The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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P.S. - INTERESTINGLY, my friend just texted a picture of me in my bathing suit sitting on some rocks in the water and I will be working on accepting THIS is how I am right here, right now and THAT is OK!! LOL3
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Morning friends,yep Lorraine summer is on the move but there are still some warm days to enjoy or as the case in Vegas,hide out! Threads been pretty quiet lately,it's hard to post when there's no conversation going,it's been like that on my anti alcohol forum too, people are just basically posting about the weather and it's gotten stale😣 a few ladies in my group started a fb messenger chat and we basically go there instead and have closed our thread on the site cuz it's just ran it's course,very sad but it wasn't attracting new people and like I said had gotten mundane,I really hope that doesn't happen here,anyhoo wishes for a fab AF day ❤️
I must have been writing when you posted this cause I just saw it now. Some days when I'm able to I check here a few times a day hoping to see some comments and agree with you when It's quiet, I wonder why & hope it's not fizzling out! That's why I share stuff from the Letting Go book, hoping to generate some conversation. I also appreciate when others do similar by way of articles, videos etc cause it keeps our thread active, interesting and helpful.2 -
School has started and I am submerged in lots of work. So, I won't be too active for a few days til things settle down in my life in general. One of the things that resonated with me in your posts is accepting ourselves is vital. A lot of times, our thoughts focus on what we need to improve and do better, but sometimes "good enough" can be our best. We are not those perfect instagram photos we sometimes see. That is not real life.
I think someone here or on tv said recently "Life is messy! "
I'm happy this thread keeps going even if only a few people are active. That's ok. Keep posting. I'm sure many are reading and benefiting from our camaraderie.
I'm happy Lorraine that you found peace at the meeting. I like to go and just sit quietly. Everyone seems to know each other so well but it's good to hear the speakers and read the big book.
@FeelinFooFoo Great points about flaws- thank goodness my friends and family still love me despite all of the flaws. And I love them too.
@whitpauly I love reading your posts. Keep them coming!3 -
@donimfp You sure have a rough dilemma. The ringing in your ears is something so awful that I understand your need for temporary relief. Just keep taking one day at at time! I'm sure you've looked inter alternative treatments- perhaps acupuncture could help? Just thinking outside the box to help you. xo4
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »P.S. - INTERESTINGLY, my friend just texted a picture of me in my bathing suit sitting on some rocks in the water and I will be working on accepting THIS is how I am right here, right now and THAT is OK!! LOL
Ugh! I guess we have to accept how we look in a bathing suit!! LOL You made me laugh! Also, I find a year from now, you'll look at that same picture and say "I looked pretty damn good!"1 -
Hi everyone. My drinking has gotten out of control once again so I am recommitting myself to 100% sobriety. I can't do it half way. There is just no excuse anymore. In September I am going to the beach with a big wine drinking girlfriend and I THOUGHT (up until yesterday) that I would be able to indulge but I know I can't now. I just can't turn it on and off so it has to stay off. She is going to be surprised and possibly disappointed but I think if I don't make a big deal about it...just say I'm having blood work the next week...or something that doesn't sound bad about alcohol as I don't want to preach. I want her to enjoy herself and I don't think she has the same kind of problems with wine as I do. Anyway I do enjoy reading everyone's posts so please keep sharing. It helps.7
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This was perfect reading for me this morning.
https://thesoberschool.com/trying-to-moderate-10-things-youll-need-to-be-ok-with-first/5 -
This was perfect reading for me this morning.
https://thesoberschool.com/trying-to-moderate-10-things-youll-need-to-be-ok-with-first/
"It's not drinking alone if the dog's home" LOL I actually took a pic of a fridge magnet with this saying on it at the height of my drinking.
Obviously from this article, truly moderate drinkers do not think all these things or have to adopt some kind of strategy to drink moderately...they just have "a" drink and leave it at that...no further thought...they don't need to "take time off" from drinking because they do not have a problem with drinking moderately...It just hit me that if we need to adopt a bunch of rules & strategies to ensure we drink moderately (which is a crock cause a problem drinker can not ensure anything after that first drink, as many of us here have admitted) THEN we have an issue and moderate drinking is not going to happen no matter how much thought & planning we put into it. Period. It's a game we play to continue to do what we want to do knowing full well all the health implications and social impact.
True moderation is ONE standard drink daily for women and 2 for men and not every day....the only rule needed is do not drink more than that. But a problem drinker such as myself canNOT do that, so the need for all the rules so that we can just keep drinking and trick ourselves into "thinking" we have some kind of control, and therefore we can just keep drinking. Alcohol is sneaky, sneaky, sneaky....!!!
Having said ALL THAT, I need to apply this same reasoning to MY FOOD ISSUE...I have been totally out of control with that aspect of my life and really, IT IS NO DIFFERENT other than the substance I am using. I took a pic of a FB post on another alcohol support group I joined recently, thanks @whitpauly for the idea , and it says, "People are not addicted to alcohol or drugs, they are addicted to escaping REALITY" I could insert food in there...at the present time alcohol is not my drug of choice, but food is.... It is my last hold out!!!! AND I shall prevail....I just need to apply the same determination and energy & time & commitment to the food issue as I have my alcohol issue.
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Morning friends, Lorraine I've been eating totally out of control this past week too! It's like a deep hunger I can't seem to fill and it's irritating me, we're planning a trip to California in a couple of weeks and I might be subconsciously stressing or something,grrr,Jen, interesting article and it makes alot of sense,I cant moderate,I'll be looking for more alcohol while I'm still drinking one in my hand,no "normal" people do that and i also never cared about what time it was," normal" drinkers will wait for an acceptable time at least,Ruby,take time to get settled into the new school year, we'll keep your seat warm😍 sorry I don't @ everyone but I'm on my phone when I check in here and it's a pain to try and remember everyone's exact name,wishes for a fantastic AF day for us all!
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Welcome all.
I'm currently on day 4039.
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Welcome all.
I'm currently on day 4039.
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Welcome to you too!! Over 10 years...awesome!
@WhitPauly YES, that kind of insatiable, unable-to-fill appetite is definitely emotional. It's weird, but when I'm in that place, it's not a good place!! I hope you can figure out your trigger, cause something has triggered it for you as you said.
I was going to share something and THEN got a brain fart!! Hate when that happens, but if it is of any importance or interest I will recall, but for now...
Happy & healthy AF day
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I don't think you're being judgy @FeelingFooFoo of course we've all had Al feuled antics( I actually had a night in jail 10 years ago cuz of AL 😭) I think you have a right to be concerned, especially if she's blacking out like that it's very unsafe especially with weirdos around that might try to take advantage of the situation,I hate alcohol! Happy Friday to the rest of the gang,hope we all have happy,full of some joy days AF of course 💞5
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@FeelinFooFoo you do not sound judgemental at all, just concerned. Hopefully your friend will not have a truly terrible experience while being blackout drunk. I've been fortunate enough not to have any life altering experiences when I have been in that state and I consider myself lucky. I've woken up more than once wondering what I did last night, how did I get home etc. Ugh. It is a terrible and shameful feeling.4
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Hope everyone is doing well! Crazy busy, but that's not a bad thing, right Ruby? You know Jen, Whit, and Foo, I hear a lot of Sober Warriors say that getting their last DUI was the best thing that ever happened to them. I thank God that although I was probably guilty several times, I never had to spend a night in the drunk tank to have the epiphany that alcohol no longer served any purpose in my life. The blackouts, lost conversations though? You bet. I think the only thing worse was when I did remember some of the stupid things I did and said. Ugh! Hope everyone has a great weekend!3
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Hope everyone is having a peaceful, AF weekend4
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was tested pretty bad the other day, but CHOOSE not to indulge my demons. I win another one.7
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Morning friends,good for you @nighthawk584 ! Passing drinks is always a great thing,my daughter brought her new bf over yesterday and some bottle of booze,I didn't recognize the bottle but from their breath it seemed like some kind of whiskey 🤮 they also brought hubs some Modelos,I didn't care but did feel slightly uneasy,went to my other daughters house cuz we usually do a pizza night once a week,the boys love pizza and so do I haha,that was a nice escape til her crabby boyfriend came home early so I came back home but felt awkward cuz these guys all had a buzz going listening to music and I just sat on the couch trying to watch a Lifetime movie! That's the first time I've felt out of place while everyone was drinking and I wasn't but oh well it's done,hope everyone has a great AF day!❤️7
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@FeelinFooFoo you’re doing so great. Your posts make me homesick in a good way for Scotland. I was so blessed to have 4 years there. I’m coming to terms with my Catch-22 of tinnitus/sobriety. @RubyRed427 your acupuncture suggestion is right on. It has been so helpful to me in the past and have a feeling it would be for this too. Since I’m not working this year cost is a factor but then vodka and wine aren’t exactly free.
I’m grateful for all of you! Will be back on the AF train soon, I’m confident.6 -
Hi Friends,
I am delicately counseling by text message my dear cousin whose life is falling apart. I've already had honest discussions with him that "we are alcoholics". And he always says "I will not live a boring life!" That is a direct quote from his text tonight. I understand where he's coming from. The difference between him and us is at least a willingness to try to be alcohol free and try to live life to the fullest without alcohol. We can't change others just ourselves.
Good night all! Tomorrow I will be teaching 100 children throughout my day (ten year olds). I pray I will never have to teach ever again with a hangover.
@FeelinFooFoo I remember Craig Beck once said imagine all the hours spent in bars and when you quit drinking you have to fill the time with something else like learning new things, exercise , hobbies, etc. I recently ate dinner at a place that I used to sit at the bar with a glass of wine after work. You know what? The same people are stil sitting there night after night. Just sitting at a bar when there is so much life to live. Not judging them but feeling a little sad for them.
@donimfp What a shame that acupuncture is not covered by insurance, right? It should be. I found a chiropractor who does acupuncture for $65 which I thought was very reasonable. Maybe a Chiro in your area also is qualified to do that. I used to go once a month; now that I think of it, I should really go back just for overall wellness.4 -
nighthawk584 wrote: »was tested pretty bad the other day, but CHOOSE not to indulge my demons. I win another one.
Winning!! Bravo- I'm happy for you!1
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