m going to check the charity shops each week for good quality pieces even if they’re way too small. Hopefully I’ll only spend the same amount I normally would over the same period.
Good luck on your clothing quest x
With bra extenders I can wear the same bra plus or minus a lot of weight. These come in two hooks and three hooks: https://www.walmart.com/ip/3-Pcs-3-Hooks-Ladies-Womens-Bra-Extenders-Extension-Expander-Black-White-Beige/440032201?selected=true
But the cups shrink too right?
When the bra cups are a little too big I can still make the bra work by filling the cups by "fluffing" my breasts
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kshama2001 wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »wannabeskinnycat wrote: »QuinntessentiallyMe wrote: »Some of us, especially those of us who live on little money, get tired of having to buy new clothes. I've dropped 14 sizes, and have gone through at least 3 wardrobes. Even thrift store prices get to become a burden. At this point, I'm scouring 25 cent clothing piles at yard sales, and even yard sale leftovers left outside for free because I can't afford even Community Aid's half-off day prices. I'm still working on my body, and I appreciate the positive changes, but they come with a price.
This is something I’m not looking forward to. I’m only 22lb into a 100+lb loss and it’s going to take me a long time so I know I’ll be in each size for a while. I know I’ll be happy about being in a smaller size but not being able to afford nice new clothing will be tough. I’m already looking at skipping the next size down and thinking tracking bottoms, leggings etc. I can’t wear them for work so I’ll just have to take the hit on a few items and wear the life out of them. And I’m dreading buying new bras in each size.
I moaned to my hubby about it just the other day and he said think of the money we’re saving on food! I nearly launched my phone at him. Not that I’d ever say he’s right but it has made me think about putting away a little each week for when I’m ready to size down. And I’m going to check the charity shops each week for good quality pieces even if they’re way too small. Hopefully I’ll only spend the same amount I normally would over the same period.
Good luck on your clothing quest x
With bra extenders I can wear the same bra plus or minus a lot of weight. These come in two hooks and three hooks: https://www.walmart.com/ip/3-Pcs-3-Hooks-Ladies-Womens-Bra-Extenders-Extension-Expander-Black-White-Beige/440032201?selected=true
But the cups shrink too right?
When the bra cups are a little too big I can still make the bra work by filling the cups by "fluffing" my breasts
Yeah, too-big cups I can handle for a bit, too-big band is what makes me feel sloppy. I always do the scoop-n-swoop to fill in cups, much more comfortable that way and a better indicator of correct cup size. I'll also take the gel inserts out of bathing suits and use those to fill out a cup. I'm kind of between cup sizes right now so it really does help.4 -
1) Finding clothes that fit as you decline without spending too much
2) Skin irritations
3) You are suddenly the diet expert and everyone asks you for weight loss advice even at funerals
4) You may have "fat brain" and continue to think you are heavier than you are or make decisions based on the heavier version of yourself.
5) Food repetition - I can't be the only one that gets into easy to fix and easy to log routines.
6) Grieving for the the loss of carefree eating - this one I am mostly over but it took a long time
7) Low energy days
Number 6) really speaks to me. I can appreciate that knowledge is power when it comes to calories, but also sometimes feel that ignorance was bliss!
How do you get over #6? I am two years in and still struggle with the grief/resentment/frustration every single day. I long for the day I can eat healthy and maintain a healthy weight without having to think about it every day.5 -
I haven't read all of the comments but I had no idea the Raynaud's was related to weight loss. When it first happened to me I went to my neurologist because I thought it was my MS. He said no and explained what it was but didn't mention weight loss. I had recently lost probably 75 or 80 pounds when it happened. Scared the hell out of me. As for the temperature in general, I'm always cold. I was cold at 275 pounds and I was cold at 175 pounds, I'm afraid that's just who I am.2
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Targets have a fantastic clearance section. I’ve picked up many many brand new items for $5-10 to tide me over for the summer.3
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springlering62 wrote: »Targets have a fantastic clearance section. I’ve picked up many many brand new items for $5-10 to tide me over for the summer.
I agree, they always have great things on clearance. You can also get great deals on items that are internet returns (bought online and returned in-store). That's how I got my swimsuit, still full-price online for like 50% off.1 -
Low energy is the worst thing for me. Even with coffee I'll need to take a nap.4
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mitch22098 wrote: »Low energy is the worst thing for me. Even with coffee I'll need to take a nap.
I wish this was an issue for me! I thought the diet and extra exercise would help my sleep as I haven't slept a solid 8 hours since early high school. I still haven't.3 -
Hungry_Shopgirl wrote: »I'm practically gaunt in the face and upper body, but still fat in the lower body. People tell me you even out after a couple years but ugh ugh ugh.
I can also see why people comment and think you've lost too much weight when parts of you are all bones.
Yesss the struggle is real. My husband is slightly freaked out that he can see my ribs for the first time but I'm still not even at the lower end of the bmi. Every lb I have left to lose is from my ribs down... First on, last off.
Oh me three! My shoulders and upper body are quite angular and I'm narrow in the torso, but my thighs are still "healthy" looking presumably because I do more running/skating than upper body resistance work.2 -
I guess it depends on the person- for me plus size is closer to the facts whereas vanity sizing carries a negative connotation because nobody aspires to be vain.
The manufacturers aren't saying "here are some vanity sizes" and expecting people to go, oh that's me, and buy a thing. It's a name applied to something they gradually did over time that the average public didn't even know about, because they sold more items labeled size 4 to size 8 people, because those people were delighted to see they fit into a size 4 all of a sudden - describing that as practice as vanity sizing is clear and appropriate. It has NOTHING to do with what range of sizes are available. If you keep insisting that calling it weird because who would aspire to that, you're still missing the point.26 -
springlering62 wrote: »Targets have a fantastic clearance section. I’ve picked up many many brand new items for $5-10 to tide me over for the summer.
Nordstrom used to also. Nice stuff, super cheap. They went away in Dallas though. boo.3 -
I read most of this thread but didn't think it would happen to me but it did! All my shoes are loose! I just finished buying summer clothes, now I need shoes! I noticed my daily shoes were kind of loose and blamed it on ordering them online. I put on a pair of sandals and noticed the ankle straps were loose. It wasn't until I tried on an old pair of tennis shoes that it finally dawned on me that my shoes are too big! I'm 5'4 and was wearing 10s so size-wise I don't mind going smaller, it's the cost of getting new shoes. I bought a pair of flip flops and they were a nine, nice!4
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I have just went through my summer clothes because it is now hot enough that I cannot stretch the inbetween-summer-and-winter clothes any longer, and I am almost in tears over not having anything to wear. There are 3 summer tops that I like and fit me. While losing weight has been a huge accomplishment for me, I don't know how I am going to find enough clothes and also how I am going to pay for them.9
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