The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Hello, haven't posted in a while, but do come here daily to read how people are coming along.I really appreciate all the thoughts and posts, it really helps me
......long story short, we went to a party, small get together for a group of friends that we have known for a while.......Well, most of them drank socially, just 2 to 3 drinks for the time of the get together, about 3 hours, so they were fine..........Unfortunately, there are 2 that drink more than that is considered socially...........well then she has to bring up politics, and for the most, they are all about the same in regards to thinking about politicians..........sadly, I'm not on the same page.......well, I learned a quick lesson quick
Don't try to argue or negotiate with a person who had 5 - 6 glasses of wine..........the amount she drank while we were there......... I did notice when they came, she seemed to have had some already..............
shes been involved with various political groups and after she hits the sauce, she is ALWAYS right about what she thinks ........and proceeds to get up on her soap box and dictate what who is the best politician , etc..........She has a PHD, so she is smart, book smart that is, but shes declining on being respectful of others who differ with her.
Well, this lady has been hitting the sauce for years now and we both are at the point its not worth going to if shes going to be there we are now going to avoid her.........shes a feminist as well, I don't think she likes men, but she had a hard upbringing where her father abandoned her and her step father was abusive..............
I think I may try to talk to her.........when shes not drinking,
but for all the people here that are working on giving up alcohol, or have stopped, I ll bet you are more pleasant to be around. Again, I know lately, politics are a touchy issue, but once she starts her drinking, she gets on her high horse and is very dismissive, belittling and dismissive of people who don't share her views........so, guess what I'm trying to say is that its no fun to be around a drunk and try to have a normal conversation
another reason why I really am glad I have stopped drinking........best wishes to you all, and keep up the good fight.............Lloyd9 -
Thank you, Lloyd. We appreciate your comments.
I ran across this today.
https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/ss/slideshow-alcohol-body-effects1 -
Whoever clicked "disagree" on my comment, you can explain yourself, please.6
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@JenT304, you raise a good point about that new "Disagree" button! It makes you have to wonder what precisely is being disagreed with. Maybe somebody thinks you didn't "run" across it but "walked" across it? Maybe they think you ran across it yesterday rather than "today." Maybe they think we don't appreciate Lloyd's comments? Maybe they disagree with the content of the link you posted?
You'll probably never know. That's why I agree with whoever said the "Disagree" button seems pointless (maybe it was you). If we disagree with something, and we want to express said disagreement, wouldn't it be better just to post the nature of that disagreement in a civilized manner? Like the "Woo" button, I'd try to just ignore those clicks.
Have a great day, everyone. I'm having a good one so far despite the resident crickets in my ear.5 -
@JenT304 person who disagreed was probably one of those trolls who hide behind a screen.2
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@JenT304 Thank you for the article...I was surprised about it affecting a person's hearing, but I think it was related to the part of the brain that alcohol affects. YES, the disagree button may be a hot spot, but if it was intentional, it was a coward who's just trying to be annoying...nothing in your comment was disagreeable other than for someone who doesn't want to acknowledge the role alcohol plays in damaging our body perhaps.
@lloydrt I found it highly annoying being around drunks when I was drinking so I can imagine how much more annoying when sober. I haven't had to deal with that since I stopped drinking so am thankful. I have been around ones who've had too much to drink, but it brought out the fun side of them and they were just silly not obnoxious.
Hope everyone is doing well
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I dunno how I feel about the disagree button 🤔 I certainly don't think anybody should be using it in this or the less alcohol thread cuz these are supportive threads meant to boost people trying to better themselves by quiting drinking or at least cutting back,who can disagree that less alcohol is a good thing for a person? Anyhoo things are going ok in my neck of the desert🌵feel a bit melancholy that summer is just about done with but nothing I can do about it,waves to the gang and wishes for a fab AF day ❤️8
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I agree with aroze, just like Facebook it's easy to hit one of those by accident.. the disagree button that is3
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Morning all,yup maybe just a slip of the finger on the disagree button I accidentally like stuff on FB that I didn't mean to all the time,had a drinking dream last night and woke up in my dream feeling terrible! That dread and sick feeling will never go away so why bring it on with booze? Great motivation to stay away from the junk,waves to all and wishes for a great AF day for us all❤️5
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Good Morning ALL
Today's Letting Go blurb is entitled Healing and it made some points about the gradual process of change...and in part it says, "We should discipline ourselves to recognize that there are many steps to be taken along the highway leading from sorrow to renewed serenity....We should anticipate these stages in our emotional convalescence: unbearable pain, poignant grief, empty days, resistance to consolation, disinterestedness in life, gradual giving way....to the new weaving of a pattern of action and the acceptance of the irresistible challenge of life." Quoted from Joshua Loth Liebman
So when we're feeling stuck or like we are not making any progress in our journey along the sobriety highway, perhaps we just cannot see our progress yet because we're in the gradual process of changing. Melody explained that, "just as our issues take on a life of their own and are progressive, so recovery progresses. One thing leads to another and things - as well as us - gets better. We can relax, do our part, and let the rest happen."
There's my pep talk for the day and I hope yours also...happy AF day!! 5 -
Morning all,thanks for the pep talk Lorraine haha, seriously though it's a great thing to read this morning,work is stressing me out but I hate complaining about it and sounding like a whiner😭 one if the hairstylist they just hired is kind of weird and yesterday she came to work with a gun on her waist! I understand wanting to protect yourself and whatever but I felt uncomfortable in a hair salon with John Wayne on the other side of the shop😆 I don't know how to feel about this situation,it's been a strange week and that was the topper yesterday but I'm here,I'm sober and I'm gonna be happy today on my day off or die trying!! It helps that today is my "cheat day" and I'll have lunch with my daughter and 1 1/2 year old grandson ❤️ hit the dollar store and get some stuff, trying to decide if it's too early for Halloween decs🤔 opinions please- have a fabulous AF day all!6
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@whitpauly Thats crazy. Stay on her good side. 😂 I refuse to hang up anything Fall related until Oct 1st.
@lorrainquiche59 thanks for the post. I always find them helpful.
Happy AF weekend to all.3 -
Packing heat in a hair salon? I wouldn't be comfortable with her doing my hair, nor working with her. I take it you live in an open carry state. That is just crazy. Yes it is too early for Halloween decor though there is Christmas stuff already at the AC Moore. I hate that!3
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Packing heat in a hair salon? I wouldn't be comfortable with her doing my hair, nor working with her. I take it you live in an open carry state. That is just crazy. Yes it is too early for Halloween decor though there is Christmas stuff already at the AC Moore. I hate that!
This is what I'm thinking too Jen,very uncomfortable situation and this lady isn't the most mentally stable person either,she's able to park in the handicap parking spot cuz she has some sort of mental problems from what she told me so I especially don't feel safe with that,I'm actually gonna text the manager now and tell her to talk with her2 -
Good Lord! I hope they tell her to leave that thing at home! Mentally unstable people obviously should not have guns at home OR anywhere else!1
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@Whitpauly I didn't realize handicap spots are for people with mental issues, I thought it was for mobility issues...seems odd to me that her mental handicap allows her to take a spot that someone with a physical handicap could benefit from, but what do I know....
The weapon is another story...I'd be very concerned!
BTW whining aka venting is definitely allowed on this thread.
Just a side point we have been getting pelted with rain all day...right now we're having a lovely thunderstorm...I love the rolling roar of the thunder and all the lightning AND we certainly need all the rain...I just love the sounds of it dropping and hitting everything...kinda like an orchestra of rain as it hits the various surfaces.3 -
@lorrainequiche59 we’re having some very welcome rain here in Texas too. Very disconcerting tweet from one of “our” state reps threatening Beto with gun violence today. Whoa. Hard not to drink sometimes. But so far so good.3
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@donimfp good for you. Hang in there.3
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I remember many Saturday mornings I would wake up with a major hangover. Another thing I certainly don't miss about drinking. 5 months, 8 days no booze.12
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nighthawk584 wrote: »I remember many Saturday mornings I would wake up with a major hangover. Another thing I certainly don't miss about drinking. 5 months, 8 days no booze.
I was just thinking the same thing leaving the gym at 730 this morning. Good for you. 6 months and 9 days for me10 -
Morning all,wow could definitely go for some of the rain here! Been really dry this year even during "monsoon"season congratulations Nighthawk and Aroze on your AF days and hitting the gym nice and early on a Saturday morning ❤️ Donimfp politics has just been crazy lately regardless of what side a person's on,I am not in love with any of the Dem runners,I think Mayor Pete is cool but I don't know if America is ready for a gay president yet, maybe in another 20 years but what do I know? That shouldn't even be a factor but from hearing my extended family talk it's an issue😭 waves to the gang and wishes for a happy and healthy AF day!5
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@whitpauly Mayor Pete is a decent man. I like him. Anyway let us all hope for the best for our nation. I am sending lots of love to our thread and members. Fall is a hard time of year for so many. We are all hear to listen to each other without judgment. All comments are welcome!3
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Hi Friends, Just checking in
Busy times at work for me. And the heat in the classroom is too much for this 50 year old!! No air conditioning and we have temps in the upper 80s. Anyway, nothing new here. I did lose two pounds this week! Hooray! Sending you all a big hug.6 -
Hey all,great job on the weight loss RubyRed,I weighed this morning and 5 pounds up!😵 I knew it tho cuz I could feel it creeping up on vacation and I kept eating like a pig since we've been back,got to reign in the sweets in the evening,also stop with so much coffee creamer,I lose weight pretty easy but I also gain really easy too! Hope all are well and wishes for a great AF day❤️3
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Congrats...it gets better too!nighthawk584 wrote: »I remember many Saturday mornings I would wake up with a major hangover. Another thing I certainly don't miss about drinking. 5 months, 8 days no booze.
@donimfp So far so GREAT!
Not much happening in my neck of the woods. I am trying (?) to get "control" of my "out of control" appetite and have come to the conclusion that food is basically the same as booze was for me & the only difference is the substance itself AND that we need food to live. SO, I am going through a similar path with food that I did with alcohol. I am at the point where I feel controlled by my desire to stuff it!! AND begin each morning (usually) with a resolve to moderate my food intake only to lose my resolve throughout the day. I have days where I'm on board with moderation and feeling good about myself and confident in my ability to "do it this time" only to allow myself to be derailed at some point in the following few days and then it begins all over again....r-r-r-r-r-r!!!
The thing is like alcohol, there is no "magic" answer or way of eating, it is work to change...PERIOD, end of story!! And for me, I think it is mustering up the emotional and mental energy to do the work and I don't think I'm there yet. Perhaps I need to just accept that for now...I'm just feeling confused and a little meh !! Hoping that spilling it here will produce a "lightbulb, AHA moment" for me. LOL
Have a safe, happy AF day
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GOOD MORN
We're on page 2 and no comments for days now, so needing to check in and hope that everyone is happy and healthy and hanging in...
It is SO peaceful sitting on my patio soaking up the fresh air and plant life around me with only days of the summer season left. Fall is one of my fave seasons. I went to the beach with a friend yesterday...all the tourists are gone now so it was lovely sitting on the beach soaking up the sun and listening to the waves roll in. It was my first time at this particular beach this season because I don't like all the crowds. I like the off-season staring at miles of empty beach with a few people jogging, walking and enjoying the emptiness like me...
I had to force myself to go cause I'm in hermit mode & could crawl into bed and hide my head...something is up with me and I did get a bit of a light bulb moment when I was driving to work the other day thinking about my out-of-control eating and remembered a blurb from Letting Go about denial and how one of the indicators that we are in denial is compulsive behaviors...and SO I began to think about what I'm denying and had a bit of a revelation which I will not share here, but it has to do with grief.
SO I can stop beating myself up and just try my best for each day and hope that I can work toward acceptance for each day. It is what it is....for now.....but, this too shall pass 3 -
Hi @lorrainquiche59 a nice beach day without the crowds sounds good. It'll turn around hang in there. The only difference now is its food we run to in times of stress instead of drinks. You're way better off. Take the good with the bad and keep on keeping on.2
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HELLO out there...SO quiet all week...is everyone ok? Hope so. 2
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It has been quiet. Maybe we just go in waves. I went to a Mermaid Ball tonight. 4th one. I usually sit and drink and try to be in the spirit. Tonight I didn’t drink but suddenly felt I HAD to dance. My husband said no. My sister and her partner said no. So I just went and joined the other dancers and got more of a workout than I’ve had in years. After a few songs my husband joined me. It was so cool. Dancing is joy. Drinking is not. I’m far from thinking I have this thing licked but tonight I had a glimpse of what life can be without drinking plus going for it. I know most of you are younger than I am. Don’t wait till you’re 63 to have a glorious AF night like I did tonight. Tonight I am grateful to the universe. And I think for me it was a revelation that embracing joy is much better than white-knuckling giving up alcohol. As I said I’m far from confident about my own struggle. But this was a “surprised by joy” night. Oh. And the music was so loud my stupid ear ringing didn’t get to bother me. Now that I’m home it’s still quiet. Nothing like dancing to relieve stress. Night all.14
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