What screams "I'm very insecure"?
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »My personal insecurity is the belief that no one likes me so I can be slow to warm up to people or to trust them. I imagine this probably makes me seem standoffish at times but really I just want you to be my friend OK?
When people are nice to me I attribute it to their kindness and not to me being likable in any way. Mostly I think people tolerate me because they’re good people.
Maybe the people with whom you associate are good people, but in the macro, people aren't good.
You've read Lord of the Flies, right?2 -
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Motorsheen wrote: »
I have to say...the only thing Im impressed by is how well they parked that thing between the lines...If I had of seen that beast not in a parking lot, I would have assumed they parked that *kitten* diagonally in 2 spots.
Might be fun driving (not me driving) in deep sand or up a mountain side I suppose.1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »
I have to say...the only thing Im impressed by is how well they parked that thing between the lines...If I had of seen that beast not in a parking lot, I would have assumed they parked that *kitten* diagonally in 2 spots.
Might be fun driving (not me driving) in deep sand or up a mountain side I suppose.
The whole luxury car thing is kinda lost on me.
When ever I see a Ferrari or a Lamborghini or a Bentley ( and I see them everyday), I don't think the driver is cool ( or uncool), I just think that they spent a lot of money to buy or lease a car.
The thing is, some people think that if they drive a luxury sled, then they will be perceived as cool.... I'm not sure that's true.
That being said, I have one friend that drives a Bentley and another driving a new Maserati. They are wonderful people and just like nice cars. It's their money to spend as they see fit, no worries.
I would just rather spend money on appreciating assets or experiences.5 -
When someone is constantly criticizing others
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Is always blaming others for whatever problem they're having.4 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »
I have to say...the only thing Im impressed by is how well they parked that thing between the lines...If I had of seen that beast not in a parking lot, I would have assumed they parked that *kitten* diagonally in 2 spots.
Might be fun driving (not me driving) in deep sand or up a mountain side I suppose.
The whole luxury car thing is kinda lost on me.
When ever I see a Ferrari or a Lamborghini or a Bentley ( and I see them everyday), I don't think the driver is cool ( or uncool), I just think that they spent a lot of money to buy or lease a car.
The thing is, some people think that if they drive a luxury sled, then they will be perceived as cool.... I'm not sure that's true.
That being said, I have one friend that drives a Bentley and another driving a new Maserati. They are wonderful people and just like nice cars. It's their money to spend as they see fit, no worries.
I would just rather spend money on appreciating assets or experiences.
It’s just a status symbol thing....but yeah if they took out a massive loan to pay for it..pretty much the car owns them. Never understood the appeal of those stupid expensive cars. Like that whole dream car thing was just lost on me. It’s just a vehicle, gets me from A -> B.0 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »My personal insecurity is the belief that no one likes me so I can be slow to warm up to people or to trust them. I imagine this probably makes me seem standoffish at times but really I just want you to be my friend OK?
When people are nice to me I attribute it to their kindness and not to me being likable in any way. Mostly I think people tolerate me because they’re good people.
Good people recognize qualities of genuine good people...so maybe they recognize you are one of them 🤷♀️1 -
amorfati601070 wrote: »Bragging, obviously. Putting others down. Bullies are usually the most insecure of all.
Being bullied for most of my childhood i later come to find those people are indeed insecure.
But they made me insecure as well, anxious, depressed, got me a low self esteem, and made me think you only matter in this world if you have good looks2 -
tinkerhellraiser wrote: »people pleasing, like always being okay with whatever chore or duty is thrown at u
I was big on this. Yeah, I was insecure, but I was also extremely non-confrontational, to the point where I will just go along with whatever to avoid any unpleasant arguments or anything. If I can do it, I will just do it...
Also, I used to have a couple friends I hung out with a lot who were very headstrong and kind of unaccommodating. So I was always trying to "keep the peace", which meant they got their way and I never did. I didn't care as much as long as they were happy and not arguing. But I never voiced my opinion...
I still feel that way. It's a daily (sometimes more) struggle...4 -
tinkerhellraiser wrote: »people pleasing, like always being okay with whatever chore or duty is thrown at u
I was big on this. Yeah, I was insecure, but I was also extremely non-confrontational, to the point where I will just go along with whatever to avoid any unpleasant arguments or anything. If I can do it, I will just do it...
Also, I used to have a couple friends I hung out with a lot who were very headstrong and kind of unaccommodating. So I was always trying to "keep the peace", which meant they got their way and I never did. I didn't care as much as long as they were happy and not arguing. But I never voiced my opinion...
I still feel that way. It's a daily (sometimes more) struggle...
So tell me whatchu want, whatchu really really want2 -
So this thread is kinda interesting because I am noticing some things:
- We all have some very different ideas of what constitutes "insecure".
- Some of what has been mentioned are actually gateway forms of abuse (and giant red flags indicating a potential abusive relationship).
- Some of the things mentioned I wouldn't consider insecurity, but more the traits of a passive or non-confrontational personality.
- Really interesting to see how others view this topic and it perfectly illustrates that we just really can't know about the minds of other people unless they explicitly let you in.
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »people pleasing, like always being okay with whatever chore or duty is thrown at u
I was big on this. Yeah, I was insecure, but I was also extremely non-confrontational, to the point where I will just go along with whatever to avoid any unpleasant arguments or anything. If I can do it, I will just do it...
Also, I used to have a couple friends I hung out with a lot who were very headstrong and kind of unaccommodating. So I was always trying to "keep the peace", which meant they got their way and I never did. I didn't care as much as long as they were happy and not arguing. But I never voiced my opinion...
I still feel that way. It's a daily (sometimes more) struggle...
So tell me whatchu want, whatchu really really want
I'll tell you want I want, what I really really want....2 -
I do.1
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isalsayourface123 wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Laughing too much
Apologizing when you’ve done nothing wrong
Making apologies or excuses for your home, appearance, children, etc
Hunching shoulders
Ugh...me ...all of it
that's all cute, but that's really only stuff that women do
What does that mean? It's not really cute. Could be mostly a female thing...🤷♀️0 -
When they claim to see ghosts that scream about insecurity and won’t stop2
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Reckoner68 wrote: »When they claim to see ghosts that scream about insecurity and won’t stop
My build-a-bear screams "I'm very insecure!"2 -
Plague_Doktor wrote: »Reckoner68 wrote: »When they claim to see ghosts that scream about insecurity and won’t stop
My build-a-bear screams "I'm very insecure!"
I’m not surprised, they stuff those things with ghosts. I know. Seen it with my own eyes.2
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