The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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@Beka3695 I have had numerous times in the past where I didn't remember stuff, blank spots in my memory from drinking, but there was always a good bit of time between them... this time around it was getting regular. Days in a row where I couldn't remember the evening before, or going to bed. Congrats on making the choice, and for Day 3!
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GENERAL QUESTION:
I feel like my head has been all over the place this week. I know part of it is the newness of "HEY, I'M NOT DRINKING." But, I have had more "OH LOOK A SQUIRRLE" moments than I would like to admit.
Did others have this experience? If so, how long does it take to pass. I have been less than a stellar employee this week... I know eventually I will be a better one - just not this week.7 -
And obviously I can't spell squirrel... And the edit feature isn't working
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GENERAL QUESTION:
I feel like my head has been all over the place this week. I know part of it is the newness of "HEY, I'M NOT DRINKING." But, I have had more "OH LOOK A SQUIRRLE" moments than I would like to admit.
Did others have this experience? If so, how long does it take to pass. I have been less than a stellar employee this week... I know eventually I will be a better one - just not this week.
Welcome Beka,everytime I quit drinking I have a week or so of feeling spacey and just kinda "dumb" I dunno if my body/brain is just getting back to normal or what but it does pass8 -
@Beka3695 welcome to the group!
Good evening friends.. Just writing to stay accountable. Tonight's a mildly tough night as I find that it was always easy to have wine when my husband works overnight. I'm reading about benefits of quitting while little man is sleeping. And trying to keep Craig Beck in mind, more specifically 'the kick' as he calls it. Today is day 13 this time around.. I know the urge will pass. I just hate that at these times I think of the summer habits my husband and I have vacationing in wine country and romanticizing it. The summer will be tough.. Right now I'm shooting for a straight 90 days though , so I feel like I should just focus on that for now. Hope everyone has a great AF evening!8 -
@Beka3695 Yeah, you got hit by brain fog. It happens in the beginning. I would walk into a room and forget what I went in for. I'd walk back to where I was before and suddenly remember...so I'd go back into the room and forget again! It's temporary but be kind to yourself and know this will pass.
And yes, I would get distracted by a lot of things. Not necessarily a squirrel, but hey, if that squirrel was holding something shiny, I would be your gal!!
Congratulations on day 3. Before you know it, you'll start noticing some great things! Your skin will start to look great, your eyes will clear up, you'll be reliable and you'll feel good about what you're doing. Sending positive vibes your way!!
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And trying to stay within the same fun spirit as earlier posts concerning AF
I'm 10 Amazing AF weeks today!!9 -
@Beka3695 YES, irritability!!! This too shall pass, BUT it's annoying till it does! Congrats on Day 3...I love @kevinrfletcher's comment about the drinking faux paus becoming more regular. That's when things start getting scary, because the regularity becomes a dependence and there's a fine line between dependence and alcoholism.
I can totally relate to the slurring, & memory gaps due to a few more than I planned. I remember waking in the morning with a vague recollection of talking on the phone with my bestie or the like & having to check my phone to see if my foggy memory was correct and then felt a punch in my gut when I saw that we had spoken for an hour or so and I could not wrack my brain to remember ANY of it!!!! YES, embarrassing! Or when I DID remember things I wish I could have forgotten. As difficult as it can be to get through the first bit of being sober, it is totally worth the struggle to get free.
Hoping the best for you & so glad you are here with us
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@Beka3695 Well all I can say is.. most of us have been in your shoes one way or another. Forgetting what you said, vaguely remembering walking home... and on and on. I wasn’t surprised by a thing you said because I have been there! You are not alone. And we are so happy you posted. So honest and so real. I cringed when I read your post because it is so personal to me- as I said because I’ve done all those things.
Wishing you a successful “one day at a time”. This is your time to shine and evolve. Three times is a CHARM.
Just today I rewatched one of my favorite youtube Craig Ferguson speaking about his alcoholism. What made me chuckle from his video is when he said “And people say drink responsibly “ and he thought “I’ll TRY.....” I would recommend watching some good youtube videos (Craig Beck, Ferguson, Annie Grace, etc). Lean on us when you need anything. Xo
https://youtu.be/kI-BhQGwDO8 8 -
@MountainLaurel787 Happy 10th week!!
@Yellowstone1983 Summer can be tough because so many activities lend themselves to alcohol and there's the "summer habits" that were your routine. Like you said focusing on the first 90 days and keeping Craig Beck in mind are great ideas. I watched him and others every day, and more on the days I was particularly vulnerable; that is what kept me determined to stay AF. I don't feel the need to do that so much now, but every now & then I browse his videos and remind myself that there is help when I need it. That is a great resource when the cravings hit...you CAN do this!! 7 -
@MountainLaurel787 Congratulations on your 10 weeks!5
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@RubyRed427 Thanks for posting that video -- I needed it this morning.
I feel off balance, almost like I'm slipping, these past few days. I used to have a group, but with the move, I haven't found the right new place for me yet. Going to try another one today.
For anyone who hasn't been to a group meeting, I have to tell you, they can be unexpectedly fulfilling. Sometimes it is good to know that there are others who have faced your challenges, and they have beaten them. And they are willing to share their stories.8 -
I am in total agreement with Ruby Red. I am strong if I am on a streak. And I am HAPPY. Depression free, just wonderful. Then I think, "Oh I am doing so well, what can one drink do?" Well for me, one is never ever one. This is what happened to me yesterday. There was some wine in the house (I never have it in the house for this very reason) that someone had brought over, and I opened it up and drank it all. I had told myself I will have one glass...you know the rest. I don't feel hungover but I do feel low grade depression that was not there before, and I am mad at myself. I will never lose weight or meet other personal goals I have for myself I go down that road again. Back to day one.
Just pick up and go again. I am late posting to this. You help me by saying this. You remind me of how hard it was to stop. It was harder to stop than remain stopped for me at this point. You will reach your goals. Just tell people to not bring it over ahead of time or get another strategy going. This process takes time to iron out. All is not lost. Remember all the times I tell you all that I fell. I had a binge that lasted over a year. It can get worse and be even worse. You are working on stopping it now.7 -
I want to give a big THANK YOU to everyone here! I joined Sober Grid looking for support, but I seem to have found a lot of judgmental folks that if you are not doing it their way or AA, then you are doing it wrong.
I am a newbie runner and completed my first Half Marathon on 03/09. The last 4 miles sucked so bad. I cannot tell you how bad they sucked... The last 2 - we just walked because that was all we could do. My running buddy had all but hit the wall. I kept saying to her " This is OUR race. We cannot compare ourselves to those that have already finished." I would like to add that we finished 1.5 hours AFTER the early finishers, and still did not finish last! YAY US!
My point to this is - that was OUR race and we finished it the way WE could. This is MY RECOVERY and I cannot compare myself to anyone else. I totally feel that this group embodies that same spirit!!!!
My brain fog seems to be lifting a little today, but I am still unbelievably irritable. I broke down and cried on my husband this morning - thanking him for putting up with me during these most trying days. Better days ahead!!15 -
@Beka3695 I never had the brain fog... well, I guess my brain was so fogged from the bourbon, that anything else felt like clarity. Congrats on that half-marathon! I lost three toenails on my first half marathon. And, mile 10, holy mother of pearl! Keep up the great work! DAY 4!!!! Make the most of it!
@Yellowstone1983 Yeah, hoping by summer the urge has eased up a bit, as beach and beer have always gone hand in hand with me... Hang tough! You got this 90!
@MountainLaurel787 10 weeks! That's awesome AF! Sorry... couldn't resist...
@lorrainequiche59 I can soooooo relate. Had a few text messages last month... woke up, checked my messages, thought, "Hmmmm, I don't remember messaging them.... OH MY GAWD!!!" I had to apologize to a couple people. Drunk Kevin just says whatever is on his mind, apparently.
@Ed_Zilla Thanks for the friend request, and all the support!
Day 18 ~ Feeling groovy.... I love everyone's names on here. I signed up for MFP without realizing there was a forum. Found this, and went to use my regular forum name, Panama Red, and darned if it wasn't taken already, along with all the versions of it. Went for my back-up name, Red Fish, and Son of a Brown Nosed Trout, it was taken also... Love to see all the support on here. Y'all keep kicking it. Looking forward to posting "Week 3"! Ciao!
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Congrats everyone for staying strong in this journey!9
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@kevinrfletcher I cannot believe there is someone else out there that says, "Groovy"!!!! Too funny! Happy 18
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I had an interesting & busy day...after work I went to the new pad & signed my lease & got the keys WOOHOO! Tons of closet space...OMG I've been here for 15 months and have lived with one closet 2.5' wide & 5' deep. It's been VERY annoying...so I'll love that feature, having closets once again!
Anyway, I went & had tea with an older lady that I know & on the way home I stopped at a friend's to pick something up (former 'drinking' friend) and when I pulled in I saw that they had guests. As my friend opened the door & I glanced in her kitchen the first thing I saw was two bottles of wine on the table & someone began to open one of them...obviously it was another of a few cause the guests seemed to have quite the glow on & my friend definitely had a major "glow". She invited me to come in to stay for a bit, but I just did not feel like it, so I thanked her for the invite & left.
Sometimes I feel like a stranger. Like an oddball. Like I don't fit in. And you know what, I'm really ok with that!! I just am. I'll eventually click with someone who has the same goals as I do.
Happy thoughts to everyone I'm really glad I have this group!!
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@RubyRed427 L VE this Craig Ferguson video...he's SO honest!! Thanks for posting this again. 4
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