Today I was doing barbell squats in my gym when I saw some guy staring at me for awhile but thought I was just being paranoid. He then came over to me to tell me the weight I was squatting with was very heavy. Taking me off guard I just said "um thanks I guess?" He then told me that it wasnt a compliment and that my form is bad, my weights are too heavy and I look like im killing myself.
I thought he was rude. He dosn't work there. I've had a personal trainer for months now who told me my form is perfect and squating is my strong point. She has seen me squating with that much weight and I'm sure she wouldve told me if it was too heavy for my safety. Being a woman its already intimidating enough going to the weights section. I just said ok, I have a personal trainer already and she told me my form is fine, thanks. Then i continued my work out and he was like "sorry if I offended you" I said no, its fine then he continued to annoy me....."you look p****d off".
Has anyone else had an experience like this? How did you handle it? Do you think its okay to go around giving advice to strangers?
Dolly989
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It's happened many other times, as well as other unwanted attention and I ended up quitting my gym. I know some people really are just trying to help, but IMO it's just simply none of their business.
I agree. There was lots of staff on and they were walking up and down surely ome of them would've approached me if i was doing somthing dangerous.
Haha that is me, thank you but I don't look like that in the gym i look a mess 😂
Ladybrain :laugh:
Yep, going with misguided attempt at flirting as well.
For some people the gym can be intimidating. You're putting yourself out there. I didn't go to the gym for years cause I was self concious of having people see me work out and I know alot of people feel the same at the start. I thought the way he said it was rude
There’s a reason you’ve never had that happen.
Free weights areas are nearly always full of men doing their best to “out-man” each other. It’s not a pleasant atmosphere, and even less so when they decide that the poor weak woman must have wandered in there by mistake and obviously can’t cope on her own.
Guys, if we’re in the free weights area you can assume that we know what we’re doing. Very few women just walk in there alone with no plan.
I've gotten that vibe from every guy who's ever given me advice.
This and the OP's incident are why I hit the gym at 4:30 in the morning... the people who are willing to get up that early are all business - get in, get it done, get out - and pretty much don't socialize or bother each other beyond a hello among the regulars. We do have several women who workout in this time frame and they don't get hit on either (could be that most of them are fitness competitors who can pretty much keep up with the guys that are also working out).
For the OP - he was being an *kitten* and it was a lame attempt to hit on you... 'nuff said.
Well maybe if you didn't give off the damsel in distress vibe...
^^^All of this...
^^^This too...
HAHA!!! Touche!