Things people say when you lose weight

I’ve had a couple of people notice my modest weight loss (17 pounds) and their comments have been welcome and not at all offensive to me. One person said “you’ve lost weight, haven’t you?” When I said yes, she said “was it intentional?” When I said yes, she said “good for you.” Another said “I can tell you’ve dropped a few pounds and you look great.” Others have not mentioned my weight loss but have just said something along the lines of “you look great.”

My (now Ex) husband when he looked at the scale one morning when I was weighing in: Boy, you're a lot heavier than you look

99% positive response and that I was an inspiration to them. When I told one person that I had dropped over 60 lbs so far, they acted like they didn't believe me. Or another just said, I see it in your face the most. That is until I showed them my before and after shirtless photo. Then they could see what I was hiding under all those baggy clothes.

jlp1994 wrote: »

My (now Ex) husband when he looked at the scale one morning when I was weighing in: Boy, you're a lot heavier than you look

My ex— I tried to help you lose weight. I told you that you were getting fatter than a town dog!

The good :

• "Hey, you look nice(/er)!"
• "Are you working out?"
• Asking diet or exercise tips.

The bad (mostly annoying):

• You look too skinny! (While I was still overweight)
• You should stop now, you're gonna look sick!
• You look good now, you should stop working out so often!
• That cookie isn't gonna kill you, eat!

The 'bad' is mostly annoying to me because I don't like people telling me what to do, and I certainly don't appreciate people telling me about how my body should look. I should have the right to decide when to 'stop' if I want too.
The best part about the whole journey is probably when you inspire your friends/family to change as well!

My wife and I have been working really hard. She's not only losing, but getting pretty ripped. Visited the inlaws last week and my mil tells her she looks good, but now her boobs are too small. And we wonder where these insecurities come from.

eryn0x wrote: »

mtaratoot wrote: »

Sorry if this comes across as overly-judgemental, but you shouldn't be starving yourself! It is hard work to be vigilant, but starvation ain't healthy.

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I don't know if this was meant as a reply to me... I agree it's not healthy to starve yourself, which is why I said that people's comments can be toxic. We shouldn't congratulate the symptoms without caring to understand the cause.

Yeah, I think my post a month ago was a response to you commenting on getting positive reinforcement when you were starving yourself. We both agree that starvation ain't healthy, so that's good. Don't do it. Then maybe you can feel like the positive comments are just that -- positive for your healthy lifestyle choices and the results that come from them.

I do hope you weren't offended by my reply. Maybe I misunderstood what you wrote. From what I ready, you were getting positive reinforcement for an unhealthy behavior. I suggested to stop the unhealthy behavior. I'll stand by that. I think people, me included, have a weakness that we feel people are judging us, and maybe they are thinking we're doing something wrong. In reality, people aren't thinking about us much at all -- if we knew how LITTLE people thought of us, we'd be happier. I'll still offer up that for those of us on a weight management and fitness journey can do ourselves a favor and consider that many comments we get are from a positive space, even if the person making the comment isn't very good at it.

Please accept my apologies if my words were taken in a way they were not intended. And may you have success in your journey!

New one from my in-laws, who recently visited from two states away. Last time they were here was in November, for our wedding vow renewal. I'd had to make a new dress for the occasion, because my dress from 10 years ago was now too big for me. That's good news in itself. Well, hubby and I have both lost even more weight since November. As my in-laws were ending this most recent visit, FIL turned to me and said, "Next time we come, we expect to see even less of you."

He meant it well. It was a jokey way of saying, "Good job."