The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Morning friends,good for you @nighthawk584 ! Passing drinks is always a great thing,my daughter brought her new bf over yesterday and some bottle of booze,I didn't recognize the bottle but from their breath it seemed like some kind of whiskey 🤮 they also brought hubs some Modelos,I didn't care but did feel slightly uneasy,went to my other daughters house cuz we usually do a pizza night once a week,the boys love pizza and so do I haha,that was a nice escape til her crabby boyfriend came home early so I came back home but felt awkward cuz these guys all had a buzz going listening to music and I just sat on the couch trying to watch a Lifetime movie! That's the first time I've felt out of place while everyone was drinking and I wasn't but oh well it's done,hope everyone has a great AF day!❤️
Yes, I feel for you. Feeling out of place is a bummer. At least in the morning, you woke up so happy you didn't drink!!2 -
This was perfect reading for me this morning.
https://thesoberschool.com/trying-to-moderate-10-things-youll-need-to-be-ok-with-first/
This is so true!! The first one was especially meaningful to me along with the other 9!!
From the article:
Spending ages coming up with a plan you’ll later ignore, if you’re trying to moderate, you’ll need to start by enthusiastically creating some rules for yourself. Google advice on how to cut down and remind yourself of all the tips you’ve read a hundred times before. Convince yourself that this time, you really will alternate every alcoholic drink with water. "4 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »Morning friends,good for you @nighthawk584 ! Passing drinks is always a great thing,my daughter brought her new bf over yesterday and some bottle of booze,I didn't recognize the bottle but from their breath it seemed like some kind of whiskey 🤮 they also brought hubs some Modelos,I didn't care but did feel slightly uneasy,went to my other daughters house cuz we usually do a pizza night once a week,the boys love pizza and so do I haha,that was a nice escape til her crabby boyfriend came home early so I came back home but felt awkward cuz these guys all had a buzz going listening to music and I just sat on the couch trying to watch a Lifetime movie! That's the first time I've felt out of place while everyone was drinking and I wasn't but oh well it's done,hope everyone has a great AF day!❤️
Yes, I feel for you. Feeling out of place is a bummer. At least in the morning, you woke up so happy you didn't drink!!
I hear that but actually I woke up with a cold I caught from my 1 1/2 year old grandson so I felt more hungover than the ones that did drink 😆 I hate that feeling! I can't imagine teaching with a hangover,I can't do ANYTHING with a hangover so yea no going back! Waves to all and wishes for a great AF day❤️4 -
Good morning. Checking in once again. 132 days alcohol free. I've stopped having nightmares about it. Feeling pretty good right now... although I've been back and forth. All I've been drinking is water, black tea and black coffee. KEEP STRONG EVERYONE!9
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Really enjoying all the comments here. I am on day 5 and feeling really good though not sleeping as well as I thought I would be. Plus I am eating too much to fill that hole where alcohol was. I need to do better. I need to step up the exercise! @FeelinFooFoo I messaged you about Scotland, please take a look and let me know if you got it! We are going there in October and I'd love some ideas.3
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@FeelinFooFoo, I do remember dreary days but not THAT many. Also, I was there when the Chernobyl disaster occurred and we had to re-wash all the clothes that were hung outside and avoid beef and lamb for a good while because the fallout came right over Scotland. Nevertheless I will never forget the beautiful country and the lovely people. When I lived in Edinburgh people kept telling me I should go to Glasgow since I was from Texas. They said Glaswegians were friendly like Texans. I found ALL Scots gracious though I guess Edinburgh folk were a bit more formal. Still, I love your country.
Anyway, I drank very little alcohol today and think I’m about ready for another go at AF. Baby steps but as the Tejano group says, “A little bit is better than nada” (but sometimes you want the whole enchilada).3 -
Hi There Everyone...great posts...I have been lurking...Lorraine the Lurker, I've been called worse LOL!
Anyhoo, I went to my AA meeting last night & wondered why do I hesitate and look for excuses to not go when I truly think it is the place I NEED to be?? I think it is because I feel vulnerable there even though I know I do not HAVE TO share anything and so far other than the first meeting, I have passed. But I have participated in the readings and when I introduce myself rather than say I am an Alcoholic or recovering one, I say, " I have a desire to stop drinking," because quite frankly I don't know that I AM an alcoholic, at least for now. I'm beginning to read the AA Big Book and through others' stories hope to get confirmation one way or the other, BUT.....
....after the meeting I met with one of the ladies to get help with navigating the Big Book and some explanation of working the steps. Before I met with her though, I was approached by another of the ladies and explained to her my reservation to identify myself as an alcoholic and through our brief conversation she informed me that alcoholism is actually "self diagnosed." The jury is still out on whether there is a genetic component to alcoholism and the nature vs nurture debate..so there is apparently no definitive diagnosis other than your own analysis of your personal experience with alcohol...SO, having said all THAT, here I am in the process of diagnosing MYSELF!!
When I did meet with the other lady later on, we went for a walk through a lovely local park with my loyal canine companion and she proceeded to say something that Craig Beck has said about problem drinking and that is, "If you are wondering whether you are an alcoholic or not, you likely are." because "normal" people do not wonder if they are an alcoholic....BINGO...lightbulb/aha moment...I think she may be on to something....
SO, I am committed to reading the personal stories of alcoholics as outlined in the BB of AA...and at this point, although I have only read the first 11 pages, I think I am an alcoholic...the first step is to admit powerlessness over alcohol and I qualify for that for sure. If I had ANY power at all over alcohol, I would not be stringing these particular letters of the alphabet together right now...SO there!
AND perhaps I have an "issue" with identifying with the term alcoholic because I never hit the basement of my bottom in fact, I hadn't lost anything......YET!! I should qualify that statement by saying I hadn't lost anything besides my self respect..... I believe I quit at my high bottom...but nevertheless, it is still a bottom....I have been fortunate enough to peer into a very depressing future had I continued on my slippery slope...and decided I did not want to go there!! I was depressed enough as it was at that point and wanted something different.
Anyway, long rant, but I've saved it up over the past several days I suppose...6 -
@lorrainequiche59 Great post. I enjoy reading your thoughts.
I think either way- whether you identify yourself as an alcoholic or not, I agree with that woman who says it's self-diagnosed. I just had an aha moment as I read that. Thanks for sharing!
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IWillTakeBackMyLife wrote: »Good morning. Checking in once again. 132 days alcohol free. I've stopped having nightmares about it. Feeling pretty good right now... although I've been back and forth. All I've been drinking is water, black tea and black coffee. KEEP STRONG EVERYONE!
I do remember your earlier posts a few months ago. Good for you!! Happy you have found the determination to continue being AF! One day at a time.2 -
I have nothing to add; I'm lurking LOL just like Lorraine said recently.
I did call the doctor today to tell her I just can't feel happy these days. To look at me, you'd say what a happy lady, always smiling. But behind closed doors I'm a wreck. Crying and all. Don't worry about me- I will persevere and I know there are better days ahead. So much change in my life these last six months, I think it has caught up with me emotionally. I'll just be patient.13 -
@RubyRed427 guilty lurking as well. Not much to comment these days. Im coming up on 8 months of af minus a couple slips in March. Im feeling good about it. I dont miss it. So that part of life is good. Other areas could stand improvement.
I wish you well and realize youre not alone in the crying dept. We all have to keep busy and stay positive and get through lifes struggles. Best wishes for all.
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@aroze0928 thanks for your comments it means a lot 💙 you’re doing very well for yourself! I’m so happy for you! Keep it goin’ ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️5
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Morning all,Ruby sorry you've been having the blues,that sucks I hate that feeling 😣 Lorraine if AA feels right then go,if it doesn't then don't,I've gone a few times but I won't go back nothing against it just not for me so it'd be ridiculous to drag myself to a place I just don't want to be,sounds like you're learning alot about yourself ❤️ waves to the rest of the crew and wishes for a happy and healthy AF day!3
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Clean from Alcohol since April 6th of this year....clean from drugs and cigarettes since 1986.8
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RubyRed427 wrote: »I have nothing to add; I'm lurking LOL just like Lorraine said recently.
I did call the doctor today to tell her I just can't feel happy these days. To look at me, you'd say what a happy lady, always smiling. But behind closed doors I'm a wreck. Crying and all. Don't worry about me- I will persevere and I know there are better days ahead. So much change in my life these last six months, I think it has caught up with me emotionally. I'll just be patient.
I'm not worried about you. You're a very strong woman AND tears are good. You are adjusting to a huge life change and your grief is absolutely normal. HUGS4 -
nighthawk584 wrote: »Clean from Alcohol since April 6th of this year....clean from drugs and cigarettes since 1986.
Thumbs UP to you!!
@FeelinFooFoo Knowledge is power...glad you're gaining strength as you go through the AE notes. Glad you want to be sober. You're doing great
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Morning friends, everyone sounds good ❤️ been dealing with a bad attitude and feeling anxious 😵 seems the hormones as I get older are as outta control as when I was a teenager! Not fun but what can I do except try and keep a positive mindset,key word is TRY today cuz I just feel snappy,ok will make it a good day or die trying haha,waves to the gang and wishes for a happy and healthy AF day!5
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Hoping everyone is having a safe, relaxing, weekend!2
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Good morning friends! Wishing you a happy weekend! I am looking forward to Labor Day- a day off to relax.
Quotes from The Language of Letting Go (Aug. 30 entry):
"We don't have to do it any better than we can-ever. Do our best for the moment, then let it go.
If we have to redo it, we can do our best another moment, later.
There are days when our best is less than we hoped for. Let those times go too. Start over tomorrow. Work things through, until our best becomes better. "6 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »Good morning friends! Wishing you a happy weekend! I am looking forward to Labor Day- a day off to relax.
Quotes from The Language of Letting Go (Aug. 30 entry):
"We don't have to do it any better than we can-ever. Do our best for the moment, then let it go.
If we have to redo it, we can do our best another moment, later.
There are days when our best is less than we hoped for. Let those times go too. Start over tomorrow. Work things through, until our best becomes better. "
LOVE this...thank you from sharing from one of my fave authors.
Have a relaxing day off!3
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